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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
Luton |
Hi everyone, I’m Ram, a 32-year-old Indian gent from Luton, and I recently joined fabswingers. I did my photo verification and became a site supporter because I want to be genuine and serious about meeting like-minded people.
Over the past week, I’ve reached out to various profiles not just from my local area, with respect and care reading bios, introducing myself honestly, and even sharing my face (with a slight blur for privacy). Despite this, I’ve noticed a tough pattern: many profiles say “strictly no Asian men.” I get it sometimes, people have had bad experiences, and that’s painful. One person’s actions shouldn’t define a whole community.
I’m not like those others. I’m well-educated (master’s in computer science), work a professional IT job, and take pride in being clean, fresh, and respectful. This is my discreet, kinky life just like everyone’s here, but with my own background and values.
As an Indian, I deeply respect women and their preferences we even worship the goddess, so respect is a huge part of who I am. I just hope people can see beyond stereotypes and give genuine people like me a chance.
If you’re new too, or just looking for honest connection, please check out my profile. I’m open to chat, meet, and make real connections. Don’t hesitate to shout or ping me!
Let’s support each other and make this community welcoming for everyone. |
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"Hi everyone, I’m Ram, a 32-year-old Indian gent from Luton, and I recently joined fabswingers. I did my photo verification and became a site supporter because I want to be genuine and serious about meeting like-minded people.
Over the past week, I’ve reached out to various profiles not just from my local area, with respect and care reading bios, introducing myself honestly, and even sharing my face (with a slight blur for privacy). Despite this, I’ve noticed a tough pattern: many profiles say “strictly no Asian men.” I get it sometimes, people have had bad experiences, and that’s painful. One person’s actions shouldn’t define a whole community.
I’m not like those others. I’m well-educated (master’s in computer science), work a professional IT job, and take pride in being clean, fresh, and respectful. This is my discreet, kinky life just like everyone’s here, but with my own background and values.
As an Indian, I deeply respect women and their preferences we even worship the goddess, so respect is a huge part of who I am. I just hope people can see beyond stereotypes and give genuine people like me a chance.
If you’re new too, or just looking for honest connection, please check out my profile. I’m open to chat, meet, and make real connections. Don’t hesitate to shout or ping me!
Let’s support each other and make this community welcoming for everyone."
There's nothing gin your profile to say you're Indian origin. We'd pass simply on the fact that you've no pictures, but we're not in your demographic anyway. Good luck. |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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Hey, thanks for the heads-up!
I totally get what you’re saying the “Noob Saibot” comment made me laugh 😄
I haven’t uploaded a public profile pic yet just to keep things discreet, but I’m always happy to send a clear face photo privately if someone’s okay with that. Just trying to be respectful of privacy on both sides, especially since this is my naughty, low-key side of life 😅
Appreciate the advice though really helps as I’m still getting the hang of things on here! |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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Thanks for the honest reply I appreciate it.
You’re right, I hadn’t explicitly mentioned my background in the public part of my profile I try to keep things discreet but genuine. I’m Indian, 32, working professionally in IT, and always respectful of people’s preferences and boundaries.
I completely understand if I’m not your type or demographic no hard feelings at all. Just wanted to say I appreciate the courtesy of a reply, which is rare sometimes.
Wishing you both lots of fun and great connections ahead! 😊 |
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"Thanks for the honest reply I appreciate it.
You’re right, I hadn’t explicitly mentioned my background in the public part of my profile I try to keep things discreet but genuine. I’m Indian, 32, working professionally in IT, and always respectful of people’s preferences and boundaries.
I completely understand if I’m not your type or demographic no hard feelings at all. Just wanted to say I appreciate the courtesy of a reply, which is rare sometimes.
Wishing you both lots of fun and great connections ahead! 😊"
We're not your demographic as we're a couple and you're only looking for females or female couples. |
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when we get contact with no pics in gallery - i just block them if i can be arsed.
men from all backgrounds can be good or bad.
you have massive competion from all backgrounds as men, single men massively outweigh couple and females. So, couples can as well as females can get away without profile pics but not men IMO
your choice if you want to waste your time or put up a picture. Good luck |
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You have no avatar and no photos. That will rule you out of even a conversation for most people. It's difficult enough for men on here as it is without making it harder for yourself like that.
Bear in mind that your profile and messages may come across well to you, but other people can have a different opinion. We frequently get messages from people who presumably think that they have written something appealing and they are so dreadfully wrong! My advice to newbie men is to try to see yourself, your profile and your messages etc. from the viewpoint of the people you are trying to attract. I don't think many men do that here. You need to be very self-aware on here.
