I'm a chunky monkey.
Some people like that. Occasionally they might be the sort of people I like too. But the odds are small.
But not everyone does. Or it might be that I don't have a different characteristic that they want (beard, tattoos, etc)
But while some people judge purely on looks, others prefer to make a mental connection. So post on the forums, don't have a tantrum if you get rejected, and just be yourself
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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago
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Most people, of whatever looks, build etc will not be mutually compatible with most people. So they won't get replies, may likely get blocked - to prevent future unnecessary contact etc.
This will have nothing to do with their looks and abilities, merely that attraction AND full compatibility is very rare. It's perhaps 1% that we should hope for.
We can just be honest and make our own realistic expectations. It's only each of us that can do that.
And take care of ourselves, so that what we engage with is only positive for us and our wellbeing.
It's always much harder for single men here, hence why socials and clubs can be helpful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes it’s not about looks. Personality can come through on here as well. Both in a positive and negative way
Don’t rely on here as being your only way of meeting people |
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"Hey everyone, I've got a barrel not a six pack plus I do have a disability, any tips people have because I just get deleted and ignored  "
Two things i guess that can help, there will always be people who would fancy you no matter how you look etc.
As for changing how you are, if you cant do gym etc try changing your diet. |
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I definitely do not have the “Brad Pitt” physique and look like a cross between the back end of a bus and a monkfish but I am sure that one day I will be someone’s cup of tea. I know that I need to go to a club and/ socials but it’s getting the confidence to do so and accepting that you maybe sat there the whole time being ignored. Or-you may just get chatting-no action-but that all important verification. That alone is probably worth that visit. You never know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's nothing to do with being a larger person or disability. If you have a generic profile and pics that are the generic you will get passed by unfortunately
Smiling goes a long way sometimes |
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By *igad999Man
over a year ago
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"Hey everyone, I've got a barrel not a six pack plus I do have a disability, any tips people have because I just get deleted and ignored "
To be fair there is plenty of women that prefer chubby to slim and fit.
Same as men prefer BBW to slim
It’s all about taste I mean I’m a little chubby wife’s BBW neither of us like the skinny look
And I’d say keep with the socials see if can strike up chat with couples even if just as friendship type
Also clubs always a good way to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see comments on smiling
For me smiling in a selfie doesn’t look right. I look like I’m in pain
If you have photos of you taken by others or with friends where you’re smiling then crop them and use them if you want |
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