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We are looking to head for night out in Edinburgh this weekend. Looking to have Helen chatted up by guy or guys while we are out having her flirting and dancing with other guys is a major turn on for us both. Have any other couples had any experience of this?
Which is the best way to approach as we assume nobody will approach if we are sitting as a couple so we were thinking of being separate in busy club and just hope somebody approaches her and I can sit nearby watching it unfold.
Or how have couples worked the situation to have someone chat up the wife with hubby being present. Any advice welcomed |
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over a year ago
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We enjoy this. Helen is a fine looking woman, I’m sure if she was dressed to impress on a night out, male attention shouldn’t be a problem. Jim
"We are looking to head for night out in Edinburgh this weekend. Looking to have Helen chatted up by guy or guys while we are out having her flirting and dancing with other guys is a major turn on for us both. Have any other couples had any experience of this?
Which is the best way to approach as we assume nobody will approach if we are sitting as a couple so we were thinking of being separate in busy club and just hope somebody approaches her and I can sit nearby watching it unfold.
Or how have couples worked the situation to have someone chat up the wife with hubby being present. Any advice welcomed "
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This is sometimes our dynamic, I’ll be honest and say that in vanilla environments unless your wife is very confident and forward the vast majority of guys will not approach, no matter how you look. You’d have much more luck in a swingers club that allows single guys. In Edinburgh that is the After Dark club out by Sighthill… |
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over a year ago
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It is how we get most of our play either in bars or when on holiday.
We are very sociable so frequently get chatting to someone.
If we think it might lead to play one of us will squeeze the others hand twice. A squeeze back once means no and twice it's game on.
The flirting will then begin and then she'll say something like would you like to continue this conversation somewhere else.and then we'll either move on to our house/hotel or a motel. |
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We’ve done this in a busy bar. Just stood together drinking and dancing and guy approached after I’d given him a bit of eye contact.
We chatted, danced, flirted and kissed. It was really hot. So was he..
He wanted me to himself away from the bar.
We were happy to carry on the party but he clearly wasn't with the Mr present.
I feel he freaked a little.. 
It was a fun night.  |
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"We’ve done this in a busy bar. Just stood together drinking and dancing and guy approached after I’d given him a bit of eye contact.
We chatted, danced, flirted and kissed. It was really hot. So was he..
He wanted me to himself away from the bar.
We were happy to carry on the party but he clearly wasn't with the Mr present.
I feel he freaked a little..
It was a fun night. "
We would love that. Hubby is happy to stand back and watch Helen flirt kiss and tease but if anything further was to happen hubby would be involved. Just the flirty teasing and dancing would be horny for us |
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"We’ve done this in a busy bar. Just stood together drinking and dancing and guy approached after I’d given him a bit of eye contact.
We chatted, danced, flirted and kissed. It was really hot. So was he..
He wanted me to himself away from the bar.
We were happy to carry on the party but he clearly wasn't with the Mr present.
I feel he freaked a little..
It was a fun night.
We would love that. Hubby is happy to stand back and watch Helen flirt kiss and tease but if anything further was to happen hubby would be involved. Just the flirty teasing and dancing would be horny for us"
Exactly what our dynamic was too. It was really horny.
Get that eye contact and flirt on and have a great time guys. |
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Happened to me a number of years ago in Harrogate, I’d been chatting to and been dancing with a beautiful petite lady and as the evening drew to a close she asked if I’d like to join her and her cuck husband back at their hotel. What a night  |
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We've done this plenty of times, you're right in thinking that men won't approach her if you just hang out together though.
Id say there's a few things to think about, one is the kind of bar, it needs to be one with a dancefloor and music etc really. Loads of these in Edinburgh so shouldn't have a problem.
Secondly, you will have more luck on the dancefloor where she can dance with guys while you give some space.
Finally don't be disappointed if nothing happens, it can really depend on the night.
You may find some guys eyeing her up but not approaching, then you can think about what you might want to do in that situation
Good luck! |
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"We've done this plenty of times, you're right in thinking that men won't approach her if you just hang out together though.
Id say there's a few things to think about, one is the kind of bar, it needs to be one with a dancefloor and music etc really. Loads of these in Edinburgh so shouldn't have a problem.