By the way, if you click "Reply + Quote", people can see which particular thread post you are responding to. |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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Thanks for your honesty, I totally get where you’re coming from. I know having a profile pic is important, especially for men in this space with so much competition. I’m happy to share my pictures privately first if that helps build trust before putting them up publicly. Just want to make sure the connection is genuine and comfortable for both sides. Appreciate the advice and wish you all the best here! |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Hi everyone, I’m Ram, a 32-year-old Indian gent from Luton, and I recently joined fabswingers. I did my photo verification and became a site supporter because I want to be genuine and serious about meeting like-minded people.
Over the past week, I’ve reached out to various profiles not just from my local area, with respect and care reading bios, introducing myself honestly, and even sharing my face (with a slight blur for privacy). Despite this, I’ve noticed a tough pattern: many profiles say “strictly no Asian men.” I get it sometimes, people have had bad experiences, and that’s painful. One person’s actions shouldn’t define a whole community.
I’m not like those others. I’m well-educated (master’s in computer science), work a professional IT job, and take pride in being clean, fresh, and respectful. This is my discreet, kinky life just like everyone’s here, but with my own background and values.
As an Indian, I deeply respect women and their preferences we even worship the goddess, so respect is a huge part of who I am. I just hope people can see beyond stereotypes and give genuine people like me a chance.
If you’re new too, or just looking for honest connection, please check out my profile. I’m open to chat, meet, and make real connections. Don’t hesitate to shout or ping me!
Let’s support each other and make this community welcoming for everyone."
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Hey, thanks for the heads-up!
I totally get what you’re saying the “Noob Saibot” comment made me laugh 😄
I haven’t uploaded a public profile pic yet just to keep things discreet, but I’m always happy to send a clear face photo privately if someone’s okay with that. Just trying to be respectful of privacy on both sides, especially since this is my naughty, low-key side of life 😅
Appreciate the advice though really helps as I’m still getting the hang of things on here!"
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Thanks for the honest reply I appreciate it.
You’re right, I hadn’t explicitly mentioned my background in the public part of my profile I try to keep things discreet but genuine. I’m Indian, 32, working professionally in IT, and always respectful of people’s preferences and boundaries.
I completely understand if I’m not your type or demographic no hard feelings at all. Just wanted to say I appreciate the courtesy of a reply, which is rare sometimes.
Wishing you both lots of fun and great connections ahead! 😊"
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Thanks for your honesty, I totally get where you’re coming from. I know having a profile pic is important, especially for men in this space with so much competition. I’m happy to share my pictures privately first if that helps build trust before putting them up publicly. Just want to make sure the connection is genuine and comfortable for both sides. Appreciate the advice and wish you all the best here!"
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"You have no avatar and no photos. That will rule you out of even a conversation for most people. It's difficult enough for men on here as it is without making it harder for yourself like that.
Bear in mind that your profile and messages may come across well to you, but other people can have a different opinion. We frequently get messages from people who presumably think that they have written something appealing and they are so dreadfully wrong! My advice to newbie men is to try to see yourself, your profile and your messages etc. from the viewpoint of the people you are trying to attract. I don't think many men do that here. You need to be very self-aware on here.
By the way, if you click "Reply + Quote", people can see which particular thread post you are responding to. "
[Reply] Thanks for the honest and helpful advice, I really appreciate it. I’m still learning the ropes here and definitely taking on board what you said about self-awareness and seeing things from others’ perspective. I’m working on improving my profile and will consider adding photos soon, maybe starting with sharing privately to build trust. Thanks for pointing out the “Reply + Quote” tip as well — that’ll help keep things clear. Wishing you both all the best here! |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Our first meet was with an Indian guy and he was damned good. Once J is recovered and the person is right, will do it again. "
[Reply] Really refreshing to see a couple open-minded and fair that first experience you had must’ve been 🔥! As an Indian gent myself (32, from Luton), I truly appreciate you saying that. Sadly, a lot of us get _udged by one bad apple, but it’s amazing when people can see past that and treat everyone as individuals.
I’m new-ish here, fully verified, professional IT guy, clean, discreet, and always respectful. Just wanted to say thanks for keeping the space open for gents who show up properly 🙌🏼 [Reply] |
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"Our first meet was with an Indian guy and he was damned good. Once J is recovered and the person is right, will do it again.
[Reply] Really refreshing to see a couple open-minded and fair that first experience you had must’ve been 🔥! As an Indian gent myself (32, from Luton), I truly appreciate you saying that. Sadly, a lot of us get _udged by one bad apple, but it’s amazing when people can see past that and treat everyone as individuals.
I’m new-ish here, fully verified, professional IT guy, clean, discreet, and always respectful. Just wanted to say thanks for keeping the space open for gents who show up properly 🙌🏼 [Reply]"
You’re not verified as far as we can see? |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Our first meet was with an Indian guy and he was damned good. Once J is recovered and the person is right, will do it again.
[Reply] Really refreshing to see a couple open-minded and fair that first experience you had must’ve been 🔥! As an Indian gent myself (32, from Luton), I truly appreciate you saying that. Sadly, a lot of us get _udged by one bad apple, but it’s amazing when people can see past that and treat everyone as individuals.
