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We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. |
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Ask hubby to pre arrange but don't tell you
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Definitely agree with this one. Get hubby to pre arrange and not tell you! |
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You might need to roleplay a bit and agree to meet a man from here 'accidentally'. I don't agree with getting the husband to arrange, what if the wife doesn't find the guy attractive? |
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My guess is that if you see a guy out that fits the bill then make an approach. Think it’s unlikely that the guy will approach a couple. |
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We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple |
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"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"
Perhaps you need to be more direct |
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By *os19Man 30 weeks ago
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
. I think this will only work if you guys make the first move.It’s highly unlikely a single guy will approach a couple unless he knows one or both of them.
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Also I think that picking people up on a night out becomes less likely as you grow older. Many older men on a night out will be expected home at a certain time and picking up a couple is probably the last thing on the list of likely events of the others. |
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"Also I think that picking people up on a night out becomes less likely as you grow older. Many older men on a night out will be expected home at a certain time and picking up a couple is probably the last thing on the list of likely events of the others. "
Thats a good point |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Fantasy of Mr is Mrs bringing a guy back after a night out |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
In almost five years of doing this, we've managed to pick up one guy at a garden centre and take him home, and Char's managed to blow one guy in a car park next to a pub.
We've been approached a few times in shops and also approached a few guys and if they've been single, Char's swapped numbers, but nothing's ever come of it.
Keep trying, but have realistic expectations.
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It’s really easy to pick guys up on nights out. Marie normally gets her tits out on a night out anyway. |
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"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple
Perhaps you need to be more direct"
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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The male of the couple can talk to the single guy in the toilet or when his wife is away to powder her nose and tell him what the couple are looking for. Simples. |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. . I think this will only work if you guys make the first move.It’s highly unlikely a single guy will approach a couple unless he knows one or both of them."
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easy if you make it known your looking, wear an anklet. |
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Have the lady make the first move, if you get on then make it clear what you’re both looking for. Men aren’t going to spend time chatting to a random couple for long if they think you’re just chatty people and being friendly. |
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Just leave her alone for a few minutes if it's a busy bar or try hotel bars midweek...pretty much guaranteed. |
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"In almost five years of doing this, we've managed to pick up one guy at a garden centre and take him home, and Char's managed to blow one guy in a car park next to a pub."
Genuinely curious as to how you pick someone up at the garden centre! What’s the opening line? Something about a bush? |
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“Couldnt help but admire your bush” |
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"Genuinely curious as to how you pick someone up at the garden centre! What’s the opening line? Something about a bush?"
We're normally VERY careful taking our flashing pics, but he clocked us and followed us around. We nodded hello at one stage then as we were getting in the car we noticed he'd parked in a corner. We drove over, got talking, he copped a feeling in the car then we asked him if he wanted to come back with us.
Unfortunately you have to scroll through to June '23 to see the pics in our gallery!
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Something I'd love to experience, about zero % chance of it happening. |
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Always an idea we are up for but I don't know we have ever pushed for it. But if the opportunity presented itself..... |
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We been thinking about trying to pick up a guy at the bar of hotel is this a good idea should she flash at him or what. |
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Try hotel bars. I have met random couples there several times. I do stay in a lot of hotels though. Usually alone on business I always find people to chat to and sometimes get lucky. |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
Where do you drink lol? |
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"We been thinking about trying to pick up a guy at the bar of hotel is this a good idea should she flash at him or what."
Just start chatting and take it from there |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Also free to chat and see where it leads with a female or couple xx |
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Best left to the lady to do then just let her tell the lucky its on the cards aslong as its with the other half half. He will already be wanting to fuck the misses. |
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Oooh would be an honour if this happened |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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As a single guy there's no way I'd approach a couple even if the lady was being flirtatious. They'd have to make the first move or id just assume they were pissing around having a laugh at my expense or kidding on, so I'd likely smile and move on.. |
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Think there would have to be a very direct dialogue. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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We’ve tried this to no avail |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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I'd love to meet a mature couple and be able to have fun with the Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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This is how i found fab. I was chatting with lady at bar and her hubby was there. Thwy were very direct after 20 mins so think that is the way to go |
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had an expeirence where a couple started chatting didnt think anything was up for fun until she handed me a blue pill and winked the rest is history
I think you need to be bolder |
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By *stwo80Couple 30 weeks ago
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Done it before and it is hard to do, but it's all possible.
