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Why do i struggle to get meets on FAB?
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here? |
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I hear where you're coming from, I think just organising meets via messages is always going to be hit and miss, plus probably 80% of fab is single males.
Do you go to clubs, spas, socials and events? You're probably more likely to meet people that way. |
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Welcome to the forums
There's lots of advice threads on this subject
They all will say the same thing
.... have an actual profile
.... have different pics not just all cock. It doesn't speak, you do.
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
I think you're right.
With there being so many guys on FAB, women get the chance to pick the cream of the crop. Can't blame them, I suppose. Why have water when you can have wine?
Maybe i should take your advice and go to a social meet or two. Getting to know people face to face would probably be better. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
I've just copied and pasted your profile text. Seems to work for you.
Ha ha, only joking. But yeah, that gives me an idea as to what i should be aiming for.
Thanks for the advice. Very much appreciated.
Always a bit reluctant to post face pics on here just in case someone i know sees them. Especially family. Imagine that happening? Not sure if I'd be able to look them in the face again.
Thanks again.
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"Welcome to the forums
There's lots of advice threads on this subject
They all will say the same thing
.... have an actual profile
.... have different pics not just all cock. It doesn't speak, you do.
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This ^ |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"Thanks guys.
Yeah, you're right. Glad i asked, though. Everyone seems to be saying the same thing.
Reply and quote helps people know who you are replying to.
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Oh bugger!! Shows i've never used the forum before. Did that reply to you? |
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Imagine you are buying an item of clothing online ..
Would you choose the item with very little description about said item , or would you look around to see if an item is described better , hence having more of an idea of said item you wil be purchasing!
Tell the people about you , what do you want , what can you offer !
Stop with all the dick pics and ffs guys make then arty if you gotta show it lol .
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Op, 6 of your picks are dick pics, you only need one or 2 at most.
You've written nothing about what you can offer a meet and what you're into, except fun.
Most ladies and couples look at a bio before a message, if it's unappealing, they won't look at the message. |
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"Thanks guys.
Yeah, you're right. Glad i asked, though. Everyone seems to be saying the same thing.
Reply and quote helps people know who you are replying to.
Oh bugger!! Shows i've never used the forum before. Did that reply to you? "
Yes it did.
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the simple truth is as your a man they are very very plenty full and attraction is very personal dact is you could have a room full of 300 men and not fancy one or you could have a room of 100 and fancy 10 but you will still only pick one unless your seeking more as in group sex  |
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here? "
You’re not doing anything ‘wrong’ mate, you’re just one in a thousand solo guy profiles in here. It’s a tough gig, made even more difficult if you’re straight, white, and cannot drop whatever you’re doing at a moment’s notice when someone throws you a casual offer….. 
You get so little interest from the opposite sex, because there are so few in here, and women just don’t message first. It’s like a Fab rule……
Use Fab as a distraction from real life, don’t take it seriously, or feel inadequate in any way, because it seems like nobody is interested. You will meet more women at your local Parkrun, than you will in here….
Avoid the clubs as a single guy, they’re even worse than Fab. Try a large organised social, the Manchester Lounge Social would work well for you I reckon, no sense in going too far afield to meet a group of strangers you’ll never meet again….
Or Plan b; grow some tits. You’re guaranteed messages in Fab, when you have tits   |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
You’re not doing anything ‘wrong’ mate, you’re just one in a thousand solo guy profiles in here. It’s a tough gig, made even more difficult if you’re straight, white, and cannot drop whatever you’re doing at a moment’s notice when someone throws you a casual offer…..
You get so little interest from the opposite sex, because there are so few in here, and women just don’t message first. It’s like a Fab rule……
Use Fab as a distraction from real life, don’t take it seriously, or feel inadequate in any way, because it seems like nobody is interested. You will meet more women at your local Parkrun, than you will in here….
Avoid the clubs as a single guy, they’re even worse than Fab. Try a large organised social, the Manchester Lounge Social would work well for you I reckon, no sense in going too far afield to meet a group of strangers you’ll never meet again….
Or Plan b; grow some tits. You’re guaranteed messages in Fab, when you have tits "
Thank you for your wonderful advice, and taking the time to respond.
I'll certainly take note of your wisdom.
It can certainly make you feel inadequate at times. There's lots of competition, and of course, the most sought after guys will always be top of the wish list in here.
thansk again.
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By *rsandMrAtoZCouple 7 weeks ago
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Heya!
It's a challenge being a single chap for all the reasons stated above.
Number 1 thing to change are the dick pics, they are boring. Move them to your private folder. Show off photos of you doing interesting stuff, you don't necessarily need to show your face but what you are interested in.
Number 2 list in your bio who are you, what are you interested in, what hobbies or past times you have.
What makes you different? For instance are you in to going to gigs or concerts or to the theatre, ballet or opera? This is an example as a metal gig is different to seeing a musical in the West End.
Number 3 like it has been said before, meet people in real life at socials or play clubs like Vanilla Alternative or Townhouse. Fab profiles shouldn't be relied upon but meeting someone in person is far better. |
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As a single man you have to make yourself stand out.
Its a very male heavy website, and lifestyle in general.
I always joke that when I get a social it always tends to go well and I establish a good connection. Its just getting that meet. I had a solo account myself, but just wasn't worth my effort. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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On the face of it you are near to us, you seen to fit most criteria we search for, but we would never contact you or respond if you contacted us.
Why?
Your profile makes you sound..... Well.... nice, stable, safe.
She has that already, as has already been said tastes are varied on here, but too generic and safe doesn't really inspire.
Our perspective is as a couple obviously and what works for us, others would disagree with.
Try to get to clubs or socials it will at least increase your circle, which will exponentially increase your possibilities. (Please don't come back with the usual single male answer "clubs or socials are scary" or you'd want someone to go with, if you can't walk into a building with other like minded adults because it's too intimidating, if you can't manage this we would be pretty sure there's no way you are brave enough to fuck another man's wife while he's there or aware)
Your profile is still 60% dick pics we personally don't mind 1 or 2 if as mentioned they're a bit more artsy and less TAADAAH here it is AGAIN!
