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Single lady in a hotel ….. what am I doing wrong ?
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet?" This is one of our frustrations on here as well...and we have just accepted that it's us lol. Basically we are particular about what we want from being part of the lifestyle - to connect with like-minded people who want to enjoy the social side of it as well, rather than randomly fucking anything that moves. Post a meet of you haven't already, and good luck Mrs x | |||
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"Thanks for letting me know I am not alone in this xx" Sorry you’re having trouble getting any suitable takers but you’re definitely not alone in this. The few times I have been available in hotels like this everyone I’ve been talking to disappears into the shadows  | |||
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"You make some good points but it’s a shame the room goes to waste it’s a rare opportunity xx" It is a real shame but if you put in the meet section hopefully something changes x | |||
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"Thanks for letting me know I am not alone in this xx Sorry you’re having trouble getting any suitable takers but you’re definitely not alone in this. The few times I have been available in hotels like this everyone I’ve been talking to disappears into the shadows "Such a shame, such a waste, but don’t give up! | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet?" I’ve struggled several times too, while I’ve been away staying in hotels, it’s not easy to get genuine meets for any of us. There’s no harm in advertising a meet, and if anything comes of it great! If not, there’s always another time  | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me " I am puzzled that 48 people messaged you saying they didn't want to meet | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet?" You've posted that you have a hotel on Wednesday but state you don't do hotel meets on your profile? Perhaps its the mixed message which is confusing us poor chaps? 
BTW if we were closer I'd offer to meet  | |||
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"I was blown out by a few guys a couple of weeks ago, one even said he was on his way, I believe he may be lost somewhere in Kent, it has been 2 weeks after all. Good luck " WTF I'd of found you!!  | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? I’ve struggled several times too, while I’ve been away staying in hotels, it’s not easy to get genuine meets for any of us. There’s no harm in advertising a meet, and if anything comes of it great! If not, there’s always another time "I wouldn’t meet a single man alone in a hotel but there should be loads of decent guys out there that are safe right ? | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? You've posted that you have a hotel on Wednesday but state you don't do hotel meets on your profile? Perhaps its the mixed message which is confusing us poor chaps?
BTW if we were closer I'd offer to meet "This was a one off opportunity with work seems a shame for it to go to waste xx | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me I am puzzled that 48 people messaged you saying they didn't want to meet" Not all of them were safe | |||
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"They are all talk they like the idea but actually following through not likely. Just be safe go get a massage ask if they do yoni or tantric ..money spent better than a fab guy to dissapoint and under perform" Great idea I will see if the hotel has massage or look online for tantric massage Do I get a happy ending ? | |||
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"Consider changing your profile postcode to that of the hotel. This may pull in some interest too. A status update in that area could also draw people in. Some of us take ages to filter and chat with the right people but it's still possible, on the day. Meet publicly when you do meet, such as the hotel bar. And follow other good safety measures. " Good advice thanks | |||
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"I was blown out by a few guys a couple of weeks ago, one even said he was on his way, I believe he may be lost somewhere in Kent, it has been 2 weeks after all. Good luck WTF I'd of found you!! "Lol | |||
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"I’m confused re the messages. 48 messages from people who don’t want to meet you? That sounds odd. Have you put a meet up?" Yes | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? I’ve struggled several times too, while I’ve been away staying in hotels, it’s not easy to get genuine meets for any of us. There’s no harm in advertising a meet, and if anything comes of it great! If not, there’s always another time
I wouldn’t meet a single man alone in a hotel but there should be loads of decent guys out there that are safe right ?"I don't understand  ,
If you won't meet a single man alone in a hotel we're you looking for a gang bang type scenario?
And if so there is still no garrentee that they all will be safe.....plus unless you advertise as a gang bang not all of us guys will fuck anything that moves whatever the scenario....so you might have put off alot by after chatting saying its a gang bang.... | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? I’ve struggled several times too, while I’ve been away staying in hotels, it’s not easy to get genuine meets for any of us. There’s no harm in advertising a meet, and if anything comes of it great! If not, there’s always another time
I wouldn’t meet a single man alone in a hotel but there should be loads of decent guys out there that are safe right ?