Found the best way is to enter the bar separately,blokes are always looking for a single girl.
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"had an expeirence where a couple started chatting didnt think anything was up for fun until she handed me a blue pill and winked the rest is history
I think you need to be bolder "
Did you take the pill?  |
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By *arkX1982XMan 30 weeks ago
Dartford Kent SE London |
Definitely be more direct with your intentions, good luck |
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Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.
She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.
I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room  |
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No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. |
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"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "
If guys have seen you both drinking together then that’s probably why no effort was made. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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I’ve had a guy come up to me and just have a chat, about life etc. Normal talk shit to someone on a night out.
I’m open and friendly naturally so didn’t mind it.
He brought up the subject of his wife later and we had a great time at their place.
It may depend on the person you choose, if they friendly and open to the idea?
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"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "
As TallinHandsome said, no man would approach a couple on a night out, as 9/10 times, it would probably end in tears.
You guys need to make the move, so they know what you’re after. |
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If midweek look at hotel bars and guys away with work
But agree with everyone you guys need to just be polite and quite early in the conversation just ask if they would be interested |
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Most blokes will stay away from a couple,so you would have to make the first move,I think,if one of you came to me and explained what your looking for,think you would be surprised at how many would jump at it,I know I would. |
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This is how I got my first 3 way... I pulled the lady as normal and then she introduced her husband who was sat at the bar watching.. |
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By *obf27Man 30 weeks ago
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I’d love this to happen on a normal night out would be so hot  |
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I certainly wish this would happen to me on a night out. More chance of winning the lottery. |
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Most guys won't approach if they've seen you arrive together, if you want to pick up a guy like that you will almost certainly have to make the first move. If a couple approached me like that I would definitely be up for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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It has happened to me but years ago now |
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Following on from this
Mrs doesn't stand at the bar waiting for someone to approach, she will start a conversation, flirt a little and then lean in for a snog
In this day and age, the women have to be very forward, there are lots of gentlemen quite rightly worried about repercussions of making the first move and getting it wrong
"Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.
She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.
I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room "
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100% this
This is how it's happened for us
"Best left to the lady to do then just let her tell the lucky its on the cards aslong as its with the other half half. He will already be wanting to fuck the misses."
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By *eckard25Man 30 weeks ago
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"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"
You need to be a bit more up front with what you are after or find me in a bar |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"Done it before and it is hard to do, but it's all possible.
Found the best way is to enter the bar separately,blokes are always looking for a single girl.
Good plan ..
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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Come to Telford buy me a pint I'm cheap |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"Following on from this
Mrs doesn't stand at the bar waiting for someone to approach, she will start a conversation, flirt a little and then lean in for a snog
In this day and age, the women have to be very forward, there are lots of gentlemen quite rightly worried about repercussions of making the first move and getting it wrong
Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.
She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.
I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room "
100 percent correct. |
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We pick up guys all the time in bars. It’s actually easier than getting a decent meet on here.
Boobs is very good at chatting to guys she fancies at the bar or on the dance floor. She tells them we are swingers and then sees if they are interested in joining us . Also beards does similar in the gay bars. |
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This is easier than you’d imagine, with a little bit of planning, the right attitude and a bold approach.
Along with my ex, we would often go clubbing when staying away from home, either overnight hotel break or on holiday, and the wife would like to dance so would hit the dance floor while I sat on the side watching her dance.
Inevitably she would attract male attention and she would enjoy flirting, kissing etc, and if all going well would head over my way and casually drop in ‘this is my husband’.
Some would freak out, some would go with it, and we’d often take a guy back to the hotel.
Holiday hotels/bars, waiters and bar staff can be a fruitful hunting ground also. |
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"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"
You can’t leave it up to the guy to work it out. You need to be up front and tell them. |
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This is not likely to happen. You can't force spontaneity which is what that sounds like to me
You'd have more chance arranging a social with a potential to do more through this website. |
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"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple
You can’t leave it up to the guy to work it out. You need to be up front and tell them. "
Some people are not naturally up front and for all the want of trying you can't force that out of someone.
You're right in what you said before though. You have to create your own luck, nothing comes to you. I do wonder if OP may have that trail of thought |
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I have been hit on a lot in the past even when I'm clearly out with my husband and not "aiming" to pull.