Our biggest irritation always since being on here however that would shut down any approach, and the best advice we can give is always, and we mean always! read profiles of anyone you contact before you do, but not only read it, but try to understand it from their perspective not yours.
Check your profile in every detail to see how it aligns to what they are looking for, sometimes 1 box not ticked will be the reason you don't get a reply.
You will decrease the number of messages you send but increase the responses. Too many use the scattergun approach and soon run out of targets.
Good luck OP |
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
You’re not doing anything ‘wrong’ mate, you’re just one in a thousand solo guy profiles in here. It’s a tough gig, made even more difficult if you’re straight, white, and cannot drop whatever you’re doing at a moment’s notice when someone throws you a casual offer…..
You get so little interest from the opposite sex, because there are so few in here, and women just don’t message first. It’s like a Fab rule……
Use Fab as a distraction from real life, don’t take it seriously, or feel inadequate in any way, because it seems like nobody is interested. You will meet more women at your local Parkrun, than you will in here….
Avoid the clubs as a single guy, they’re even worse than Fab. Try a large organised social, the Manchester Lounge Social would work well for you I reckon, no sense in going too far afield to meet a group of strangers you’ll never meet again….
Or Plan b; grow some tits. You’re guaranteed messages in Fab, when you have tits "
I'd respectfully disagree about clubs, in my experience. Also, women do sometimes message first. It's as rare as rockinghorse shit, but it does happen.
Also OP, is your username a niche terminator reference?
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
You’re not doing anything ‘wrong’ mate, you’re just one in a thousand solo guy profiles in here. It’s a tough gig, made even more difficult if you’re straight, white, and cannot drop whatever you’re doing at a moment’s notice when someone throws you a casual offer…..
You get so little interest from the opposite sex, because there are so few in here, and women just don’t message first. It’s like a Fab rule……
Use Fab as a distraction from real life, don’t take it seriously, or feel inadequate in any way, because it seems like nobody is interested. You will meet more women at your local Parkrun, than you will in here….
Avoid the clubs as a single guy, they’re even worse than Fab. Try a large organised social, the Manchester Lounge Social would work well for you I reckon, no sense in going too far afield to meet a group of strangers you’ll never meet again….
Or Plan b; grow some tits. You’re guaranteed messages in Fab, when you have tits
I'd respectfully disagree about clubs, in my experience. Also, women do sometimes message first. It's as rare as rockinghorse shit, but it does happen.
Also OP, is your username a niche terminator reference?
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Ha ha. yeah. My user name is a terminator reference. Well spotted.
Technoir, definetely a club to avoid.
Maybe that's why I'm scaring all the women away. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"On the face of it you are near to us, you seen to fit most criteria we search for, but we would never contact you or respond if you contacted us.
Why?
Your profile makes you sound..... Well.... nice, stable, safe.
She has that already, as has already been said tastes are varied on here, but too generic and safe doesn't really inspire.
Our perspective is as a couple obviously and what works for us, others would disagree with.
Try to get to clubs or socials it will at least increase your circle, which will exponentially increase your possibilities. (Please don't come back with the usual single male answer "clubs or socials are scary" or you'd want someone to go with, if you can't walk into a building with other like minded adults because it's too intimidating, if you can't manage this we would be pretty sure there's no way you are brave enough to fuck another man's wife while he's there or aware)
Your profile is still 60% dick pics we personally don't mind 1 or 2 if as mentioned they're a bit more artsy and less TAADAAH here it is AGAIN!
Our biggest irritation always since being on here however that would shut down any approach, and the best advice we can give is always, and we mean always! read profiles of anyone you contact before you do, but not only read it, but try to understand it from their perspective not yours.
Check your profile in every detail to see how it aligns to what they are looking for, sometimes 1 box not ticked will be the reason you don't get a reply.
You will decrease the number of messages you send but increase the responses. Too many use the scattergun approach and soon run out of targets.
Good luck OP"
Thanks for your advice.
personally, i think i preferr my profile to give the impression atht any woman in my company will be 100% safe.
As for clubs, i have been to Adam and Eves. Did have some fun with a guy's wife there. So no problems there for me. On my profile, i have a verification that proves that.
Many thanks for your lengthy response. Very much appreciated. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"As a single man you have to make yourself stand out.
Its a very male heavy website, and lifestyle in general.
I always joke that when I get a social it always tends to go well and I establish a good connection. Its just getting that meet. I had a solo account myself, but just wasn't worth my effort. "
it's not always that easy when you start to get a little older. I'll certainly think of ways to do that though. Maybe wear fancy dress or something.
Thnaks for your help. |
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here? "
Are you successful in getting meets off fab through normal life or pubs, work, etc etc
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
Are you successful in getting meets off fab through normal life or pubs, work, etc etc
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I used to. i'd say there's been a bit of decline in offers as I've got a bit older. |
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
Are you successful in getting meets off fab through normal life or pubs, work, etc etc
I used to. i'd say there's been a bit of decline in offers as I've got a bit older. "
This ageing lark is a bugger lol |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"Heya!
It's a challenge being a single chap for all the reasons stated above.
Number 1 thing to change are the dick pics, they are boring. Move them to your private folder. Show off photos of you doing interesting stuff, you don't necessarily need to show your face but what you are interested in.
Number 2 list in your bio who are you, what are you interested in, what hobbies or past times you have.
What makes you different? For instance are you in to going to gigs or concerts or to the theatre, ballet or opera? This is an example as a metal gig is different to seeing a musical in the West End.
Number 3 like it has been said before, meet people in real life at socials or play clubs like Vanilla Alternative or Townhouse. Fab profiles shouldn't be relied upon but meeting someone in person is far better."
thanks for your help, and for taking the time to respond. i'll certainly take your advice into consideration. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"There's so many wasters on this site. I always say there is more chance of meeting in real life"
there are time wasters. i was meant to have a couple visit on Monday. They didn't show up. They've let me down once before as well. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"Thanks guys.
Yeah, you're right. Glad i asked, though. Everyone seems to be saying the same thing.
Reply and quote helps people know who you are replying to.
Oh bugger!! Shows i've never used the forum before. Did that reply to you?
Yes it did.
