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My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
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By *CBoyTV/TS 3 weeks ago
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
"
Just post a meeting on here with your requirements..you'll have loads of replies. But I suggest you be very explicit regarding what he wants to do ie try sucking cock. Be sucked off. Get fucked or fuck another guy in front of you. Also say whether you as female will just watch or participate. If you spell out these details you should end up with a successful meeting. |
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"I would add, that if he is sure he wants to do this then he should meet a guy on his own first."
Thank you for replying 🙂
Could you explain why? He seems preety clear he wants me there to watch. But given your point, I'm wondering if there is something he hasn't thought through...🙂 |
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"I would add, that if he is sure he wants to do this then he should meet a guy on his own first.
Thank you for replying 🙂
Could you explain why? He seems preety clear he wants me there to watch. But given your point, I'm wondering if there is something he hasn't thought through...🙂"
Well,everyone is different & we all have different motivations, but personally I needed to be sure it was for me before I brought a partner into it. There can be a lot of societal guilt about M/M sex & the whole 'less of a man' thing, so when you add in the pressure of performing in front of your loved one it can be a bit of a headfuck.
He could meet a guy, do what he feels is right at the time then you could both dissect it after? |
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From the sounds of it you have already had a good discussion about this, but you can never be too clear on stating what your boundaries would be for a first meet with any potential partners.
Some pictures on here might help - you look gorgeous OP, but we don't get much idea of your fella other than a tease that he's rugby build in his 50s.
Also, remember to have fun. Enjoy the moment and take time to talk it through after.
I don't think there is any need for him to meet another guy on his own first. I didn't - I wanted to have the experience with Ouizzi, and it was hot AF and has been ever since.
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"I would add, that if he is sure he wants to do this then he should meet a guy on his own first.
Thank you for replying 🙂
Could you explain why? He seems preety clear he wants me there to watch. But given your point, I'm wondering if there is something he hasn't thought through...🙂
Well,everyone is different & we all have different motivations, but personally I needed to be sure it was for me before I brought a partner into it. There can be a lot of societal guilt about M/M sex & the whole 'less of a man' thing, so when you add in the pressure of performing in front of your loved one it can be a bit of a headfuck.
He could meet a guy, do what he feels is right at the time then you could both dissect it after?"
Oh gosh, no, its not about performing in front of me. The way he describes it is about having the person you care for providing intimacy in that moment of vulnerable exploration whilst the third person provides new physical sendations. I think for me its about seeing my partner get something he's fantasised about for decades. Something he's been courageously vulnerable to disclose. |
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"From the sounds of it you have already had a good discussion about this, but you can never be too clear on stating what your boundaries would be for a first meet with any potential partners.
Some pictures on here might help - you look gorgeous OP, but we don't get much idea of your fella other than a tease that he's rugby build in his 50s.
Also, remember to have fun. Enjoy the moment and take time to talk it through after.
I don't think there is any need for him to meet another guy on his own first. I didn't - I wanted to have the experience with Ouizzi, and it was hot AF and has been ever since.
Good luck."
Thank you for your compliments 😘
He is very hunky, for an older man 🤣 but older men are my thing! I want to protect his privacy until we decide how we will find play mates...I suspect we will set up a couples profile after the Spa and Club nights we are going to in May. You can oggle him to your hearts content then x
Would you be happy if I sent a friend request for now? I'd like to keep in touch x |
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"I would add, that if he is sure he wants to do this then he should meet a guy on his own first.
Thank you for replying 🙂
Could you explain why? He seems preety clear he wants me there to watch. But given your point, I'm wondering if there is something he hasn't thought through...🙂
Well,everyone is different & we all have different motivations, but personally I needed to be sure it was for me before I brought a partner into it. There can be a lot of societal guilt about M/M sex & the whole 'less of a man' thing, so when you add in the pressure of performing in front of your loved one it can be a bit of a headfuck.
He could meet a guy, do what he feels is right at the time then you could both dissect it after?"