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If you won't meet a single man alone in a hotel we're you looking for a gang bang type scenario?
And if so there is still no garrentee that they all will be safe.....plus unless you advertise as a gang bang not all of us guys will fuck anything that moves whatever the scenario....so you might have put off alot by after chatting saying its a gang bang...."I have found someone now he’s willing to show me his passport and proof of address and happy with no blow jobs and using condoms only My Dom has his profile details | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? I’ve struggled several times too, while I’ve been away staying in hotels, it’s not easy to get genuine meets for any of us. There’s no harm in advertising a meet, and if anything comes of it great! If not, there’s always another time
I wouldn’t meet a single man alone in a hotel but there should be loads of decent guys out there that are safe right ?
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If you won't meet a single man alone in a hotel we're you looking for a gang bang type scenario?
And if so there is still no garrentee that they all will be safe.....plus unless you advertise as a gang bang not all of us guys will fuck anything that moves whatever the scenario....so you might have put off alot by after chatting saying its a gang bang....
I have found someone now he’s willing to show me his passport and proof of address and happy with no blow jobs and using condoms only
My Dom has his profile details "I don’t know how you think seeing someone’s ID will keep you safe tho. Worse case something happened to you what do you think the police would do. You’ve arranged on a public hook up site to invite someone to your room for sex. The police don’t prosecute cases as it is let alone I. The situation. It is hard to keep safe but I think hotels prob good option if you can’t do clubs. | |||
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 showing id for a meet really? You do know crazy people have passports too? Your dom has his profile info, easily deleted in seconds.
If your this concerned for your safety then maybe you shouldnt be meeting anyone. | |||
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Hopefully you'll have better luck very soon and meet some sane sorted (and safe) guys. There are some of us around. X | |||
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"I’d love to hear more about this safety vetting process, to be honest. And what exactly was not safe about the 48 guys who did message. " Probably wouldn't supply driving licence and proof of address that the op wants. Neither would I. Mrs | |||
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" Probably wouldn't supply driving licence and proof of address that the op wants. Neither would I. Mrs " That’s what I assumed, but what?! Because serial killers famously can’t drive/go on holiday or pay their own bills. This makes zero sense to me! | |||
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 I wouldn't be supplying my passport details and proof of address to anyone in the hope of getting my leg over!! I'd actually be more concerned about people who were totally cool with handing over such information | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me I am puzzled that 48 people messaged you saying they didn't want to meet" Could have been 48 messages from one very dirty old man. | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet?" You missed out the key bit of info about wanting passport/iD details. Of course you are struggling! I've been on here since pretty much the beginning on and off and never ever been asked for that and I would strongly advise any man against providing such information to a stranger. You just never know what is going to happen. I had a lady from here (verified) try to extort money a few years back after meeting. She claimed to know my address but I was pretty sure she didn't. She threatened all sorts unless I gave her money - providing pics/profile to my neighbours, telling her dad/brother I had done things to her without her permission (can't say that word here)....etc. etc. | |||
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"Have you ever thought, maybe it's because some men actually DO have standards, and won't just f**k anything. " I was thinking similar. You post, about meeting in a hotel, and by virtue of the fact you are a woman, need to do nothing else? That men will fall over themselves so that you can reject them for whatever reason you feel like? Men are probably wary or have judged the situation to be a scam. Now, no one likes to have free time lost because no one else is free, but coming onto the forums to elicit sympathy, to bash men? No. | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? You missed out the key bit of info about wanting passport/iD details. Of course you are struggling! I've been on here since pretty much the beginning on and off and never ever been asked for that and I would strongly advise any man against providing such information to a stranger. You just never know what is going to happen. I had a lady from here (verified) try to extort money a few years back after meeting. She claimed to know my address but I was pretty sure she didn't. She threatened all sorts unless I gave her money - providing pics/profile to my neighbours, telling her dad/brother I had done things to her without her permission (can't say that word here)....etc. etc. " I have to agree I would never share those kind of details even with friends I've made in here let alone in the hope of meeting someone for the first time. That is very personal info and as someone who works in financial crime information I would never suggest people hand over willingly. I understand it can be daunting meeting a guy for the first time but maybe agree to meeting in a bar or somewhere there are lots of other people who will see you together before heading to the hotel. At least you can sort of work out if he is a creep in a public place and you can check in with you Dom throughout the evening as he will know where you are. | |||