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Excellent!
thank you. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"Op, 6 of your picks are dick pics, you only need one or 2 at most.
You've written nothing about what you can offer a meet and what you're into, except fun.
Most ladies and couples look at a bio before a message, if it's unappealing, they won't look at the message. "
I've changed that now. Thank you for your advice. Very much appreciated. |
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You haven't said what you've tried, so can't really help. The onus yon on you to invest effort, without any guarantees of anything.
And on you, to have realistic expectations.
What percentage of people in the wider world find you desirable? Likewise, in swinging clubs? It would normally be a very tiny minority of people who are mutually compatible. Finding each other is hard  |
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
You’re not doing anything ‘wrong’ mate, you’re just one in a thousand solo guy profiles in here. It’s a tough gig, made even more difficult if you’re straight, white, and cannot drop whatever you’re doing at a moment’s notice when someone throws you a casual offer…..
You get so little interest from the opposite sex, because there are so few in here, and women just don’t message first. It’s like a Fab rule……
Use Fab as a distraction from real life, don’t take it seriously, or feel inadequate in any way, because it seems like nobody is interested. You will meet more women at your local Parkrun, than you will in here….
Avoid the clubs as a single guy, they’re even worse than Fab. Try a large organised social, the Manchester Lounge Social would work well for you I reckon, no sense in going too far afield to meet a group of strangers you’ll never meet again….
Or Plan b; grow some tits. You’re guaranteed messages in Fab, when you have tits
I'd respectfully disagree about clubs, in my experience. Also, women do sometimes message first. It's as rare as rocking horse shit, but it does happen.
Also OP, is your username a niche terminator reference?
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I offered my advice about clubs based on my own experiences of visiting as a solo guy; 8 clubs, to a total of 19 visits. I had a couple of positive experiences in them, but no contacts made, and no overwhelming desire to return for more. I've never felt so alone and unwanted. Clubs are for couples |
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It’s possible but can take a lot of work. It took me a long time on here to get my first and second meet. Keep on chatting and it might happen. Try the cams and forums and you never know. I have room of course for more meets in diary |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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You are welcome. It was lengthy as there is no quick one size fits all answer to anyone's struggles on here.
Safety should be a given.
Bear in mind there is nothing YOU" can write on your profile that from our perspective you can write that will make someone feel "safe"
At least from our perspective, only verifications from others who have met you will do that, this is the reason we feel most single guys struggle.
Given the amount of singles asking for advice on their profiles, how to write it and what to write usually makes what's actually written in our perception mostly fluff.
It does however provide a base to check against their messages.
So if the profile says all the things we look for but their initial contact or messages don't reflect the content of their profile then we'll likely call bullshit and move on and respond no further.
Additionally if their verifications reflect a similar tone to the profile (again punch of salt needed as whose ever read a bad verification) then this builds that trust and feeling of safety without the need for you to dull down what you are looking for and have to offer.
That's why our advice is always gain verifications and read a profile, these 2 things alone and understanding the power they have is the key to gaining success.
This in our opinion applies to the majority of singles. Obviously there are the cream who have been mentioned previously, who can rely on stunning looks, fantastic physiques and the perfect endowment to tip the balance.
But even they will struggle until they receive those first few verifications to convince others they are genuine or safe.
The easiest way to gain those as we and others have said is by going to clubs and socials to actually prove firstly that you are genuinely putting yourself out there. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Plenty of single males have 1 verification, that's easy to achieve, multiple even just social prove you are safe.
We have also been to several clubs on many occasions and have seen several singles that clearly are going to struggle for many reasons, but the club and any attendees will usually happily verify single males who follow the rules and make an effort.
You can listen to your target market or others. |
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Try the socials you do meet some great people without the pressure of play.
If you message be polite, show you have read the message.
Don't get downhearted with no replies or knock backs. Couples and single ladies have a big choice and we can't be everyone's cup of tea
I have face pics in friends folder but happy to send if asked for them
Good luck and happy fabbing
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Feel free to browse my profile,
I get 25+ views per day every day, messages have picked up as well recently so probably average 10+ per day at mo.. Had a few socials and meets recently..
Last profile I had was similar to my one now I had over 70 meets in around 2 years, more than half i had a fun date.. Have faith and trust the process..
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By *host63Man 7 weeks ago
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here? "
Because you are a man |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"Try the socials you do meet some great people without the pressure of play.
If you message be polite, show you have read the message.
Don't get downhearted with no replies or knock backs. Couples and single ladies have a big choice and we can't be everyone's cup of tea
I have face pics in friends folder but happy to send if asked for them
Good luck and happy fabbing
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Thanks for your help. You certainly seem to have done ratehr well for yourself on here. Shows it can be done. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
Because you are a man "
Well, does seem to be the case for many of us on fab, but, judging by some of the responces here, guys can hve fun too.
Keep trying. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"Feel free to browse my profile,
I get 25+ views per day every day, messages have picked up as well recently so probably average 10+ per day at mo.. Had a few socials and meets recently..
Last profile I had was similar to my one now I had over 70 meets in around 2 years, more than half i had a fun date.. Have faith and trust the process..
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Thanks Eric. I've done that.
You've done very well. Send some my way when you're ready. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"It’s possible but can take a lot of work. It took me a long time on here to get my first and second meet. Keep on chatting and it might happen. Try the cams and forums and you never know. I have room of course for more meets in diary "
Thanks for your response, mr cumagain.
Being in the forum has certainly led to more views and messages. i think people get a better picture of who you are as a person if you engage with them more.
makes sense really i suppose. I'll definitely be visiting the forum more often from now on.
have a nice day. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
Are you successful in getting meets off fab through normal life or pubs, work, etc etc
I used to. i'd say there's been a bit of decline in offers as I've got a bit older.
This ageing lark is a bugger lol "
Oh, it really is. can't wait to see what age brings over the next few years. sarcasm intended,  |
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
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"You haven't said what you've tried, so can't really help. The onus yon on you to invest effort, without any guarantees of anything.
And on you, to have realistic expectations.