It's not necessarily an easy thing to do for the first time in front of your partner. It might be worth considering him trying cock without you in the first instance |
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"I would add, that if he is sure he wants to do this then he should meet a guy on his own first.
Thank you for replying 🙂
Could you explain why? He seems preety clear he wants me there to watch. But given your point, I'm wondering if there is something he hasn't thought through...🙂
Well,everyone is different & we all have different motivations, but personally I needed to be sure it was for me before I brought a partner into it. There can be a lot of societal guilt about M/M sex & the whole 'less of a man' thing, so when you add in the pressure of performing in front of your loved one it can be a bit of a headfuck.
He could meet a guy, do what he feels is right at the time then you could both dissect it after?
It's not necessarily an easy thing to do for the first time in front of your partner. It might be worth considering him trying cock without you in the first instance "
We will definitely talk it through, thank you x |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
"
Attending a bi night is a good idea as he will feel less self conscious hopefully and more relaxed around like minded non judgemental people. It is a big leap for a man to satisfy his curiosity so it's great for you to be so supportive. Have fun at your spa night. |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
Attending a bi night is a good idea as he will feel less self conscious hopefully and more relaxed around like minded non judgemental people. It is a big leap for a man to satisfy his curiosity so it's great for you to be so supportive. Have fun at your spa night. "
Thank you Daniel. Let me know if there are any great bi nights in or around london/home counties.
Your pictures certainly reveal a man who knows how to have fun! |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
Attending a bi night is a good idea as he will feel less self conscious hopefully and more relaxed around like minded non judgemental people. It is a big leap for a man to satisfy his curiosity so it's great for you to be so supportive. Have fun at your spa night.
Thank you Daniel. Let me know if there are any great bi nights in or around london/home counties.
Your pictures certainly reveal a man who knows how to have fun! "
Both Vanilla Alternative, Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms are great bi nights to attend not too far from your area. Although as potential new to the bi scene I'd say Jaydees when it reopens soon would be the best option as it's not so full on and more relaxed. I'm a regular attendee of SpicyMinx's bi nights so if you've any questions feel free to pm  |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
Attending a bi night is a good idea as he will feel less self conscious hopefully and more relaxed around like minded non judgemental people. It is a big leap for a man to satisfy his curiosity so it's great for you to be so supportive. Have fun at your spa night.
Thank you Daniel. Let me know if there are any great bi nights in or around london/home counties.
Your pictures certainly reveal a man who knows how to have fun!
Both Vanilla Alternative, Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms are great bi nights to attend not too far from your area. Although as potential new to the bi scene I'd say Jaydees when it reopens soon would be the best option as it's not so full on and more relaxed. I'm a regular attendee of SpicyMinx's bi nights so if you've any questions feel free to pm "
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Probably goes without saying but whichever way you play it make sure you are both comfortable with the circumstances. Generalising but a fair proportion of bi guys can be a bit full on. If you want to jump in with both feet go for it! But equally you both might have a better first experience building up to it with someone in particular. Horses for courses. Go with your gut. It is generally right |
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"Probably goes without saying but whichever way you play it make sure you are both comfortable with the circumstances. Generalising but a fair proportion of bi guys can be a bit full on. If you want to jump in with both feet go for it! But equally you both might have a better first experience building up to it with someone in particular. Horses for courses. Go with your gut. It is generally right "
And if we were going to try and find someone specific, then would you suggest messaging individuals that catch our eye, of putting a 'request for interest' in the Forum? |
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Honestly? The former. Gives you more control over the options and saves your inbox being flooded. There are some great guys on here for you. But a lot more idiots. Browsing the forums is a good idea. Gives you an idea of someone you might be interested in and you can contact them. Putting up a request with an open profile will result on a deluge. Save yourself the hassle. Hope you find who you are both looking for |
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"Honestly? The former. Gives you more control over the options and saves your inbox being flooded. There are some great guys on here for you. But a lot more idiots. Browsing the forums is a good idea. Gives you an idea of someone you might be interested in and you can contact them. Putting up a request with an open profile will result on a deluge. Save yourself the hassle. Hope you find who you are both looking for"
Great advice. I can't be fending off two deluges - straight men and bi men! It would be exhausting.  |
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My first time bi was with Mrs K and another couple. We knew they were both bi but the plan was for MF and FF play. I had never thought of myself as anything but straight. But as Mrs K was sucking the other guy's cock she turned to me and said "would you like to help?" I thought "why not?" - and the rest is history (or perhaps biology).
