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Advice on getting into fab and my first meet
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Hi everyone. So I joined fab a while ago but I think it's time I actually started meeting women. I don't message many people but I feel getting a reply is near impossible with the volume of messages they must get. I suffer with anxiety so the club scene is something I'm working towards, but I would love to chat with people and hopefully arrange something in the future.
Does anyone have any advice to make my time on here even better? |
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"Thank you everyone.
I agree I should really make the effort to put some more pictures on.
Hope you all have a great week. "
Yeah it's a nice looking cock and all but don't make it your only photo.
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"Thank you everyone.
I agree I should really make the effort to put some more pictures on.
Hope you all have a great week. "
Most of your paragraphs start with 'I'.
We find that off-putting.
Just our opinion!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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only you can work these things out ... your biggest problem will be the same as other guys and thats the sheer number of men and just how few women and couples ... thats even before preference and attraction / likes towards you ... grow some thick skin and get used to rejection |
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"Hi everyone. So I joined fab a while ago but I think it's time I actually started meeting women. I don't message many people but I feel getting a reply is near impossible with the volume of messages they must get. I suffer with anxiety so the club scene is something I'm working towards, but I would love to chat with people and hopefully arrange something in the future.
Does anyone have any advice to make my time on here even better? "
we ALL think it's time we started meeting,but never do or will. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. So I joined fab a while ago but I think it's time I actually started meeting women. I don't message many people but I feel getting a reply is near impossible with the volume of messages they must get. I suffer with anxiety so the club scene is something I'm working towards, but I would love to chat with people and hopefully arrange something in the future.
Does anyone have any advice to make my time on here even better? we ALL think it's time we started meeting,but never do or will."
Ha ha ha |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
As an introvert:
Start with quiet club meets. Daytime or weeknights. Go with the intention of getting confident talking to people. Try the hot tub. Dress down to a towel, it’ll change your headspace.
Then a social. Busier, more people. Keep your clothes on for this one.
THEN weekend club nights. Get used to watching play.
THEN consider asking for play. I’d consider a greedy girls night or similar for this. |
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"Organized parties work well. Been to a few, polite respectful, the girls are there fir the sex and talking so a win all round. And if you want to just watch thats fine. "
Is it easy to get invitations ? |
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By *ihmMan
over a year ago
West Wales |
" we ALL think it's time we started meeting,but never do or will."
Speak for yourself. Make an effort, with your profile, with messages. Nothing is just going to fall into your lap, don't sit around expecting something to happen, be proactive. Go to clubs, don't be the creepy one sat wanking in the corner if you do. Make an effort to talk to people. Socials can be a bit more intimidating, they tend to be a more established bunch, who will more than likely be as friendly and welcoming as you could want, but can be a bit harder to walk into as single bloke not knowing anyone.
You won't be what everyone is looking for, but if you can't be arsed to make an effort you won't be what anyone is looking for. |
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" Socials can be a bit more intimidating, they tend to be a more established bunch, who will more than likely be as friendly and welcoming as you could want, but can be a bit harder to walk into as single bloke not knowing anyone "
Intimidating, really?
If a guy can't walk into a pub for a drink what are the chances of him turning up at a meet where he might have to get naked?
Some people need to to just accept that swinging isn't for them. |
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" Socials can be a bit more intimidating, they tend to be a more established bunch, who will more than likely be as friendly and welcoming as you could want, but can be a bit harder to walk into as single bloke not knowing anyone
Intimidating, really?
If a guy can't walk into a pub for a drink what are the chances of him turning up at a meet where he might have to get naked?
Some people need to to just accept that swinging isn't for them."
If I can make it to a social on my own then anyone can.... |
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"As an introvert:
Start with quiet club meets. Daytime or weeknights. Go with the intention of getting confident talking to people. Try the hot tub. Dress down to a towel, it’ll change your headspace.
Then a social. Busier, more people. Keep your clothes on for this one.
THEN weekend club nights. Get used to watching play.
THEN consider asking for play. I’d consider a greedy girls night or similar for this. "
Brilliant advice!
Temper your expectations. Yes sex with someone is the end overall goal, but you should be here to enjoy the journey to that too.
See every next little step, be that attending somewhere, dressing down, watching play or talking to someone as a big achievement. Because to people who are naturally shy and anxious, that really is!
The more you do it the better you'll get at it. Afterall you didn't learn to ride your bike first time did you? |
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Just relax.
No rush. Small steps If you come across desperate to meet that'll send people running.
Go to clubs, people will talk to you.
Chat on line and meet up and don't take things for granted.
Just relax and have a good time.
Good luck.
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
"Hi everyone. So I joined fab a while ago but I think it's time I actually started meeting women. I don't message many people but I feel getting a reply is near impossible with the volume of messages they must get. I suffer with anxiety so the club scene is something I'm working towards, but I would love to chat with people and hopefully arrange something in the future.
Does anyone have any advice to make my time on here even better? "
A few more pics wouldn't hurt, but otherwise you're doing fine man. You're a really good size, so couples and women will find you for sure  |
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By *ihmMan
over a year ago
West Wales |
" Socials can be a bit more intimidating, they tend to be a more established bunch, who will more than likely be as friendly and welcoming as you could want, but can be a bit harder to walk into as single bloke not knowing anyone
Intimidating, really?
If a guy can't walk into a pub for a drink what are the chances of him turning up at a meet where he might have to get naked?
Some people need to to just accept that swinging isn't for them. "
Walking into a pub to meet up with a possibly large group of people you don't know and have never met before, most of whom probably already know each, other can be a challenging and intimidating experience for some and attitudes as helpful and supportive as "some people need to just accept that swinging isn't for them" who could blame a person for feeling intimidated. Plenty of people swing and have never been to a social in their life. For some people turning up and getting naked is the easy part, maybe they are the ones better equipped for swinging? |
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