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"OP are you giving the meet your passport and address ?" Yes driving license already gave it…. I live with my kids and my dad and the house is always full so no issue for me | |||
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"OP are you giving the meet your passport and address ? Yes driving license already gave it…. I live with my kids and my dad and the house is always full so no issue for me " Surely that's not safe providing a stranger your address details where your children are. What if the meet goes bad, what if they don't take a no thank you, they have your address they can also give that to anyone else. Handing out your address to a stranger you want sex with is probably the least safe thing I could think of. I'm saying this out of concern. Mrs | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet?" I am interested if you are still looking for someone? Unless you are turning them all down | |||
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"OP are you giving the meet your passport and address ? Yes driving license already gave it…. I live with my kids and my dad and the house is always full so no issue for me " Giving your details where you live your kids live ur dad lives to a complete stranger is utter madness | |||
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"I live with my kids and my dad and the house is always full so no issue for me " When you are in the hotel and your kids are at school will your dad be home alone ? | |||
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"Should this be in the story forum nothing adds up on it" It doesn’t tbf | |||
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"Rather than giving out your address and expecting folk to give you theirs, might be best to only consider people who are very well verified by meet. Swapping ID’s is a double edged sword. I wouldn’t give my address out or show my passport to a stranger. I get you have to be careful but that actually seems more risky. " I’m going to need proof of your, address proof of income, bank statements ,passport and driving license, and and a facepic, I’ll pick you up at 11  | |||
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"am a single lady who cant drive and i get men who want to meet me while staying in a hotel in the area.but even if they are willing to pick me up and drop off its the fear that they might want a drink so cant take me home so i tend to do outside meets,but only if i want to meet them of course" Taxi? | |||
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" I’m going to need proof of your, address proof of income, bank statements ,passport and driving license, and and a facepic, I’ll pick you up at 11 "Me, me, me, pick me!!! I'll jump through hoops of fire too if required!! | |||
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"am a single lady who cant drive and i get men who want to meet me while staying in a hotel in the area.but even if they are willing to pick me up and drop off its the fear that they might want a drink so cant take me home so i tend to do outside meets,but only if i want to meet them of course" Why should they have to pick you up and drop you off? | |||
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"perhaps if I just have a social in the pool it’s open until 10pm and if I feel I trust them then I will take them to my room How about that idea ? What do you think?" I think that's a much better idea. Have you ever considered a social in a hotel bar or foyer ? | |||
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"Okay everyone I know what you’re all saying about ID I get that so perhaps if I just have a social in the pool it’s open until 10pm and if I feel I trust them then I will take them to my room How about that idea ? What do you think?" Much better idea, start public make sure your comfortable then head somewhere private if your not end things in public you have staff other members of the public at hand should they not take the no. Mrs | |||
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"A drop of the hat can be rare and successful people have priorities and in this heat I'd say made more difficult then obviously distance always a pain" I given at least 2 weeks notice i don't expect people just to come within minutes of me asking. But i get alot of messages asking me to! | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? I am interested if you are still looking for someone? Unless you are turning them all down" Did you contact the OP? Think she’s still looking….? | |||
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"Your status is asking people to join you today for a social at the pool and that the hotel will charge them £25. That's not particularly appealing I'd say." This. Seems unnecessarily complicated and expensive just for a social. | |||
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"Your status is asking people to join you today for a social at the pool and that the hotel will charge them £25. That's not particularly appealing I'd say. This. Seems unnecessarily complicated and expensive just for a social. " Role reversal time: Imagine a guy feeling so entitled to a meet, he posts: Come and meet me, £25 for the privilege... | |||
