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 I would never agree to a social meet for fear of rejection, steve loves me whatever size, at my heaviest I've been a 24-26 and now 16-18. we usually visit clubs, that way I can have a few drinks and get my confidence cloak before anything happens, would love to feel more confident, any tips. thank you shaz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx | |||
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"hi, I struggle with self confidence, I've lost 3 stone and still feel unattractive I would never agree to a social meet for fear of rejection, steve loves me whatever size, at my heaviest I've been a 24-26 and now 16-18. we usually visit clubs, that way I can have a few drinks and get my confidence cloak before anything happens, would love to feel more confident, any tips. thank you shaz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"I wonder if it is maybe age? The older I get the more confident I am. I don't give a shit that I have saggy bits, stretch marks and an operation scar. I know I am sexy! If any meet disagrees with that then that is their opinion. Doesn't make me any less sexy.  | |||
"hi, I struggle with self confidence, I've lost 3 stone and still feel unattractive I would never agree to a social meet for fear of rejection, steve loves me whatever size, at my heaviest I've been a 24-26 and now 16-18. we usually visit clubs, that way I can have a few drinks and get my confidence cloak before anything happens, would love to feel more confident, any tips. thank you shaz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I wonder if it is maybe age? The older I get the more confident I am. I don't give a shit that I have saggy bits, stretch marks and an operation scar. I know I am sexy! If any meet disagrees with that then that is their opinion. Doesn't make me any less sexy. " this is the truth, self belief is key to confidence. | |||
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"hi, I struggle with self confidence, I've lost 3 stone and still feel unattractive I would never agree to a social meet for fear of rejection, steve loves me whatever size, at my heaviest I've been a 24-26 and now 16-18. we usually visit clubs, that way I can have a few drinks and get my confidence cloak before anything happens, would love to feel more confident, any tips. thank you shaz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"we have been to a few clubs, and no-one bats an eye at what you look like,its about who you are not what you are, go in and enjoy!!!!! | |||
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"I am sure it would take someone far more qualified than me to advise you on how to grow your confidence, I know one or to people just like you, no matter how many times they are told they look gorgeous it doesn't seem to make any difference, however I do know that the more you expose yourself to criticism and praise, then the more you get to realise that although you might not think you fit the modern media version of perfection, but that we are all imperfect beings, almost everyone has something they hate or would change about themselves and that there are thousands of people who would move mountains to spend some play time with a fabulicious person like you!!! mwah, xxxxxxx "made me smile, I loved the style of that post! Wolf
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"hi, I struggle with self confidence, I've lost 3 stone and still feel unattractive I would never agree to a social meet for fear of rejection, steve loves me whatever size, at my heaviest I've been a 24-26 and now 16-18. we usually visit clubs, that way I can have a few drinks and get my confidence cloak before anything happens, would love to feel more confident, any tips. thank you shaz
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"We meet shaz and steve at chams where we lost our swinging virginity now you may have had your confidence cloak on but you seemed like a very confident person even when playtime had finished and we all had a chat we found you a very sexy women. Losing 3 stone is an amazing acheivment so this should be the start for you confidence booster xxxxxxx | |||
"hi, I struggle with self confidence, I've lost 3 stone and still feel unattractive I would never agree to a social meet for fear of rejection, steve loves me whatever size, at my heaviest I've been a 24-26 and now 16-18. we usually visit clubs, that way I can have a few drinks and get my confidence cloak before anything happens, would love to feel more confident, any tips. thank you shaz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"right as someone whos always been very self conscious about my look i will tell you what someone said to me Remember not everyone will se you how you see yourself i used to push my opinions of myself on other people and that puts more people off than what you look like i still do it at times but i feel im getting better you will look at yourself and see every lump, bump and stretch mark and because they stand out to you you think everyone else is looking at your imperfections and thinking the same about them as you do ok some will, but some will pick fault no matter what you look like but most people dont, most will look at you and think, nice eyes, lovely smile, nice woman etc not fuck me look at the stretch marks on that
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"hi, I struggle with self confidence, I've lost 3 stone and still feel unattractive I would never agree to a social meet for fear of rejection, steve loves me whatever size, at my heaviest I've been a 24-26 and now 16-18. we usually visit clubs, that way I can have a few drinks and get my confidence cloak before anything happens, would love to feel more confident, any tips. thank you shaz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"Awe your husband loves you and you also love yourself and that's all what matters....I totally understand the confidence cloak as I used to be a size 22 and my ex was forever putting me down and calling me biggy chops and one day I woke up and started loving myself | |||
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"The 'key' to being confident is realizing that you dont give a dam about what people you dont care about think of you. "
If they aren't on my Christmas card list why should I care what others think? And even if they are its still none of their business. | |||
Congratulations on the weight loss, you have something to be proud of | |||
"The 'key' to being confident is realizing that you dont give a dam about what people you dont care about think of you.