I’m new-ish here, fully verified, professional IT guy, clean, discreet, and always respectful. Just wanted to say thanks for keeping the space open for gents who show up properly 🙌🏼 [Reply]
You’re not verified as far as we can see? "
[/Reply] Thanks for checking! I’m fully verified by the site with photo verification done, and I’m a gold supporter as well. The member verifications come later naturally as I meet people and build trust. Looking forward to connecting with genuine people here! [/Reply]
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"Our first meet was with an Indian guy and he was damned good. Once J is recovered and the person is right, will do it again.
[Reply] Really refreshing to see a couple open-minded and fair that first experience you had must’ve been 🔥! As an Indian gent myself (32, from Luton), I truly appreciate you saying that. Sadly, a lot of us get _udged by one bad apple, but it’s amazing when people can see past that and treat everyone as individuals.
I’m new-ish here, fully verified, professional IT guy, clean, discreet, and always respectful. Just wanted to say thanks for keeping the space open for gents who show up properly 🙌🏼 [Reply]
You’re not verified as far as we can see?
[/Reply] Thanks for checking! I’m fully verified by the site with photo verification done, and I’m a gold supporter as well. The member verifications come later naturally as I meet people and build trust. Looking forward to connecting with genuine people here! [/Reply]
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Good luck, hopefully you’ll find what you’re looking for. |
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My first single Fab experience was with an Indian guy and he could not have been more attentive especially leading up to our meet with messages, asking questions about likes and dislikes and completely put me at my ease. He had a few verifications and photos (not his face on his profile picture) but he was lovely and we still chat on and off- also helped by the fact that I’d been to India for 6 weeks x |
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I am the same as a lot of other posters.
No picture it’s an instant block and delete I’m afraid. As a single lady we get inundated so cant be bothered to look into a faceless profile. Good luck though! |
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No profile picture and no public photos would stop you even messaging me due to my filters.
Most people will not engage with someone with no photos so you are limiting yourself straight away OP.
Saying you'll share pics once you get chatting won't get you anywhere.
You don't have to post a face pic, most of us keep those as friends only or private to send but some sort of photo is generally expected. |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"My first single Fab experience was with an Indian guy and he could not have been more attentive especially leading up to our meet with messages, asking questions about likes and dislikes and completely put me at my ease. He had a few verifications and photos (not his face on his profile picture) but he was lovely and we still chat on and off- also helped by the fact that I’d been to India for 6 weeks x"
[Reply] That’s genuinely lovely to hear — thank you for sharing that. As an Indian gent myself, it’s encouraging to read something so positive amidst the usual hesitation some have. I totally relate to your experience — being attentive, respectful and making someone feel at ease should always come first. And wow, 6 weeks in India? Would love to hear what you thought of it! 🙏😊 [/Reply] |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"I am the same as a lot of other posters.
No picture it’s an instant block and delete I’m afraid. As a single lady we get inundated so cant be bothered to look into a faceless profile. Good luck though!"
[Reply] Totally understand where you’re coming from, and I appreciate your honesty. I’ve recently verified my profile and usually share pics privately for discretion but after collecting a lot of helpful feedback from others like yourself, I’ve decided to update my profile pic soon to make things easier and more transparent. Thanks again, and best wishes!” [/Reply]
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"No profile picture and no public photos would stop you even messaging me due to my filters.
Most people will not engage with someone with no photos so you are limiting yourself straight away OP.
Saying you'll share pics once you get chatting won't get you anywhere.
You don't have to post a face pic, most of us keep those as friends only or private to send but some sort of photo is generally expected. "
[Reply] Thank you, Juliette, I really appreciate your perspective. You’re absolutely right not having a photo publicly visible limits engagement. I’ve been sharing pics privately out of discretion, but after hearing this from several of you, I’ll be updating my profile with at least one public photo soon. I now see it’s an important part of showing you’re genuine on here. Thanks again for being direct it helps a lot!” [/Reply] |
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"No profile picture and no public photos would stop you even messaging me due to my filters.
Most people will not engage with someone with no photos so you are limiting yourself straight away OP.
Saying you'll share pics once you get chatting won't get you anywhere.
You don't have to post a face pic, most of us keep those as friends only or private to send but some sort of photo is generally expected.
[Reply] Thank you, Juliette, I really appreciate your perspective. You’re absolutely right not having a photo publicly visible limits engagement. I’ve been sharing pics privately out of discretion, but after hearing this from several of you, I’ll be updating my profile with at least one public photo soon. I now see it’s an important part of showing you’re genuine on here. Thanks again for being direct it helps a lot!” [/Reply]"
You don't have to type reply and add the brackets, just hit the quote + reply button when you're replying to a post.  |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"No profile picture and no public photos would stop you even messaging me due to my filters.
