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"Am I right in saying you should go in with 0 expectations and leave any entitlement at the door" Definitely, i go with no expectations and just see how the night goes, I like the social side just as much as the swinging side | |||
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"Am I right in saying you should go in with 0 expectations and leave any entitlement at the door" Yes and yes. But also no and yes. You are entirely right about the entitlement - no one finds that sexy. But the expectations depend on what those expectations are. If you go in expecting nothing, those expectations might be fulfilled. Expect guaranteed sex, to walk into an anything-goes orgy, and you will be disappointed. I've never been to a club like that. But go in expecting to meet some interesting new people, have a chat, have a good social night out, maybe make some new friends that you can take things further with, and you'll put in the effort to make it happen. | |||
 . I'm a b cup, and my bra is working hard. Unless the lady or partner removes them leave clothes alone. | |||
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"I'd say don't try and undress me. When I'm playing, yes we hunt out single men. I'm dressed in bra, stockings, surspenders. The amont of guys that unclip my bra, to take it off. Poof my tits vanish. . I'm a b cup, and my bra is working hard. Unless the lady or partner removes them leave clothes alone. "Not the focus of your post i know, but a b cup is great, and hardly 'vanishing'. But to the point of your post, i agree about undressing without being invited/told to do it | |||
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"So, after many years of attending clubs you’ve learned….. Don’t have sexual contact with anyone unless you have their consent…. When you do have consenting sexual contact with someone don’t do anything to them that they don’t want you to do….. If a door is closed don’t open it and walk into the room uninvited without knocking first or ensuring it’s ok to enter….. Don’t drink alcohol excessively, especially if you’re somewhere that being excessively d*unk makes other people feel uncomfortable….. Have a shower so that you don’t smell…. If someone you’re about to have sex with wants you to wear a condom make sure you put a condom on before having sex…. When you’re in a public place you can interact with other people…. These are not things you learn after years of attending clubs, these are all things you should know as an adult whether you’ve attended a club or not. You might as well add to the list ‘don’t spit in anyone’s face, don’t steal anything and don’t urinate on the floor’. I’m sure there are a small number of people who are completely lacking in morals and empathy that would do the things you say not to but the majority of people really don’t need to be told any of the things you’re telling them. And even so, they will be told it all by the staff when they arrive anyway. And why have you targeted your advice at just single men? Don’t these rules apply to single women and couples? Or is every single woman and couple always perfectly well behaved and never does anything they shouldn’t? Do they all know how to behave like a civilised, responsible adult without you needing to tell them how?" So your saying I shouldn't have made the post? If I can do anything to make everyone's club experience even slightly better I think it's worth posting this. | |||
"So, after many years of attending clubs you’ve learned….. Don’t have sexual contact with anyone unless you have their consent…. When you do have consenting sexual contact with someone don’t do anything to them that they don’t want you to do….. If a door is closed don’t open it and walk into the room uninvited without knocking first or ensuring it’s ok to enter….. Don’t drink alcohol excessively, especially if you’re somewhere that being excessively d*unk makes other people feel uncomfortable….. Have a shower so that you don’t smell…. If someone you’re about to have sex with wants you to wear a condom make sure you put a condom on before having sex…. When you’re in a public place you can interact with other people…. These are not things you learn after years of attending clubs, these are all things you should know as an adult whether you’ve attended a club or not. You might as well add to the list ‘don’t spit in anyone’s face, don’t steal anything and don’t urinate on the floor’. I’m sure there are a small number of people who are completely lacking in morals and empathy that would do the things you say not to but the majority of people really don’t need to be told any of the things you’re telling them. And even so, they will be told it all by the staff when they arrive anyway. And why have you targeted your advice at just single men? Don’t these rules apply to single women and couples? Or is every single woman and couple always perfectly well behaved and never does anything they shouldn’t? Do they all know how to behave like a civilised, responsible adult without you needing to tell them how? So your saying I shouldn't have made the post? If I can do anything to make everyone's club experience even slightly better I think it's worth posting this." Whilst your post was with good intentions CJ (I know it was as we’ve met before on my trips to Wales), it could potentially come across as condescending which is probably what the person responding to you felt like whilst reading it. | |||
"So, after many years of attending clubs you’ve learned….. Don’t have sexual contact with anyone unless you have their consent…. When you do have consenting sexual contact with someone don’t do anything to them that they don’t want you to do….. If a door is closed don’t open it and walk into the room uninvited without knocking first or ensuring it’s ok to enter….. Don’t drink alcohol excessively, especially if you’re somewhere that being excessively d*unk makes other people feel uncomfortable….. Have a shower so that you don’t smell…. If someone you’re about to have sex with wants you to wear a condom make sure you put a condom on before having sex…. When you’re in a public place you can interact with other people…. These are not things you learn after years of attending clubs, these are all things you should know as an adult whether you’ve attended a club or not. You might as well add to the list ‘don’t spit in anyone’s face, don’t steal anything and don’t urinate on the floor’. I’m sure there are a small number of people who are completely lacking in morals and empathy that would do the things you say not to but the majority of people really don’t need to be told any of the things you’re telling them. And even so, they will be told it all by the staff when they arrive anyway. And why have you targeted your advice at just single men? Don’t these rules apply to single women and couples? Or is every single woman and couple always perfectly well behaved and never does anything they shouldn’t? Do they all know how to behave like a civilised, responsible adult without you needing to tell them how?" __ No idea what your experience is going to clubs. As a couple that had been in many clubs, some infamous and well known for the hordes if wanking dead males, we think this post is welcomed and helpful. How do you explain otherwise that, ONLY ADULTS enter clubs, and yet we have seen and experienced single men ignoring the behaviour you take for granted. We have never seen any couples or single women following us around a club and making us uncomfortable, but single men many times. We have experienced single men disturbing our closed-door play and ruining our time and the time of the couple we were with, by trying to force entry, knocking on the door or windows to catch our attention, etc etc. It doesn't matter what things should be like, or what you think should be like, what matters is the reality of what happens at clubs. If you behave like an adult and all this is run if the mill, then good for you. Also, a thread like this gives the chance to others to contribute. We consider ourselves experienced swingers now, and yet loved the post of the lady that said don't try to undress me. We never though of it and now we'll be aware for future encounters. OP: great thread!  | |||
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