Many bi guys will happily play straight - like all single men on here they are usually desperate for a shag, any shag. So invite someone (whether to your house, a hotel or in a club), tell them your husband is thinking of exploring, and see what happens. In the heat of the moment he may not fancy them (or vice versa) - that's perfectly OK. But if he does - bingo! Cherry popped without too much stress.
Good luck to him, and you. If he wants to chat to ease his understandable nerves, please dm us. |
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"My first time bi was with Mrs K and another couple. We knew they were both bi but the plan was for MF and FF play. I had never thought of myself as anything but straight. But as Mrs K was sucking the other guy's cock she turned to me and said "would you like to help?" I thought "why not?" - and the rest is history (or perhaps biology).
Many bi guys will happily play straight - like all single men on here they are usually desperate for a shag, any shag. So invite someone (whether to your house, a hotel or in a club), tell them your husband is thinking of exploring, and see what happens. In the heat of the moment he may not fancy them (or vice versa) - that's perfectly OK. But if he does - bingo! Cherry popped without too much stress.
Good luck to him, and you. If he wants to chat to ease his understandable nerves, please dm us. "
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By *trollMan 3 weeks ago
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I've been in situations with couples, where beforehand the male partner would have described himself as straight. As the meet progressed you could see he was curious, but unsure.
Having his partner with him and reassuring him it was ok to explore, helped things progress. |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
"
Get a couples profile...we are looking for bi couples so you wouldn't show up on our searches and you'll look like a bait profile for meets for him doing it from your current single one which we wouldn't entertain. Ensure it says he's at least bi curious on it...lots of profiles later come back to say their male partner is secretly bi but we'd have missed that detail in a search...and experience has taught us that it's often not true.
Look at people's veris and who they come from to find true bi players.
Be honest about his lack of experience and what he thinks he wants to do in the play...people look for specific aspects of bi play...if he's unlikely to top or isn't looking for anal, it's an important detail for some
You'll find a lot of straight single male profiles say they're secretly bi but it'll just be a ploy to get through your filters to you...
Maybe get to a bi night at a club...it's a great way to be able to do things at your own pace without full commitment and you'll also get to see full on male bi play for yourself...they're hot and safe places to do a but if experimenting without pressure...VA does a very good, inclusive bi night
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My first bi curious experience was with a bi couple, and I must admit it was seriously hot
Started off with his girlfriend telling him to get on his knees and start sucking my cock while me and his girlfriend kissed and I played with her pussy
She soon joined him on her knees both sharing my hard cock, what a fantastic sight that was
He then lay underneath her as I fucked her doggy,I kept pulling out and fucking his mouth then he guided me back into her wet pussy
Once I'd cum he cleaned my cock and then cleaned her pussy
This was something they had wanted to do for quite a long time and we discussed about doing it prior to the meet
Very hot and horny indeed, I'd love more meets like that |
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Hi, husband of the profile here, just thought I'd let you know how I got into exploring my bi side, which might help you with your first steps.
My wife and I had both discussed our bicuriousity years before ever doing something about it, along with many other kinks it remained as pillow talk for years. I'm very lucky, as my wife was completely non-judgemental and very supportive of my curiosity, and she encouraged me to go and experiment with men alone. It is very easy finding gay men that want to be a curious guys first experience btw haha.