Most people will not engage with someone with no photos so you are limiting yourself straight away OP.
Saying you'll share pics once you get chatting won't get you anywhere.
You don't have to post a face pic, most of us keep those as friends only or private to send but some sort of photo is generally expected.
[Reply] Thank you, Juliette, I really appreciate your perspective. You’re absolutely right not having a photo publicly visible limits engagement. I’ve been sharing pics privately out of discretion, but after hearing this from several of you, I’ll be updating my profile with at least one public photo soon. I now see it’s an important part of showing you’re genuine on here. Thanks again for being direct it helps a lot!” [/Reply]
You don't have to type reply and add the brackets, just hit the quote + reply button when you're replying to a post. "
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"Thanks for your honesty, I totally get where you’re coming from. I know having a profile pic is important, especially for men in this space with so much competition. I’m happy to share my pictures privately first if that helps build trust before putting them up publicly. Just want to make sure the connection is genuine and comfortable for both sides. Appreciate the advice and wish you all the best here!"
you don’t have to add a face pic to your profile for an aviator you could be be fully clothed & crop your pic to your shoulders just a thought
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When deciding if I'm going to even open a message, the first question is is it a dick pic avatar, in which case they're a no. Then, is it a silhouette because they have no pictures, in which case it's a no. Then, is it an image that gives a reasonable concept of physical attraction, in which case I'll at least read the message without immediate dismissal, though the words or lack of often get people right back on the no list anyway 💜 |
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"Thanks for your honesty, I totally get where you’re coming from. I know having a profile pic is important, especially for men in this space with so much competition. I’m happy to share my pictures privately first if that helps build trust before putting them up publicly. Just want to make sure the connection is genuine and comfortable for both sides. Appreciate the advice and wish you all the best here!"
Hi op, totally your choice if you don't want any public pics, but it will massively reduce your chances on here.
Many, including me, won't even read a message from a silhouette profile. I get you want to remain discreet, we all do.
You could take pics that show your build off, without identifying you though. Ie in a suit with head cropped off.
Fab has so many men on here who are all looking to meet women, to have a chance you need to stand out a bit.. You don't at the minute. |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Thanks for your honesty, I totally get where you’re coming from. I know having a profile pic is important, especially for men in this space with so much competition. I’m happy to share my pictures privately first if that helps build trust before putting them up publicly. Just want to make sure the connection is genuine and comfortable for both sides. Appreciate the advice and wish you all the best here! you don’t have to add a face pic to your profile for an aviator you could be be fully clothed & crop your pic to your shoulders just a thought "
Thanks so much for the suggestion that’s a really thoughtful idea! I’ve been trying to balance privacy with being genuine, and your tip about cropping a fully clothed pic to the shoulders sounds like a great middle ground. I’ll definitely give that a go. Appreciate the support! 😊 |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"When deciding if I'm going to even open a message, the first question is is it a dick pic avatar, in which case they're a no. Then, is it a silhouette because they have no pictures, in which case it's a no. Then, is it an image that gives a reasonable concept of physical attraction, in which case I'll at least read the message without immediate dismissal, though the words or lack of often get people right back on the no list anyway 💜"
Really appreciate you breaking that down it’s actually super helpful to understand how things come across from your perspective. I totally get how important first impressions are, and I’ve been rethinking how best to present myself without compromising privacy.
Definitely taking this on board it’s about striking the right balance, and feedback like yours helps a lot. Thanks for being honest and clear 💜
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Thanks for your honesty, I totally get where you’re coming from. I know having a profile pic is important, especially for men in this space with so much competition. I’m happy to share my pictures privately first if that helps build trust before putting them up publicly. Just want to make sure the connection is genuine and comfortable for both sides. Appreciate the advice and wish you all the best here!
Hi op, totally your choice if you don't want any public pics, but it will massively reduce your chances on here.
Many, including me, won't even read a message from a silhouette profile. I get you want to remain discreet, we all do.
You could take pics that show your build off, without identifying you though. Ie in a suit with head cropped off.
Fab has so many men on here who are all looking to meet women, to have a chance you need to stand out a bit.. You don't at the minute. "
Thank you for your honest feedback I really appreciate it. I completely understand how a blank or silhouette profile can be off-putting, especially with how many messages people receive here. Discretion is important to me, but I now see that it’s just as important to make an effort to stand out respectfully and genuinely.
I’m definitely going to consider updating my profile with a cropped or body shot to help bridge that gap something that gives a better sense of me without fully compromising privacy.