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"Your status is asking people to join you today for a social at the pool and that the hotel will charge them £25. That's not particularly appealing I'd say. This. Seems unnecessarily complicated and expensive just for a social. Role reversal time: Imagine a guy feeling so entitled to a meet, he posts: Come and meet me, £25 for the privilege..." Yep and most men meeting short notice on weekday daytime are probably married......so they need to stop and buy a new pair of Speedos on the way | |||
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"I will come and meet you anytime. ( let’s see if I get a reply). Same as most people on here either not really interested or are delirious and think they are better than everyone " I sent a message a day ago - not been read…. lol | |||
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"I'm only commenting to follow this thread " 
Walter Mitty springs to mind.. | |||
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"I will come and meet you anytime. ( let’s see if I get a reply). Same as most people on here either not really interested or are delirious and think they are better than everyone I sent a message a day ago - not been read…. lol" Perhaps you're not what she's looking for? | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet?" Most on here are married and/or dreamers. Most women aren't available at the drop of a hat, so why expect a man to be? The only way I can get meets on here is to dress as a woman, then I get loads. | |||
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"am a single lady who cant drive and i get men who want to meet me while staying in a hotel in the area.but even if they are willing to pick me up and drop off its the fear that they might want a drink so cant take me home so i tend to do outside meets,but only if i want to meet them of course Why should they have to pick you up and drop you off?" because am partially sighted so cannot drive and i dont acco either as i have family at home | |||
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"am a single lady who cant drive and i get men who want to meet me while staying in a hotel in the area.but even if they are willing to pick me up and drop off its the fear that they might want a drink so cant take me home so i tend to do outside meets,but only if i want to meet them of course Why should they have to pick you up and drop you off? because am partially sighted so cannot drive and i dont acco either as i have family at home" What about getting a taxi ??? | |||
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"That is a massive issue! Not wanting to scare the crap out of you, but there is no way on this earth I would be sharing my home address where my parent and children live! Please stop doing this, for your own safety - and stop asking people to do the same." Exactly. I am not willing to share my personal details with anyone even if know them let alone strangers at fabswingers. Meeting you in person at club and spoken to few times. It’s hard to believe that sexy lady like you struggle to meet | |||
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"I will come and meet you anytime. ( let’s see if I get a reply). Same as most people on here either not really interested or are delirious and think they are better than everyone I sent a message a day ago - not been read…. lol Perhaps you're not what she's looking for? " You are right I may well not be and I am not suggesting I would/should be and as a single guy you normally don’t expect a response - the point I was making/alluding to - was it’s fine to say you can’t get a meet etc but maybe reading your messages might help? | |||
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"am a single lady who cant drive and i get men who want to meet me while staying in a hotel in the area.but even if they are willing to pick me up and drop off its the fear that they might want a drink so cant take me home so i tend to do outside meets,but only if i want to meet them of course Why should they have to pick you up and drop you off? because am partially sighted so cannot drive and i dont acco either as i have family at home" Get a taxi! | |||
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"I will come and meet you anytime. ( let’s see if I get a reply). Same as most people on here either not really interested or are delirious and think they are better than everyone I sent a message a day ago - not been read…. lol Perhaps you're not what she's looking for? You are right I may well not be and I am not suggesting I would/should be and as a single guy you normally don’t expect a response - the point I was making/alluding to - was it’s fine to say you can’t get a meet etc but maybe reading your messages might help? " How would it help if she can see from the profile that the person not what she's looking for. Hypothetically. | |||
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"Me thinks this is a wind up.." I will get a verification from a very verified fab user xx | |||
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"Me thinks this is a wind up.." Andrew and Anton came I will get them to write the veri in the next week or so | |||
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"I will come and meet you anytime. ( let’s see if I get a reply). Same as most people on here either not really interested or are delirious and think they are better than everyone I sent a message a day ago - not been read…. lol Perhaps you're not what she's looking for? " Sorry I didn’t reply I have too many messages and I found Anton and Andrew and Gareth came for a social | |||
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" Sorry I didn’t reply I have too many messages and I found Anton and Andrew and Gareth came for a social " Did you all go in the hotel pool ? | |||
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"This has got to be a wind up ...... "Check out my recent verification | |||
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"This has got to be a wind up ......