My advice is wear something sexy, flattering although not absolutely over the top "slutty". Go to the bar on your own, leave him sat at a table. If there's a gaggle of guys stood together, accidentally knock into one of them (great if your're wearing heels and it's a bit of a cobbled/uneven floor). You'll probably end up being able to get your drink bought and have a bit of a gossip. If there's any of them that particularly take your eye and it's mutual, focus on them and keep talking to them throughout the night. If they are moving on to a different bar, go with them. While you make it clear you are out with Mr, don't stick to his side like glue all night. Bring the guy over to the table, introduce each other, keep it flirty.
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Had this happen to me as a single guy.
Was on a solo holiday to GC and sat in the hotel bar after breakfast to watch the Euros. Was the only person there at that point and a couple staying at the hotel walked in.
We struck up a conversation and spoke to 30mins, then the man made an excuse to get something from their room and left the missus. We chatted for a further 30mins and she admitted that they were trying to pick me up but he wanted it and she wasn’t so sure.
Anyway, the lack of directness and possible wading through nerves put me off, so made my excuses and left. |
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We have managed this a couple of times successfully.
I am naturally quite confident and flirty when I want to be and a few touches on a leg helps things along. We I get a positive reaction I will go to the toilet and hubby will just ask if he want to join us both. If it’s positive then hubby will go to the toilet and allow us 10 mins to chat alone as well.
Both times on holiday. Things are much more relaxed and less time pressured then back home. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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I'm wanting that too to be picked up Yorkshire area |
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We tend to find nights out a great place to pick up guys, ladies and the occasional couple. I think the biggest problem for us is not having a space to take them back to and likewise them. Also as we're not so keen to go to a strangers house, other people are likewise not so keen to go to a strangers house. So having somewhere neutral like a hotel to go back to helps.
Luckily being in a big city there tends to be lots of people visiting/working from hotels. Hotels work for us as a nice neutral space. We met a vanilla couple (now an ex vanilla couple) who were staying in the same hotel as a Christmas party which turned out to be a really hot night. Mrs bumped into 3 lovely guys who were working in the area on a night out. She went back to their hotel and had a lovely time.
So I would say from our experience picking up guys is not so difficult but having a nice neutral space like a hotel room to go back to can make the difference in sealing the deal. |
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By *d4ugirlsMan 29 weeks ago
Green Cove Springs |
"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
Have to approach this from a different angle.
What subtle hints are you giving to a guy to show your intentions?
That way there I am not missing opportunities!
The rubbing on the upper thigh, being asked to go on the dance floor and grinded on, being flashed breasts are pretty obvious and happen all the time according to the Stories and Fantasy section.
A thick fella ( in the head, better say brain so not missinterpreted) needs to know the subtle hints! |
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"The male of the couple can talk to the single guy in the toilet or when his wife is away to powder her nose and tell him what the couple are looking for. Simples."
Not all guys would be up for this, and believe it or not there are men who would be shocked by this. |
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By *eyeYCouple 29 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
If we were interested in picking up a single guy, we'd have D initiate chat as he's great at connecting with people, have some pictures of me in less attire (not action or fully nude) and ask them if they're interested in seeing more/for real..
We feel it would be far more upfront from him than me flirting and then dropping the fact we're a couple on the guy..
He's managed it with ladies so would have no issue applying to guys.. 👍 |
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I wish a couple would approach me but my ultimate fantasy would be if we hit if off with a guy and my wife ended up fucking him while l watched |
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This is a fantasy of mine and the mrs would be happy to do it. Just finding the right guy |
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Why not use the 'Whos near' when you are out then maybe choose someone to your liking |
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Perhaps if you go to towns where you’re not known you could be more direct.
Believe me, most guys need to be hit over the head or given a hand written invite a week in advance to actually get the message! |
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"Perhaps if you go to towns where you’re not known you could be more direct.
Believe me, most guys need to be hit over the head or given a hand written invite a week in advance to actually get the message! "
Paul is like this as he gets flirted with a lot but doesn't have a clue that it's happening even when I point it out. |
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Well your profile says you only play with 50+ …. Finding a guy of that calibre in a club is definitely going to be hard work |
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By *loydyMan 29 weeks ago
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
move to Newcastle lol
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By *DW1983Man 29 weeks ago
Aberdeen, Sheffield, Brighton |
I think you'd need to make it very obvious and be open about what you're looking for. It might be clear to you, but how should a guy know that?