What percentage of people in the wider world find you desirable? Likewise, in swinging clubs? It would normally be a very tiny minority of people who are mutually compatible. Finding each other is hard "
I've taken your advice. thank you sophie. x |
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You know that in life things just don’t happen. Just accept it and either change your profile to see if that changes your meeting rate.
I bet you don’t do the lottery and expect to win every time !
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here? "
Too many dick pics and your photos are lazy, no effort.
You initially mention hello guys and then hello girls but say you prefer girls.
Bit confusing, profile says straight, sounds like you are bi.
From the Manchester area you have a massive amount of clubs and socials, why haven't you given at least a few a whirl.
Blackpool is a train ride away, with loads of options.
Your profile makes you look lazy from the fact you have made no effort to visit so many swinger meet up options and lazy photos.
May not reflect the real you but how do you read your profile.
Don't ever get hung up over the numbers on here and feeling they are competition.
Around 75% of people on here are timewasters so your competition is minimal.
Get yourself out there, it's a great world if you bang in some effort.
Good luck and happy bunting.
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Pics. The pics would be the reason we'd either delete your message or reply with a "no thanks" if your message was better than average.
Your pics are doing you no favours at all and we'd genuinely suggest scrubbing them all and starting from scratch. Phone nowadays have so many editing options and with a bit of thought on lighting it's not difficult to get some decent shots.
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By *echnoir OP Man 7 weeks ago
manchester |
"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
Too many dick pics and your photos are lazy, no effort.
You initially mention hello guys and then hello girls but say you prefer girls.
Bit confusing, profile says straight, sounds like you are bi.
From the Manchester area you have a massive amount of clubs and socials, why haven't you given at least a few a whirl.
Blackpool is a train ride away, with loads of options.
Your profile makes you look lazy from the fact you have made no effort to visit so many swinger meet up options and lazy photos.
May not reflect the real you but how do you read your profile.
Don't ever get hung up over the numbers on here and feeling they are competition.
Around 75% of people on here are timewasters so your competition is minimal.
Get yourself out there, it's a great world if you bang in some effort.
Good luck and happy bunting.
i've been to a swingers club. Met some lovely people. All promised to give me verifications, but never did.
So, yes, I have tried.
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here?
Too many dick pics and your photos are lazy, no effort.
You initially mention hello guys and then hello girls but say you prefer girls.
Bit confusing, profile says straight, sounds like you are bi.
From the Manchester area you have a massive amount of clubs and socials, why haven't you given at least a few a whirl.
Blackpool is a train ride away, with loads of options.
Your profile makes you look lazy from the fact you have made no effort to visit so many swinger meet up options and lazy photos.
May not reflect the real you but how do you read your profile.
Don't ever get hung up over the numbers on here and feeling they are competition.
Around 75% of people on here are timewasters so your competition is minimal.
Get yourself out there, it's a great world if you bang in some effort.
Good luck and happy bunting.
i've been to a swingers club. Met some lovely people. All promised to give me verifications, but never did.
So, yes, I have tried.
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Get yourself back to either the same club or try other ones, don't just rely on one visit.
Get along to a social meet, look on the forums, Manchester and the NW have plenty to choose from.
We needed to visit more than one club to get our faces around, and we're a couple.
Takes effort and time but well worth it. |
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here? "
Less cock pictures More face and body pictures. Try that for starters. |
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"Maybe a few less cock pics and a face pic?
More about yourself in the profile.
Message women who you think you may meet there criteria "
I agree with this. Too many cock pictures, blurry photos or with messy surroundings put me off. I like someone who puts a bit of effort in. |
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Because women and couples have soooo many options which is good
Compare your profile with other guys looking for the same as you in your search area
Would you choose you if you were a woman/couple searching ? If you wouldn’t why should they
You’ve had a meet so it’s not all doom and gloom
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here? "
for me personally it's only as you have no face photo..seeing cock pics turn me off as all are roughly the same .have some imagination size is irrelevant |
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No one wants to see your cock, so get rid of the pics. A lady, or if it is your thing, a guy, will ask for a pic if required. Get a decent head and shoulders shot or two to send with your opening message. Write a friendly and warm opening message. If you get no reply or get turned down, don't take it personally. There are probably 100 men on here for every woman so they can pick and choose who they wish to interact with or otherwise. My first profile was in 2020, just as COVID arrived. I have had several coffee meets, a few fun and frolics encounters, 100s of unanswered/unread messages and a few no shows. Seems a lot of folks meet at clubs and they get friendly there. Last bit of advice: Don't take it so seriously! This place is just a game! You win sometimes and lose. Many of the women have horrible experiences on here with aggressive men getting angry when they are turned down, so the women tend not to engage so readily. They are getting 100s of messages.
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"No one wants to see your cock, so get rid of the pics. A lady, or if it is your thing, a guy, will ask for a pic if required. Get a decent head and shoulders shot or two to send with your opening message. Write a friendly and warm opening message. If you get no reply or get turned down, don't take it personally. There are probably 100 men on here for every woman so they can pick and choose who they wish to interact with or otherwise. My first profile was in 2020, just as COVID arrived. I have had several coffee meets, a few fun and frolics encounters, 100s of unanswered/unread messages and a few no shows. Seems a lot of folks meet at clubs and they get friendly there. Last bit of advice: Don't take it so seriously! This place is just a game! You win sometimes and lose. Many of the women have horrible experiences on here with aggressive men getting angry when they are turned down, so the women tend not to engage so readily. They are getting 100s of messages.
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can i just say its a 50/50 thing with cock pics for as many who dont like there as many who do like (not loads tho) i also wont meet until ive seen a cock pic (zero to do with size) hopefully as a full body pic along with face... its not a good idea to tell people that us women are all the same ... also these forums are so small so so small that what the forum thinks is no real reflection on this scene as a whole ... |
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By *echnoir OP Man 6 weeks ago
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"No one wants to see your cock, so get rid of the pics. A lady, or if it is your thing, a guy, will ask for a pic if required. Get a decent head and shoulders shot or two to send with your opening message. Write a friendly and warm opening message. If you get no reply or get turned down, don't take it personally. There are probably 100 men on here for every woman so they can pick and choose who they wish to interact with or otherwise. My first profile was in 2020, just as COVID arrived. I have had several coffee meets, a few fun and frolics encounters, 100s of unanswered/unread messages and a few no shows. Seems a lot of folks meet at clubs and they get friendly there. Last bit of advice: Don't take it so seriously! This place is just a game! You win sometimes and lose. Many of the women have horrible experiences on here with aggressive men getting angry when they are turned down, so the women tend not to engage so readily. They are getting 100s of messages.