Secondly, you will have more luck on the dancefloor where she can dance with guys while you give some space.
Finally don't be disappointed if nothing happens, it can really depend on the night.
You may find some guys eyeing her up but not approaching, then you can think about what you might want to do in that situation
Good luck!"
Thanks for that, definitely will find a busy club with dancefloor where I can stand back and let her have space. Will be a good night regardless of any fun I’m sure |
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In swinger clubs I would leave her alone for a while to give the guys a bit of room and over the years it worked well.
In a vanilla situation it only ever happened the once and that was on a cruise.
We didn't really plan anything but a solo guy we had got to know over a few days became her dance partner (I'm not a dancer) and it developed from there.
On the last night they went from dance floor to cabin. You can imagine the rest. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Cheeseville, Somerset |
I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them. |
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"I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them. "
This was my thought. I would be royally effed off if I found out after the event that I was being used for fantasy fulfilment without my consent. If the genders were the other way round I doubt we’ve have got this far down the thread before someone queried the ethics. |
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Some of the hotels I've stayed in i doubt she would have to do very much at all. As a lady who does a lot of single business travelling I always get someone chancing their luck. |
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"I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them.
This was my thought. I would be royally effed off if I found out after the event that I was being used for fantasy fulfilment without my consent. If the genders were the other way round I doubt we’ve have got this far down the thread before someone queried the ethics. "
 I have been thinking something similar (especially the ol'gender reversal thoughts)
I also think Scotland's consent laws are a bit (from a male perspective) loose. Apologies if I have this wrong, but under law, consent can be given, "event" can take place, a period of time later consent can be retrospectively removed by one party, and charges can be brought.
Honestly though, I hope OP can find someone willing and consenting, just OP should be aware that there are lots of scenarios where "the guy they want" says No |
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"I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them.
This was my thought. I would be royally effed off if I found out after the event that I was being used for fantasy fulfilment without my consent. If the genders were the other way round I doubt we’ve have got this far down the thread before someone queried the ethics.
I have been thinking something similar (especially the ol'gender reversal thoughts)
I also think Scotland's consent laws are a bit (from a male perspective) loose. Apologies if I have this wrong, but under law, consent can be given, "event" can take place, a period of time later consent can be retrospectively removed by one party, and charges can be brought.
Honestly though, I hope OP can find someone willing and consenting, just OP should be aware that there are lots of scenarios where "the guy they want" says No"
When we have done a similar thing she has always informed the guy of the situation early on in the conversation. Basically as soon as she knows she wants to go further than talk. |
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By *stwo80Couple
over a year ago
yorkshire |
As you get to a bar or club,split and go in separately,buy your own drink and check around for the guys watching you,they will be there!
Heels n cleavage help and an air of "come get me".
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By *STOOCouple
over a year ago
durham |
Get her to wear a short black skirt, a see through top or one that shows her cleavage and stockings and heels.
Tell her to make eye contact with a guy she fancies and wait for the appropriate moment to go to the toilet for 10 minutes.
Can guarantee she'll be getting chatted up or taken somewhere to get fucked before you get back to your pint!! |
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We were at an xmas party in the galmont galway one and I left.her to go to the gents when I arrived back there was a guy sitting in my seat chatting her up I winked at her and walked on past to thw bar and watched from a distance. Next thing the 2 of them got up and I followed them keeping my distance and they disappeared into the gents.I gave them a few minutes and went in and the 2 of them where in one of the cubicles fucking I could hear here moaning and him grunting lol so I listened in the next. Cubicle till j heard him cum then I left and went back to the bar where she joined me looking like the cat that got the cream lol so if the guys are there it will happen |
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We arranged to meet a guy at a local pub but decided it would be fun for her to meet him on her own.
We didn’t want to risk her safety so she sat outside in the beer garden and I sat a few tables away so I could see her.
She wore a nice dress, sexy black bodice with stockings and suspenders.
When he arrived she gave him a kiss he got some drinks and they chatted for a while flirting.
She held his hand then put it on her leg, I watched as his hand slid up her thigh to her knickers and played with her.
She told him I couldn’t make it as I had to work.
She txt me to say go to the house and hide.
I went to the house and hid on the staircase for ten minutes then they arrived, door opened and she led him inside.