Check out my recent verification "Glad you had some fun but seems you only went to room once your Dom/partner had arrived so the original post about meeting "single lady" wasn't quite correct. You do seem to give out mixed messages in lots of what you say which perhaps explains your struggles. | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Definitely something very wrong about this original post Mrs " | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs " I like how it got progressively weirder with each new comment, quite an achievement on here! | |||
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"Why would someone give you their passport of driveing license if you’re meeting in a hotel? If you’re not willing to give your address out? Most people on here are discreet lol" cause its a fantasy shes not in the real world | |||
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"I have the same issues input out get messages and alsorts then in the day of the meet the people dont turn up. So i understand your frustrations may search in a wider area. But i would meet you any day ??" Hope ur ok with showing her ur id and passport before doing so | |||
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"I was blown out by a few guys a couple of weeks ago, one even said he was on his way, I believe he may be lost somewhere in Kent, it has been 2 weeks after all. Good luck " That's unbelievable. The Boot Boys would love a no-holes barred bout with you. What a hot bod! | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet?" Shame you live so far, I am up north Merseyside if ever you are up this way x | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs I like how it got progressively weirder with each new comment, quite an achievement on here!" I know right. Mrs | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs I like how it got progressively weirder with each new comment, quite an achievement on here! I know right. Mrs " But she did get a meet if you read her profile! | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs I like how it got progressively weirder with each new comment, quite an achievement on here! I know right. Mrs But she did get a meet if you read her profile!" Yes she did, is it only me or does the verification sound like the guy was told exactly what to say…. Something just doesn’t add up… I hope the OP is ok??? | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs I like how it got progressively weirder with each new comment, quite an achievement on here! I know right. Mrs But she did get a meet if you read her profile! Yes she did, is it only me or does the verification sound like the guy was told exactly what to say…. Something just doesn’t add up… I hope the OP is ok???" The other interesting thing is she didn't verify him!!? | |||
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"What I have father from being on the scene for a while is that it's shears breast to over subscribe l, because will get a ton of dropouts and time waisted " Sorry ment to say what I have learnt from being on scene a while tis always best to over subscribe because you will get a ton of dropouts and time wasters. | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs I like how it got progressively weirder with each new comment, quite an achievement on here! I know right. Mrs But she did get a meet if you read her profile! Yes she did, is it only me or does the verification sound like the guy was told exactly what to say…. Something just doesn’t add up… I hope the OP is ok???" Glad not just me thinking that.. looked well scripted | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs I like how it got progressively weirder with each new comment, quite an achievement on here! I know right. Mrs But she did get a meet if you read her profile! Yes she did, is it only me or does the verification sound like the guy was told exactly what to say…. Something just doesn’t add up… I hope the OP is ok??? The other interesting thing is she didn't verify him!!? " Ohhh yes…. Very strange | |||
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"I just go down to the hotel bar and see what I can find "A half eaten bag of pork scratchings ? | |||
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"Sounds like you are better just sticking to clubs, lots of women, myself included don’t do private meets with people we have never met before. I don’t know anyone that would happily give up passport and driving licence details - most the guys on here use fake names so can understand why you’ve had so many no’s. " My Dom was there in the end so yes I won’t be meeting strangers in my room | |||
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"Ok so what started out as a hotel meet with a single lady changed to a social at the hotel pool which cost the guys £25 to the hotel I am guessing to use the pool and maybe other facilities.Then depending on how comfortable the OP felt with the guys at the social went up to the hotel room with the OP Dom and from what I understand that was always going to be the case when it changed to a pool social.From a personal perspective if I had seen the post and was in the area and free I would have messaged to see if I was suitable for the social and then waited for a yes or no." Yes you’re exactly right I still have 176 inbox messages so guys already seeing the status with my number her first refusal but the more the merrier xx | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet?" No worries. I went to Brighton and I posted a meet on the nude beach and no one met me. A lot of couples are busy...doing couple and family things. A lot of single men are busy working and with kids or....they are agrophobic. I was amazed at how many lived in Brighton but never went to the beach or the nudist beach. You are not alone. As you can see from my profile, I don't usually do hotels as a first meet but getting single men to do a social first is often an anathema. A lot of men just want to stick their dick in, in their particular way, and with no consideration for the other person. I don't want to judge them necessarily for that because it works for some women. Unfortunately, it doesn't work for me. Some people are here to chat. some are here to look at material to wank to. Some people want to just shag/gloryhole/go dogging. Some people like me want to get to know a person first in real life, in person and face to face with clothes on so that I can be at my most comfortable and relaxed when I take my clothes off and become intimate. There's nothing that you are doing wrong in particular. | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me I am puzzled that 48 people messaged you saying they didn't want to meet" Oh single men do this all of the time. They message but they have no interest in meeting on the day or within 7 days. I just assume that they are here for their chat and wank fantasy. Unfortunately, I'm not here often to chat. I'm usually out....doing something...or doing someone.....or both? Lol!  | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? No worries. I went to Brighton and I posted a meet on the nude beach and no one met me. A lot of couples are busy...doing couple and family things. A lot of single men are busy working and with kids or....they are agrophobic. I was amazed at how many lived in Brighton but never went to the beach or the nudist beach. You are not alone. As you can see from my profile, I don't usually do hotels as a first meet but getting single men to do a social first is often an anathema. A lot of men just want to stick their dick in, in their particular way, and with no consideration for the other person. I don't want to judge them necessarily for that because it works for some women. Unfortunately, it doesn't work for me. Some people are here to chat. some are here to look at material to wank to. Some people want to just shag/gloryhole/go dogging. Some people like me want to get to know a person first in real life, in person and face to face with clothes on so that I can be at my most comfortable and relaxed when I take my clothes off and become intimate. There's nothing that you are doing wrong in particular." You should come up north we're much more sociable! | |||
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"Ah, is this what you mean about being safe? Seeing someone’s ID documents and proof of address? Safety has to come first, absolutely, and you do whatever makes you comfortable, so I’m not in anyway criticising, but, I’m not surprised people won’t show you those documents. They are quite private things to surface, and I wouldn’t do it either. Good luck, sounds like you’ve found someone that will. Enjoy!" They are private but single women have to take a lot of safety precautions these days, unfortunately. If a guy picks me up in his car, I send my safety buddy his license plate number. My safety buddy also knows where I'm going and pictures of the guy/couple I'm meeting. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't have passports or driver's licences and others for good reason hide their addresses and identity. That's why a lot of us women go to membership clubs because the clubs have cameras of everyone who goes in and out and has the ID and proof of address for members. | |||
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"Your status is asking people to join you today for a social at the pool and that the hotel will charge them £25. That's not particularly appealing I'd say. This. Seems unnecessarily complicated and expensive just for a social. Role reversal time: Imagine a guy feeling so entitled to a meet, he posts: Come and meet me, £25 for the privilege..." £25 is nothing compared to what the London clubs charge single men to sometimes not even talk to a woman. Must be a London thing. | |||
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"Have you ever thought, maybe it's because some men actually DO have standards, and won't just f**k anything. " You beat me to it... | |||
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"I will come and meet you anytime. ( let’s see if I get a reply). Same as most people on here either not really interested or are delirious and think they are better than everyone I sent a message a day ago - not been read…. lol Perhaps you're not what she's looking for? " Lol! Men: No women will meet me. Also men: message women who are too young, not nearby. And finally men: Zero effort in their profile. Me a woman: enough meets, private and clubs. Accept that my mental health and body type are not for everyone. Also me: message men who are in my age range of 5 years younger and 15 years older and men within a 5-mile radius. And finally me: make lots of effort in my profile bio with different kinds of pictures. and have and give verifications. | |||
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"I’m in the same boat for tomorrow night! "Hint hint! | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? No worries. I went to Brighton and I posted a meet on the nude beach and no one met me. A lot of couples are busy...doing couple and family things. A lot of single men are busy working and with kids or....they are agrophobic. I was amazed at how many lived in Brighton but never went to the beach or the nudist beach. You are not alone. As you can see from my profile, I don't usually do hotels as a first meet but getting single men to do a social first is often an anathema. A lot of men just want to stick their dick in, in their particular way, and with no consideration for the other person. I don't want to judge them necessarily for that because it works for some women. Unfortunately, it doesn't work for me. Some people are here to chat. some are here to look at material to wank to. Some people want to just shag/gloryhole/go dogging. Some people like me want to get to know a person first in real life, in person and face to face with clothes on so that I can be at my most comfortable and relaxed when I take my clothes off and become intimate. There's nothing that you are doing wrong in particular. You should come up north we're much more sociable!" I can't see myself going in the water naked on a Northern beach. Even Brighton was a bit too nippy for me in June.