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Yeah, i get you. I knwo tehre are some unsavoury characters on here, You can't blame women for being cautious. I've been sending face pics,with nice messages, Still leads to nothing.
i have to live with the fact that i'm not everyone's cup of tea, but constantly being rejected can be a little hurtful at times. especilly when it comes along with critism regarding your appearence as well. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 6 weeks ago
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"No one wants to see your cock, so get rid of the pics. A lady, or if it is your thing, a guy, will ask for a pic if required. Get a decent head and shoulders shot or two to send with your opening message. Write a friendly and warm opening message. If you get no reply or get turned down, don't take it personally. There are probably 100 men on here for every woman so they can pick and choose who they wish to interact with or otherwise. My first profile was in 2020, just as COVID arrived. I have had several coffee meets, a few fun and frolics encounters, 100s of unanswered/unread messages and a few no shows. Seems a lot of folks meet at clubs and they get friendly there. Last bit of advice: Don't take it so seriously! This place is just a game! You win sometimes and lose. Many of the women have horrible experiences on here with aggressive men getting angry when they are turned down, so the women tend not to engage so readily. They are getting 100s of messages.
can i just say its a 50/50 thing with cock pics for as many who dont like there as many who do like (not loads tho) i also wont meet until ive seen a cock pic (zero to do with size) hopefully as a full body pic along with face... its not a good idea to tell people that us women are all the same ... also these forums are so small so so small that what the forum thinks is no real reflection on this scene as a whole ..."
Yeah, i get you. I know cock pics aren't always what peopel require and i certainly know that all women aren't the same. |
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Hide all except one of the cock pics. The cock after cock would put many off.
Share a clothed pic, what would you wear to a meet?
A torso pic or a cheeky bum pic, or even a full body naked pic with a strategically placed book/towel/vase.
Your profile text is waffle but ok, cos it will match you with female wafflers
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Doesn't matter how perfect your profile is or how you conduct yourself the odds are stacked way against you. Don't beat yourself up about it. Sometimes the stats and maths isn't in your favour. The reality is the guys that get all the meets are shagging around and the women turn a blind eye for that BBC etc . Truck loads of 'proof of being real' as in verifications just means you are dicing with sexual health risks. If you've standards then that's only natural .. it would appear that the popular folks ( with lots of verifications and talk of getting meets easily) don't have much in the way of standards...
So I'd lower your expectations on here and do the more human thing and go to socials and clubs and interact 👍 |
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By *echnoir OP Man 6 weeks ago
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"Hide all except one of the cock pics. The cock after cock would put many off.
Share a clothed pic, what would you wear to a meet?
A torso pic or a cheeky bum pic, or even a full body naked pic with a strategically placed book/towel/vase.
Your profile text is waffle but ok, cos it will match you with female wafflers
i shall do that.
Strangely, the waffle appeared after people mentioned i didn't say enough. I do find that some of that advice came from profiles...where i couldn't be bothered reading past the first few pages. Too much can get boring.
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By *echnoir OP Man 6 weeks ago
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"Doesn't matter how perfect your profile is or how you conduct yourself the odds are stacked way against you. Don't beat yourself up about it. Sometimes the stats and maths isn't in your favour. The reality is the guys that get all the meets are shagging around and the women turn a blind eye for that BBC etc . Truck loads of 'proof of being real' as in verifications just means you are dicing with sexual health risks. If you've standards then that's only natural .. it would appear that the popular folks ( with lots of verifications and talk of getting meets easily) don't have much in the way of standards...
So I'd lower your expectations on here and do the more human thing and go to socials and clubs and interact 👍"
Thanks very much for your input.
I have to admit, when i read profiles of 100 plus meets, i do start to feel more concerned about any risks involved. |
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Can I just ask
There's 15 posters that have said about pics and a couple that have said they don't mind a profile with lots of dick pics.
You wrote you'd consider your pics with changes to your profile yet...no changes
There's 100s if similar posts that give advice that if it's all cock and samey pics they will pass by so isn't that something that would be tried not considered?
You could always change back ? |
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"I have to admit, when i read profiles of 100 plus meets, i do start to feel more concerned about any risks involved. "
We have loads of verifications but the vast majority are from people we've spoken to in clubs, at socials or events and not play verifications. Don't assume that people with lots of verifications are having sex with more people than average, and don't assume they are any less safe.
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By *echnoir OP Man 6 weeks ago
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There's 15 posters that have said about pics and a couple that have said they don't mind a profile with lots of dick pics.
You wrote you'd consider your pics with changes to your profile yet...no changes
There's 100s if similar posts that give advice that if it's all cock and samey pics they will pass by so isn't that something that would be tried not considered?
You could always change back ?"
I've removed some of the cock pics. I have face photos as well, for private messages, that i'm not too keen on sharing on my profile. I will be doing more photos soon. I have taken people's advice. Just need to tweek things a bit more.
Thanks for your advice. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 6 weeks ago
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"I have to admit, when i read profiles of 100 plus meets, i do start to feel more concerned about any risks involved.
We have loads of verifications but the vast majority are from people we've spoken to in clubs, at socials or events and not play verifications. Don't assume that people with lots of verifications are having sex with more people than average, and don't assume they are any less safe.
yep, my apologies.
usually, i'm the type of peron pointing out assumptions.
whoops!
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"yep, my apologies.
usually, i'm the type of peron pointing out assumptions.
whoops!"
No worries. It's just scary how many people (usually single guys) want to have sex with people that like casual sex, but seems to think they can dictate just how much casual sex is acceptable 🤣
Ok another note....dick pics are fine, as long as they're classy/tastefully done and not just close-ups held in some kind of grip of death to make them seem huge. We like to see one nice dick pic just to make sure it's not too small/big/hairy/warty/etc.
