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By *aya83 OP Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
Hey, I'm new to Fab but loving it so far. Decided to chuck myself in the deep end (why not?) and I'm going to my first party tomorrow. Single female. Friends of mine are going but I'm not with them, but a bit of moral support at least! 
Any etiquette tips or helpful advice appreciated please?! I'm very much still exploring and finding out what I'm into, so a bit worried I won't know what to say about what I want, or won't understand code words!
Any tips for finding a hot man who's a bit dom but not too hard-core?! And to compicate things, Ive never played with a woman before and still v unsure...but v much open to new experiences. Is that just going to be annoying for couples? Don't want to give false expectations or anything? Halp! ?? Thanks |
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over a year ago
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"Hey, I'm new to Fab but loving it so far. Decided to chuck myself in the deep end (why not?) and I'm going to my first party tomorrow. Single female. Friends of mine are going but I'm not with them, but a bit of moral support at least!
Any etiquette tips or helpful advice appreciated please?! I'm very much still exploring and finding out what I'm into, so a bit worried I won't know what to say about what I want, or won't understand code words!
Any tips for finding a hot man who's a bit dom but not too hard-core?! And to compicate things, Ive never played with a woman before and still v unsure...but v much open to new experiences. Is that just going to be annoying for couples? Don't want to give false expectations or anything? Halp! ?? Thanks "
Youre gonna be just fine! Relax and enjoy yourself. You have nothing to prove and noone is judging you. You will also have many opportunities to go to parties again, so just aim to have a pleasant evening.
Let people know its your first time and you will get lots of positive attention as well as people keeping an eye out and looking after you. If theres anything you dont understand, just ask. The only thing you need to know is that you must ask for consent before joining in. Everything else you will just pick up in time.
Id suggest steering clear of kink at your first party... thats a vunerable thing to do with someone youve only just met in a place youve never been! But you know your limits, so do whats right for you!
As for the girly stuff, just do as much as you would like to. Maybe a bit of kissing, or boob play. See where it goes from there. If you dont fancy doing that tomorrow, dont do it. Simples. Let people know that you are new to playing with women so they know to take things slow and not pressure you.
Be confident about saying no. If someone is making you uncomfortable, tell the host.
Its really ok for you to spend the whole evening chatting and doing nothing sexual. Or to go and watch others but not join in. Or anything else you wanna do!
Youre gonna be fine. Relax and enjoy yourself!! 
Fay x |
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By *aya83 OP Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
Ah thank you for your lovely message! I really appreciate it and it's made me feel better for sure. I'll def keep in mind not to feel pressured into anything, and good to be reminded that it's all my choice! Thanks again xx |
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By *ihmMan
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Hey, I'm new to Fab but loving it so far. Decided to chuck myself in the deep end (why not?) and I'm going to my first party tomorrow. Single female. Friends of mine are going but I'm not with them, but a bit of moral support at least!
Any etiquette tips or helpful advice appreciated please?! I'm very much still exploring and finding out what I'm into, so a bit worried I won't know what to say about what I want, or won't understand code words!
Any tips for finding a hot man who's a bit dom but not too hard-core?! And to compicate things, Ive never played with a woman before and still v unsure...but v much open to new experiences. Is that just going to be annoying for couples? Don't want to give false expectations or anything? Halp! ?? Thanks
Youre gonna be just fine! Relax and enjoy yourself. You have nothing to prove and noone is judging you. You will also have many opportunities to go to parties again, so just aim to have a pleasant evening.
Let people know its your first time and you will get lots of positive attention as well as people keeping an eye out and looking after you. If theres anything you dont understand, just ask. The only thing you need to know is that you must ask for consent before joining in. Everything else you will just pick up in time.
Id suggest steering clear of kink at your first party... thats a vunerable thing to do with someone youve only just met in a place youve never been! But you know your limits, so do whats right for you!
As for the girly stuff, just do as much as you would like to. Maybe a bit of kissing, or boob play. See where it goes from there. If you dont fancy doing that tomorrow, dont do it. Simples. Let people know that you are new to playing with women so they know to take things slow and not pressure you.
Be confident about saying no. If someone is making you uncomfortable, tell the host.