Even being flirtatious wouldn't be a definite signal for me - lots of people can be naturally flirty but aren't saying 'come to bed'.
Also, don't forget that despite the stereotype, or what you read on here, many guys probably *aren't* looking for anything. And even if they are, not every one of them will be attracted to you, no matter how obvious you make it.
Being direct about what you want seems the best option to me, that way both parties know where they stand. |
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I’ve pulled a couple or two out on the town in bury. It’s a shame the Clarence has shut down, as that use to be a meeting place for a lot of people before they went to partners.
I’ve had a couple of meets where I’ve been drinking in the Clarence, been chatting with a group of people, and they have invited me to join them at partners.
No idea of the pub they use nowadays but worth finding out as this could be a good jumping place.
The key is to get flirtatious. Everyone in Bury talks to everyone, so it should be easy to start making conversations, I’ve chatted to many a couple on a night out, but it’s just general chit chat, I would never dream of getting flirty with a lady of a couple, unless they made them intentions first, then at that point it’s all game.
Also I noticed you look for mainly older males. Which is great, but older males are usually more gentlemanly, so you have a further uphill battle, you definitely need to make your intentions much clearer. Most men in bury are Randy fuckers, so you shouldn’t have much trouble, especially if you look like your pictures to take it further. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
Dress us, you leave him at the table, you out to find the guy and chat and flirt. Then say what you're after, be honest then kiss him if he interested.
Bring him back to the table but you fit next to him touching his thighs and cock
Explain this is your husband, show a picture of you together to prove this is real and not a stitch up
Fella confirms all you spoke about. To make things neutral ground, fella can book a place from there in a place near the new guys so if anything goes wrong he knows he's close to home and can leave.
This would be better. Do not go looking together, it'll come off as too weird l..remember you're going out to meet regular people not swingers so you have to approach casually with just the woman then slowly acclimatise the guy you like. |
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By *lfa RomeoMan 29 weeks ago
southeast , Herts, Beds |
Maybe come down to Hertfordshire op  |
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By *ev_1Couple 29 weeks ago
Bickliegh |
Finding the right venue is a good start op for similar age range have you thought about a Butlins Adult weekend ?? |
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We've done this a fair few times and a bit of advice which may help
As soon olhave said, going to places where guys picking up women is more common will help. Bars more than pubs, clubs too. But could also be hotel bars.
Most guys won't approach a couple, so hubby needs to be prepared to step back for some time… and Mrs needs to be happy to dance or be on her own for a bit.
The biggest thing though is that you cannot be subtle. If you think you're giving off vibes to be approached, do more! The guys will need to feel very confident that you're ok to be approached so make it obvious! This is less important if Mrs is on the dancefloor alone but it's likely they've seen you together at some point
Hope that helps! |
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"We've done this a fair few times and a bit of advice which may help
As soon olhave said, going to places where guys picking up women is more common will help. Bars more than pubs, clubs too. But could also be hotel bars.
Most guys won't approach a couple, so hubby needs to be prepared to step back for some time… and Mrs needs to be happy to dance or be on her own for a bit.
The biggest thing though is that you cannot be subtle. If you think you're giving off vibes to be approached, do more! The guys will need to feel very confident that you're ok to be approached so make it obvious! This is less important if Mrs is on the dancefloor alone but it's likely they've seen you together at some point
Hope that helps!"
Spot on advice |
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srgent peppers is known for this in the town newcastle lots and lots xxx |
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This is how I'd love it to happen for us. She wants another guy, so hopefully she gets chatted up wants to bring him home soon |
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By *jonesMan 29 weeks ago
south west |
I was chatting to by a very friendly couple in a soul music club ..I then had a dance and the Mrs joined me and was quite tactile ...I was a bit nervous ...thought I might get a battering from hubby and then she gave me a peck on the cheek and said don't worry in my ear 
I went home with them.
I've also done the thing where a gent of a couple on fab has chatted to me and we've agreed to meet in a bar so I can chat up his wife ...he said what she was like etc..and I went very slowly , chatted to them both and flirted with her ...loved it , just a peck on the cheek at the end of the drink. He messaged, said she very much enjoyed it and gave some more suggestions for the next date ... |
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"I was chatting to by a very friendly couple in a soul music club ..I then had a dance and the Mrs joined me and was quite tactile ...I was a bit nervous ...thought I might get a battering from hubby and then she gave me a peck on the cheek and said don't worry in my ear
I went home with them.
