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Don’t know we are writing this in the right section but…
Do you actually think people read your bio before messaging you?
Myself & L have a word in our bio that when you come to message us you put it in the subject part of the message.
Just curious of other peoples thoughts
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over a year ago
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I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
I think it's probably half and half as regards others reading mine.
I don't put a word in it though,that's a bit naff, each to their own though...
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"I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
I think it's probably half and half as regards others reading mine.
I don't put a word in it though,that's a bit naff, each to their own though...
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It’s a word at the end so we know someone’s actually took time out and is genuine about messaging us |
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we read profiles and respect peoples wishes
have found not everybody does, they see pics they like then approach us for what they want, no regard for our boundaries.
Putting a word in to test if people have paid attention seems a bit childish to me but each to their own.
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"I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
I think it's probably half and half as regards others reading mine.
I don't put a word in it though,that's a bit naff, each to their own though...
It’s a word at the end so we know someone’s actually took time out and is genuine about messaging us "
I haven't read your profile but you've put the word in upper case so I spotted it easily.
It's your absolute right to require people to quote a word in messages though  |
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"I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
I think it's probably half and half as regards others reading mine.
I don't put a word in it though,that's a bit naff, each to their own though...
It’s a word at the end so we know someone’s actually took time out and is genuine about messaging us
I haven't read your profile but you've put the word in upper case so I spotted it easily.
It's your absolute right to require people to quote a word in messages though "
Perhaps change it to lower case then  |
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"I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
I think it's probably half and half as regards others reading mine.
I don't put a word in it though,that's a bit naff, each to their own though...
It’s a word at the end so we know someone’s actually took time out and is genuine about messaging us
I haven't read your profile but you've put the word in upper case so I spotted it easily.
It's your absolute right to require people to quote a word in messages though
Perhaps change it to lower case then "
Up to you .
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I honestly believe a lot don't. They go to the end and find the word or a phrase to message off. I put a bit at the top just for clarity on the message and a lot come up with something from my last 2 sentences. Which makes it clear they haven't. Or they read the first then ignore the middle about a social.
But it's a way to filter them I've found. |
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over a year ago
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To those whose never realised it; hiding a "word" is not very tricky when you know people do it and just need to scan for quotation marks. Usually in the last paragraph or two on especially lengthy profiles.
If you want to hide a test in your profile, feel free, make it clever and I'll happily engage.
Otherwise understand it's trivial to bypass when everyone follows the same pattern. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. Our profile explains quite clearly who,where and how we meet and our most common message is where are you from? Even though it says on our profile. That’s why we only meet at clubs now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In our experience the majority of single guys don't and then get butt hurt when they get turned down."
It's not just single men who are guilty of this. There are some women and couples don't bother to read profiles either |
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"Melons.
Didn’t read the overlong set of “rules”
Bit pointless init? "
How can it be pointless wouldn’t it be a waste of time if you messages someone saying something but yet in their profile it states that’s not what they are looking for? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"To those whose never realised it; hiding a "word" is not very tricky when you know people do it and just need to scan for quotation marks. Usually in the last paragraph or two on especially lengthy profiles.
If you want to hide a test in your profile, feel free, make it clever and I'll happily engage.
Otherwise understand it's trivial to bypass when everyone follows the same pattern. "
I put "So we know you've read the profile please put whatever you want as the subject of any message" at the end of our profile.
I actually meant for people to put whatever they wanted, but the number of people who send us messages where the title is 'Whatever you want' is hilarious, so maybe more people do read profiles than some give credit for....  
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"To those whose never realised it; hiding a "word" is not very tricky when you know people do it and just need to scan for quotation marks. Usually in the last paragraph or two on especially lengthy profiles.
If you want to hide a test in your profile, feel free, make it clever and I'll happily engage.
Otherwise understand it's trivial to bypass when everyone follows the same pattern.
I put "So we know you've read the profile please put whatever you want as the subject of any message" at the end of our profile.
I actually meant for people to put whatever they wanted, but the number of people who send us messages where the title is 'Whatever you want' is hilarious, so maybe more people do read profiles than some give credit for....
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That’s brilliant lol |
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"In our experience the majority of single guys don't and then get butt hurt when they get turned down.
It's not just single men who are guilty of this. There are some women and couples don't bother to read profiles either"
Yes of course, but in our experience the vast majority of couples and women that message us have read our profile...guys on the other hand it's pretty rare. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Most don't read mine ,I can tell by the amount of smokers ,Dom's and men miles away that message.
Or the you free ? What you up to /into messages .
I bet you get that a lot as a single woman"
I use quite a lot of filters ,so not as much as many women lol
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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago
42 Wallaby Way Syndey |
I can tell if someone has read my profile when they message me. If it's obvious that they haven't read it, their message gets ignored. If they can't be arsed to read my profile they won't be arsed about mutual pleasure on a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Melons.
Didn’t read the overlong set of “rules”
Bit pointless init?
How can it be pointless wouldn’t it be a waste of time if you messages someone saying something but yet in their profile it states that’s not what they are looking for? "
I meant the inclusion of a code word.
Doesn’t mean they’ve read the profile at all.
I didn’t. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"In our experience the majority of single guys don't and then get butt hurt when they get turned down.
It's not just single men who are guilty of this. There are some women and couples don't bother to read profiles either
Yes of course, but in our experience the vast majority of couples and women that message us have read our profile...guys on the other hand it's pretty rare."
Experiences vary.
Most guys that message us have clearly read the profile.