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By *echnoir OP Man 6 weeks ago
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usually, i'm the type of peron pointing out assumptions.
whoops!
No worries. It's just scary how many people (usually single guys) want to have sex with people that like casual sex, but seems to think they can dictate just how much casual sex is acceptable 🤣
Ok another note....dick pics are fine, as long as they're classy/tastefully done and not just close-ups held in some kind of grip of death to make them seem huge. We like to see one nice dick pic just to make sure it's not too small/big/hairy/warty/etc.
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Grip of death..
Yeah, i get you. Consider myself told.
I've afew cock pics on there. Not too many now, i hope.
Learning some valuable lessons. |
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Talking about using different “techniques” to get meets is a red flag. While I appreciate it is frustrating to send messages out and not get replies, no one owes you a response.
If more people behaved as if they were having an actual, real life conversation with a person and not treating it like a numbers game, I think meets would not be as hard to come by. |
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By *echnoir OP Man 6 weeks ago
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"Talking about using different “techniques” to get meets is a red flag. While I appreciate it is frustrating to send messages out and not get replies, no one owes you a response.
If more people behaved as if they were having an actual, real life conversation with a person and not treating it like a numbers game, I think meets would not be as hard to come by. "
Like i said. i've tried it all. Messages get deleted.
You can be too nice, not nice enough.
It's difficult to know what to be when your messages get deleted so often. |
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"Like i said. i've tried it all. Messages get deleted.
You can be too nice, not nice enough.
It's difficult to know what to be when your messages get deleted so often. "
Just be you. If you make yourself "nicer" or "less nice" to suit people, then you'll not be what they were expecting when you do meet.
It's just patience and expectations on here. There's very, very few single women and couples compared to single guys, and let's face it - most single guys would be happy with a meet every single day. We're probably quite typical as a couple and meet maybe twice a month at best.
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I only send nice polite messages because that's who I am.
I've had a very nice social meet and been to an arranged social gathering meet which was also great. The key is too not get too expectant and be yourself. If it happens it does.
Just be yourself. It's a lots easier that way |
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"I have found attending clubs works best ....Fab is there to keep in touch with people you have met at the club....
And it's much safer to meet at a club. .."
?????? the swinging club scene is tiny just think how few clibs there are across the uk add in that they rarely are full most struggling to even stay open its a tiny tiny part so fab is ''not'' a lets stay in touch ... for most people fab is the meeting platform that works for most couples and women not men but thats because of numbers...
add the clubs up times it with how many people are in and you end up with a national number thats very low hence why there are not clubs in every town...
online swinging is massive tho many are not what they say they are
private house parties /private meets have been getting bigger yearly since covid and the massive rise in men
dogging is bigger than clubs and tho nothing like the golden days its growing with many more couples joining in even seeing single women again..
we do a club once a month all over uk book hotel then a club been doing this pretty much as far back as when the only club was in west midlands there were none in the southwest only when dogging was getting harder did more clubs open but we've notice the drop in club vistors since covid..
i wish i was wrong and i wished that clubs were everywhere and they were full but its not the case even in Europe the cant fill the few clubs unless they tie in with a holiday destination ..
so clubs are a tiny tiny part just add the clubs up uk wise then average there footfall and you end up with a tiny scene narrow it down to your local area then you start to see how few use clubs..
now i/us we love clubs as said once a month and i wish every club was so full that we needed more but most find it easier to meet ''online '' or ''dogging'' when we do clubs we rarely play but where clubs are good is we get to meet them away from the club mist of the guys ive met ove rhe years have come from phone numbers swapped in clubs so i love the club scene wish alot more used it especially men wish clubs would lift the restriction
and tho fab is the ''king'' site there are others and even those swipe sites are easy ...
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"I have found attending clubs works best ....Fab is there to keep in touch with people you have met at the club....
And it's much safer to meet at a club. ..
?????? the swinging club scene is tiny just think how few clibs there are across the uk add in that they rarely are full most struggling to even stay open its a tiny tiny part so fab is ''not'' a lets stay in touch ... for most people fab is the meeting platform that works for most couples and women not men but thats because of numbers...
add the clubs up times it with how many people are in and you end up with a national number thats very low hence why there are not clubs in every town...
online swinging is massive tho many are not what they say they are
private house parties /private meets have been getting bigger yearly since covid and the massive rise in men
dogging is bigger than clubs and tho nothing like the golden days its growing with many more couples joining in even seeing single women again..
we do a club once a month all over uk book hotel then a club been doing this pretty much as far back as when the only club was in west midlands there were none in the southwest only when dogging was getting harder did more clubs open but we've notice the drop in club vistors since covid..
i wish i was wrong and i wished that clubs were everywhere and they were full but its not the case even in Europe the cant fill the few clubs unless they tie in with a holiday destination ..
so clubs are a tiny tiny part just add the clubs up uk wise then average there footfall and you end up with a tiny scene narrow it down to your local area then you start to see how few use clubs..
now i/us we love clubs as said once a month and i wish every club was so full that we needed more but most find it easier to meet ''online '' or ''dogging'' when we do clubs we rarely play but where clubs are good is we get to meet them away from the club mist of the guys ive met ove rhe years have come from phone numbers swapped in clubs so i love the club scene wish alot more used it especially men wish clubs would lift the restriction
and tho fab is the ''king'' site there are others and even those swipe sites are easy ...
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I'm just spoilt as have 2 very good clubs 10 minutes from my home.
They are far from empty.
The event I run sees between 150 and 250 attend ....
This Friday we have 200 people booked in so on the night we would assume 250 people .
There are a couple of festivals too which have attendees in the 100s.
I appreciated in the west country your choices are limited.
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"I have found attending clubs works best ....Fab is there to keep in touch with people you have met at the club....
And it's much safer to meet at a club. ..