He slowly kissed her and undressed her as I watched.
They both had a great time, he was very respectful and left a happy guy.
We both enjoyed the scenario, both very horny and had our own fun after. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
We are a bit astonished that people would dupe folk, let their partners take them home then watch them without any consent or knowledge about what they are getting themselves into, some people have no morals  |
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I often speak to couples at bars in the hope they have this dynamic! I've not found one yet but have met lots of nice people and had good chats, I just wait to see if they might hint at being open to it (I leave loose openings after having got comfortable chatting such as what a gorgeous couple they are / if they don't mind me saying he's a lucky guy).
My tips would be:
find a table with an extra seat, sit next to each other so a guy could join opposite, much easier / inviting to start a conversation
Eye contact, if Mrs was looking at me and holding eye contact, I would be coming to have a chat
Once you've got a guy at the table, let him know. It doesn't have to be massively direct as the flirtation is such a sexy part of the journey, but if he's sat opposite you can run your foot against him, give flirty looks and take those opportunities to let him know you're open
Good luck and I'll keep talking to those couples in the hope I meet you some time! |
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By *enuinebiMan
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
It happened to us on a cruise, I'd gone to loo and when I got back the wife was in conversation with an attractive mid fifties woman.
Anne, my wife, introduced me to her,Louise.
It soon became very apparent that Louise had the hots for my wife.
Within five minutes, David was introduced to us, Louise other half.
The night ended up with Anne getting fucked by both David and Louise.
A pity it was the last night of the cruise. |
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You’d be surprised how easy this can be if you approach it with an open mind of ‘we are away from home, we are never going to see these people again”.
With my ex wife, we were ‘pulled’ by a lovely couple in Swansea on a night out once, just got chatting in a club, everyone getting on well, girls dancing etc, invited us back to theirs after to keep the party going, where they ‘revealed’ they were swingers and really attracted to us - and we surprised them by saying we were the same. Became great friends.
But in terms of single guys, we would often go clubbing when staying away from home, either overnight or on holiday, and the wife would like to dance so would hit the dance floor while I sat on the side watching her dance. Inevitably she would attract male attention and she would enjoy flirting, kissing etc, and if all going well would head over my way and casually drop in ‘this is my husband’.
Some would freak out, some would go with it, and we’d often take a guy back to the hotel.
Holiday hotels/bars, waiters and bar staff can be a fruitful hunting ground also… |
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"Some of the hotels I've stayed in i doubt she would have to do very much at all. As a lady who does a lot of single business travelling I always get someone chancing their luck. "
I'm not surprised your are beautiful |
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"I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them. "
That seems like pretty flawed logic, because what you're saying is that women shouldn't be allowed to sit alone in bars unless they're single. It's perfectly respectable to go to a bar for a chat, whether you're single or married.
I'd agree that before agreeing to take things further both sides should be honest, but I don't think trying to chat some woman up in a bar gives you any rights over her. |
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By *rudiesCouple 42 weeks ago
cardiff and near port talbot |
"Still looking for this to happen. Not quite as easy as one would think. Definitely still looking for her to be chatted up while out"
Yeah it’s hard in normal bars, swingers clubs obvs not are there none of them around? But as you said go in individually and with a decent time gap between each of you going in? |
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Never had any trouble getting the wife picked up at the local Wetherspoons Friday and Saturday nights…. Best place really to find young groups of lads that are experimental enough to go home with a couple and group fuck his wife |
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"I get the fantasy element of this but I'd question if it was fair on the guys involved.
If they assume she's single and aren't told differently then they may be seriously pissed off if/when they discover they're being used to fulfill a couples fantasy.
Because 'consent'.
The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them.
That seems like pretty flawed logic, because what you're saying is that women shouldn't be allowed to sit alone in bars unless they're single. It's perfectly respectable to go to a bar for a chat, whether you're single or married.
I'd agree that before agreeing to take things further both sides should be honest, but I don't think trying to chat some woman up in a bar gives you any rights over her."
It's less about whether approaching a single woman is OK or not in and of itself and more about the situation being manufactured without their knowledge.
I can totally see why, when the end game would not be known to the male ahead of time that this coj/could be seen as manipulative or misleading. Especially if the husband/partner is sitting on the other side of the room, watching and getting thrills from it - again, without the other person's logic.