I've also done the thing where a gent of a couple on fab has chatted to me and we've agreed to meet in a bar so I can chat up his wife ...he said what she was like etc..and I went very slowly , chatted to them both and flirted with her ...loved it , just a peck on the cheek at the end of the drink. He messaged, said she very much enjoyed it and gave some more suggestions for the next date ... "
I often stand back or take trip to toilet when man starts chatting to her on hope it goes further but usually when return back off even though can tell things we're getting heated |
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We are looking for the same as well x |
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By *bi HaiveMan 29 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
It's a nice fantasy scenario of course.
But the majority of people in vanilla bars aren't swingers.
The majority of men probably have no interest in threesomes with another guy. After all, there's a hell of a lot on here that aren't. Then factor in the number that won't be interested in actually sleeping with someone else's wife/partner and the potential pool shrinks even more.
Sometimes it's easy to forget that not all men are sex crazed maniacs who will say yes to every approach made, especially given what's often seen/said on Fab.
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"It's a nice fantasy scenario of course.
But the majority of people in vanilla bars aren't swingers.
The majority of men probably have no interest in threesomes with another guy. After all, there's a hell of a lot on here that aren't. Then factor in the number that won't be interested in actually sleeping with someone else's wife/partner and the potential pool shrinks even more.
Sometimes it's easy to forget that not all men are sex crazed maniacs who will say yes to every approach made, especially given what's often seen/said on Fab.
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This sums it up it a very balanced way . |
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Happened once with me
My status was "if you d*unk I can drop you home" my lucky night.. Couple messaged me. Picked them from club car park, drived to a lay by outside city had fun and dropped them back to club car park.
Only luck night I had |
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"Finding the right venue is a good start op for similar age range have you thought about a Butlins Adult weekend ??"
The people who attend a Butlins weekends are ways game for this. I have been 5 times but not been approached yet. Fingers crossed. |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
sit separately in the bar. Other guys are more likely to chat to her if they think she is on her own. Once a guy is chatting, she can then mention that her husband is nearby and call you over if the other bloke is happy.
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" sit separately in the bar."
This is a good idea |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. sit separately in the bar. Other guys are more likely to chat to her if they think she is on her own. Once a guy is chatting, she can then mention that her husband is nearby and call you over if the other bloke is happy."
Is this work?? |
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Think the guy of the couple will have to take the lead with this and approach the guy and lay out the situation, obviously the Mrs can flirt etc but you need to be open that you no issues sharing your Mrs and you encourage it . |
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By *rLicksMan 29 weeks ago
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Wife has attempted this on many occasions with no luck sadly. They get to the point of conversation and married is mentioned or hubby at home but knows / is fine with it and they flake.
Understandable I guess as it could come across as a honey trap setup to those in the vanilla world. |
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I'm a single lady and I've not had this for years. Tips gratefully received!
I am 49 and wobbly so thats probably why! |
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Come to Northampton, I'll be waiting |
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By *stwo80Couple 29 weeks ago
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" sit separately in the bar.
This is a good idea"
We always enter a bar separately if we are doing this,guys clock people entering and a woman buying her own drink is a good sign,plus the female has to scan the crowd too and make eye contact .
It genuinely does work |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"Fantasy of Mr is Mrs bringing a guy back after a night out "
I’d happily help with this 😁 |
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When my wife played I’d pre arrange guys to meet on a night out. One night she met one guy, but didn’t like him. So met a second guy and she instantly liked him. He came back to our hotel bar with us snd I left them together in the bar. She brought him up to the hotel room after they had been playing in the bar under the table. I had the pleasure of filming them enjoying each others company. |
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That’s a great shout we have never thought of doing this x |
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By *arysueCouple 29 weeks ago
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Try dating sites , like plenty of fish , lots of guys looking for sex , had some great times , or hotel bars |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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You’re absolutely going to have to make the first move and point out your intentions.
Men generally aren’t that good at reading the signs and then most are dyslexic anyway. I think that’s amplified when a couple are looking for some extra help in the bedroom.
It would be amazing to get pulled on a night out by a couple though, I expect most men would think the same whether or not they go through with it is another thing. |
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By *bhs72Man 29 weeks ago
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I can’t believe all the sexy couples on here struggle to find a man. I think most men would jump at the chance.
