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Why people read but don’t reply
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"Hi people just wondering why I send a message which is decently Leangthy and they just read it and not reply like I’m in the age gap there looking for and it’s no luck like idk if there is something wrong with my profile." Because no one owes you a response. And just because you are in someone’s age bracket doesn’t mean you’re their type either. | |||
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"Hi people just wondering why I send a message which is decently Leangthy and they just read it and not reply like I’m in the age gap there looking for and it’s no luck like idk if there is something wrong with my profile." Don’t over think it just move on. | |||
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"As others have said no reply = not interested. Another reason is if someone replies to you then later changes their message filters to one that would block you those filters would not work as they have messaged you before. For example, if I sent a reply to every man who messaged me today then I tomorrow I decide to block single men, all those who I've replied to today don't get filtered out and can message me again. " We didn’t realise this when we first joined so we’ve had to block repeat offenders when our message filters are one. | |||
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"Ok everyone thanks for the reply’s but I now understand no reply = not interested " Remember not for everyone as people get busy then receive more messages which in turn pushes yours further down. So at times it's just a learning curve whereas someone might change their mind at a later date. So if you choose to ignore a read message and don't block or don't send repeated messages. Let it come to you  | |||
"Hi people just wondering why I send a message which is decently Leangthy and they just read it and not reply like I’m in the age gap there looking for and it’s no luck like idk if there is something wrong with my profile." No reply is a response, do you reply to unsolicited junk mail that comes through your letterbox. You’ve only been on a few weeks just lower your expectations and see where it leads Have fun enjoy the chase but don’t let it get you down if like hundreds it’s not what you expected | |||
"Hi people just wondering why I send a message which is decently Leangthy and they just read it and not reply like I’m in the age gap there looking for and it’s no luck like idk if there is something wrong with my profile. No reply is a response, do you reply to unsolicited junk mail that comes through your letterbox. You’ve only been on a few weeks just lower your expectations and see where it leads Have fun enjoy the chase but don’t let it get you down if like hundreds it’s not what you expected " Junk mail via the post doesn't get any pussy saying that even the important mail doesn't provide pussy | |||
"Ok everyone thanks for the reply’s but I now understand no reply = not interested " To be fair, you'd have already known this if you'd familiarised yourself with the site FAQs | |||
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"If they ignore you, then that's that: Ignoring. Definitely doesn't mean they are interested. You will have to get used to that, because a "not interested" is too much to ask for around here. They all pretend like you fly off the handle and will write nasty threats as replies. So, you will only hear back if they are interested. " We pretend that we get nasty threats??? What so that’s a lie is it. | |||
"If they ignore you, then that's that: Ignoring. Definitely doesn't mean they are interested. You will have to get used to that, because a "not interested" is too much to ask for around here. They all pretend like you fly off the handle and will write nasty threats as replies. So, you will only hear back if they are interested. " As I have previously stated on this thread there is a legitimate reason to not reply. I want my filters to work when I put them up. I'm not stopping them from working by replying to everyone I'm not interested in. | |||
"If they ignore you, then that's that: Ignoring. Definitely doesn't mean they are interested. You will have to get used to that, because a "not interested" is too much to ask for around here. They all pretend like you fly off the handle and will write nasty threats as replies. So, you will only hear back if they are interested. We pretend that we get nasty threats??? What so that’s a lie is it. " We can confirm nasty treats happen | |||
"Hi people just wondering why I send a message which is decently Leangthy and they just read it and not reply like I’m in the age gap there looking for and it’s no luck like idk if there is something wrong with my profile." They may not have actually read the message, just opened it. If they haven't blocked you, they could possibly get back to you at a later date. | |||
