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Do any other guys have trouble staying hard whilst using condoms? I will always wear a condom for the obvious reasons, but the diminished sensation has always caused issues for me.
We got with a couple at a club last Wednesday, and whilst I was with my wife he was working perfectly (I also had viagra which made him work even better) … he was also working perfectly when the other female was giving me oral/using her hands whilst I wasn’t using a condom. As soon as I put the condom on and was inside the other female I could feel him starting to lose interest… again I even had viagra which was working up until this point and after this point when I wasn’t inside of her anymore.
This embarrassing situation has happened every time that we have been with couples and it’s starting to make me feel anxious about the next time.
I have always really fancied the other females that we get with and my brain really wants to show her a good time, but my dick has other plans.
Thanks x
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On the rare occasion I wear them. You have to get one that fits properly. Makes the world of difference and almost feels bare anyway. So get your knob measured properly on on of those condom measurement sites and thank me later |
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Yes same issue here, tried various different condoms but never feels the same as most would agree. Cherry feels the same too and can tell the difference !. Hence we play bare but limit contact for (yet to be found) regular friends. Sometimes a little soft play in clubs.... |
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I experienced it when we started out.
Tried lots of different brands and now only use skyns....they work for me.
People will tell you all condoms will fit, its absolute bollocks. Some really restrict blood flow for me.
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"Thank you so much guys for the replies and the advice, it is greatly appreciated. James x "
And don't be embarrassed- it can happen to anyone.
If you go soft, another couple provides plenty of hands and mouths to make you hard again  |
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Like others have said, finding ones that fit are key. Check the nominal width as that is often where construction happens.
To get used to them, consider wanking with them on or get a fleshlight to normalise the feel of them. A smidge of lube inside the condom can also help.
We do gabgbangs and often guys get overwhelmed when they lose it. Try stepping back and going to other stuff to avoid getting into your head and being present in the feeling and person. Rather than worrying about performance. I’ve met some amazing guys with other skills that way outperform dickings.
Xx
Ms |
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And don't be embarrassed- it can happen to anyone.
If you go soft, another couple provides plenty of hands and mouths to make you hard again
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That’s the thing, when the other female used her hands and mouth I went rock hard within seconds again…. But as soon as I went ‘in’ again the same thing happened. I felt slightly guilty for her and hoped that she knew it was completely to do with me and absolutely nothing to do with her. |
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"And don't be embarrassed- it can happen to anyone.
If you go soft, another couple provides plenty of hands and mouths to make you hard again
….………….
That’s the thing, when the other female used her hands and mouth I went rock hard within seconds again…. But as soon as I went ‘in’ again the same thing happened. I felt slightly guilty for her and hoped that she knew it was completely to do with me and absolutely nothing to do with her. "
She knew ☺️
And if it happened with us, we'd smile, get you hard, and make sure we had plenty of condoms. The mind is a weird thing in these situations. |
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"I have no problems with them as my cock wants to burst out of them and it feels good plus I can go for ages, obviously prefer bare but still good especially when your cocks in a hotty. "
Thrilled for you.
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"And don't be embarrassed- it can happen to anyone.
If you go soft, another couple provides plenty of hands and mouths to make you hard again
….………….
That’s the thing, when the other female used her hands and mouth I went rock hard within seconds again…. But as soon as I went ‘in’ again the same thing happened. I felt slightly guilty for her and hoped that she knew it was completely to do with me and absolutely nothing to do with her.
She knew ☺️
And if it happened with us, we'd smile, get you hard, and make sure we had plenty of condoms. The mind is a weird thing in these situations. "
it certainly is a weird thing. Thanks again for your messages. You sound like a lovely couple 🙂 |
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If you're already in your head about losing it when putting a condom on it's going to keep being an issue as long as you let it surface.
Do some research and try some different brands and types to see what feels most natural for you. Try them privately with the Mrs when you're in a good headspace for it.
In the meantime, don't have penetrative sex on the table with people that you need condoms with. There are plenty of other ways to play and enjoy each other, and the more you reinforce the idea that condoms will ruin everything the harder a hold that will get on your hindbrain 💜 |
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"Like others have said, finding ones that fit are key. Check the nominal width as that is often where construction happens.
To get used to them, consider wanking with them on or get a fleshlight to normalise the feel of them. A smidge of lube inside the condom can also help.
We do gabgbangs and often guys get overwhelmed when they lose it. Try stepping back and going to other stuff to avoid getting into your head and being present in the feeling and person. Rather than worrying about performance. I’ve met some amazing guys with other skills that way outperform dickings.
Xx
Ms"
‘getting in my head’ is, I think, probably the largest factor in all of this for me. Thanks for your reply x |
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"If you're already in your head about losing it when putting a condom on it's going to keep being an issue as long as you let it surface.
Do some research and try some different brands and types to see what feels most natural for you. Try them privately with the Mrs when you're in a good headspace for it.
In the meantime, don't have penetrative sex on the table with people that you need condoms with. There are plenty of other ways to play and enjoy each other, and the more you reinforce the idea that condoms will ruin everything the harder a hold that will get on your hindbrain 💜"
I couldn’t argue against a single syllable that you said. Thanks so much for the reply x |
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By *oobaaMan 7 weeks ago
South Shields |
Yeah Ive had that problem.
AS soon as I stopped and tried to put a condom on I went limp.
Even had a Lady put one on with her mouth but I still got the dreaded droop.
Now I take half a 50ml Viagra and thats given me the boost I needed
Best of luck mate. |
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"And don't be embarrassed- it can happen to anyone.
If you go soft, another couple provides plenty of hands and mouths to make you hard again
….………….
That’s the thing, when the other female used her hands and mouth I went rock hard within seconds again…. But as soon as I went ‘in’ again the same thing happened. I felt slightly guilty for her and hoped that she knew it was completely to do with me and absolutely nothing to do with her.
She knew ☺️
And if it happened with us, we'd smile, get you hard, and make sure we had plenty of condoms. The mind is a weird thing in these situations. it certainly is a weird thing. Thanks again for your messages. You sound like a lovely couple 🙂"
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Thank you
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By *egoMan 7 weeks ago
Preston |
Yep, thats my issue to. I feel its mainly psychological.
For me the bigger ones help, as they are a lot easier to get on, stay on.
The normal are ones difficult, sometimes painful on installation and roll so check your size is right. |
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By *hechonkyduoCouple 7 weeks ago
Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish. |
"Thin ones were a game changer for me. The difference was night and day. thanks for the reply. Currently looking on the ‘Skyns’ website to see what they are all about x "
Those are the ones we use |
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