Flip this around and imagine the scenario in which two male friends go to a club with the intention of having a mmf threesome and get sexual thrills from the idea of one pretending to be a single guy on their own and then once contact has been established and a rapport built, they introduce the idea of the other guy and ask for a threesome.
How do you think most women would feel about that? I don't think it's a stretch at all to suggest that this behaviour would be seen as manipulative and dishonest. Particularly if you then add the possibility that during the 1 to 1 interactions, alcohol has been consumed. I would call any two guys doing this predators. That dynamic isn't wholly different simply because it's 1 make and 1 female....
I've no idea how you've managed to connect this scenario with the idea that single women shouldn't be allowed to sit in bars by themselves. That's not the suggestion at all. |
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By *eriScotMan 42 weeks ago
Scottish Borders |
I’ve been lucky enough to experience this from both ways. Met a woman at the bar in a club and got chatting. Few drinks and things started to get quite flirty. Onto the dance floor, having a great time then she whispered in my ear that she was married, with her husband and that they wanted to pick up a single guy to go home with them. At first I thought she was joking but took me over to the booth to introduce me to him. Was a little nervous at first but went away quickly.
Another time I was at a bar getting a drink when I noticed a couple looking at me from across the bar, smiling as they whispered in each others ears. After catching them a few times I gave them a not so subtle look to see what would happen and the next time I went to the bar he came over. Got chatting and he invited me back to their table where they told me what they were looking for |
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"I've no idea how you've managed to connect this scenario with the idea that single women shouldn't be allowed to sit in bars by themselves. That's not the suggestion at all. "
What I actually said is that the suggestion seemed to be that married women shouldn't be allowed to sit on their own in bars
Just imagine a married woman sitting in a bar and some guy says hello to her. Are you seriously suggesting that she has to immediately say that she's married and looking for a threesome?
I think you need to lighten up a bit. If you go to a bar to chat someone up, or be chatted up, there are absolutely no guarantees that the other person will be what you're looking for. As long as you don't lie to someone I don't see the problem - you really have some responsibility to ask about the things that are important to you. |
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We've done this a few times at over 30's single mingle clubs...generally lots of single guys there ...it generally works best when we split up...I go and chat too ladies and men chat too the wife...she always gets luckier than me ! |
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It tends to work if both are reasonably confident and receptive to this. Also on circumstances. I know a swinging wife well who told me this guy was trying to chat her up at a funeral reception in pub. He got a bollocking from her. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 42 weeks ago
Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I've no idea how you've managed to connect this scenario with the idea that single women shouldn't be allowed to sit in bars by themselves. That's not the suggestion at all.
What I actually said is that the suggestion seemed to be that married women shouldn't be allowed to sit on their own in bars
Just imagine a married woman sitting in a bar and some guy says hello to her. Are you seriously suggesting that she has to immediately say that she's married and looking for a threesome?
I think you need to lighten up a bit. If you go to a bar to chat someone up, or be chatted up, there are absolutely no guarantees that the other person will be what you're looking for. As long as you don't lie to someone I don't see the problem - you really have some responsibility to ask about the things that are important to you."
I never suggested married women shouldn't sit alone in bars.
Not sure how you got that from my post. 🤷♂️ |
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We did it in a swingers club a few years ago.
Liz went in as a single woman and I followed on half an hour later as a single guy.
We did discuss this with the club before going.
It was extremely horney watching her initially chatting to the guys at the bar then taking them to a viewing room for fun. The funny thing was listening to guys chatting to each other about her. |
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Not been brave enough to go to a swing club. Most meets have been at a club when L has been hit on. Sometimes she’s gone back to a room with a guy and sometimes I’ve watched, occassionally I have joined in. |
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"Still looking for this to happen. Not quite as easy as one would think. Definitely still looking for her to be chatted up while out"
Have you tried putting a meet on this site saying which bars you're going to |
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"I never suggested married women shouldn't sit alone in bars.
Not sure how you got that from my post. 🤷♂️"
What you said was:
" The majority of guys I suspect wouldn't naturally start chatting up a married woman in a bar/club.
Duping them into doing so is pretty disrespectful to them. "
So how would you suggest that a married woman sitting alone in a bar stops guys starting to chat her up? Perhaps have a sign around her neck?