Thanks again for taking the time to share your perspective it helps a lot. 😊
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Just to add , people what to make connections too. But, they don't want to waste time building them, only to find there's then no attraction to the person they've taken time to get to know. "
Absolutely, that makes perfect sense. Attraction is definitely a key part of any connection, especially here where time is precious. That’s why I’m planning to update my profile soon to better show who I am while still respecting my privacy. I want to make sure anyone interested has a fair chance to feel that initial spark before we dive deeper. Thanks again for the great advice! |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"I find it odd , no avatar or photos to the named person .. oh well "
I understand it might seem unusual, but I prefer to share photos privately first to keep things discreet. I’m working on updating my profile so it feels more comfortable for everyone. Thanks for your understanding! |
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You don't have an avatar whatsoever, let alone an array of photographs in your profile. That's going to close any doors to opportunities long before you open them.
Can you tell you who I am from my avatar? Are you able to discern anything from the compendium of my photographs? |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"You don't have an avatar whatsoever, let alone an array of photographs in your profile. That's going to close any doors to opportunities long before you open them.
Can you tell you who I am from my avatar? Are you able to discern anything from the compendium of my photographs?"
Thanks for the honest feedback — I really do appreciate it. You’re right, not having an avatar or public photos does create a barrier, and it’s something I’m working on addressing. I’ve been keeping things discreet at first, but I understand the importance of giving others something to connect with visually.
And yes, your avatar and photo collection do offer a strong sense of personality — it’s clear and confident, which definitely stands out. I’ll take that as inspiration as I update my profile. Thanks again!
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"You’re right, not having an avatar or public photos does create a barrier, and it’s something I’m working on addressing."
How will you be addressing it? Just take a photo of your torso, below the shoulders, perhaps wearing a tie. It's hardly going to identify you as Peter Singh from Lowestoft.
"I’ve been keeping things discreet at first, but I understand the importance of giving others something to connect with visually."
At the end of the day it's your profile and your prerogative to refine it. You're the architect of your success on here.
"And yes, your avatar and photo collection do offer a strong sense of personality — it’s clear and confident, which definitely stands out. I’ll take that as inspiration as I update my profile. Thanks again!"
The point I was making was that you cannot identify me so easily, if at all, from my photographs.
Whatever you decide to do I wish you all the luck. 🖤🩶 |
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"OP, you need to put a profile picture.
So, SO many ladies and couples don't interact with the Noob Saibot."
Off topic but this is one of the last places where I'd have expected to see someone mention Noob Saibot! Brilliant! 😂 |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"You’re right, not having an avatar or public photos does create a barrier, and it’s something I’m working on addressing.
How will you be addressing it? Just take a photo of your torso, below the shoulders, perhaps wearing a tie. It's hardly going to identify you as Peter Singh from Lowestoft.
I’ve been keeping things discreet at first, but I understand the importance of giving others something to connect with visually.
At the end of the day it's your profile and your prerogative to refine it. You're the architect of your success on here.
And yes, your avatar and photo collection do offer a strong sense of personality — it’s clear and confident, which definitely stands out. I’ll take that as inspiration as I update my profile. Thanks again!
The point I was making was that you cannot identify me so easily, if at all, from my photographs.
Whatever you decide to do I wish you all the luck. 🖤🩶"
Thanks a lot for your thoughtful reply really appreciated. 🙏
I’ve taken the feedback on board and updated my profile with a proper picture slightly blurred face for privacy, but still gives a clear sense of me. I’m also happy to share clearer pics privately if there’s mutual interest.
As you rightly said, we’re the architects of our own success here, and I’m just putting the bricks in place, one step at a time. 😄
Wishing you all the best and thanks again for the encouragement. 🖤
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Nice to see you've done a profile pic "
Thanks, really appreciate that! 😊 Took the feedback on board figured it was time to step up and show I’m serious about connecting with the right people here. Always open to good conversation and mutual vibes!
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"OP, you need to put a profile picture.
So, SO many ladies and couples don't interact with the Noob Saibot.
Off topic but this is one of the last places where I'd have expected to see someone mention Noob Saibot! Brilliant! 😂"
Haha right? 😄 Gotta keep things interesting who knew Noob Saibot would sneak his way into a Fab thread! Glad someone caught the reference… Toasty! 😂
Always good to know there are a few fellow gamers with a cheeky sense of humour around here. Maybe the next thread will have a Mortal Kombat fatality list for single guys with no pics… 😅
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By *hechonkyduoCouple 8 weeks ago
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"OP, you need to put a profile picture.
So, SO many ladies and couples don't interact with the Noob Saibot.
Off topic but this is one of the last places where I'd have expected to see someone mention Noob Saibot! Brilliant! 😂"
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" ... Sadly, a lot of us get _udged by one bad apple, but it’s amazing when people can see past that and treat everyone as individuals...
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You keep saying that, but it's not always a question of being _udged. For some people, your looks are going to be a total turn off. For others, your looks will feel like you are a sex god come to earth. If you are looking for like minded people, then forget those that are not into you, because otherwise it sounds like you are the one judging them because of their choices. Simply focus on those that like you. Don't worry about the motives for those that don't like you, and perhaps don't _udge them, without knowing their reasons. |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"OP, you need to put a profile picture.