I found a gay guy, absolutely gorgeous too that was really down to earth, respectful and understanding and went round his house alone for my first ever experience. He took his time and we tried a bit of everything, and the whole experience was incredible...had another solo meet with a different guy to make sure it was for me and that really did confirm that I am fully bisexual.
Not long after that we entered the lifestyle and have been exploring further ever since.
We mainly attend bi events, and as I can see you're from Kent, I can recommend ME1 Sauna in Rochester as it's our go to place for bi meets. It's very local to us and they run it twice a month (next one is this coming Saturday). You'll certainly have no problems meeting someone there. Feel free to message us if you want to know more or have any questions about exploring bisex. X |
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"From the sounds of it you have already had a good discussion about this, but you can never be too clear on stating what your boundaries would be for a first meet with any potential partners.
Some pictures on here might help - you look gorgeous OP, but we don't get much idea of your fella other than a tease that he's rugby build in his 50s.
Also, remember to have fun. Enjoy the moment and take time to talk it through after.
I don't think there is any need for him to meet another guy on his own first. I didn't - I wanted to have the experience with Ouizzi, and it was hot AF and has been ever since.
Good luck.
Thank you for your compliments 😘
He is very hunky, for an older man 🤣 but older men are my thing! I want to protect his privacy until we decide how we will find play mates...I suspect we will set up a couples profile after the Spa and Club nights we are going to in May. You can oggle him to your hearts content then x
Would you be happy if I sent a friend request for now? I'd like to keep in touch x"
Sure |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
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Hey happy to have a chat but I can't DM you as you've blocked men from contacting you! |
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My first bi meet was a solo….. just went with a very open mind….. I was nervous…. But the guy I met put me at ease and next thing I knew, I was on my knees with a good mouthful…… very enjoyable….. you’ll either enjoy it, or you won’t…. Just relax and do whatever floats your boat…. |
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I started exploring my bi side by meeting a similarly inexperienced guy and doing some exploratory touching and wanking together. I'd recommend starting slowly and build things up over time, assuming he enjoys it. |
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"I started exploring my bi side by meeting a similarly inexperienced guy and doing some exploratory touching and wanking together. I'd recommend starting slowly and build things up over time, assuming he enjoys it."
Started mine with an older guy when I was early 20s with a little bit wanking. Quite difficult finding someone who you trust but worth the search. |
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By *iHungMan 3 weeks ago
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I never considered myself bi until having my first DVP, feeling of another cock against mine was amazing. I’ve not yet taken the next step but the idea of playing with another guys cock & frotting gets me so horny. |
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It's lovely that you are so open with each other. Personally I find Mrs N quite hard work when it comes to my Bi sexuality and I don't think she will ever be completely happy with it, but I think it's important to be very open and I disagree with the comment that alone would be best as that goes a bit against my grain.
Of course it depends upon your own preferences and sexual chemistry.
Good luck with it and if it's a bit fraught and awkward first time, don't give up. Be try sexual and give it at least 2 or 3 goes
The thing is you are not your partner and do not know exactly how he is feeling. Bringing the subject up is very nerve wracking for me every time LOL but I feel I must express my sexuality sometimes for good or bad.
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"I've been in situations with couples, where beforehand the male partner would have described himself as straight. As the meet progressed you could see he was curious, but unsure.
Having his partner with him and reassuring him it was ok to explore, helped things progress."
It's 100% okay to explore. The fact he was brave enough to reveal his secret desires is amazing x |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
Get a couples profile...we are looking for bi couples so you wouldn't show up on our searches and you'll look like a bait profile for meets for him doing it from your current single one which we wouldn't entertain. Ensure it says he's at least bi curious on it...lots of profiles later come back to say their male partner is secretly bi but we'd have missed that detail in a search...and experience has taught us that it's often not true.
Look at people's veris and who they come from to find true bi players.
Be honest about his lack of experience and what he thinks he wants to do in the play...people look for specific aspects of bi play...if he's unlikely to top or isn't looking for anal, it's an important detail for some
You'll find a lot of straight single male profiles say they're secretly bi but it'll just be a ploy to get through your filters to you...