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I think we'd both agree that it's wrong for a married person to dupe a single person into having sex by pretending to be single.
I think chatting up in a bar is entirely different. There are no guarantees, and it's the process by which you establish whether you're compatible. |
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"We have done this a couple of times. Both times ended up with my wife having fingers inside her, one of the guys came back to our hotel room and he fucked her brains out."
Nice one, lovely profile. |
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"I think we'd both agree that it's wrong for a married person to dupe a single person into having sex by pretending to be single."
Do you mean the married people on Fab with a single profile? Confused. |
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"Sam never takes her wedding ring off on nights out, it appeals to some men the fact she is married but still on offer."
I’d say as a cuck that’s quite true, most men like the idea of fucking another man’s wife and the wedding ring probably gives them more horn ! |
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"Sam never takes her wedding ring off on nights out, it appeals to some men the fact she is married but still on offer.
I’d say as a cuck that’s quite true, most men like the idea of fucking another man’s wife and the wedding ring probably gives them more horn !"
Completely agreed |
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"Sam never takes her wedding ring off on nights out, it appeals to some men the fact she is married but still on offer.
I’d say as a cuck that’s quite true, most men like the idea of fucking another man’s wife and the wedding ring probably gives them more horn !
Completely agreed"
Yep - keep that wedding ring on 😉 |
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I done the same thing with my wife when I was talking to another guy on here and he was a lot younger than she was but very fit and he did have a massive cock and he said he has a massive thing for older women like my wife and saying she looked like a little housewives who was really innocent and she was out with the girls in her work and they were staying at a hotel and I told him what her hotel was and told him how he chat her up |
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By *ourplusCouple 35 weeks ago
Near Irvine |
When we go out to the pub sometimes she wears a very low cut tight top and no bra, she has big nipples so it’s very obvious, when I see any guy eyeing them up I wait for him to go to the toilet, I follow him in and stand next to him so he can see my little cock, this normally gets them very interested, particularly if they are much bigger than me. |
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wear revealing clothes, swingers anklet bracelet, let her walk into the pub alone, you follow in afterwards and sit where you can see her, sure it wont be long before a guy is chatting her up, flirting and offering her drinks. |
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By *xxxMan 35 weeks ago
Bedfordshire & Chester |
It's all about eye contact for me. I'll approach a couple if I get positive eye contact from both, or even just her. I never expect anything from these kind of situations or even a social meeting from ladies or couples from here to be honest. There's no pressure then and I always start chatting to them both, which is also important, sometimes even just him. If they're after a certain thing you should be able to pick up on the vibe or direction they take or allow me to take the chat. Then I'll focus more and more on her, and tell him how lucky he is, little stuff like that. Listening to the answers is vital. Worst case scenario on a couple of occasion they make it clear they're not up for it or I sense it, and I back off. No harm done and a little flirt for the chase which can be as much fun anyway. |
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Is it a night out in a swingers club or a vanilla club?
Just be a bit careful that any single guys may read the situation different from yourself.
They may read your wife's advances or flirting in a different way and maybe feel they are being set up.
Lots of nutters out there.
Hope it goes well for you. |
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It might have already been mentioned (not read through the whole thread). Wear a black ring, if someone is on the scene they might understand what it means. Get a pineapple keyring or if you want to be really obvious just carry a massive pineapple around with you 
Katie |
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"It might have already been mentioned (not read through the whole thread). Wear a black ring, if someone is on the scene they might understand what it means. Get a pineapple keyring or if you want to be really obvious just carry a massive pineapple around with you
Katie "
Hate to ask but what's the black ring mean? |
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"It might have already been mentioned (not read through the whole thread). Wear a black ring, if someone is on the scene they might understand what it means. Get a pineapple keyring or if you want to be really obvious just carry a massive pineapple around with you
Katie
Hate to ask but what's the black ring mean?"
It can mean that you're part of the swinging scene, or at least open to it. |
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"i used to wear a black ring, never got any attention from anyone, upside down pineapple sounds good though, or an anklet."
We are on holiday and it seems everyone, even kids, have some kind of pineapple logo on their shorts or towels.