?????? the swinging club scene is tiny just think how few clibs there are across the uk add in that they rarely are full most struggling to even stay open its a tiny tiny part so fab is ''not'' a lets stay in touch ... for most people fab is the meeting platform that works for most couples and women not men but thats because of numbers...
add the clubs up times it with how many people are in and you end up with a national number thats very low hence why there are not clubs in every town...
online swinging is massive tho many are not what they say they are
private house parties /private meets have been getting bigger yearly since covid and the massive rise in men
dogging is bigger than clubs and tho nothing like the golden days its growing with many more couples joining in even seeing single women again..
we do a club once a month all over uk book hotel then a club been doing this pretty much as far back as when the only club was in west midlands there were none in the southwest only when dogging was getting harder did more clubs open but we've notice the drop in club vistors since covid..
i wish i was wrong and i wished that clubs were everywhere and they were full but its not the case even in Europe the cant fill the few clubs unless they tie in with a holiday destination ..
so clubs are a tiny tiny part just add the clubs up uk wise then average there footfall and you end up with a tiny scene narrow it down to your local area then you start to see how few use clubs..
now i/us we love clubs as said once a month and i wish every club was so full that we needed more but most find it easier to meet ''online '' or ''dogging'' when we do clubs we rarely play but where clubs are good is we get to meet them away from the club mist of the guys ive met ove rhe years have come from phone numbers swapped in clubs so i love the club scene wish alot more used it especially men wish clubs would lift the restriction
and tho fab is the ''king'' site there are others and even those swipe sites are easy ...
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If clubs were more friendly and welcoming towards single guys, more would use them I'm sure. I've been to several around the NE and NW, and rarely felt 'wanted' in the club environment. You only have to read some of the comments in the forum, to get a feel for how single guys are treated in the clubs, even worse is to get that treatment face to face....
Fab has been great for me over the years. Clubs have been.....meh. Dogging was just dodgy geezers hanging around, never any women or couples. I'll continue using Fab in any case |
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"I have found attending clubs works best ....Fab is there to keep in touch with people you have met at the club....
And it's much safer to meet at a club. ..
?????? the swinging club scene is tiny just think how few clibs there are across the uk add in that they rarely are full most struggling to even stay open its a tiny tiny part so fab is ''not'' a lets stay in touch ... for most people fab is the meeting platform that works for most couples and women not men but thats because of numbers...
add the clubs up times it with how many people are in and you end up with a national number thats very low hence why there are not clubs in every town...
online swinging is massive tho many are not what they say they are
private house parties /private meets have been getting bigger yearly since covid and the massive rise in men
dogging is bigger than clubs and tho nothing like the golden days its growing with many more couples joining in even seeing single women again..
we do a club once a month all over uk book hotel then a club been doing this pretty much as far back as when the only club was in west midlands there were none in the southwest only when dogging was getting harder did more clubs open but we've notice the drop in club vistors since covid..
i wish i was wrong and i wished that clubs were everywhere and they were full but its not the case even in Europe the cant fill the few clubs unless they tie in with a holiday destination ..
so clubs are a tiny tiny part just add the clubs up uk wise then average there footfall and you end up with a tiny scene narrow it down to your local area then you start to see how few use clubs..
now i/us we love clubs as said once a month and i wish every club was so full that we needed more but most find it easier to meet ''online '' or ''dogging'' when we do clubs we rarely play but where clubs are good is we get to meet them away from the club mist of the guys ive met ove rhe years have come from phone numbers swapped in clubs so i love the club scene wish alot more used it especially men wish clubs would lift the restriction
and tho fab is the ''king'' site there are others and even those swipe sites are easy ...
I'm just spoilt as have 2 very good clubs 10 minutes from my home.
They are far from empty.
The event I run sees between 150 and 250 attend ....
This Friday we have 200 people booked in so on the night we would assume 250 people .
There are a couple of festivals too which have attendees in the 100s.
I appreciated in the west country your choices are limited.
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your missing the point even those that are full add up how many clubs there are in the uk then lets say they are all full add all those numbers together will give you a very small % of the scene as a whole as i said the club scene is tiny compared to the scene as a whole .. |
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"I have found attending clubs works best ....Fab is there to keep in touch with people you have met at the club....
And it's much safer to meet at a club. ..
?????? the swinging club scene is tiny just think how few clibs there are across the uk add in that they rarely are full most struggling to even stay open its a tiny tiny part so fab is ''not'' a lets stay in touch ... for most people fab is the meeting platform that works for most couples and women not men but thats because of numbers...
add the clubs up times it with how many people are in and you end up with a national number thats very low hence why there are not clubs in every town...
online swinging is massive tho many are not what they say they are
private house parties /private meets have been getting bigger yearly since covid and the massive rise in men
dogging is bigger than clubs and tho nothing like the golden days its growing with many more couples joining in even seeing single women again..
we do a club once a month all over uk book hotel then a club been doing this pretty much as far back as when the only club was in west midlands there were none in the southwest only when dogging was getting harder did more clubs open but we've notice the drop in club vistors since covid..
i wish i was wrong and i wished that clubs were everywhere and they were full but its not the case even in Europe the cant fill the few clubs unless they tie in with a holiday destination ..
so clubs are a tiny tiny part just add the clubs up uk wise then average there footfall and you end up with a tiny scene narrow it down to your local area then you start to see how few use clubs..
now i/us we love clubs as said once a month and i wish every club was so full that we needed more but most find it easier to meet ''online '' or ''dogging'' when we do clubs we rarely play but where clubs are good is we get to meet them away from the club mist of the guys ive met ove rhe years have come from phone numbers swapped in clubs so i love the club scene wish alot more used it especially men wish clubs would lift the restriction
and tho fab is the ''king'' site there are others and even those swipe sites are easy ...
If clubs were more friendly and welcoming towards single guys, more would use them I'm sure. I've been to several around the NE and NW, and rarely felt 'wanted' in the club environment. You only have to read some of the comments in the forum, to get a feel for how single guys are treated in the clubs, even worse is to get that treatment face to face....
Fab has been great for me over the years. Clubs have been.....meh. Dogging was just dodgy geezers hanging around, never any women or couples. I'll continue using Fab in any case "
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"I have found attending clubs works best ....Fab is there to keep in touch with people you have met at the club....
And it's much safer to meet at a club. ..