If they aren't on my Christmas card list why should I care what others think? And even if they are its still none of their business."Hell yeah! | |||
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"The 'key' to being confident is realizing that you dont give a dam about what people you dont care about think of you.
If they aren't on my Christmas card list why should I care what others think? And even if they are its still none of their business.
Hell yeah! "people always say, dont care what others think of you, but its only human nature to You could be the nicest person going, kind hearted, help other etc and then someone who dont even know you puts you down, makes a rude comment about your size in a club etc how can that not hurt? I seriously think anyone who says they dont care what others think/say about them are masking the truth somewhat Anyway with half an ounce of self respect will be a little hurt at a nasty comment by someone just because you look less than perfect | |||
Im beautiful inside thats all i can say lol xxx | |||
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To the op: you look really gorgeous in your pics, I envy you your bum and thighs! xxxx | |||
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"hi, I struggle with self confidence, I've lost 3 stone and still feel unattractive I would never agree to a social meet for fear of rejection, steve loves me whatever size, at my heaviest I've been a 24-26 and now 16-18. we usually visit clubs, that way I can have a few drinks and get my confidence cloak before anything happens, would love to feel more confident, any tips. thank you shaz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"Look up something called Emotional Freedom technique or EFT for short. I have been doing it for years. It is perfect for you. | |||
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"Learning to master our minds is a key tool to our potential happiness and well being. Whilst others can and do affect us - as we're social animals - we, and only ourselves, are ultimately able to culture what we need to have inside. Easier said than done, maybe, but self-awareness is the first step. Your message here highlights that you have self-awareness and other qualities that others lack. The key thing that I do is to only spend time with those people who I find empowering, rather than critical. OK, a club is going to have everybody inside, but if you largely choose to mix with uplifting people, then you won't be getting the knocks that deplete your reserves of self-esteem and confidence. I've found that learning how to centre and ground myself, should I ever need to regain my balance, is a useful skill. There are people around who will try to knock me, and I am sensitive, so I sometimes need to access this state of mind. If things are ever too detrimental, I may leave somewhere, as I keep myself, not others, in control of how I'm feeling. Ultimately, if there's something inside of me that's a cause of why I'm not right, then I address it. It's better ultimately for me to address the cause rather than just symptoms/effect of it. This may mean time with friends/family, those who love me, as well as some self-reflection. The more I've cultured a sense that I am good enough, the greater my resilience has been to the knocks waiting out there. And the more times that I've needed to re-balance myself, the easier it's become to get it, as I've strengthened this habit. Whilst I know I can look great, I sometimes go out, purposefully looking not quite 100%, as I find it a little test of myself, and then amaze myself how well received by others that I am. I never make too much effort - I'd prefer to make less, if I catch such self-pressuring. We all find our own way in life, and your sweet path will become easier for you to walk and skip along. And others will love for you being yourself. If they don't, they're not worthy of you. Wishing you the very best "I applaud you for this insight. Wish you could speak to D about this as it would help her no end! | |||
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"we have cancelled a few meets lately! Not because we didn't want to go but because iv put on some extra weight and don't feel sexy!" That's a shame I hope you recover it soon. Don't forget what naughty said further up - that it's not always the first thing people notice in a person.
I've known some wacky things that inhibit people from enjoying themselves over the years, and even suffered from a couple myself. They are undoable, your thoughts will change - even if it's just lessening of that 'awareness'.
Be happy
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