Couples? Plenty message asking to meet us when we don't have them listed as being our target audience and there's literally no mention anywhere in our profile of us meeting couples.
So..........
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always read a profile before I message a person. If I'm not what a woman's looking for I don't message them, however I don't think some people read mines with straight couples being the biggest culprits. |
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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago
Telford |
The vast majority of profiles that make contact with us in one way or another (message/wink) have clearly not read our profile as when we check them out, they’re interests or dynamics are nothing like what we or they are looking for  |
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
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"Don’t know we are writing this in the right section but…
Do you actually think people read your bio before messaging you?
Myself & L have a word in our bio that when you come to message us you put it in the subject part of the message.
Just curious of other peoples thoughts
Xx"
Good idea about the word ...
Not everyone reads them |
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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago
Telford |
"I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
This  "
What do you consider long?
Ours is fairly big in comparison to most which takes about 60 seconds to read.
A long profile is generally already a great filter system used by those who write them - as it filters out those with an incompatible mindset and attitude.
Our thoughts being, if you can’t invest 60 seconds in us as human beings that you might want to get intimate with, then you haven’t got the mindset that we believe in and would consider getting intimate with.
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"I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
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What do you consider long?
Ours is fairly big in comparison to most which takes about 60 seconds to read.
A long profile is generally already a great filter system used by those who write them - as it filters out those with an incompatible mindset and attitude.
Our thoughts being, if you can’t invest 60 seconds in us as human beings that you might want to get intimate with, then you haven’t got the mindset that we believe in and would consider getting intimate with.
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That was exactly our thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some couples message me through a singles profile??
Because they aren't really a couple. "
I don't get it, if a woman says shes married and has a couple profile as well a single profile are you say they're not really married?? |
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"I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
This
What do you consider long?
Ours is fairly big in comparison to most which takes about 60 seconds to read.
A long profile is generally already a great filter system used by those who write them - as it filters out those with an incompatible mindset and attitude.
Our thoughts being, if you can’t invest 60 seconds in us as human beings that you might want to get intimate with, then you haven’t got the mindset that we believe in and would consider getting intimate with.
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Yours is longer than average but it’s to the point that what you are expecting and looking for and more positivity than most long profile here on fab. Being English isn’t my first language so it took me longer than 60 seconds to read lol. |
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"I read them but if they are too long I don't bother or reply.
I think it's probably half and half as regards others reading mine.
I don't put a word in it though,that's a bit naff, each to their own though...
It’s a word at the end so we know someone’s actually took time out and is genuine about messaging us "
There are alot of people who scan bio quickly just to find the word weather it's un the middle or at the end..we have come to realise that it's a waste of time, even though its still their, you know of aomeone has read it properly and the ones who scan, they will trip themselves up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally, I'd say not many do read.
However, when we state in our profile that we're not looking, the amount of messages drop, and when we state we're looking, we become inundated.
Often they'll state they've read our profile, but still go on to ask questions that can be found in our bio.
Also, I added at the beginning that Mr takes care of messages, that slowed our inbox, and the next line expresses that we're not available.
I think, the few read thoroughly, many skim over the profile to see what interests them, while others go no further than looking at the pictures and/or verifications.
If we find we may be interested, although feel they may not have read our bio, we'll state that by saying .... We may be interested, though please do have a read through our bio and get back to us if it genuinely interests you.
It seems to help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t know we are writing this in the right section but…
Do you actually think people read your bio before messaging you?
Myself & L have a word in our bio that when you come to message us you put it in the subject part of the message.
Just curious of other peoples thoughts
Xx"
I think most people do read profiles. Or at least scan them then don't message.
It's the minority who don't read and send messages anyway.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't play the 'use this word/ phrase' game though. "
This exactly, it's a site for adults and that's a child's game, not just you OP but everyone who adds that to their bio. I found it as well as something I won't go into and I know nothing about you because I didn't read it, just a 2 second scan |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How about putting the special word in the first couple of lines, then about half way through say it's a different one? "
Do it a few times and make it like a treasure hunt |
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"How about putting the special word in the first couple of lines, then about half way through say it's a different one?
Do it a few times and make it like a treasure hunt "
But I am actually serious. It's quite easy to scan through and spot a code word and not reading profiles is fairly common, very few read ours. I thought that might be a way of circumventing the scanners and non readers |
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"Why do some couples message me through a singles profile??
Because they aren't really a couple. I don't get it, if a woman says shes married and has a couple profile as well a single profile are you say they're not really married??"
If they have a couples profile as well then that usually check out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always read profiles, always have and put in those telltale words if suggested in their profiles.. doesn't result in any more replies at all, but I do it anyway because i understand it helps the recipient delete less appropriate messages without having to open and read every one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I read them if their pictures interest me in taking it further.
I don't play the 'use this word/ phrase' game though. "
This. Puts me off straight away. It comes across as demanding and slightly childish.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always read people's bios. I'm looking to see how compatible we might be before messaging.
Stuff that would encourage me to message/reply based on bio:
Telling Syndey Uni they can fill their boots!
Good spelling/grammar. You don't need to be a wordsmith but it demonstrates a level of effort has been made. If you are keen to make effort in your bio, with what else might you make an effort?
Being clear who you are and what you're looking for. I want to know where I stand. |
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"Don’t know we are writing this in the right section but…
Do you actually think people read your bio before messaging you?
Myself & L have a word in our bio that when you come to message us you put it in the subject part of the message.
Just curious of other peoples thoughts
Xx"
Hallelujah
It says it all in the profile! |
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