FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > Advice for a wife setting up a single F profile
Advice for a wife setting up a single F profile
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *eebo OP Couple 14 weeks ago
basingstoke |
We are thinking about looking for a longer term arrangement with another guy and Mrs C likes the idea of having her own profile as well as our couples one.
Any advice or considerations for this approach.
She has already said without being big headed that she's a bit concerned about the amount of messages etc and doesn't want/have hours to go through all of them.
One thought was for her to block incoming messages and use it to look herself and contact guys she likes the look of directly, they should then be able to message back? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
That would probably be the best arrangement, sounds sensible.
From talking to a female associate on here, she gets bombarded daily (she's said its rare her inbox is less than 50 messages) from 99% blokes and about 75% of those absolutely do not read her profile text whatsoever.
At least by blocking males from messaging, she can peruse at her leisure and those she messages will be able to reply. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We have a couples, single m, single f profile. We block no one as it allows us to see how people are. It's up to us to choose to engage. Putting up walls is fine online, but how do you know how a person behaves in reality?
We make sure the profiles do not let anyone see how they are connected. A lot of the time people will message both the couples and single f profile, and this is a great insight to how a person interacts.
You got to remember people "apply" to a profile, and their message is their CV. We look for glaring differences in approach, and they are there.
It doesn't both us if we get 1 message or 1000, we only human and we'll take it from that point to contact anyone were interested in.
That's how it works for us and it works fine. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
She could do that, or employ only certain filters to cut mail down.
I block by age, no newbies, no silhouettes, no couples & life is much more peaceful for it.
Deffo have some filters on whilst she's finding her feet.
When I joined I had 50 messages in no time, with no pics or text. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
When she's first setting it up just block single males immediately and search for and reach out to ones that appeal.
Once the new flag drops off the profile (so the absolute bombardment newbies get is less horrendous) she can take the filter off if the searching and making first contact approach isn't working out for her 💜 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *adMerWoman 14 weeks ago
Sandwich |
I would definitely recommend using the filters. You can just wink another profile and that’s enough for the filter to be bypassed.
Keep expectations fairly low though. Many of the men are very below par. It’s a sausage fest cesspool lol.
That said, occasionally you do find the odd gem.
The good thing about this site is that you can find your own way to use it. I wish you plenty of luck   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ickD80Man 14 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
So will she mention on her female profile that she’s married and you’re looking as a couple or will she hide that information from the men she chats with on her female profile?
Does she want to be able to message people on here without you being able to know who she’s messaging and what she’s saying to them or will she show you her messages on her female profile?
If she’s going to say in the female profile that she’s part of a couple and if she’s going to share with you all the messages she sends and receives then I don’t understand what the point is in having a separate account.
So your plan for avoiding having to read loads of messages is to block all messages and just search through profiles and message the men she likes….if you don’t block all messages and receive hundreds of messages what’s stopping you/her from just searching through profiles and messaging the men she likes in exactly the same way she would if all messages were blocked? Just because she receives hundreds of messages doesn’t mean she has to read through them all…if your plan is to just message men you like while looking through profiles you can do that regardless of how many messages you receive. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
Keep expectations fairly low though. Many of the men are very below par. It’s a sausage fest cesspool lol.
D"
Haha sausage fest cesspool! That's a new one I've heard the wanking dead in clubs which thankfully I'm not one of those. Because I am a single male and get tarnished with the same brush I have much more of a social time in clubs now meeting people face to face. I gave up ages ago actually trying to " stand out" in a message. It's because I'm just a normal laid back kinda guy and have much for fun in clubs than in this site.
Id definitely recommend blocking all single males and finding one at your own leisure.
Hope this helps x
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
|
I have a couples profile too & opened this to meet other women, I do have men unblocked at the moment and to be honest I just ignore all the ones that haven't bothered reading.
I'd say just go for it and don't feel pressured to reply to everyone, no reply - no thank you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We are thinking about looking for a longer term arrangement with another guy and Mrs C likes the idea of having her own profile as well as our couples one.
Any advice or considerations for this approach.
She has already said without being big headed that she's a bit concerned about the amount of messages etc and doesn't want/have hours to go through all of them.
One thought was for her to block incoming messages and use it to look herself and contact guys she likes the look of directly, they should then be able to message back?"
use your filters for age and sec of the person you’re looking to meet |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *elkieWoman 14 weeks ago
Durham |
Create profile, immediately hide it. Wait a week and then complete it and unhide it. That way you won’t show up on “who’s new”
Get a friend to verify you immediately.
Both of these will out the men who are actively seeking inexperienced partners. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Filters are great -remember age filters too
I'd also suggest she is very specific on her profile text (in the crazy hope that someone reads it)
And she can also peruse in ninja mode so she's not hounded by men commenting on her looking at their profile.
Just curious -why can't shev do this from your couples account? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eebo OP Couple 13 weeks ago
basingstoke |
"Filters are great -remember age filters too
I'd also suggest she is very specific on her profile text (in the crazy hope that someone reads it)
And she can also peruse in ninja mode so she's not hounded by men commenting on her looking at their profile.
Just curious -why can't shev do this from your couples account? "
Thanks for the point of view, good to keep in mind!
In answer to your question I guess she could do from our couples account but had a break for a while and feel like a bit of a new approach to things and also part of the attraction for us both is her taking more of an active role and the lead on who she talks to/ arranging the meets etc which she liked the idea of doing on her own profile and then telling me about x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
