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Any pointers for a new single guy on here?
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"Please can share some good pointers to be successful on here for a single guy. "
Interact on the forums, get a good selection of photos. Clothed ones mostly. Funny ones.. don't send unsolicited cock photos.
Read profiles, look for socials in your area.
And be patient.
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"Please can share some good pointers to be successful on here for a single guy. "
Submit to being policed by the few women who use this site and learn how to talk about your love of connection and socials and pretend it’s all about personality blah, blah, blah. Good luck. |
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By *neforutoMan 6 weeks ago
Fantasy land in the SW |
Hahahhaha, enjoy the pics, cams and forums. If youre looking to actually meet folks then go to socials and get to know folks through those and maybe you will make some connections. Oh yes, grow thick skin and be prepared for many many no replies, getting blocked and rude and obnoxious responses to your messages  |
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Ok, here's some advice that will really work.
If you talk to couples on here that are looking for a guy who cross-dresses and tops, they'll tell you that that combination is pretty rare.
So guys like that are in demand. So all you have to do is change your status to bi, post some pictures of yourself in pretty dresses, and put in your profile that you're willing to top, and in no-time you'll have a mass of contacts.
You can thank me later. |
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There aren't really any tips that will guarantee success for anybody leave alone single men.
I think the best thing anyone can do is have realistic expectations both of the site and themselves.
Good luck |
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By *bi HaiveMan 6 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Please can share some good pointers to be successful on here for a single guy. "
Depends on your definition of success.
If you're judging that just by meets then get set for a long ride. If you're judging it by enjoyment of the site/scene that's different.
Patience is key.
Putting as much effort into your profile as possible is far more important than worrying about the ideal first message. Most will view a profile before even opening a message, so if there's nothing to attract interest it'll likely get deleted unread.
Visuals wise, variety is good. Do you think people want to see an abundance of close up graphic crotch shots, images focusing on someone other than the profile owner or bland, samey photos, or do you think they want to see as much of you as possible (barring faces on profiles of course - that's a personal choice) ?
Some things don't need to be said. Keep anything negative out of the text.
Mingle in the forums and pop the odd contribution in. It's a great way to show people your personality and views.
Many will suggest clubs and socials. Not for everyone of course, but they do work.
Most importantly? Patience. That's why I put that right at the top. Few will want to rush into anything and accepting that makes for a happier fab life. |
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As others have said, clubs, parties and socials are a great way to be involved in swinging and anything online is just an add on as many swingers (most in our experience) aren't on Fab. Enjoy the ride OP. |
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You have to work on it and put some effort into communication. A lot of guys on here seem to think can expect rampant sex straight away. Not like that and sometimes takes me a very long time chatting before meet someone. That makes it more special for me. Not saying you are like these guys. To be honest if you want fun try to get yourself a partner who likes this world and get to some parties. A lot easier than here. The first invite can be hard but once you made a few contacts another world can happem |
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Om posts like this, all responses will be similar so I’m not sure I’m adding much but…
*Once you send a message, forget about it. What will be will be. Don’t even expect a response. If you get one, it’s a bonus.
*Go to an event, social or spa and socialise. If you do that, you can probably get a veri and people will probably trust you a little more.
I only have one but I immediately had people respond to me a lot more once I got it.
* Pay attention to what people are looking for, read their bios. It’s almost like applying for a job. Do you have what it is they’re looking for?
*don’t send dick pictures unless you’re asked and you’ve already beat half of the men on here 
* Just be normal, there are some very friendly people on this site who if you just approached normally (not like an idiot who has sent a
Message because their dick is hard ) will respond.
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By *xeterCandRCouple 6 weeks ago
Digby & Sowton, Exeter |
"Please can share some good pointers to be successful on here for a single guy.
Interact on the forums, get a good selection of photos. Clothed ones mostly. Funny ones.. don't send unsolicited cock photos.
Read profiles, look for socials in your area.
And be patient.
Cali"
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You're about 10 to 15 years too late. When sites like Fab were in their infancy many years ago there was a fair spread of men, women, couples and most were genuine and looking to meet up. You could log on, start chatting with people and within a couple of hours meet up. And girls and couples actually inititiated conversations with men. Now these places are infested with millions upon millions of men looking for rent a shag and this has encouraged timewasters, dreamers and fakes to sign up, wasting everyone's time. So expect zero response, zero meets and you won't be disappointed. |
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Make your profile the best you can op so you stand out, if people don't like your profile, they won't respond to you I'm afraid.
Get rid of the first line about being new, as your profile says you've been here a good while.
Also I'd lose the bit about no men /not gay bit and use your filters to actually block men from contacting you.
With regards to your pics, do they really show you off to your best?.
Many women and couples like to see more than you inside a woman or just your bulge.
Consider adding some body shots, they don't have to be naked, but some that give idea of you.
Always read profiles and contact those who genuinely interest you and who you may be a good fit for.
Join in on the forums or try an organised event as they're both good ways to get to know other like minded people.
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Go to clubs and organised socials.
Read posts from men struggling and use the appropriate profile tips, to get your profile to sell you.
Accept that most people are not mutually compatible with most other people, because of attraction, preferences, availability etc. And that no reply=no thanks.
Make realistic expectations.
Be prepared to invest enormous effort to take months to start to get established, with no guarantees |
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I've had single guys message me asking what is so wrong with them, as they don't get replies etc.
