FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > "been read" but no reply...
"been read" but no reply...
Jump to: Newest in thread
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
"Just take no reply as not interested, best thing to do" But surely it takes 2secs to be polite and say no thanks ! | |||
| |||
| |||
"Just take no reply as not interested, best thing to do But surely it takes 2secs to be polite and say no thanks ! " she/they might not want to say no thanks, they might be considering options | |||
 | |||
| |||
"Just take no reply as not interested, best thing to do But surely it takes 2secs to be polite and say no thanks ! " If you recieved a lot of messages every day you it wouldn't just be 2 seconds tho would it. Plus a lot of people on here don't accept a no thanks and move on, they message back 'why not' or try to persuade otherwise. It gets very annoying. The FAB guidelines say that it is perfectly acceptable to not reply to messages for any reasons | |||
;) | |||
"Personally if we keep it - we're considering you. But if we recieved another message , we would delete both. " +1.
Asides from the 'we're' as it's only me.
I wont make a decision when I am tired, or have other things going on behind me.
Also of late, Ive been attending to my inbox on mass; so when I have half an hour free I will sit and do replies. If I dont get half an hour free (without little eyes watching me) I will leave it.
I will also sometimes open them, so the annoying number top left goes down; but it then goes on my to do list.
Im not a couple, but my expectation is.
Couples usually discuss things privately, so I would think with shifts/life/other things going on; that read but no replied means its either pending a decision or is pending discussion... | |||
 | |||
 | |||
"Just take no reply as not interested, best thing to do But surely it takes 2secs to be polite and say no thanks ! If you recieved a lot of messages every day you it wouldn't just be 2 seconds tho would it. Plus a lot of people on here don't accept a no thanks and move on, they message back 'why not' or try to persuade otherwise. It gets very annoying. The FAB guidelines say that it is perfectly acceptable to not reply to messages for any reasons " Point taken | |||
"Sounds like its upto you and how you wanna play it mate. Show you dont give up to easy and your a trier or sit back and be patient.... We're all different and respond to things in different ways. What have you got to lose block reply or delete.... I think youll find some ppl on here just like ppl to inflate their over inflated ego.... But there are a few genuine polite ppl about. Non illigitimous carbourundum is my tip "Or don't let the bastards grind you down for those that don't speak Latin and can't be fooked to look it up like I just did lol x | |||
| |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think..." Forget them and move on...why should you or any other single guy sit waiting in the wings. Regardless of the various reasons offered for no reply after a week don't fall in line waiting to be considered/discussed/put in the 'maybe later' folder..... your here for YOUR fun/pleasure not as a commodity to be taken up on the whim of others....be positive, YOUR the one with something to give, just another slant on it no offence meant towards any other opinions | |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think..." we deleted messages every so often not immediately.. and if we are interested or going to reply we generally would within 24 hours.. if we havent it does not mean we are considering anything just not deleted yet. it helps to keep for a bit incase we get a further email. Oh and if we have not sent a reply and get a second or third message you would be told no thanks no matter what and blocked as you would cime across as pushy. Best advise is if you get a reply go with it if you dont leave ut assume they ate not interested whether deleted or not.. You may get a message much later but if you assume they are not interested in you and just work with ones that do you wont piss anyone off.. | |||
"Definitely don't message again!! It might mean they will message you back when they get time, it might mean they haven't bothered deleting it yet, either way sending another message is a sure fire way to come across pushy or something. Don't focus on your outbox, just focus on your inbox. X "
This!!
I often wonder if there's rooms full of people across the country, sat on sofa clicking refresh or flicking back and forth between 'most fabbed pics' and their sent box, rather than doing something a little more positive!
Like browsing profiles, chatting in chat rooms, posting on the forums or hey - the ironing!
Anything but stressing and worrying about what the outcome of a sent message may be, that's let's face it, is largely out of your control!! | |||
Its just happened to me! Fifteen mins of reading a message and I hadn't replied so go another message back saying I'm a ignorant **** and he's blocked me ! Using a mobile phone only is so much fun  | |||
| |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think..." Join the club mate. Forget them and move on. Happens to me all the time | |||
| |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think..." I wish that been read/deleted would be taken off.... that way it would give people one less thing to moan on about.... | |||
| |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think... I wish that been read/deleted would be taken off.... that way it would give people one less thing to moan on about...." | |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think... I wish that been read/deleted would be taken off.... that way it would give people one less thing to moan on about...." Spot on Fabio. That's why I keep telling single guys especially to delete messages as soon as they have sent them. Stops them getting all despondent about how the recipient deals with them. One day they might just get it that all that matters is whether you get a response...  | |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think... I wish that been read/deleted would be taken off.... that way it would give people one less thing to moan on about...." I was hardly 'moaning on', as I said just curious to see what others in the same situation (on both sides) thought... | |||
| |||
| |||
"Someone must have been reading this been read and no reply post so block them
Its just happened to me! Fifteen mins of reading a message and I hadn't replied so go another message back saying I'm a ignorant **** and he's blocked me ! Using a mobile phone only is so much fun "I got one like that last week, if I read the message on my phone, if I think it's worth answering I wait till I get home, obviously he did`t want to wait. Sometimes I get so many messages and because I`m busy they build up, then the whole task of answering them seems too daunting, so I end up bulk deleting and starting again, naughty I know. | |||
| |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think... Forget them and move on...why should you or any other single guy sit waiting in the wings. Regardless of the various reasons offered for no reply after a week don't fall in line waiting to be considered/discussed/put in the 'maybe later' folder..... your here for YOUR fun/pleasure not as a commodity to be taken up on the whim of others....be positive, YOUR the one with something to give, just another slant on it no offence meant towards any other opinions "
Plenty more fish in the sea | |||
"ok so I message a lady or couple on here, then later I check my sent items - the message shows as 'been read' but they haven't replied. Several days later I check again, and it's the same. They haven't deleted the message, but they haven't replied either. What does this mean - anything? and, if you were me, would you message again or leave the ball in their court? No biggie, just curious to see what people think... Forget them and move on...why should you or any other single guy sit waiting in the wings. Regardless of the various reasons offered for no reply after a week don't fall in line waiting to be considered/discussed/put in the 'maybe later' folder..... your here for YOUR fun/pleasure not as a commodity to be taken up on the whim of others....be positive, YOUR the one with something to give, just another slant on it no offence meant towards any other opinions "What Orra said  | |||
"Just take no reply as not interested, best thing to do But surely it takes 2secs to be polite and say no thanks ! " and if said person has 100 messages to go through. | |||
| |||