Its really ok for you to spend the whole evening chatting and doing nothing sexual. Or to go and watch others but not join in. Or anything else you wanna do!
Youre gonna be fine. Relax and enjoy yourself!!
Fay x "
No need for anyone to say anything else really, all the good advice you could need  |
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"Hey, I'm new to Fab but loving it so far. Decided to chuck myself in the deep end (why not?) and I'm going to my first party tomorrow. Single female. Friends of mine are going but I'm not with them, but a bit of moral support at least!
Any etiquette tips or helpful advice appreciated please?! I'm very much still exploring and finding out what I'm into, so a bit worried I won't know what to say about what I want, or won't understand code words!
Any tips for finding a hot man who's a bit dom but not too hard-core?! And to compicate things, Ive never played with a woman before and still v unsure...but v much open to new experiences. Is that just going to be annoying for couples? Don't want to give false expectations or anything? Halp! ?? Thanks
Youre gonna be just fine! Relax and enjoy yourself. You have nothing to prove and noone is judging you. You will also have many opportunities to go to parties again, so just aim to have a pleasant evening.
Let people know its your first time and you will get lots of positive attention as well as people keeping an eye out and looking after you. If theres anything you dont understand, just ask. The only thing you need to know is that you must ask for consent before joining in. Everything else you will just pick up in time.
Id suggest steering clear of kink at your first party... thats a vunerable thing to do with someone youve only just met in a place youve never been! But you know your limits, so do whats right for you!
As for the girly stuff, just do as much as you would like to. Maybe a bit of kissing, or boob play. See where it goes from there. If you dont fancy doing that tomorrow, dont do it. Simples. Let people know that you are new to playing with women so they know to take things slow and not pressure you.
Be confident about saying no. If someone is making you uncomfortable, tell the host.
Its really ok for you to spend the whole evening chatting and doing nothing sexual. Or to go and watch others but not join in. Or anything else you wanna do!
Youre gonna be fine. Relax and enjoy yourself!!
Fay x "
Can't really add anything else to this awesome reply other than to take breaks. Just 5 minutes in a quiet place away from others is a good way to calm the nerves/mind and deal with the sometimes very overwhelming experience of a party.
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By *aya83 OP Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Hey, I'm new to Fab but loving it so far. Decided to chuck myself in the deep end (why not?) and I'm going to my first party tomorrow. Single female. Friends of mine are going but I'm not with them, but a bit of moral support at least!
Any etiquette tips or helpful advice appreciated please?! I'm very much still exploring and finding out what I'm into, so a bit worried I won't know what to say about what I want, or won't understand code words!
Any tips for finding a hot man who's a bit dom but not too hard-core?! And to compicate things, Ive never played with a woman before and still v unsure...but v much open to new experiences. Is that just going to be annoying for couples? Don't want to give false expectations or anything? Halp! ?? Thanks
Youre gonna be just fine! Relax and enjoy yourself. You have nothing to prove and noone is judging you. You will also have many opportunities to go to parties again, so just aim to have a pleasant evening.
Let people know its your first time and you will get lots of positive attention as well as people keeping an eye out and looking after you. If theres anything you dont understand, just ask. The only thing you need to know is that you must ask for consent before joining in. Everything else you will just pick up in time.
Id suggest steering clear of kink at your first party... thats a vunerable thing to do with someone youve only just met in a place youve never been! But you know your limits, so do whats right for you!
As for the girly stuff, just do as much as you would like to. Maybe a bit of kissing, or boob play. See where it goes from there. If you dont fancy doing that tomorrow, dont do it. Simples. Let people know that you are new to playing with women so they know to take things slow and not pressure you.
Be confident about saying no. If someone is making you uncomfortable, tell the host.
Its really ok for you to spend the whole evening chatting and doing nothing sexual. Or to go and watch others but not join in. Or anything else you wanna do!
Youre gonna be fine. Relax and enjoy yourself!!
Fay x
Can't really add anything else to this awesome reply other than to take breaks. Just 5 minutes in a quiet place away from others is a good way to calm the nerves/mind and deal with the sometimes very overwhelming experience of a party.
Ax"
That's a very good idea thanks! |
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