?????? the swinging club scene is tiny just think how few clibs there are across the uk add in that they rarely are full most struggling to even stay open its a tiny tiny part so fab is ''not'' a lets stay in touch ... for most people fab is the meeting platform that works for most couples and women not men but thats because of numbers...
add the clubs up times it with how many people are in and you end up with a national number thats very low hence why there are not clubs in every town...
online swinging is massive tho many are not what they say they are
private house parties /private meets have been getting bigger yearly since covid and the massive rise in men
dogging is bigger than clubs and tho nothing like the golden days its growing with many more couples joining in even seeing single women again..
we do a club once a month all over uk book hotel then a club been doing this pretty much as far back as when the only club was in west midlands there were none in the southwest only when dogging was getting harder did more clubs open but we've notice the drop in club vistors since covid..
i wish i was wrong and i wished that clubs were everywhere and they were full but its not the case even in Europe the cant fill the few clubs unless they tie in with a holiday destination ..
so clubs are a tiny tiny part just add the clubs up uk wise then average there footfall and you end up with a tiny scene narrow it down to your local area then you start to see how few use clubs..
now i/us we love clubs as said once a month and i wish every club was so full that we needed more but most find it easier to meet ''online '' or ''dogging'' when we do clubs we rarely play but where clubs are good is we get to meet them away from the club mist of the guys ive met ove rhe years have come from phone numbers swapped in clubs so i love the club scene wish alot more used it especially men wish clubs would lift the restriction
and tho fab is the ''king'' site there are others and even those swipe sites are easy ...
If clubs were more friendly and welcoming towards single guys, more would use them I'm sure. I've been to several around the NE and NW, and rarely felt 'wanted' in the club environment. You only have to read some of the comments in the forum, to get a feel for how single guys are treated in the clubs, even worse is to get that treatment face to face....
Fab has been great for me over the years. Clubs have been.....meh. Dogging was just dodgy geezers hanging around, never any women or couples. I'll continue using Fab in any case
in my opinion never been in a club that was not friendly ..unfriendly people in some yes clubs themselves no"
Oh yes, don’t get me wrong; clubs themselves are just bricks and mortar, fixtures and fittings. Any club ‘experience’ relies on WHO you meet inside, and how the staff/hosts treat you.
Out of the 8 clubs I’ve been to as a single guy, there was only 2 didn’t give me the usual “Single guy? Thanks for your money, it’s through there” style welcome….. |
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By *JohnMan 6 weeks ago
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At the clubs I've been to, the biggest factor in the experience I've had has not been the club, not the staff, and not even the other guests. It's been me.
Clubs can be a great place for anyone who goes with the right attitude and presents themselves the right way. That includes single men. There are plenty of couples and women who go to clubs because they're looking for single men, after all.
If you've tried several, several times each, and been disappointed every time, you can only blame yourself.
They are not for everyone. Some people will prefer other things. But to say that single men aren't welcome, and shouldn't try, ignoring the experience of many who have had a great time at clubs, simply because whatever it is that you're doing doesn't work, is not helping anyone
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"I've been on FAB a number of years now.
I've tried every technique in the book to try to get women to meet up with me.
It just never seems to happen.
In all the time i've been on here, I've managed one meet, with a couple.
I've had other couples say they will meet up, only to then be let down at the last minute.
what am i doing wrong?
Why so little interest from the opposite sex?
Why so few successful meets when so many members seem to have countless meets with other forum members?
Any tips on how to be more successful on here? "
I think the main thing is that you're not me and that's a hard pill to swallow |
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"I have found attending clubs works best ....Fab is there to keep in touch with people you have met at the club....
And it's much safer to meet at a club. ..
?????? the swinging club scene is tiny just think how few clibs there are across the uk add in that they rarely are full most struggling to even stay open its a tiny tiny part so fab is ''not'' a lets stay in touch ... for most people fab is the meeting platform that works for most couples and women not men but thats because of numbers...
add the clubs up times it with how many people are in and you end up with a national number thats very low hence why there are not clubs in every town...
online swinging is massive tho many are not what they say they are
private house parties /private meets have been getting bigger yearly since covid and the massive rise in men
dogging is bigger than clubs and tho nothing like the golden days its growing with many more couples joining in even seeing single women again..
we do a club once a month all over uk book hotel then a club been doing this pretty much as far back as when the only club was in west midlands there were none in the southwest only when dogging was getting harder did more clubs open but we've notice the drop in club vistors since covid..
i wish i was wrong and i wished that clubs were everywhere and they were full but its not the case even in Europe the cant fill the few clubs unless they tie in with a holiday destination ..
so clubs are a tiny tiny part just add the clubs up uk wise then average there footfall and you end up with a tiny scene narrow it down to your local area then you start to see how few use clubs..
now i/us we love clubs as said once a month and i wish every club was so full that we needed more but most find it easier to meet ''online '' or ''dogging'' when we do clubs we rarely play but where clubs are good is we get to meet them away from the club mist of the guys ive met ove rhe years have come from phone numbers swapped in clubs so i love the club scene wish alot more used it especially men wish clubs would lift the restriction
and tho fab is the ''king'' site there are others and even those swipe sites are easy ...
I'm just spoilt as have 2 very good clubs 10 minutes from my home.
They are far from empty.
The event I run sees between 150 and 250 attend ....
This Friday we have 200 people booked in so on the night we would assume 250 people .
There are a couple of festivals too which have attendees in the 100s.
I appreciated in the west country your choices are limited.
your missing the point even those that are full add up how many clubs there are in the uk then lets say they are all full add all those numbers together will give you a very small % of the scene as a whole as i said the club scene is tiny compared to the scene as a whole .."
Club VA has 48,000 active annual members...not small % |
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Men mostly struggle because there are so many men on here that the ladies, or otherwise, have a very wide range to choose from. I've been on and off since 2020-5 years and I would say I've had about a dozen meets with one long-term FWB thing. Best not to take it too seriously and keep your expectations measured. At least you are in the UK where there are far more registered users-Ireland is not as vast. |
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You’ll find that the older you get the worse it get to. every woman and couples have a cut off at 57. I’ve been on a 10 years as struggled all the time. I’ve tried everything changing my pictures profile name and my interests and still no luck.. to get any meets and now I’m coming up to 60 and know one wants to talk to you. Other than straight men that want to come and fuck me or me fuck them. |
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