So, SO many ladies and couples don't interact with the Noob Saibot.
Off topic but this is one of the last places where I'd have expected to see someone mention Noob Saibot! Brilliant! 😂
Happy folks in the thread get the reference 😂"
this reference for the Mortal Kombat fans in here 😄 Gotta keep things mysterious, right? But yes, I’ve finally stepped out of the shadows — profile pic now up (slightly less ghost-like)! Appreciate the nudge, and glad to know there are fellow gamers in this wild Fab world! 🎮🖤 |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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" ... Sadly, a lot of us get _udged by one bad apple, but it’s amazing when people can see past that and treat everyone as individuals...
You keep saying that, but it's not always a question of being _udged. For some people, your looks are going to be a total turn off. For others, your looks will feel like you are a sex god come to earth. If you are looking for like minded people, then forget those that are not into you, because otherwise it sounds like you are the one judging them because of their choices. Simply focus on those that like you. Don't worry about the motives for those that don't like you, and perhaps don't _udge them, without knowing their reasons."
You're absolutely right and I genuinely appreciate the perspective. It’s easy to get caught up in wondering why someone doesn’t vibe with you, but you’ve reminded me that it’s way more important to focus on those who do. Everyone has their preferences, and that’s valid no judgment from my side.
Over the last two weeks, I’ve looked through probably 500+ profiles. What I’ve noticed is that while many men seem very open and respectful toward Asian women, women tend to be far more specific in what they’re looking for and that’s totally fair. It’s actually what inspired me to start this forum just trying to understand the space a little better through honest conversation and perspective like yours.
Thanks again for keeping it real. Your words were a solid reminder to not take it personally and just focus on genuine connections. ✌️🙂 |
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OP, from the title of your thread, I honestly thought you were trying to start some sort of a support group for newbies on here. That was until I read your very first post, that was all about you and how you find the site. It's not an easy place to connect with people but it does happen. Yes, it's not fair that people exclude some demographics, for whatever reason, but it's their choice, their preference. For example, I am a self-proclaimed heightist, short men do not turn me on regardless of how well I get on with them in other aspects of life.
What I'd suggest, get involved in the forum, get yourself known here. Clubs and organised socials are good, too, as your personality can shine there, but those are not great for people who are shy and introvert. Happy Fabbing. |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"OP, from the title of your thread, I honestly thought you were trying to start some sort of a support group for newbies on here. That was until I read your very first post, that was all about you and how you find the site. It's not an easy place to connect with people but it does happen. Yes, it's not fair that people exclude some demographics, for whatever reason, but it's their choice, their preference. For example, I am a self-proclaimed heightist, short men do not turn me on regardless of how well I get on with them in other aspects of life.
What I'd suggest, get involved in the forum, get yourself known here. Clubs and organised socials are good, too, as your personality can shine there, but those are not great for people who are shy and introvert. Happy Fabbing. "
Hey, really appreciate you taking the time to share your honest take it actually gave me a fresh perspective. You’re absolutely right, preferences are personal, and while it can be tough to be on the excluded side of things sometimes, I get that attraction isn’t always logical or fair.
My post probably came across as a bit self-focused that wasn’t the intention, just trying to be open about my experience so far. Still finding my footing here and slowly starting to get involved more, so I’ll definitely take your advice on board. I’m not the loudest in the room, but I’m hoping to let my personality come through, even in a space that can feel a bit fast-moving.
Thanks again, and happy fabbing to you too 😊
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By *hechonkyduoCouple 8 weeks ago
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"OP, you need to put a profile picture.
So, SO many ladies and couples don't interact with the Noob Saibot.
Off topic but this is one of the last places where I'd have expected to see someone mention Noob Saibot! Brilliant! 😂
Happy folks in the thread get the reference 😂
this reference for the Mortal Kombat fans in here 😄 Gotta keep things mysterious, right? But yes, I’ve finally stepped out of the shadows — profile pic now up (slightly less ghost-like)! Appreciate the nudge, and glad to know there are fellow gamers in this wild Fab world! 🎮🖤"
There's many gamers on Fab.
Glad to see you come out the shadows Bi Han ❄️❄️ |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"OP, you need to put a profile picture.
So, SO many ladies and couples don't interact with the Noob Saibot.
Off topic but this is one of the last places where I'd have expected to see someone mention Noob Saibot! Brilliant! 😂
Happy folks in the thread get the reference 😂
this reference for the Mortal Kombat fans in here 😄 Gotta keep things mysterious, right? But yes, I’ve finally stepped out of the shadows — profile pic now up (slightly less ghost-like)! Appreciate the nudge, and glad to know there are fellow gamers in this wild Fab world! 🎮🖤
There's many gamers on Fab.
Glad to see you come out the shadows Bi Han ❄️❄️"
Haha, thanks! Had to step out of the shadows and show a bit of Noob Saibot flair here too ❄️😄 Always good to find fellow gamers around!