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"Hi people just wondering why I send a message which is decently Leangthy and they just read it and not reply like I’m in the age gap there looking for and it’s no luck like idk if there is something wrong with my profile." Hi, I like your question it shows a level of vulnerability and accountability. So good on you. Many have already said, it’s the nature of the beast, try not to take it personally; move on. However; you can up your likelihood of messages/responses ratio, by doing several things. Your profile; whilst vulnerable is a little too vulnerable. It has a little whiff of desperation. Not too much, but walks the reader down the line of they have to do the work, but With some minor tweaks and little bit of owning it and being bold, more alpha shall we say; that would help sell the fact you’re there to partake and maybe in part lead; everyone has to fake it sometimes, to some degree, but tailor some stuff out, and play to your desires and strengths. Don’t go too far but lean in to the things you know are good attributes. It’s also maybe a little long for what it says, but I like the transparency and vulnerability of it, that you’re offering something of yourself. However, again I would in my opinion make it shorter, more concise to what you bring to a meet up. Smart, high energy, young, high stamina, well presented, coffee first…club buddy, etc… you get the point. In terms of messages, read every profile before you message, understand their do’s & dont’s. Understand their expectations and balance that with yours. Is sending a message to this person correct? Have you used their key word, in the message that shows you’ve read and understood the profile. Or are you scattter gunning? Be targeted in your response, be specific to the person you’re talking to. Tell them what about their profile compelled you to message THEM! Then maybe share some Details about you. I’ve always found sharing a face pic with a smiley face, joyful without a cock in it, works. It’s disarming and most likely leans in to your true nature. People love a smiley face. I’m happy to help if you wish to message me privately. Best of luck fabbing, and keep safe and well. | |||
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"nothing you can do to make anyone sexually atrracted to yourself its either there or its not so all the advice in the world wont help all it will do is make you copy others ..just be you be honest and im not going to lie its extremely hard for guys it alway have been and only gets worse year after year as 100s more guys flood in thinking its a free sex site ... if you want to swing then you have a tiny tiny chance once your foot is on the ladder it may and i mean may get easier ... if your here looking to just empty your balls then your have zero chance.. 100 men to every woman in some areas alot more .. advice does not work it just makes you be like others stand out by being you and by being you your giving people a chane to know you rather than what someone else have told you to do...." This 100% | |||
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"People read then not reply because your not what they looking for usually, and with due respect, try spell checking what you type, we all make errors but your profile and this posting does leave a bit to be desired" How rude. You have no idea why this person's message or profile leave "a bit to be desired". Do you really think that it is just laziness and a spell checker will fix everything? BTW, it's "you're" and not "YOUR" ! Maybe proof read before you send especially in this situation... Maybe a full stop or two would make your post more readable too. | |||
"Hi people just wondering why I send a message which is decently Leangthy and they just read it and not reply like I’m in the age gap there looking for and it’s no luck like idk if there is something wrong with my profile. Hi, I like your question it shows a level of vulnerability and accountability. So good on you. Many have already said, it’s the nature of the beast, try not to take it personally; move on. However; you can up your likelihood of messages/responses ratio, by doing several things. Your profile; whilst vulnerable is a little too vulnerable. It has a little whiff of desperation. Not too much, but walks the reader down the line of they have to do the work, but With some minor tweaks and little bit of owning it and being bold, more alpha shall we say; that would help sell the fact you’re there to partake and maybe in part lead; everyone has to fake it sometimes, to some degree, but tailor some stuff out, and play to your desires and strengths. Don’t go too far but lean in to the things you know are good attributes. It’s also maybe a little long for what it says, but I like the transparency and vulnerability of it, that you’re offering something of yourself. However, again I would in my opinion make it shorter, more concise to what you bring to a meet up. Smart, high energy, young, high stamina, well presented, coffee first…club buddy, etc… you get the point. In terms of messages, read every profile before you message, understand their do’s & dont’s. Understand their expectations and balance that with yours. Is sending a message to this person correct? Have you used their key word, in the message that shows you’ve read and understood the profile. Or are you scattter gunning? Be targeted in your response, be specific to the person you’re talking to. Tell them what about their profile compelled you to message THEM! Then maybe share some Details about you. I’ve always found sharing a face pic with a smiley face, joyful without a cock in it, works. It’s disarming and most likely leans in to your true nature. People love a smiley face. I’m happy to help if you wish to message me privately. Best of luck fabbing, and keep safe and well. " Wow this is some excellent advice. It’s good to see positivity with some practical steps on today’s forum. FoxyJ’s post is also excellent. Let’s hope more people see this thread and take value from it. | |||
