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What can I do to get some matches
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"Ino I’m not the best looking lad but what am I doing wrong "
Maybe say what you are into? Go to a local club? I’m no expert here but stay happy mate! Moving back to the parents is tough. I’ve been through that, I had an amazing experience when I first joined with a lady. We never verified each other as it was just good and didn’t feel the need to. When I came on I just said, I’m new! I’m scared and very good at cuddling. I explained I’d been in a sexless marriage for 15 years and I think being open about that resonated. That fab experience carried on for 5 months and stopped. I went back onto tinda have been flip flopping back and forwards to fabs. I think if you explained how you feel sexually and what who you would like to meet, perhaps you have a link that you would like to share? At the moment your explaining your situation and sound a bit sad if I’m honest, I’m not judging you because I know that pain and sadness. There is a whole world out there, not just on here. Perhaps try reaching out to old mates, old friends, girls and boys. It’s amazing how many of us forget people along the way and they are still there, when you reach out. You got this mate x |
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"There are hundreds of men on this site and you are sadly disturbingly average. 
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No need for that! Go bash your self off and be nice! Dudes a bit depressed and that’s not a very positive thing to say |
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What exactly are you trying to do? The men on here outnumber the women by an unimaginable magnitude. If you're messaging women then it's highly likely your message is one of 500 in their inbox (or thereabouts).
You've been here five weeks. It takes a while. A long while. Again, without knowing what exactly you're trying to do, or achieve, it's difficult to give you a straightforward answer.
Persevere and keep trying. Good luck OP |
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"There are hundreds of men on this site and you are sadly disturbingly average.
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Sometimes it takes a mediocre person to recognise an average one. ✔️"
At no point did I say I wasn't mediocre.
'cause I am.
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"There are hundreds of men on this site and you are sadly disturbingly average.
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Sometimes it takes a mediocre person to recognise an average one. ✔️
At no point did I say I wasn't mediocre.
'cause I am.
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Chin up x we all want love x |
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"There are hundreds of men on this site and you are sadly disturbingly average.
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Sometimes it takes a mediocre person to recognise an average one. ✔️
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At no point did I say I wasn't mediocre.
'cause I am.
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What you •didn't• say has no merit whatsoever. It's what you •did• say. 🫤 |
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"Ino I’m not the best looking lad but what am I doing wrong "
You're not doing anything wrong.
Fab can be tough.
Standing out can be tough.
Having a good profile can help.
Making friends here can help.
Taking a deep breath and going out and meeting people at socials and clubs can help.
You got this OP.
Best of Luck. |
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Accountability. I’m not perfect but I do think what you type to people is important and makes an impact on their day. I like to think I will never kick someone when they are down. I think you agree now? |
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"Thank you for the actual genuine advice much appreciated I’m just looking to have some fun and get my confidence back "
You will get there mate! Happy to chat privately for some moral support if you like. |
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"Thank you for the actual genuine advice much appreciated I’m just looking to have some fun and get my confidence back
You will get there mate! Happy to chat privately for some moral support if you like. "
Exactly. It can be hard work on here. Keep going if can as you can find people who you will get on with. There are lots of nice people I get in with. Good luck |
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"3491 be confident. I look like the elephant man. But i know ppl will love me for who i am. The world's ya oyster m8
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We all look different and thank god we do! If we were all the same life would be terribly boring! |
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"Shite ain’t it "
Also tbh it's risky using a face pic public. If other people don't misuse it Sydney University will for ground breaking research into explaining the workings of 1990's looking websites. |
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You might be doing nothing wrong m
But maybe only 1% if people are mutually compatible.
Here it takes many months for a man to get established, so it amazes me when men rejoin rather than have patience.
If you get to socials and clubs you'll get to know more people and get to understand swinging |
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We are all humans. We all deserve a life. Sometimes we go through shit and we as humans, should help those who are going through shit, because it can happen to any one of us, and then you need help, there are humans who will help you get through the shit. |
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By *oxy jWoman 6 weeks ago
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op there is nothing you can do your on a site where men vastly outnumber women and couples.. its also a scene of attraction and compatibility verse's rejection so until someone likes you nothing will happen 100/200 men per woman/couples on this scene and fab add in all the fake women /couples profiles run by men pretending then it makkes things wotse for most guys..
it really a place where quite simply there is not someone for every one then add in women and couples have the pick of the bunch ...
some men can find more luck at clubs but same rule applys attraction / compatibility is needed theres no such thing as free sex or sex on a plate its a lifestyle..
no one should be rude but at the same time no point in dressing it up ..its a very very hard scene for most men.. |
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"Thank you for the actual genuine advice much appreciated I’m just looking to have some fun and get my confidence back "
Fab is definitely not the place to get your confidence back as a single guy. The profile screams post-divorce and not done the healing work.
IMO take time to yourself and learn who you are again. Join a Men Shed/Dudes with Dogs/running clubs etc group and build connections and learn who you are in this new phase of life. Once secure and confident then try clubs/dating apps/gangbangs/ socials.
There are not hoards of women on here and the men who tend to do well are responsive and niche. They are clear about what they have to offer, the skills they have and what the meet might be like if it takes place. Profile photos are imaginative/interesting and give a reason to talk.
Good luck and I hope it comes right for you.
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"There are hundreds of men on this site and you are sadly disturbingly average.
Brutal. Love it 🤣
Mr F.
What’s cool about kicking a man down? "
Cool? Are you down with the kids innit?
I never asked for your opinion on my sense of humour |
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"Ino I’m not the best looking lad but what am I doing wrong "
Essentially nobody in here ever does anything ‘wrong’, but ‘success’ in Fab is never straight forward, and luck and opportunity often play a big part! 
I would say though, that if you’re happy posting public face pics, a big smile works wonders with the ladies, as well as having pics the right way up!
Keep your chin up mate, never take Fab seriously or think this is all there is. You will meet more women out there in real life, than you will in here! Fab is an interesting extra to life, not the be all and end all! 
Good luck fella |
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