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"I find it odd , no avatar or photos to the named person .. oh well
I understand it might seem unusual, but I prefer to share photos privately first to keep things discreet. I’m working on updating my profile so it feels more comfortable for everyone. Thanks for your understanding!"
It's all well and good saying you "prefer to share photos privately", the thing is very few, if any, will give you that chance. Once they recieve a message from an avatar you'll be deleted, maybe even blocked. That's what we do and many others do the same. Harsh but true. |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"I find it odd , no avatar or photos to the named person .. oh well
I understand it might seem unusual, but I prefer to share photos privately first to keep things discreet. I’m working on updating my profile so it feels more comfortable for everyone. Thanks for your understanding!
It's all well and good saying you "prefer to share photos privately", the thing is very few, if any, will give you that chance. Once they recieve a message from an avatar you'll be deleted, maybe even blocked. That's what we do and many others do the same. Harsh but true. "
Thanks for being honest really appreciate it.
I’ve only been on here a couple of weeks and still learning how things work. At first, I didn’t post a face pic because I thought it’d be better to share privately once I was comfortable. But yeah, I’ve come to realise that most people don’t wait around for that fair enough, everyone’s got their way of doing things here.
I’ve added my pic now, and just trying to show I’m here for real and open to making genuine connections. It’s not always easy breaking the ice on here, but I’m giving it my best and hoping that bit of effort shows.
Appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts genuinely helpful. 🙏
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TO be honest buddy im finding it so hard on here
i used to be on a few years ago having some great times, but I'm afraid its changed in a big way, theirs certain members on here that seem to have run of the site, a hand full of females and if you don't suck up to them, they privately message each other and you will be ignored,
I know this happens for a fact
The admin should get a grip before they ruin this once great site
just because these woman are very attractive they control everyone including the site police
I was blocked and never once had a conversation, but they all work in this clicky group together so if one blocks they all do it
Im leaving the site for good
hope the management sort Mimi out
she controls the site
like you they all block you |
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"TO be honest buddy im finding it so hard on here
i used to be on a few years ago having some great times, but I'm afraid its changed in a big way, theirs certain members on here that seem to have run of the site, a hand full of females and if you don't suck up to them, they privately message each other and you will be ignored,
I know this happens for a fact
The admin should get a grip before they ruin this once great site
just because these woman are very attractive they control everyone including the site police
I was blocked and never once had a conversation, but they all work in this clicky group together so if one blocks they all do it
Im leaving the site for good
hope the management sort Mimi out
she controls the site
like you they all block you "
Don’t know how many women there are on this site, but find it very hard to believe that a small handful can control the site as you claim. |
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By *hechonkyduoCouple 8 weeks ago
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"OP, you need to put a profile picture.
So, SO many ladies and couples don't interact with the Noob Saibot.
Brilliant reference 👏 👌 "
Calling no profile pic having guys Noob Saibot is the main reason we get blocked 😂 |
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"...theirs certain members on here that seem to have run of the site, a hand full of females and if you don't suck up to them, they privately message each other and you will be ignored,
I know this happens for a fact
The admin should get a grip before they ruin this once great site
just because these woman are very attractive they control everyone including the site police
I was blocked and never once had a conversation, but they all work in this clicky group together so if one blocks they all do it"
I don't know who Mimi is. But I'll often block people without ever speaking to them if their profile or posts demonstrate that they're not people I want to connect with 💜 |
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"...theirs certain members on here that seem to have run of the site, a hand full of females and if you don't suck up to them, they privately message each other and you will be ignored,
I know this happens for a fact
The admin should get a grip before they ruin this once great site
just because these woman are very attractive they control everyone including the site police
I was blocked and never once had a conversation, but they all work in this clicky group together so if one blocks they all do it
I don't know who Mimi is. But I'll often block people without ever speaking to them if their profile or posts demonstrate that they're not people I want to connect with 💜"
Exactly this. I also guess I'm not attractive enough to be in the "clique" that poster mentions as I've never had a private message about not meeting a particular site user. Though I have to admit, I did warn some of my friends about some site users, but also made recommendations, both based on my personal interactions with the site users in question. But that's just normal "looking out for each other" rather than anything else.
In my opinion, the problem with this site is that people (not just men) come on here expecting very little effort to bring massive rewards. Some demographics can afford that, but not others. |
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"TO be honest buddy im finding it so hard on here
i used to be on a few years ago having some great times, but I'm afraid its changed in a big way, theirs certain members on here that seem to have run of the site, a hand full of females and if you don't suck up to them, they privately message each other and you will be ignored,
I know this happens for a fact
The admin should get a grip before they ruin this once great site
just because these woman are very attractive they control everyone including the site police
I was blocked and never once had a conversation, but they all work in this clicky group together so if one blocks they all do it
Im leaving the site for good
hope the management sort Mimi out
she controls the site
like you they all block you "
Hey mate, I really relate to what you’re saying and appreciate your honesty.