Maybe get to a bi night at a club...it's a great way to be able to do things at your own pace without full commitment and you'll also get to see full on male bi play for yourself...they're hot and safe places to do a but if experimenting without pressure...VA does a very good, inclusive bi night
PP "
Thank you so much for all this advice 🙂
His current profile includes his bi curiosity 🙂 |
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"My first bi curious experience was with a bi couple, and I must admit it was seriously hot
Started off with his girlfriend telling him to get on his knees and start sucking my cock while me and his girlfriend kissed and I played with her pussy
She soon joined him on her knees both sharing my hard cock, what a fantastic sight that was
He then lay underneath her as I fucked her doggy,I kept pulling out and fucking his mouth then he guided me back into her wet pussy
Once I'd cum he cleaned my cock and then cleaned her pussy
This was something they had wanted to do for quite a long time and we discussed about doing it prior to the meet
Very hot and horny indeed, I'd love more meets like that "
Love the detail in your story, thank you x |
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"Hi, husband of the profile here, just thought I'd let you know how I got into exploring my bi side, which might help you with your first steps.
My wife and I had both discussed our bicuriousity years before ever doing something about it, along with many other kinks it remained as pillow talk for years. I'm very lucky, as my wife was completely non-judgemental and very supportive of my curiosity, and she encouraged me to go and experiment with men alone. It is very easy finding gay men that want to be a curious guys first experience btw haha.
I found a gay guy, absolutely gorgeous too that was really down to earth, respectful and understanding and went round his house alone for my first ever experience. He took his time and we tried a bit of everything, and the whole experience was incredible...had another solo meet with a different guy to make sure it was for me and that really did confirm that I am fully bisexual.
Not long after that we entered the lifestyle and have been exploring further ever since.
We mainly attend bi events, and as I can see you're from Kent, I can recommend ME1 Sauna in Rochester as it's our go to place for bi meets. It's very local to us and they run it twice a month (next one is this coming Saturday). You'll certainly have no problems meeting someone there. Feel free to message us if you want to know more or have any questions about exploring bisex. X"
Thank you, specially for the heads up on the club x
BTW, you both look like an amazing couple. |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
Hey happy to have a chat but I can't DM you as you've blocked men from contacting you!"
What would you like to chat about? Your profile seems to suggest you are straight, or have I read it wrong? |
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"It's lovely that you are so open with each other. Personally I find Mrs N quite hard work when it comes to my Bi sexuality and I don't think she will ever be completely happy with it, but I think it's important to be very open and I disagree with the comment that alone would be best as that goes a bit against my grain.
Of course it depends upon your own preferences and sexual chemistry.
Good luck with it and if it's a bit fraught and awkward first time, don't give up. Be try sexual and give it at least 2 or 3 goes
The thing is you are not your partner and do not know exactly how he is feeling. Bringing the subject up is very nerve wracking for me every time LOL but I feel I must express my sexuality sometimes for good or bad.
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I'm sorry to read that you feel understood or supported. Those things are so important for a fulfilling relationship. My partner and I are very lucky in that we began talking openly from the word go and the trust has grown and grown.
You have some great photos though and I'm happy to see you've had lots of opportunity to express yourself xxx |
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Hi, we are on a similar journey. I hope to have my first bi experience for 30 years next week. It's exciting but nerve-wracking. Telling my wife was difficult, pretty much totally due to internalised shame from my upbringing, but it felt so wonderful to be accepted for who I am. If you want to chat, feel free to message. |
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By *zlakMan 3 weeks ago
Lowestoft |
I'm bi and proud of it and as much as I like playing with guys 1 on 1 the real appeal for me is to be watched by a woman or share the guy with her.