Are you explicit enough in what you want?
Do you make the first move?
Are you going to the right places?
I am certain that your luck will change but if not, feel free to come to Essex and I will happily chat you up and take it from there.
Good luck in your search xx |
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I think most vanilla guys would probably either smell a trap here or just wouldn't pick up on the hints. I know id be looking round for the hidden camera phone. It very much would seem too good to be true 😅
To make it work, I think the male half would need to strike up the conversation first and then have the lady come over after a few minutes. Just some friendly chat among men in a pub. Then, if it all goes well, lay out what you have in mind really clearly and go from there. |
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I would love to flirt with a couple in the lobby and be invited to join them but to do this spontaneously both sides would have to be daring. I would love it. Absolute turn on. |
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Mrs do the ground work. Men will do anything |
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"I think most vanilla guys would probably either smell a trap here or just wouldn't pick up on the hints. I know id be looking round for the hidden camera phone. It very much would seem too good to be true 😅
To make it work, I think the male half would need to strike up the conversation first and then have the lady come over after a few minutes. Just some friendly chat among men in a pub. Then, if it all goes well, lay out what you have in mind really clearly and go from there. "
Nah I would t trust a guy coming up to me about that. That's fighting words coming from a man to another man. Gotta be feminine lead. When you do sit down, she has to.sit next to the new man and openly flirt with the new man. To show him that he.can let his guard down and not expect a right hook |
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By *TWboyMan 29 weeks ago
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"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "
I’m amazed….. |
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It’s easy to find guys on a night out |
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"It’s easy to find guys on a night out "
Yes and I can see why 😍 |
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By *ids2000Couple 29 weeks ago
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By *ids2000Couple 29 weeks ago
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"It’s easy to find guys on a night out "
It’s fun trying 🤣 |
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Did this a few weeks ago.
We were out for drinks and she fancied a guy in the bar. Told him we’re swingers and he was keen, so I booked a hotel on my phone right there and then and took him back. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
Any luck |
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Think I had someone try this on me when I was a lot younger didn't have the confidence at the time .....God let this happen to me again lol |
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As a single guy looking to meet couples I would love for this to happen. I have occasionally picked up a vibe from a couple but only been approached directly once. I suggest you are very direct with any man you fancy. I’d have thought a fair few would go for it! |
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Easy in a club where there’s a mixed night (couples and singles)
Otherwise in a dance bar where most of the guys who dance are looking for just that. |
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We find guys are put of with another man being there. As soon as she mentions Im actually her partner, things often tend to cool even though they were getting heated together |
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E more ope and forward, I would love this to happen to me on a normal night out. They will not be aware of your intention becuase your both there.
Keep trying and good luck |
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"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"
I would jump at the chance come to Bolton on a night out |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
Us too! So let us know how you get on... |
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Best thing you can do is be straight forward. Let the Mrs flirt with the guy and go from there.
Some guys will be in to it, some won't be.
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By *bhs72Man 28 weeks ago
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To the couples on here. I think guys just don’t believe their luck or feel intimidated which is why you could be struggling. Keep trying as you are all stunning  |
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By *riSiMan 28 weeks ago
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Following this thread with interest. I'd be wary at first in case it was a set up, girl trying to get fella jealous etc, I speak from experience. |
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"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches.
If guys have seen you both drinking together then that’s probably why no effort was made."
Forgot to mention she sometimes wears a bracelet that reads Hotwife in public. You would think that in itself would draw attention. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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Hi Liberated Duo, you can approach me any time, Id recognise you from your gorgeous pics on here!
Could you give me a message when you get chance please? I think we're local and compatible
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"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches.
If guys have seen you both drinking together then that’s probably why no effort was made.
Forgot to mention she sometimes wears a bracelet that reads Hotwife in public. You would think that in itself would draw attention. "
Not a lot of guys are going to take note of that, nor see it as an invitation. One of you has to make the approach, probably on your own first and after a few mins small talk, make it clear what you’re interested in. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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Wouldnt have known was a Hotwife was until about a year ago |
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By *alsam1Couple 27 weeks ago
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We find guys all the time, we get d*unk in the bar with them then take them home lol
Having an American wife helps to draw I the guys I guess |
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Have you tried dating apps to slightly pre arrange? |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
We tried this but it’s harder then it should be. |
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I love scenarios like this and the garden centre one is unreal.