I’ve only been on this site for a couple of weeks, but even in that short time, I’ve seen exactly what you’re talking about. There are a lot of profiles that seem to operate within their own private circles almost like a closed community. Sometimes it feels like unless you’re already part of that group or you match a very specific type, you’re just ignored straight away.
And look, I completely understand that everyone has their own preferences that’s part of what makes a place like this fun and personal. But I’ve noticed a pattern where many single female users post content or statuses that invite attention, say they’re “open to respectful singles,” but then turn around and state things like “no Asians” or “only BBC” some even without saying it directly, just showing it through who they respond to.
As a man from an Asian background, I’ve always approached people with respect, manners, and honesty. And I can say, from a male perspective, a lot of us especially from diverse cultures genuinely appreciate women of all races. We don’t close doors based on ethnicity; we value connection, chemistry, and shared interests.
So when we see these kinds of patterns where a respectful message with a face pic is read and ignored without a single “thank you” or “not for me” it’s disheartening. We’re not asking for instant approval, just basic courtesy. That kind of attitude can really discourage people who are actually trying to approach things the right way.
In the end, this is supposed to be a space where people explore freely, without being boxed in by narrow expectations or assumptions. I hope the site can move more in that direction again where it’s about people, not just preferences.
Respect to you for speaking up. Sometimes saying the truth out loud is the first step toward change.
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"OP, you need to put a profile picture.
So, SO many ladies and couples don't interact with the Noob Saibot.
Brilliant reference 👏 👌
Calling no profile pic having guys Noob Saibot is the main reason we get blocked 😂"
Haha guilty as charged 😅 I’ve officially ditched my Noob Saibot cloak though! Profile pic’s up now, so hopefully I stop getting fatalitied before even saying hi 😂. Baby steps, right?
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I'm finding it nearly impossible to get verified by another member.
I'm a genuine bloke trying to find a genuine connection with a regular fwb but nobody will meet someone unverified, but then I can't get verified because nobody will meet, very annoying! |
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"I'm finding it nearly impossible to get verified by another member.
I'm a genuine bloke trying to find a genuine connection with a regular fwb but nobody will meet someone unverified, but then I can't get verified because nobody will meet, very annoying!"
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Have you attended any of the Fab group socials? |
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"I'm finding it nearly impossible to get verified by another member.
I'm a genuine bloke trying to find a genuine connection with a regular fwb but nobody will meet someone unverified, but then I can't get verified because nobody will meet, very annoying!"
Go to a club |
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By *hechonkyduoCouple 8 weeks ago
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"Finding the posts about "Female Cliques" quite amusing. Suspect the people claiming they exist cannot a) Prove it or b) Back up their claims.
Keep it up chaps, makes for an entertaining afternoon "
Fab Illuminati 😂 |
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"Finding the posts about "Female Cliques" quite amusing. Suspect the people claiming they exist cannot a) Prove it or b) Back up their claims.
Keep it up chaps, makes for an entertaining afternoon
Fab Illuminati 😂"
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"I'm finding it nearly impossible to get verified by another member.
I'm a genuine bloke trying to find a genuine connection with a regular fwb but nobody will meet someone unverified, but then I can't get verified because nobody will meet, very annoying!"
Yeah, I completely relate to what you’re saying, mate. That’s actually something I forgot to mention in my first post thanks for bringing it up.
There are a lot of profiles, whether singles or couples, who clearly say they only meet people verified by another member. I get it people want to feel safe, but the truth is, if no one ever gives you a chance, how on earth are you supposed to get verified in the first place? It’s like a closed loop that’s impossible to break into.
Even when someone sends a respectful, genuine message with a proper face pic and puts real effort into starting a conversation, it still gets ignored all because they’re not “verified by another member.” That part honestly feels unfair.
At the end of the day, we all start somewhere. Everyone on here was unverified at one point. So maybe instead of shutting doors completely, people could give newcomers a small chance to prove they’re decent, respectful, and real. That’s how proper connections actually begin.
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By *am007 OP Man 8 weeks ago
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"Finding the posts about "Female Cliques" quite amusing. Suspect the people claiming they exist cannot a) Prove it or b) Back up their claims.
Keep it up chaps, makes for an entertaining afternoon "
Well hey, if we’re providing entertainment, at least we’re doing something right 😄🎭
No secret club handshakes or hidden agendas being exposed here just a few of us sharing what it feels like when you’re new, unverified, and trying to connect, but keep getting ghosted harder than a Halloween party.
We get it everyone’s got preferences, and not every message will hit. But when you start noticing patterns, it’s fair to raise an eyebrow and have a little chat about it, isn’t it?
Anyway, glad you’re enjoying the show maybe we’ll get picked up for a second season. “Desperate Fabswives of the Forum,” anyone? 😂 |
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