If he wants to include you in the first meet go for it, it's amazing |
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By *igG86Man 3 weeks ago
Buckden |
"Both Vanilla Alternative, Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms are great bi nights to attend not too far from your area. Although as potential new to the bi scene I'd say Jaydees when it reopens soon would be the best option as it's not so full on and more relaxed. I'm a regular attendee of SpicyMinx's bi nights so if you've any questions feel free to pm "
I can agree with the Bi nights at all 3 venues and I prefer Spicy's night she is a great host and makes everyone feel so welcome and accepted. Set some ground rules if you decide to meet or go to a club and stick to them. |
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"I'm bi and proud of it and as much as I like playing with guys 1 on 1 the real appeal for me is to be watched by a woman or share the guy with her.
If he wants to include you in the first meet go for it, it's amazing "
It's definitely the way we will go.
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"Both Vanilla Alternative, Jaydees and Penthouse Playrooms are great bi nights to attend not too far from your area. Although as potential new to the bi scene I'd say Jaydees when it reopens soon would be the best option as it's not so full on and more relaxed. I'm a regular attendee of SpicyMinx's bi nights so if you've any questions feel free to pm
I can agree with the Bi nights at all 3 venues and I prefer Spicy's night she is a great host and makes everyone feel so welcome and accepted. Set some ground rules if you decide to meet or go to a club and stick to them."
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
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Choose the environment that he is most comfortable in. A bi night at a club would be good. No obligation to do anything and the chance to watch and enjoy before taking the plunge.
Personally, I feel more comfortable, replaced and turned on playing with a guy with Lady or in a group. It’s so sexy to see how much others enjoy watching. |
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I wonder if it's got easier to be Bi sexual. When I met mrs N, it was the conventional way in a bar and we hit it off straight away and we have been good at chatting and we have an absolute golden rule that we don't cheat and we don't do stuff behind each other's back in the flesh.
So on that basis I have tried to be as open as I can about my Bi ness and how it has developed.
When we met it is not as if I could carry a profile around with me that says I have Bi feelings. To be honest my bi sexuality has developed over the years because of the freedoms I have had when we've met men and couples. I had no idea how good Bi sex was LOL.
Anyway I'm rambling. My point is sexuality changes as we get older and do stuff and it's hard to put stuff back in the box after you have enjoyed it. |
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"I wonder if it's got easier to be Bi sexual. When I met mrs N, it was the conventional way in a bar and we hit it off straight away and we have been good at chatting and we have an absolute golden rule that we don't cheat and we don't do stuff behind each other's back in the flesh.
So on that basis I have tried to be as open as I can about my Bi ness and how it has developed.
When we met it is not as if I could carry a profile around with me that says I have Bi feelings. To be honest my bi sexuality has developed over the years because of the freedoms I have had when we've met men and couples. I had no idea how good Bi sex was LOL.
Anyway I'm rambling. My point is sexuality changes as we get older and do stuff and it's hard to put stuff back in the box after you have enjoyed it."
I quite agree with you about sexuality. I think it has also got easier for men to be openly bi too - before it always seemed that it was OK for women but not for men to be bi. |
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"I wonder if it's got easier to be Bi sexual. When I met mrs N, it was the conventional way in a bar and we hit it off straight away and we have been good at chatting and we have an absolute golden rule that we don't cheat and we don't do stuff behind each other's back in the flesh.
So on that basis I have tried to be as open as I can about my Bi ness and how it has developed.
When we met it is not as if I could carry a profile around with me that says I have Bi feelings. To be honest my bi sexuality has developed over the years because of the freedoms I have had when we've met men and couples. I had no idea how good Bi sex was LOL.
Anyway I'm rambling. My point is sexuality changes as we get older and do stuff and it's hard to put stuff back in the box after you have enjoyed it."
Absolutely fabulous thank you to you both for contributing to this subject. Everything you’ve said is so true and I just wish I’ve been that honest with my wife from the start, but unfortunately getting to know her now she certainly wouldn’t have a sense of humor so I’m afraid I’m the one that has to do everything in secret And trust me again. I wish I didn’t so thank you both for sharing your thoughts on this subject. X |
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I have a slightly different approach to this when I play with couples.