Never heard of a black ring, all too complex. |
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By *onann3Man 34 weeks ago
scotland |
We’ve done this many times . I have booked hotel s and got my wife to turn up early . She dresses sexy and goes to the bar to wait for me arriving . More often than not when I arrive she has at least 2 guys chatting her up . Very horny . Usually I just watch the dynamic for a while , she loves it when she sees me . Gets more flirty with them . |
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"We are looking to head for night out in Edinburgh this weekend. Looking to have Helen chatted up by guy or guys while we are out having her flirting and dancing with other guys is a major turn on for us both. Have any other couples had any experience of this?
Which is the best way to approach as we assume nobody will approach if we are sitting as a couple so we were thinking of being separate in busy club and just hope somebody approaches her and I can sit nearby watching it unfold.
Or how have couples worked the situation to have someone chat up the wife with hubby being present. Any advice welcomed "
Flash her tits is a dead cert for a chat up |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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just leave any lady alone and get chating to a man - often can end as you, your mrs wants
we found teasing in the hotbu better eg - on a quite time, if a sinlge polite male is in the tub as well - mrs get out and opens a legs a bit more etc, polite, quite chat wilth guy and i go to the bathroom and guy rubs her leg with elgs say "sorry" mrs says its ok hubby does not mind - and if we want, they will tun up in the bedroom |
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By *ubyRonCouple 32 weeks ago
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We tried at the weekend with good results. Ruby spent the night eyeing up men etc, we got to a club, she saw someone she liked that she'd been eyeing up, approached him and told him I(ron) get really turned on watching her fuck other men, they had a dance, and a good kiss and a bit of a fondle and then we moved on. Very hot to be watching from the sidelines.  |
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"We tried at the weekend with good results. Ruby spent the night eyeing up men etc, we got to a club, she saw someone she liked that she'd been eyeing up, approached him and told him I(ron) get really turned on watching her fuck other men, they had a dance, and a good kiss and a bit of a fondle and then we moved on. Very hot to be watching from the sidelines. "
That was one very lucky man. |
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We had a kind of date night last night but Aurelia got chatting to a young single guy on the table next to us who was traveling on business.
When the bar closed we went to another bar but it was also closed so suggested we go to a motel.
He was very much up for it and I spent the night mostly watching them fucking. |
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"We tried at the weekend with good results. Ruby spent the night eyeing up men etc, we got to a club, she saw someone she liked that she'd been eyeing up, approached him and told him I(ron) get really turned on watching her fuck other men, they had a dance, and a good kiss and a bit of a fondle and then we moved on. Very hot to be watching from the sidelines. "
Really sexy, love Lu getting chatted up |
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"We are looking to head for night out in Edinburgh this weekend. Looking to have Helen chatted up by guy or guys while we are out having her flirting and dancing with other guys is a major turn on for us both. Have any other couples had any experience of this?
Which is the best way to approach as we assume nobody will approach if we are sitting as a couple so we were thinking of being separate in busy club and just hope somebody approaches her and I can sit nearby watching it unfold.
Or how have couples worked the situation to have someone chat up the wife with hubby being present. Any advice welcomed "
Could you utilse the site by posting a meet.
Then use the shoes near while away to try to get people from fab to your area ..
Still a random meeting but drawing in swingers to a location ?
If they saw you and recognized you from here they may feel better about making an approach
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As a single guy I would never dream of chatting to a couple in a regular bar with the idea of that kind of thing. As 99% of couple are just that, there together.
If there were a sign or I had spoken to them previously then it is different, I would love the fun and games of chatting to the pair of them, finding out their fantasy. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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"We had a kind of date night last night but Aurelia got chatting to a young single guy on the table next to us who was traveling on business.
When the bar closed we went to another bar but it was also closed so suggested we go to a motel.
He was very much up for it and I spent the night mostly watching them fucking."
This would be the perfect scenario I’d love to happen on a night out with my wife |
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"We had a kind of date night last night but Aurelia got chatting to a young single guy on the table next to us who was traveling on business.
When the bar closed we went to another bar but it was also closed so suggested we go to a motel.
He was very much up for it and I spent the night mostly watching them fucking.
This would be the perfect scenario I’d love to happen on a night out with my wife "
To be fair it has only happened with Brazilian guys, either here or on cruises. They seem more forward than Brits in our experience.