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"I’m in the same boat for tomorrow night! "Tempting..but I should be working. Lol! Plus you could be on the other side of London 2 hours drive/2 hours by public transport. | |||
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"I’m in the same boat for tomorrow night!
Tempting..but I should be working. Lol! Plus you could be on the other side of London 2 hours drive/2 hours by public transport."Haha! Thank you for your consideration x | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs " I was saying the same in my head and the more I read the worse it got ...its just unravelled into one huge clusterfuck that just screams AVOID AT ALL COSTS. | |||
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"This is the weirdest post I've read on here. You my friend are a walking red flag. Imagine this was a man saying all this. He'd be ripped a new one. Mrs I like how it got progressively weirder with each new comment, quite an achievement on here! I know right. Mrs But she did get a meet if you read her profile!" Doesn't make it any less weird or red flaggy and doesn't change the fact a man would be ripped to shreds if the shoe was on the other foot. Mrs | |||
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"OP; please don’t message me privately, and I would have thought that one thing we’ve been pretty clear about in this thread is that private information shouldn’t be shared - so no, I won’t be providing you with my name and number, thanks all the same. " Okay I will just reply in the group Sorry about that xx Sam xx | |||
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"It’s a shame u couldn’t get a meet, but ur profile says u don’t do hotel meets. Maybe that confused the gents that was gonna ask u about it" Yes I need to update my profile this was a first hotel meet in about two years Sam xx | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me What am I doing wrong ? I want to be safe and sane but really why can’t I get a meet? No worries. I went to Brighton and I posted a meet on the nude beach and no one met me. A lot of couples are busy...doing couple and family things. A lot of single men are busy working and with kids or....they are agrophobic. I was amazed at how many lived in Brighton but never went to the beach or the nudist beach. You are not alone. As you can see from my profile, I don't usually do hotels as a first meet but getting single men to do a social first is often an anathema. A lot of men just want to stick their dick in, in their particular way, and with no consideration for the other person. I don't want to judge them necessarily for that because it works for some women. Unfortunately, it doesn't work for me. Some people are here to chat. some are here to look at material to wank to. Some people want to just shag/gloryhole/go dogging. Some people like me want to get to know a person first in real life, in person and face to face with clothes on so that I can be at my most comfortable and relaxed when I take my clothes off and become intimate. There's nothing that you are doing wrong in particular." Thanks Mel Can I call you Mel? It’s nice you’re sharing and I am not alone but I did get a meet check out my last verification xx | |||
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"I have a hotel on Wednesday just been through 48 messages and no one wants to meet me I am puzzled that 48 people messaged you saying they didn't want to meet Oh single men do this all of the time. They message but they have no interest in meeting on the day or within 7 days. I just assume that they are here for their chat and wank fantasy. Unfortunately, I'm not here often to chat. I'm usually out....doing something...or doing someone.....or both? Lol! "Lol and you’ve got a great sense of humour Mel xx | |||
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"Your status is asking people to join you today for a social at the pool and that the hotel will charge them £25. Role reversal time: Imagine a guy feeling so entitled to a meet, he posts: Come and meet me, £25 for the privilege... £25 is nothing compared to what the London clubs charge single men to sometimes not even talk to a woman. Must be a London thing. My worry with this would be that in this case the more unscrupulous chap would feel entitled to more than just a social, having literally paid their entry fee. " True good point I think I took to many risks but it all worked out in the end and my Dom was there xx Check out my verification xx | |||
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