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There's a lovely annual Poly conference in London I've been to with one of my then poly partners. If you DM me I will try and find the Facebook group or emails. We are now in Scotland and not found the same poly tantric sacred sexual community yet. |
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I’m not sure if I’d necessarily recommend it, but OK Cupid also used to be ok for enm/poly.
Poly meet-ups are a thing - we have one in Manchester, so there will be something in London which might attract people who would be within range for you. The other thing to consider is meeting with other ‘alternative’ groups where there’s likely to be a higher proportion of poly people - in my experience it’s been kink and (probably no surprise to you) those of a gothic persuasion. |
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I was on poly dating Facebook page for introduction. They also have some pretty wild events in a well equiped warehouse dungeon in Walthamstow (friend told me) 
There's plenty of groups on Fet also. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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Ooo thanks for the tips! I’ve never even heard of feeld! Going to investigate.
I met my 3 partners - one on here, one on tinder and one through a friend.
I’ve also tended to just randomly meet lots of poly people - but I’m a chronic oversharer so tend to divulge first as I don’t care and then people tell me their stuff too haha |
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By *BW_rahWoman 12 weeks ago
Manchester |
"I’m not sure if I’d necessarily recommend it, but OK Cupid also used to be ok for enm/poly.
Poly meet-ups are a thing - we have one in Manchester, so there will be something in London which might attract people who would be within range for you. The other thing to consider is meeting with other ‘alternative’ groups where there’s likely to be a higher proportion of poly people - in my experience it’s been kink and (probably no surprise to you) those of a gothic persuasion. "
Hi, I'm interested in knowing more about the poly meet in Manchester  |
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"I’m not sure if I’d necessarily recommend it, but OK Cupid also used to be ok for enm/poly.
Poly meet-ups are a thing - we have one in Manchester, so there will be something in London which might attract people who would be within range for you. The other thing to consider is meeting with other ‘alternative’ groups where there’s likely to be a higher proportion of poly people - in my experience it’s been kink and (probably no surprise to you) those of a gothic persuasion.
Hi, I'm interested in knowing more about the poly meet in Manchester "
Search FBook for Manchester Poly Meet. It’s usually first Saturday afternoon of the month at a venue in the Village. |
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By *BW_rahWoman 12 weeks ago
Manchester |
"I’m not sure if I’d necessarily recommend it, but OK Cupid also used to be ok for enm/poly.
Poly meet-ups are a thing - we have one in Manchester, so there will be something in London which might attract people who would be within range for you. The other thing to consider is meeting with other ‘alternative’ groups where there’s likely to be a higher proportion of poly people - in my experience it’s been kink and (probably no surprise to you) those of a gothic persuasion.
Hi, I'm interested in knowing more about the poly meet in Manchester
Search FBook for Manchester Poly Meet. It’s usually first Saturday afternoon of the month at a venue in the Village. "
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Hey, I was thinking of building a ENM website/app, would it be worth the time/effort do we think?
It seems to be a growing trend and it would be clear that the people on their are open to non-menog.
Thoughts? |
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Might be off topic!!! But we kind of fell into this by accident, yes talked and talked blah blah … tonight is first Date night!!! (I’m male partner, we do not nest together, she is going on date!!!!) no pun but.. I don’t want to blow it!!! Any suggestions to handle my mounting jealousy???
Mx |
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"Might be off topic!!! But we kind of fell into this by accident, yes talked and talked blah blah … tonight is first Date night!!! (I’m male partner, we do not nest together, she is going on date!!!!) no pun but.. I don’t want to blow it!!! Any suggestions to handle my mounting jealousy???
Mx"
Doesn't sound like poly is for you |
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By *samCouple 10 weeks ago
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I wonder if you could be more flexible on distance. Poly people are few in number and long distance partners visiting for the weekend could be an option for you ( known as comets).
Best of luck! Xx |
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"Hello, we are a couple looking to date other people, we've tried dating sites but it's very rare to find other poly people.
Does anyone have any advice on where to connect with other poly people? "
I suggest getting in touch with LaLunaLust on fet. She runs a poly group in Brighton and has links to the wider poly community. That site has a few poly threads that may be of interest. Good luck |
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"I wonder if you could be more flexible on distance. Poly people are few in number and long distance partners visiting for the weekend could be an option for you ( known as comets).
Best of luck! Xx"
Would it not be quite challenging to build a meaningful relationship if distance was an issue? |
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actually I'm polyamorous and yes I get jealous and upset sometimes.
So jealousy is a natural emotion, like fear. just need to work through it and get reassurance.
there are a few London based Polyamory groups. Bristol and Glasgow have groups too.
the Annual London based conference is on hiatus at the moment, but hopes to return soon, we need some volunteers to the committee. |
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Hi I found a lot of good relevant info on the Playing with fire podcast, with a dr Joli Hamilton. Particularly on jealousy episode 125.To my tastes this podcast is
Very American, Very wordy but lots of well thought out guidance I found it useful ,Date 2, coping better but those little green eyed monsters!!! Markx |
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We used to date seperately and I (Harry) used the normal dating apps but always made it clear in my profile that I was ENM and ideally seeking people who understood what that was. There’s quite a few people on all apps dating that way it’s just not always obvious from their profile. |
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"This is something we are also interested in and looking for. Mainly a male for Hotwife."
Just be clear with what you want; there’s a big difference between polyamory (multiple romantic relationships) and a regular partner for hotwifing where I imagine there might not be too much of an emotional connection. Good luck! |
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"This is something we are also interested in and looking for. Mainly a male for Hotwife.
Just be clear with what you want; there’s a big difference between polyamory (multiple romantic relationships) and a regular partner for hotwifing where I imagine there might not be too much of an emotional connection. Good luck!"
Thank you and yes we are definitely looking for poly not just a regular for the wife! |
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"We are trying to date separately. Just don't know how to meet other poly people, everyone we've spoken to so far isn't interested in that kind of situation "
Although we have a couples account I, Sam the lady, date others separately and my partner is happy for me to do that.
I use feeld as others have recommended but I also have my own single lady account to meet people online.
Sometimes it’s just a meet at a club and other times it’s a partner who wants a relationship
Feel free to PM is if you want more advice xx |
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