I will only play with men if their partner is watching. It's the fact that she's getting turned on by watching us which is turning me on. At parties I will also occasionally play with guys as long as we've got an audience.
This is why I never meet guys 1:1 as stated on my profile. It's more of an exhibitionist fantasy thing with me which probably means that I don't fully conform to the bi label, but in my view it's all a spectrum anyway. |
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"I have a slightly different approach to this when I play with couples.
I will only play with men if their partner is watching. It's the fact that she's getting turned on by watching us which is turning me on. At parties I will also occasionally play with guys as long as we've got an audience.
This is why I never meet guys 1:1 as stated on my profile. It's more of an exhibitionist fantasy thing with me which probably means that I don't fully conform to the bi label, but in my view it's all a spectrum anyway."
Very good point |
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My first bi experience was in a club with a guy who was with his female partner. We played with each other in a relaxed way and then we both found a room and played some more. It was simultaneously one of the most erotic and terrifying moments of my life. I’ve kind of never looked back! |
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My guy is much the same. Having been straight all his life he has in his old age started wondering what it would be like with another man. It would probably only be oral and as part of a 4sum but he is so nervous. Help required, lol x
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"My guy is much the same. Having been straight all his life he has in his old age started wondering what it would be like with another man. It would probably only be oral and as part of a 4sum but he is so nervous. Help required, lol x
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i started late also happened in a 3some with a couple in a club they asked if it was ok for the hubby to play with my cock while i was licking her i agreed it was an awesome experience |
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By *abba44Man 1 week ago
Broadstairs |
After 2 weeks of dicussion you have had a wealth of experience and advice from all & sundry.
This is mne l have been gay since teens then hetro transitioned to Bi back to gay in the closet.
Last year l moved in with a widow,i`m a widower she knows i`m gay and is okay with.
She wanted to sit in on a session with a man something l had never done in 60+ yrs,.It was off putting to be mild the first time it got easier the more she did it.
His first time he should do it on a 1.2.1. basis he will enjoy it more and be at ease,able to speak freely as well.Mansex is not only physical it is also a word excercise chatting about what is desired.etc etc.
I may be too late to advise you,if so san fairy ann. |
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Dressing session with another Tgirl, she in lingerie and I was trying on a wedding dress. She went under my skirts and must’ve noticed how ‘happy’ I was.
She asked if she could help, I consented and it wasn’t long before both of us were enjoying the afternoon.
I saw it as two people just having a bit of fun at that time, but it was only later when I realised it was a part of my transvestism that I embraced being bisexual.
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I think you should be there, as if its his first time with a man, It would be a lot more sexual and horny’er with you next to him, giving both the guys encouragement, like a cheerleader lol
Wow thinking about it is a massive turn on |
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"My male play partner is bi curious and would love some first time experiences with men (that involve me watching). He's a good looking, 50 something rugby player type. Really easy going and very open minded.
We have a bi spa night and a club social planned in the next few weeks. We are also open to creating a couple profile or for me to find men for him.
But we are just not sure of the best way to go about taking the first steps around this...
If you are a bi curious man who's already taken first steps or you are a gay man with experience of helping others...what advice would you give us?
Thank you 😘
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Dont overthink it, there are lots of bi guys on here that would love that situation. Just get chatting and make it happen. |
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By *elix85Man 1 week ago
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"Am thinking about giving a guy a blow job but worried I won't be able to do it right! Especially as am cut and not sure about pulling foreskin back?"
I wouldn’t worry. No harm in asking how they like it to be done. Mix things up with wanking as well as sucking. Give attention to the balls. In any case, the ‘technique’ used is pretty much the same for cut as well as non-cut. |
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Definitely another vote for going to a bi night at a club. We frequently go to the bi night at ME1 Sauna and have had some good bi threesomes and foursomes. There is no pressure to play, and if you don’t want to play, you’ve still had an inexpensive spa night. |
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