Hoping it might be different when we visit next month. |
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By *evlishduncMan 31 weeks ago
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What a really interesting discussion. I don’t think I saw anyone mention appropriate jewellery…
I look out for anklets, necklaces with a suggestive decoration and swinger rings.
Hard to spot in a club/pub but those in the know will be looking.
Good luck, sounds like fun. x |
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"What a really interesting discussion. I don’t think I saw anyone mention appropriate jewellery…
I look out for anklets, necklaces with a suggestive decoration and swinger rings.
Hard to spot in a club/pub but those in the know will be looking.
Good luck, sounds like fun. x"
Good tip |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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I’m sure it’s already been said, but if she appears to be alone and friendly then she’ll get plenty off attention. If flirting is as far as it’s going to go, then don’t even acknowledge the hubby’s presence.
Obviously if you want to go further, at some point you’ll have to mention him lol
That worked on me |
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By *nm888Couple 31 weeks ago
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So we love doing this... It's one of our favourite things to do on a night out or just as an opportunity for Emily to have some fun.
We have always found that if Ems is with a friend she gets approached all the time. Not sure why but a lot more than if she is stood alone, plus she doesn't feel comfortable just standing alone.
Last week she ended up going home with the barman of the bar she was in. |
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"So we love doing this... It's one of our favourite things to do on a night out or just as an opportunity for Emily to have some fun.
We have always found that if Ems is with a friend she gets approached all the time. Not sure why but a lot more than if she is stood alone, plus she doesn't feel comfortable just standing alone.
Last week she ended up going home with the barman of the bar she was in. "
What a lucky barman- she's stunning!! |
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"So we love doing this... It's one of our favourite things to do on a night out or just as an opportunity for Emily to have some fun.
We have always found that if Ems is with a friend she gets approached all the time. Not sure why but a lot more than if she is stood alone, plus she doesn't feel comfortable just standing alone.
Last week she ended up going home with the barman of the bar she was in.
What a lucky barman- she's stunning!!"
Agreed, absolutely stunning. So much so I wouldn’t approach, way out of my league! |
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By *ubyRonCouple 31 weeks ago
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"So we love doing this... It's one of our favourite things to do on a night out or just as an opportunity for Emily to have some fun.
We have always found that if Ems is with a friend she gets approached all the time. Not sure why but a lot more than if she is stood alone, plus she doesn't feel comfortable just standing alone.
Last week she ended up going home with the barman of the bar she was in.
What a lucky barman- she's stunning!!
Agreed, absolutely stunning. So much so I wouldn’t approach, way out of my league! "
Just do a little reverse image search on their pics. Oh and check out the AI ones too |
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"So we love doing this... It's one of our favourite things to do on a night out or just as an opportunity for Emily to have some fun.
We have always found that if Ems is with a friend she gets approached all the time. Not sure why but a lot more than if she is stood alone, plus she doesn't feel comfortable just standing alone.
Last week she ended up going home with the barman of the bar she was in.
What a lucky barman- she's stunning!!
Agreed, absolutely stunning. So much so I wouldn’t approach, way out of my league!
Just do a little reverse image search on their pics. Oh and check out the AI ones too "
I bet it’s not even a couple 🫣 I’m the first to admit there’s loads more attractive people on here than me but at least all of my pics are real and not fake or filtered |
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Why not role play it with a new Partner?
Arrange to dress up.. he meets her at a cocktail bar and hubby watches from another table.. has all the elements, nerves, public place, tension… but slightly more controlled and role play her getting chatted up.. |
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"Looks like they've blocked us or admins have got there first "
Yeah I think they’re blocked us too unless as you say maybe admin has stepped in. Maybe someone else could try and view their profile and report back 🤣 |
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"My wife is quiet reserved type
Any advice or tips to help her confidence?"
My advice would be to set up a couples profile but make it clear you are not looking to meet right now. Use the message filters and block people from messaging. Let her see how the site works for herself |
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"My wife is quiet reserved type
Any advice or tips to help her confidence?
My advice would be to set up a couples profile but make it clear you are not looking to meet right now. Use the message filters and block people from messaging. Let her see how the site works for herself "
Yes that is a good idea, something to consider, profile does require an update |
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