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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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Hi guys,
Just wondering if there's something I can do with my profile. I get not everyone is going to reply etc.
but only verification i have is the photo verification & seems people won't reply if you don't have a meet one. How can I get meet verified if no one replies cause of that?
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Your best bet to get "meet" verified would be to attend a club, think there are two in Leeds, or an organised social.
You've got three very similar photos. Personally I'd get rid of the Leeds shirt one  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Your best bet to get "meet" verified would be to attend a club, think there are two in Leeds, or an organised social.
You've got three very similar photos. Personally I'd get rid of the Leeds shirt one "
Thankyou for the reply. I'll have a look at them. What are they called?
I'll get rid of the Leeds shirt but is that slight dig at Leeds  |
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"Your best bet to get "meet" verified would be to attend a club, think there are two in Leeds, or an organised social.
You've got three very similar photos. Personally I'd get rid of the Leeds shirt one
Thankyou for the reply. I'll have a look at them. What are they called?
I'll get rid of the Leeds shirt but is that slight dig at Leeds "
It was a joke.
If you go to the club section of the site you’ll find the clubs |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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It’s not a bad profile in fairness. Photos are good. Blurb is good.
You’ve been here a short time. Interact in the forums a bit.
I think giving club advice to a single male seems the stock answer but it’s not that easy. Always paying more than others and needing to get on the guest list for entry isn’t easy at times
Also it takes a lot of “balls” I find as a single anyone to walk in to a club especially if you’re not used to it
There are fab socials being organised for new people at the moment so maybe look those up |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"It’s not a bad profile in fairness. Photos are good. Blurb is good.
You’ve been here a short time. Interact in the forums a bit.
I think giving club advice to a single male seems the stock answer but it’s not that easy. Always paying more than others and needing to get on the guest list for entry isn’t easy at times
Also it takes a lot of “balls” I find as a single anyone to walk in to a club especially if you’re not used to it
There are fab socials being organised for new people at the moment so maybe look those up "
Yeah, I did my first club alone (Quest, Leeds) and felt like a foreigner at a Reform rally! 😱 |
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As you've already pointed out, no meet verifications will be a deal breaker for a lot of people. We don't read them as reviews, but more of a reassurance that you actually leave the house - far too many single guys are just looking to get off on the thrill of arranging a meet and then never show up. Organised socials are your best bet.
Think about your chosen age range - would you really meet a 99yr old (desperate!) or just a bit lazy in selecting options on the profile?
We may be in the minority but the phrase "like minded" actually puts us off. It sounds so unoriginal and cliché and we don't even know what it means.
Definitely need more pics, but please keep the dick pics classy.
(Bry) |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"It’s not a bad profile in fairness. Photos are good. Blurb is good.
You’ve been here a short time. Interact in the forums a bit.
I think giving club advice to a single male seems the stock answer but it’s not that easy. Always paying more than others and needing to get on the guest list for entry isn’t easy at times
Also it takes a lot of “balls” I find as a single anyone to walk in to a club especially if you’re not used to it
There are fab socials being organised for new people at the moment so maybe look those up
Yeah, I did my first club alone (Quest, Leeds) and felt like a foreigner at a Reform rally! 😱"
Quotes or sayings like that won’t help you, just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"It’s not a bad profile in fairness. Photos are good. Blurb is good.
You’ve been here a short time. Interact in the forums a bit.
I think giving club advice to a single male seems the stock answer but it’s not that easy. Always paying more than others and needing to get on the guest list for entry isn’t easy at times
Also it takes a lot of “balls” I find as a single anyone to walk in to a club especially if you’re not used to it
There are fab socials being organised for new people at the moment so maybe look those up
Yeah, I did my first club alone (Quest, Leeds) and felt like a foreigner at a Reform rally! 😱
Quotes or sayings like that won’t help you, just my opinion "
Not noticed a difference to be fair. 👍 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"It’s not a bad profile in fairness. Photos are good. Blurb is good.
You’ve been here a short time. Interact in the forums a bit.
I think giving club advice to a single male seems the stock answer but it’s not that easy. Always paying more than others and needing to get on the guest list for entry isn’t easy at times
Also it takes a lot of “balls” I find as a single anyone to walk in to a club especially if you’re not used to it
There are fab socials being organised for new people at the moment so maybe look those up "
Yeah I was thinking the same when they mentioned clubs. Does take a lot of "balls" when literally you've never been before. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Your best bet to get "meet" verified would be to attend a club, think there are two in Leeds, or an organised social.
You've got three very similar photos. Personally I'd get rid of the Leeds shirt one
Thankyou for the reply. I'll have a look at them. What are they called?
I'll get rid of the Leeds shirt but is that slight dig at Leeds
It was a joke.
If you go to the club section of the site you’ll find the clubs "
I know it was a joke 😂
I'll have a look thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"As you've already pointed out, no meet verifications will be a deal breaker for a lot of people. We don't read them as reviews, but more of a reassurance that you actually leave the house - far too many single guys are just looking to get off on the thrill of arranging a meet and then never show up. Organised socials are your best bet.
Think about your chosen age range - would you really meet a 99yr old (desperate!) or just a bit lazy in selecting options on the profile?
We may be in the minority but the phrase "like minded" actually puts us off. It sounds so unoriginal and cliché and we don't even know what it means.
Definitely need more pics, but please keep the dick pics classy.
(Bry)"
I didn't even realise it said 99 so I'll change that now 😂 I'll upload some more pics as well.
