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By *eeshells OP Couple
over a year ago
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Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.
So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks? |
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If they’re teenagers, why not be straight with them, just say it’s an extra activity to spark up your love life, we know they’ll be doing the UGGH thing and stuff but I’m sure they would understand, my son knows I’m on here, not the exact name of the website but he understands that I’m looking for something extra |
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Slightly different, but when I installed sex swing I had to put a hook in the roof of my bedroom. My children were very curious obviously, so when they inevitably asked "what's the hook for dad" I had to tell them "I'm getting a punch bag of course", so I had no more to do than go out and buy a decoy punchbag. So while I was at it I bought a pull up bar and now they think it's the best thing I've ever bought and love using them. So buoyed by my success with the hook I decided to make a St Andrews cross out of wall hooks across the corner of my room between with hooked rings top middle and bottom. Once again they asked what the wall hooks were for, so I told them I was buying resistance bands with wires going through detachable pulleys. Yes, I had to go out and buy the pulley system, but thankfully I've never had to actually use it, just show them it's there and that was enough. They haven't asked any questions for over a year now, so I think I've got away with it  They only stay with me one night a week so I don't have to explain the going out for meets, thankfully. |
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"Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.
So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks? "
We have told ours that now they’re old enough to not need babysitting we’re just making up for all the times we couldn’t get out due to being at home with them 😊 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just tell the kids that now that they're grown up ye are rekindling & enjoying your new found freedom & that's it's your time now 👍👍
Me......I have an alibi in a close friend, she covers for me when I'm away at night for fun, we just let on we are away together & that works |
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We're naturist in vanilla life. So we used to tell the kids we were off to the naturist spa.
Bar the two youngest they know we're swingers now (not by choice). So no more need for a cover story with the older ones. Which did spark some interesting and funny conversation/interrogation in the household.
As for other freinds and family it's not a secret, neither is it something we openly share (it is our private sex life after all). Some know, some don't. We simply say we're off out or away for the weekend without giving futher explanation. |
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My eldest son knows, he’s 23 now. He’s known for about 6 years.
I’m very open as a parent and we are a happily married couple that choose to swing, that’s nothing at all to be ashamed of.
Our other son and daughter are only 13 and 14 so they are a bit young at the moment, but when they are older we won’t hide it from them either.
Donna x |
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"Just tell them your having a date night, what more needs to be said?
I wouldn't class not discussing your sex life with everyone as living a lie."
Neither would I.
We've never discussed our sex life with our kids and wouldn't expect them to discuss theirs with us (they're both in their thirties in LTRs ). |
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By *andm18Couple
over a year ago
Bolton |
We love comedy shows so that's the excuse we give our babysitters (grandparents) and kids too young to know any better. Still wouldn't tell them as just think would you have wanted to know what your parents were upto? |
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By *fffunCouple 23 weeks ago
Somewhere just outside London |
We say we just making lots of new friends beucause work and home life is too busy to make friends... So we go a social club events.. To make friends and see the ones we made already. So clearly we arnt lying... |
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"Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.
So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks? "
Tell them you’re swingers and fuck other people you like
They’ll go yeah right of course you are
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Kids aren't a problem (grown up very little contact), friends (don't care), the only sensitive issue being my dad as he predominantly lives with me now. Day time easy as he goes to a elderly day care club thing, evenings/weekends more complex as I have to arrange care (and it's expensive which is partly why I can't afford to retire yet)  |
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"Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.
So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks? "
We just said we were meeting Paul's work friends for a drink. We primed the pump a few weeks before by mentioning these so called work mates.
We always gave a rough idea where we headed just incase an accident on the drive occurred.
You would have questions if going to a Manchester club and telling them you are off localish for a drink.
If you have a decent story they become disinterested.
If there's intrigue they sense it.
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"We're naturist in vanilla life. So we used to tell the kids we were off to the naturist spa."
This works well even if you're not naturists. It's embarrassing enough that your children are unlikely to ask many questions! |
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We chose the sex club we are going to because it is within 10 miles of a motorway journey we do routinely and within 10 miles of a motorway service station. And as everyone knows, with the traffic in the UK, you can be unexpectedly delayed for hours..... |
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We just say we're having a night out or weekend away.
When we were swinging regularly, my husband once told his (adult) son that we were going to a party to have sex with strangers.
He clearly didn't believe this but didn't ask again  |
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By *G LanaTV/TS 21 weeks ago
Gosport |
I don't really need one, nobody cares that much about what I'm up to. Friends know I'm pansexual and dating so that covers being seen with different people during socials. A couple know I am here as well as part of my own safety arrangements, thankfully I have some none judgemental friends with their own interesting sexual histories. |
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Just say that you have taken up Morris Dancing and are out at training. If the kids ever find out you ARE swingers, they'll be so relieved that you are NOT actually doing Morris Dancing, they won't give a fuck! |
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By *arierWoman 21 weeks ago
birmingham |
"Just say that you have taken up Morris Dancing and are out at training. If the kids ever find out you ARE swingers, they'll be so relieved that you are NOT actually doing Morris Dancing, they won't give a fuck!"
Love this 🤣 |
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As a child my parents were swingers and often held parties where the kids were banished to grandmas. Yes, we did have pampas grass in the front garden and OMO on the kitchen windowsill. By time my teenage years set in kind of knew just never said a thing as wasn’t really bothered. |
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Everyone knows what I do. I don't have kids. My parents don't really care. I'm too ill to work so my company fired me. But those who care to ask, know I am a nudist and I do Japanese rope art bondage as a kink and fetish. I started on this journey because of my mental and physical health. Occasionally, there's swinging but most of the time I'm naked in the jacuzzi or pool alone or tied myself up at a rope workshop.
Most of it is to do with connecting with my body and somatics.
the sex if any is secondary/peripheral. |
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"But those who care to ask, know I am a nudist and I do Japanese rope art bondage as a kink and fetish.."
So if others invite you out on a club night, do you say "sorry, I'm a little tied up that night"?
"the sex if any is secondary/peripheral."
In good sex, the sex is always peripheral. It's the communication that matters most. |
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