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By *adacro OP Man 22 weeks ago
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So when I first message, meet or just do anything new. I’m awkward as hell. I either over talk or go quiet ish, and always over think. I can’t help it.
How would you deal with someone like me?
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By *enelope2UWoman 22 weeks ago
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Well I HATE boring first meets for your exact reason..so I always suggest a game of bowling billiards that way it's a bit competitive a bit laughing moments we can have conversation banter but it not be a boring stagnant burnt bucks coffee. There's usually food there if things go great and there's always a chance for more that night next night etc if things go even greater.
I prefer personality and i just don't see that in sitting in a boring coffee meet or getting scouted in a sex club. |
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It's good that you recognise this OP, as many men aren't particularly very self aware and their behaviour can be alarming.
As long as you have good intentions for us, we'll cut you some slack. We want the best for you too 
Stay as relaxed as you can. Penelope's idea is upbeat and fun. You could potentially try at clubs, where you're perhaps not going to have protracted time together?
It's perhaps a numbers thing, that you'll refine your engagement over time. Chat with some friends about it maybe, if you can? |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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For me it’s about being engaging and being yourself. Having a laugh and doing something that is actually away from FAB giving you both chance to relax and be yourself.
It’s about standing out but in the right way |
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I am on the autistic spectrum and ADHD so I am open about it as can get distracted half way through a sentence. Sat with a couple in a pub by the Thames answering a question and saw I a duck with her babies . I was like oooh look a the duckies, they are so cute. Forgot to go back to the question. Some people like me as they think I am quirky, some block me as they think I am mental |
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"So when I first message, meet or just do anything new. I’m awkward as hell. I either over talk or go quiet ish, and always over think. I can’t help it.
How would you deal with someone like me?
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I don't think it's a case of 'dealing' with you but more about trying to help you relax. I'm nervous about meeting new people or doing new things and it's fairly obvious to me when someone else is. Trying to put them at ease helps me. |
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"I am on the autistic spectrum and ADHD so I am open about it as can get distracted half way through a sentence. Sat with a couple in a pub by the Thames answering a question and saw I a duck with her babies . I was like oooh look a the duckies, they are so cute. Forgot to go back to the question. Some people like me as they think I am quirky, some block me as they think I am mental "
My ex (F) had ADHD, it takes some time to figure out how to work with ADHD types but it's not impossible. I'd have been there cooing over the duckies with you!
And you're NOT mental, that brain just works a little different. It can be adorable, and I know it's frustrating for you as well as others but when you find someone that understands, it'll be magical. |
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"So when I first message, meet or just do anything new. I’m awkward as hell. I either over talk or go quiet ish, and always over think. I can’t help it.
How would you deal with someone like me?
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It's ok to be nervous the first time you do new things, kinda normal.
Just know that you're meant to be there and the person you're meeting wants to be there and wants YOU to be there.
Keep it light and casual, try to take your brain off the hook and just be genuine and friendly. Look for common interests and stay in the moment. |
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