I didn't think like minded was unoriginal & cliche but I get your point now you've mentioned it. I bet out of the thousands of profiles it does come up a lot so I'll change it. I guess like minded meaning someone on the same wave length. |
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Might be an idea If it applies, if you’re interested in something specific (kink wise) post a pic that involves that and anything you’re interested in write it in your bio, that way anyone looking for someone interested in same thing will more likely reach out xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Profile is just like 90% of every other single males. There was a time when we used to offer constructive advice, but apparently that involves too much work."
Definitely appreciate the advice. Wouldn't say it's hard work, we're all on here so any criticism, help you would think would benefit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Might be an idea If it applies, if you’re interested in something specific (kink wise) post a pic that involves that and anything you’re interested in write it in your bio, that way anyone looking for someone interested in same thing will more likely reach out xx"
It is a good idea, from the gist of this thread I should redo my profile add more interests like you've said. Maybe remove the things people have said are on 90% of guys profiles. |
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"Might be an idea If it applies, if you’re interested in something specific (kink wise) post a pic that involves that and anything you’re interested in write it in your bio, that way anyone looking for someone interested in same thing will more likely reach out xx
It is a good idea, from the gist of this thread I should redo my profile add more interests like you've said. Maybe remove the things people have said are on 90% of guys profiles. "
At least you’re taking notes and want to stand out, the replies might seem harsh but will definitely put you in a better position on here xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Might be an idea If it applies, if you’re interested in something specific (kink wise) post a pic that involves that and anything you’re interested in write it in your bio, that way anyone looking for someone interested in same thing will more likely reach out xx
It is a good idea, from the gist of this thread I should redo my profile add more interests like you've said. Maybe remove the things people have said are on 90% of guys profiles.
At least you’re taking notes and want to stand out, the replies might seem harsh but will definitely put you in a better position on here xx"
Definitely taking notes. I've started with the issue of the headline got rid of the & thing dunno why it was doing that. Is the headline better now? I've also changed the looking for ages wise.
Just thinking about what to write in my bio now. I will upload some pictures tomorrow. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Might be an idea If it applies, if you’re interested in something specific (kink wise) post a pic that involves that and anything you’re interested in write it in your bio, that way anyone looking for someone interested in same thing will more likely reach out xx
It is a good idea, from the gist of this thread I should redo my profile add more interests like you've said. Maybe remove the things people have said are on 90% of guys profiles.
At least you’re taking notes and want to stand out, the replies might seem harsh but will definitely put you in a better position on here xx"
So I've updated my profile. What do you think now? |
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Well done OP.
Most people who ask for advice, don't like what they hear and do nothing with their profile.
You've taken what's been said in good spirit and modified your profile.
Best of Luck.
Ps. Clubs aren't that bad for single newbies, find a night you wanna go, join a chat thread beforehand. Take the plunge and go with no expectations.
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"Might be an idea If it applies, if you’re interested in something specific (kink wise) post a pic that involves that and anything you’re interested in write it in your bio, that way anyone looking for someone interested in same thing will more likely reach out xx
It is a good idea, from the gist of this thread I should redo my profile add more interests like you've said. Maybe remove the things people have said are on 90% of guys profiles.
At least you’re taking notes and want to stand out, the replies might seem harsh but will definitely put you in a better position on here xx
So I've updated my profile. What do you think now? "
Much better, including role play was a strong move, it’s not in a lot of profiles but very important to those who are interested in it x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Well done OP.
Most people who ask for advice, don't like what they hear and do nothing with their profile.
You've taken what's been said in good spirit and modified your profile.
Best of Luck.
Ps. Clubs aren't that bad for single newbies, find a night you wanna go, join a chat thread beforehand. Take the plunge and go with no expectations.
"
Thankyou love appreciate it. I'm not gonna lie I was a little shocked at first but that's why I asked for help to improve.
I'll definitely look at the clubs & I think the chat groups will probably be best way to go as I've never been to one & just walking in I'd be like oh god what do I do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Might be an idea If it applies, if you’re interested in something specific (kink wise) post a pic that involves that and anything you’re interested in write it in your bio, that way anyone looking for someone interested in same thing will more likely reach out xx
It is a good idea, from the gist of this thread I should redo my profile add more interests like you've said. Maybe remove the things people have said are on 90% of guys profiles.
At least you’re taking notes and want to stand out, the replies might seem harsh but will definitely put you in a better position on here xx
So I've updated my profile. What do you think now?
Much better, including role play was a strong move, it’s not in a lot of profiles but very important to those who are interested in it x"
Thankyou I did think myself was it a bit strong. I added a few other kinks as well id want to try so see what happens now. |
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"Well done OP.
Most people who ask for advice, don't like what they hear and do nothing with their profile."
THIS. It's why I stopped contributing to the "help me" threads. In one beautiful twist of irony, a recent poster who was whining about never getting replies to messages chose not to reply to my message. Some people seem grimly determined to fail. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Well done OP.
Most people who ask for advice, don't like what they hear and do nothing with their profile.
THIS. It's why I stopped contributing to the "help me" threads. In one beautiful twist of irony, a recent poster who was whining about never getting replies to messages chose not to reply to my message. Some people seem grimly determined to fail."
I thought you was on about me then 😂 I was like. I replied, I'm glad you did contribute though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"The clubs in Leeds are Quest in Hunslet and Pandora in Armley. For a first visit you can just stay fully clothed and socialise in the bar or play pool. "
Thankyou love, I'll have a look at it. Is there anything I should know going in wise or is it just like a bar in town just pay your entrance and walk in |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Can anyone take a look at my profile and let me know what I need to improve? Thank you
I think you could improve your pics. No one finds a toilet bowl attractive. "
Toilet bowl? There's no toilet in my pics |
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