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By *ucka39Man 23 weeks ago
Newcastle |
Hiya op
Your profile in general is the shop window to sell yourself so make it look and sound appealing
The bio you could start with a little bit about yourself, let your personality shine, your height is already part of your profile when it was created
Any hobbies if you have any, sexually what you have to offer and what type of things you'd like to engage in or want to maybe explore, any fantasies
Maybe add a little tongue and cheek, little humour
Good luck 🙂 |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Ur fit 6ft and like oral, 1 pic which is the same as your profile pic. Your profile is generic and looks the exact same as 1000s of others who are looking for the same thing.. need to put more effort in |
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The odds are stacked against you: there are far more singleton men trawling this site than women (and couples). Your message will be one of hundreds in their inbox and most women typically look at the profile first before even opening the message itself...assuming they feel inclined to do so. |
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"Hi everybody I can’t get verified as nobody will ever respond to a meet request I’m genuine with face pictures just a polite single male who wants some fun 🤩 "
Clubs and organised (no play) socials. It's not THAT difficult.
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By *ucka39Man 23 weeks ago
Newcastle |
"Hi everybody I can’t get verified as nobody will ever respond to a meet request I’m genuine with face pictures just a polite single male who wants some fun 🤩 "
Hiya
Have you ever tried using the chat rooms and engaging with others, use the meet section and put out a social even make it sound interesting given you get a portion to add a little bit of information |
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For goodness sake you are verified so you must have met someone sounds bit desperate tbh.
I am lucky on here tbh and to even get a meet for a single bloke is hard going.
Lots do not get even one.
Be grateful. |
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By *ucka39Man 23 weeks ago
Newcastle |
"For goodness sake you are verified so you must have met someone sounds bit desperate tbh.
I am lucky on here tbh and to even get a meet for a single bloke is hard going.
Lots do not get even one.
Be grateful."
People can still struggle and ask for assistance, times change people change  |
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If they don't see someone they fancy, they don't reply. Being realistic, if they could fully see every single person who mailed, it's going to be about 1% or less who they might like. If they can see nothing or nothing that's enough to be able to know, the answer is always no.
You can't make attraction but you can help people to know if they have it for you. It's your challenge |
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By *enelope2UWoman 23 weeks ago
Doesn't matter cant block distances |
It's not!...
Stop cutting and pasting and throwing random darts haphazardly to accounts that you
1) didn't read the profile for
2) didn't specify why you THINK you're compatible
3) Aren't close or local or or or.....
4) don't have pictures except for mediocre boring dick pics |
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By *irsSubCouple 23 weeks ago
Darlington |
Were I to go on here as a single guy the last thing I'd do is send unsolicited messages to rando couples. The only messages I'd send would be to organisers of local socials and couples with club meet requests where I match what they are looking for. Getting a meet on fab as a single guy strikes me as 200x harder than either meeting a girl in a bar or going on the famous dating app that rhymes with minder. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"Can somebody highlight why its so hard to recieve replies for a genuine single male who is verified "
Honestly given how many times this is asked every day it should just be pinned at the top of the forums or be a banned topic haha.
Variety of pictures, interesting bio and thought out first messages will go a long way.
But people are only going to reply to people that fit what they are looking for or if there is an attraction.
No one is obligated to reply and the number of messages most women get per day make it too time consuming to reply to everyone even if it's a no thanks.
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"It's not!...
Stop cutting and pasting and throwing random darts haphazardly"
How do you know that he's being indiscriminate and sending messages to all and sundry???
"...to accounts that you
1) didn't read the profile for"
How do you know this?
"2) didn't specify why you THINK you're compatible"
How do you know that he didn't specify his compatibilities???
"3) Aren't close or local or or or....."
How do you know this???
"4) don't have pictures except for mediocre boring dick pics"
He has no "dick pics" and how do you know they are boring and mediocre? If a man had said something similar to a woman's vagina I doubt the response would be ungracious.
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Instead of being tetchy why not grace the OP with some reassuringly positive advice? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 23 weeks ago
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"Can somebody highlight why its so hard to recieve replies for a genuine single male who is verified "
Because most will view a profile before readingva message.
Because if the profile doesn't interest/attract them then what's the point in opening the message in the first place?
If people put more effort in to their profiles they might see a direct impact on the number of replies they get, assuming the message isn't generic, dull or a copy and paste that shows no evidence of the sender reading their profile. 🤷♂️ |
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"....most will view a profile before reading a message.
Because if the profile doesn't interest/attract them then what's the point in opening the message in the first place?
If people put more effort in to their profiles they might see a direct impact on the number of replies they get, assuming the message isn't generic, dull or a copy and paste that shows no evidence of the sender reading their profile. 🤷♂️"
EXACTLY this!
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"It's not!...
Stop cutting and pasting and throwing random darts haphazardly
How do you know that he's being indiscriminate and sending messages to all and sundry???
...to accounts that you
1) didn't read the profile for
How do you know this?
2) didn't specify why you THINK you're compatible
How do you know that he didn't specify his compatibilities???
3) Aren't close or local or or or.....
How do you know this???
4) don't have pictures except for mediocre boring dick pics
He has no "dick pics" and how do you know they are boring and mediocre? If a man had said something similar to a woman's vagina I doubt the response would be ungracious.
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Instead of being tetchy why not grace the OP with some reassuringly positive advice?"
I can tell you 100%
The OP messaged without reading the profile/fulfilling my polite request
I must have been feeling in a good mood and replied rather than just delete
but believe me most men are randomly messaging
They don't read my profile and if the message is more than three words it's a miracle
I delete so many shadows/no pics/no blurb or interests listed
They really don't think they should put any effort in
Yet expect a guarantee reply and throw their dummy out when they don't |
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"Can somebody highlight why its so hard to recieve replies for a genuine single male who is verified
Because most will view a profile before readingva message.
Because if the profile doesn't interest/attract them then what's the point in opening the message in the first place?
If people put more effort in to their profiles they might see a direct impact on the number of replies they get, assuming the message isn't generic, dull or a copy and paste that shows no evidence of the sender reading their profile. 🤷♂️"
Absolutely this! We will always check the profile before replying, if there's no verifications, no effort in profile description or totally hidden photos then we're very unlikely to read it.
If we see there is an attachment to the message we will usually open it to see the face pic, if it isn't a face pics it's an instant no.
If we can read the entirety of the message without opening it then we won't reply. (Just not enough effort)
We particularly like messages that are more of an introduction, something well written that gives us a good idea of your character. Don't be lazy and ask the same questions as everyone else, for example "Hey, how's you?" Or "What you into" or even worse just saying that you find the wife attractive and you'd love to fuck her.....remember, if you're approaching a couple you speak to both, because if one doesn't like you then you won't get a chance. |
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