My advice is get your photo verification done if not already sorted, get verified by going on cam if not in person yet, those green ticks and flags can help your profile. Think how you present yourself. Want to fuck, hey and dick pic msgs are so unoriginal..
Have some manners and chat, we're not brainless pieces of meat.
Also realise that single women receive hundreds of messages every day and can't keep up with everyone, you need to stand out from the crowd x
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Be original and detailed about what you want. Don't be shy about describing what turns you on but don't demand.
I care more about your attitude and your face&body than your cock. All guys have a cock. It's seriously unlikely yours is special.
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"Please can share some good pointers to be successful on here for a single guy.
Submit to being policed by the few women who use this site and learn how to talk about your love of connection and socials and pretend it’s all about personality blah, blah, blah. Good luck. "
Lol. |
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Get some better public pics, go to organised socials. Fab is a shark tank for single guys, there's millions on here, usually rubbish meet now this is me cock types. Those don't tend to go to socials though, but if you're polite, respectful and confident, you'll be fine. Plus it'll get you vari'd. Don't expect anything but when you've done 5 or so you'll start to do be known. |
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"You're about 10 to 15 years too late. When sites like Fab were in their infancy many years ago there was a fair spread of men, women, couples and most were genuine and looking to meet up. You could log on, start chatting with people and within a couple of hours meet up. And girls and couples actually inititiated conversations with men. Now these places are infested with millions upon millions of men looking for rent a shag and this has encouraged timewasters, dreamers and fakes to sign up, wasting everyone's time. So expect zero response, zero meets and you won't be disappointed. "
As good an answer as could be written. Oh how good those long lost days were. |
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In my limited experience as a relatively new, single person, on here. It’s little more than, in a pragmatic sense, as signposting to club socials.
I’ve found no other use for the site other than it’s a sort of unofficial social network for club goers, who sort of acknowledge the existence of each other after meeting at a club, but don’t seem to really engage with each other.
Messages are unlikely to be read, by single women, and couples alike if you are the person to initiate.
This is not to dismiss the site. It has its uses, but unless you are planning to actually go to the clubs, then there is very little actual socialising and plan making through the site itself.
Don’t try to use it as Swinger Tinder. It’s not that, and has more in common with pre social-media communities, like community forums, only the only thing you actually have in common with each other is you like sex, but heh, who doesn’t?
Do you want to mix and socialise in a club setting; enjoy the advertisements from owners and representatives and see it as a central hub for that hobby and lifestyle.
Want to have a cheap shag? Arrange a night out on the town with some friends, and try your luck. Bypass Fabswingers or any site or app completely. |
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By *lan157Man 6 weeks ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
OP get yourself a woman friend and introduce her to the scene as a couple and then you will have all the choice you need. No point in struggling as a single man . |
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"In my limited experience as a relatively new, single person, on here. It’s little more than, in a pragmatic sense, as signposting to club socials.
I’ve found no other use for the site other than it’s a sort of unofficial social network for club goers, who sort of acknowledge the existence of each other after meeting at a club, but don’t seem to really engage with each other.
Messages are unlikely to be read, by single women, and couples alike if you are the person to initiate.
This is not to dismiss the site. It has its uses, but unless you are planning to actually go to the clubs, then there is very little actual socialising and plan making through the site itself.
Don’t try to use it as Swinger Tinder. It’s not that, and has more in common with pre social-media communities, like community forums, only the only thing you actually have in common with each other is you like sex, but heh, who doesn’t?
Do you want to mix and socialise in a club setting; enjoy the advertisements from owners and representatives and see it as a central hub for that hobby and lifestyle.
Want to have a cheap shag? Arrange a night out on the town with some friends, and try your luck. Bypass Fabswingers or any site or app completely."
This might be the best response I have ever seen to a post like this. Beautifully said. |
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By *dog100 OP Man 6 weeks ago
swindon |
"In my limited experience as a relatively new, single person, on here. It’s little more than, in a pragmatic sense, as signposting to club socials.
I’ve found no other use for the site other than it’s a sort of unofficial social network for club goers, who sort of acknowledge the existence of each other after meeting at a club, but don’t seem to really engage with each other.
Messages are unlikely to be read, by single women, and couples alike if you are the person to initiate.
This is not to dismiss the site. It has its uses, but unless you are planning to actually go to the clubs, then there is very little actual socialising and plan making through the site itself.
Don’t try to use it as Swinger Tinder. It’s not that, and has more in common with pre social-media communities, like community forums, only the only thing you actually have in common with each other is you like sex, but heh, who doesn’t?
Do you want to mix and socialise in a club setting; enjoy the advertisements from owners and representatives and see it as a central hub for that hobby and lifestyle.
Want to have a cheap shag? Arrange a night out on the town with some friends, and try your luck. Bypass Fabswingers or any site or app completely.
This might be the best response I have ever seen to a post like this. Beautifully said. "
Absolute gent for taking the time. |
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Keep your expectations low. There are lots of single males and only limited demand for them. Be humble, if you’ve got a big cock there’s probably someone with a bigger one, if you’ve got a good body there’s probably someone with a better one. |
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"Please can share some good pointers to be successful on here for a single guy. "
Lower expectations, attend clubs and socials, don’t forget your social life outside of fab, treat women as your equal not walking vaginas.
Ps ignore the above I’m not having success so in no place to advice others ! Lol |
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