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Love to share my girlfriend with other guys and girls but don't know how to approach the subject.
I know she as had a girl on girl experience when she was younger and she is quite kinky and even bought a strap on and pegged me once and I loved it but made out I wasnt that into it because I felt embarrassed.
I am bisexual and had many experiences with guys and always played safe with guys but want to share it with her and both get satisfaction from a fulfilling sex life.
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Trying to encourage someone to swing sounds/feels wrong, so I'm going to assume it's just bad wording
Has she expressed an interest in swinging, in threesomes, does she miss sex with other people, does she enjoy swapping, threesome porn
If the answer is yes to any of the above then possibly she'll be interested in swinging, although it could just be the fantasies she enjoys
The only way of knowing is talking to her, communication is so important in swinging, yet most guys who post stuff like this say there's no way they could discuss stuff like this with their partner, well how the hell do they think it will happen/work then, I don't think a surprise trip to a swingers club will go down well, but then again you never know, you know your partner better than anyone
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"Trying to encourage someone to swing sounds/feels wrong, so I'm going to assume it's just bad wording
Has she expressed an interest in swinging, in threesomes, does she miss sex with other people, does she enjoy swapping, threesome porn
If the answer is yes to any of the above then possibly she'll be interested in swinging, although it could just be the fantasies she enjoys
The only way of knowing is talking to her, communication is so important in swinging, yet most guys who post stuff like this say there's no way they could discuss stuff like this with their partner, well how the hell do they think it will happen/work then, I don't think a surprise trip to a swingers club will go down well, but then again you never know, you know your partner better than anyone
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Exactly this…
I think if you’ve even got to ask strangers about it, that may already be your answer.
If she was into it, she would probably have let you know about it by now… |
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"Love to share my girlfriend with other guys and girls but don't know how to approach the subject.
I know she as had a girl on girl experience when she was younger and she is quite kinky and even bought a strap on and pegged me once and I loved it but made out I wasnt that into it because I felt embarrassed.
I am bisexual and had many experiences with guys and always played safe with guys but want to share it with her and both get satisfaction from a fulfilling sex life.
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Maybe talk about your fantasies. Mention swinging. If she rejects the idea leave it alone. |
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You know she has had bi experience, does she know you have too?
If your both open with each other about that, you should be pretty ok to open up to each other as to what to find sexually interesting.
Go from there. |
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"she is quite kinky and even bought a strap on and pegged me once and I loved it but made out I wasnt that into it because I felt embarrassed.
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I think it is a shame you couldnt admit to her you enjoyed it, especially as this could have opened up a conversation about your bisexuality |
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"lol, you don't need to ask as you said she already has 2girl on.."
good luck"
lol
What I am saying, you don't need to ask here just ask her as she already is half way there.
NB - people will try most things if they are happy and trust the other - you both need to be wanting it otherwise its a no |
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Years ago I had a gf at the time . I kept mentioning swinging and threesomes etc . We started watching a few porn vids of scenarios etc then we started to put on cam shows to get used to being watched . Eventually we started having 3sums fmf with her friends . It was heaven for me but after a few threesomes she started to get jealous saying I fancied her friends more etc put strain on relationship unfortunately . |
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"Years ago I had a gf at the time . I kept mentioning swinging and threesomes etc . We started watching a few porn vids of scenarios etc then we started to put on cam shows to get used to being watched . Eventually we started having 3sums fmf with her friends . It was heaven for me but after a few threesomes she started to get jealous saying I fancied her friends more etc put strain on relationship unfortunately . "
Fmf threesomes with her friends is mostly always a recipe for disaster, I’m afraid. |
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"Years ago I had a gf at the time . I kept mentioning swinging and threesomes etc . We started watching a few porn vids of scenarios etc then we started to put on cam shows to get used to being watched . Eventually we started having 3sums fmf with her friends . It was heaven for me but after a few threesomes she started to get jealous saying I fancied her friends more etc put strain on relationship unfortunately .
Fmf threesomes with her friends is mostly always a recipe for disaster, I’m afraid."
Yep at the time it was great but turned sour unfortunately |
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"Years ago I had a gf at the time . I kept mentioning swinging and threesomes etc . We started watching a few porn vids of scenarios etc then we started to put on cam shows to get used to being watched . Eventually we started having 3sums fmf with her friends . It was heaven for me but after a few threesomes she started to get jealous saying I fancied her friends more etc put strain on relationship unfortunately . "
That's a cautionary tale |
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"Years ago I had a gf at the time . I kept mentioning swinging and threesomes etc . We started watching a few porn vids of scenarios etc then we started to put on cam shows to get used to being watched . Eventually we started having 3sums fmf with her friends . It was heaven for me but after a few threesomes she started to get jealous saying I fancied her friends more etc put strain on relationship unfortunately .
Fmf threesomes with her friends is mostly always a recipe for disaster, I’m afraid.
Yep at the time it was great but turned sour unfortunately "
Top tip guys:
If your wife/gf asks which of her friends you would like threesome with only name ONE! |
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"Years ago I had a gf at the time . I kept mentioning swinging and threesomes etc . We started watching a few porn vids of scenarios etc then we started to put on cam shows to get used to being watched . Eventually we started having 3sums fmf with her friends . It was heaven for me but after a few threesomes she started to get jealous saying I fancied her friends more etc put strain on relationship unfortunately .
Fmf threesomes with her friends is mostly always a recipe for disaster, I’m afraid.
Yep at the time it was great but turned sour unfortunately
Top tip guys:
If your wife/gf asks which of her friends you would like threesome with only name ONE!"
If it you know she's insecure or jealous name nobody even under threat of death  |
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"The only way of knowing is talking to her, communication is so important in swinging, yet most guys who post stuff like this say there's no way they could discuss stuff like this with their partner, well how the hell do they think it will happen/work then, I don't think a surprise trip to a swingers club will go down well, but then again you never know, you know your partner better than anyone
Exactly this…
I think if you’ve even got to ask strangers about it, that may already be your answer.
If she was into it, she would probably have let you know about it by now…"
Not entirely true. We were together for 3 years before we found out about previous experiences by pure accident. Yes in an ideal world everyone would be perfect communicators and open our hearts to everyone but it is much easier said than done for many often finding it easier to talk to strangers. We are both rubbish at talking, not just with each other but to anyone in general about personal experience and took us a long time and still lots we still could share with each other about previous experiences and what we would still enjoy but it’s going to be a slow process.
All I can say is don’t shut her out and be afraid to talk to her and open up, even if little and often. Hopefully she’ll want to experience it all with you whether straight or bi experiences, I’d be happy sharing either way as long as everyone enjoying themselves. You never know she may well be more interested, supportive and understanding than you may think.
Yes you are opening two possible doors, one could be the end of the road for any of those fantasies but the other could be an awesome road trip with lots of fun along the way
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