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Stalker Behaviour and Taking a break from fab...
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I was messaged by a user on this site a few months back. After a few messages back and forth, he added me on snapchat. We didn't chat long, I advised I wasn't interested and wished him luck in finding what he's looking for. He continued to message me...
He messaged me one morning to say he had saw me on my way to work, describing what I was wearing and everything. He said he often walks around about my area with a hope of seeing me. My profile is a TV/TS profile so I'm not dressed as "usual me" on here, This was quite jarring because I've never been recognised like that before. He then asked if I'd like to meet the next day on my way to work... I explained that this was creepy and not acceptable, I asked him to leave me alone and blocked him.
I then got a message from another profile claiming to be a friend of his, so much for discretion... Apologising to me and saying he had advised "his friend" to come off the site and leave me alone. I reiterated how I felt and how creepy the whole situation is. I then stated that I didn't believe it was a "friend" and that these messages further added to the whole thing. I told them if I was contacted again I'd be reporting them.
There were then a number of accounts made by this person, viewing my profile, Sharing statuses with messages of apology that I assumed were aimed at me and even messages again. I blocked every one I recognised and reported some of them.
A few weeks passed and I've had no contact from this person apart from another profile view and wink that I believe may have been him. Until this morning.
This morning I left home at about 5:30am to head to the gym before work. On my way to the gym I noticed someone behind me, I looked around and it was him. I focused on getting to the gym. This person followed me right to the door of the gym of which I've never seen them at nor do I believe they are a member of. He then paced outside, I could see him through the window. I put my stuff in a locker and went out to ask him to go away and leave me alone, I told him I would contact the police because this was too far.
I think anybody would agree this behaviour is completely unacceptable. The pice certainly think so. I've spoke to them and provided all information I have. If this person contacts me again I will not hesitate in forwarding it to the police. If they approach or come near me again I will be calling the police. I'm not putting up with this, I like most people on this site have a life. I value discretion, I've always been discreet but apparently others can't do that. Can't just leave you alone no matter how many times you ask them to.
I contacted fab to ask for details of the accounts I had blocked, not looking for full names or personal info, even just usernames or any help because the accounts have vanished, he's obv deleted them or whatever. I got an automated response basically palming me off telling me to report it. I had reported the account(s).
Be careful on here everyone… It's defs not as safe as it should be.
I'm gonna take a break from everything for a bit, just thought I'd share my experience. |
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I'm sorry this has happened to you.
I had a couple get like this and I blocked and reported them a few years ago but no action was taken and they are still on here.
It's such a shame a small minority think this behaviour is acceptable. It really does make you feel quite vulnerable. I hope you feel able to come back after a break and that people restore your faith here xx |
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Sorry to hear this OP, we came off site for several years as had vile messages on here and anonymous letters (physically mailed)to a workplace with screenshots of profile to one of our workplaces ,some incredibly unpleasant people out there so be careful |
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Sorry to hear that OP
I've been on here 15 years and thankfully only had one bad apple who contacted my veris to say I had all sorts of stis
All because I didn't want to meet him. I was sent screen shots so I know what he did.
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This is terrible and I can imagine quite scary.
I would have made a bit of a thing about him stalking you at the gym. It would mean he’d think twice about hanging around there!
Hopefully now the police are involved that will be the end of it.
Be careful OP!
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put stalker in the search plenty will come up some right horror stories out there .
was talking to a new couple a few weeks back at a midlands club who were telling us of someone who followed them back from a night out dogging and stayed parked outside their house until daylight |
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By *ariaxxxxWoman 4 days ago
London / London / Dublin / |
I met a guy many times & I didn't know he was married & cheating, when I found out .....I finished seeing him.
But.....He kept arriving at my door unannounced & all hours of day & night & constantly ringing me with phone number blocked.
He knew where I lived cos I stupidly accepted a lift home from him on one of our meets.
I was so close to contacting the Police about him but I knew if I did his marriage would be over.
Luckily I have a few strong well built male friends & they contacted him through another app & basically said .....Lay Off Or Else
👊💪👊💪.
Thankfully that worked. |
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This is horrible OP. You’ve done the right thing getting police involved. I’ve had to involve police because of someone (who is on this site but for things which happened off this site).
All I can say is try not to let this affect your life (difficult I know). |
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OP keep everything all the messages, go to the police and explain.
Just because of our lifestyle choices doesn't mean we don't deserve protection from the law and by the sounds of it you do .
Look at it another way,what if he moves onto someone else and takes it further??
Good luck and take care. |
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Thanks so much for all the lovely responses. Just an update in case anybody is interested...
The police are involved they've collected all information and details. If nothing else it's logged and if he hasn't taken the hint and continues I can take it further. |
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Hey OP I completely get how you are feeling right now, I had a local guy turning up around my workplace and in public places close to home and never thought anything off it, he even got introduced to me in a town centre pub by a mutual friend and I brushed him off then the random appearances stepped up, still thought nothing off it until he appeared in the same club as me 50 miles away from home on a night that my status clearly stated I would be there, that’s when I got the police involved, within 24 hours CID were dealing with it and had cctv a full statement and launched an appeal to find him from the cctv, within an hour he’d handed himself in and admitted to being at the club during 15 hours of questioning, unfortunately the CPS wouldn’t take the case on as not enough evidence! Even on appeal and explanation of the lifestyle not enough evidence……thankfully I have a very good employer and safeguarding was put into place for me should he have broken his bail conditions at the time and it took a lot of processing and support but you will get there, the last thing that I red on this vile man is that he’s a convicted rapist who’s served time and has now been ousted by a group for him talking to what he thought was a 13 year old girl! My inbox is open if you want to chat and if I can help in any way I will xx |
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Yeah be careful. Don’t give your address out to people. Be careful. You meet here too many sexual predators on here then who wants something for nothing abuse people off-line bad experiences. I’ve had bad experiences as well. Narcissist control freak bullies be safe not all snout sex what safety compared to your health health is wealth safety comes first I’m always mindful meeting strangers. I’d rather go to the club and meet someone while you’re safe to many sexual predators |
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I too had a stalker & it sure isn't fun at all.
I hope you are ok, virtual hugs to you 🤗