I'm always on the look out for any kind of fun but never find it |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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"It's a nice fantasy scenario of course.
But the majority of people in vanilla bars aren't swingers.
The majority of men probably have no interest in threesomes with another guy. After all, there's a hell of a lot on here that aren't. Then factor in the number that won't be interested in actually sleeping with someone else's wife/partner and the potential pool shrinks even more.
Sometimes it's easy to forget that not all men are sex crazed maniacs who will say yes to every approach made, especially given what's often seen/said on Fab.
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Agree.
It's a fun idea and I'd love the flirt but tbh if the male half is involved physically in any way then the excitement and motivation drops by 50pc for me ..guess I'm just too straight. |
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I'd happily facilitate this for you guys;-) |
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Me personally I would never approach another couple! The female or male of the couple would have to make the first move! |
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By *ynergyMan 27 weeks ago
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My wife's idea as we live close to London wss go out for a few drinks then put a message on here to see who's available to meet and see what offers come up and if a good one does it does if not it's all good just have no expectations it will happen when it supposed to |
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I'm going to be in London this evening if anyone want to pick my up. Probably Westminster or Southwark. |
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"Me personally I would never approach another couple! The female or male of the couple would have to make the first move!"
Totally agree. Under today's climate its a risk to approach any female. |
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I'm looking for a couple to pick me up. About as much chance as winning the euro millions. |
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"I'm looking for a couple to pick me up. About as much chance as winning the euro millions. "
More chance of winning last week's lotto and I did not even enter.
I'm putting on my pineapple shirt. |
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I love the idea of this but haven’t been approached by a couple outside of this before! |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
Well shame we’re not closer |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
In a sex shop you shouldn't have a problem doing this , just go in and chat with someone in there . |
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I tasked C with this at a Butlins weekender - turns out he was on FAB and his profile mentioned his fiancée so we bailed.
We like the idea of it but then when out there’s never any suitable.
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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We've been trying to do this for ages! Got close to success once however his mate wouldn't fuck off sadly.
It's our unicorn moment I suppose. Maybe one day! |
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"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple
Perhaps you need to be more direct"
This absolutely 👍
As a single guy I wouldn’t approach a couple for sex unless I had a definite sign they were interested 😊 then absolutely 😈
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By *oAnCouple 27 weeks ago
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By *oAnCouple 27 weeks ago
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"Ask hubby to pre arrange but don't tell you
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"Ask hubby to pre arrange but don't tell you
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That is the way we do it "
We find this scenario really hot. Is it a guy from here that you have previously interacted with or just someone hubby thinks would be your type? |
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By *adeemMan 26 weeks ago
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I’m drive Uber and some time I pick couple and it’s seems there are looking for fun but when arrive at there destination they react like noting… |
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By *host63Man 26 weeks ago
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
How picky are you? And how food looking? |
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By *m3232Man 26 weeks ago
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I think you may have to be more forward with flirting and a touch of naughty talk for them to get the hint. |
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"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
Can I assume you are looking to corrupt a Muggle, not just meet another single who happens to be in the scene? May be as well to just post a meet, select single guys and put the name of the pub in the details. Then maybe you'll get someone approach you. |
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Have you been to any swinging clubs ?
No means no and guys are normally worried about being asked to leave,but I'm sure you will get attention as the Mrs is very yummy.wish I was closer |
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As a male with morals, there is a unwritten code that if a woman is with a man then you don't try chat up the lady, it's an insult. You may have to make the first move and maybe invite someone over to your table etc |
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We used to enjoy going to nice hotel and Dee would sit at the bar and I’d sit a little away from her, never failed to have a guy come up to her asking if she’d like another drink. |
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"It’s really easy to pick guys up on nights out. Marie normally gets her tits out on a night out anyway. "
Cheshire, you say.....? |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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I’d be well chuffed if a couple tapped me up in a bar, everything would be on the table from the get go |
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This is how I had my first mmf... pulled the milf.. she asked me back and pointed out her husband sat at the bar |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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We’ve done this cpl times, the stunned look on his face was good then he realised how serious I was, he went home happy as were we both. |
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"We look for same with no luck "
Let me know where you go for a drink. Love to bump into you guys on a night out. |
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"Ask hubby to pre arrange but don't tell you
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Done that with a few couples and it’s been very hot |
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