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How to get my wife involved
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Hey guys,
I've been on and off here for a while without my wife knowing, just a little fun had, barely any meets.
However I'm getting more and more turned on by the thought of getting my wife involved and seeing her fucked by another guy and meeting with couples.
In the past she's mentioned an interest in taking two guys at once but we've not discussed in years.
What are your tips in how to bring this up and see if she'd be interested in exploring this for real?
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Ask her if she'd like to go to a swinging club. As you've been on here without her knowing, you may not have the right relationship to have successful experiences without drama. Ask her though and see how it goes. |
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"Hey guys,
I've been on and off here for a while without my wife knowing, just a little fun had, barely any meets.
However I'm getting more and more turned on by the thought of getting my wife involved and seeing her fucked by another guy and meeting with couples.
In the past she's mentioned an interest in taking two guys at once but we've not discussed in years.
What are your tips in how to bring this up and see if she'd be interested in exploring this for real?
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If she is up for it watch a nice video of the scenario you can imagine (female friendly one) and if she’s liking it ask her if she could ever imagine doing it
Slow small steps, never be in any rush |
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Honesty is probably the best policy pal.
The problem you might have is that you have essentially been cheating on her, I’m not saying this to be judgmental but even if the idea is something she would like to explore she may still see it as a betrayal in the first place.
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"Hey guys,
I've been on and off here for a while without my wife knowing, just a little fun had, barely any meets.
However I'm getting more and more turned on by the thought of getting my wife involved and seeing her fucked by another guy and meeting with couples.
In the past she's mentioned an interest in taking two guys at once but we've not discussed in years.
What are your tips in how to bring this up and see if she'd be interested in exploring this for real?
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Has it occurred to you that if you are not ready to have a straightforward and honest conversation with your wife you are certainly not ready to start swinging with her. For a couple to swing successfully there has to be openness, honesty and mutual respect and understanding. These things usually start with being able to discuss things together. |
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By *teff_RedTV/TS 4 weeks ago
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"Hey guys,
I've been on and off here for a while without my wife knowing, just a little fun had, barely any meets.
However I'm getting more and more turned on by the thought of getting my wife involved and seeing her fucked by another guy and meeting with couples.
In the past she's mentioned an interest in taking two guys at once but we've not discussed in years.
What are your tips in how to bring this up and see if she'd be interested in exploring this for real?
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Tell her you’ve been on here for a while and its fun
Sure it will go down fine 🫣 |
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"I feel open house is very staged to be honest "
Country mansion with pool, luxury rooms a yurt and lots of young, willing people floating around, 'expert' on hand to stir your relationship up and cause trouble between you while purportedly helping. What could possibly go wrong. It doesn't reflect the reality of swinging im other than to expose some of the difficulties couples might face. |
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I feel the same way however my wife is very conservative and has never expressed wanting to try swinging but dont know how to approach her with the idea. She gets really turned in when watching movies that have hot sez scenes |
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"I feel open house is very staged to be honest
Country mansion with pool, luxury rooms a yurt and lots of young, willing people floating around, 'expert' on hand to stir your relationship up and cause trouble between you while purportedly helping. What could possibly go wrong. It doesn't reflect the reality of swinging im other than to expose some of the difficulties couples might face. "
Yeah that’s it. A good casual way to soft introduce it |
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"Ask her if she'd like to go to a swinging club. As you've been on here without her knowing, you may not have the right relationship to have successful experiences without drama. Ask her though and see how it goes."
That’s a good start, let her chat to the guys/couples if you do go and she can ease herself into what she wants. |
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"People often suggest taking a woman to a club. How would someone who hasn't even discussed swinging with their partner bring that subject up? "
Just ask? OPs wife has previously mentioned an interest in a threesome. Asking to try swinging or going to go to a club is going to come as a shock either way (if asking the question actually happens!). We didn't play with anyone on our first club visit, many others don't either. If they don't already have a great sex life it may not go well, which is the case for many couples. |
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"Hey guys,
I've been on and off here for a while without my wife knowing, just a little fun had, barely any meets.
However I'm getting more and more turned on by the thought of getting my wife involved and seeing her fucked by another guy and meeting with couples.
In the past she's mentioned an interest in taking two guys at once but we've not discussed in years.
What are your tips in how to bring this up and see if she'd be interested in exploring this for real?
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Both long term partners I’ve swung with started off from gentle pillow talk, bed time conversations, usually post sex, about what we’ve enjoyed, didn’t enjoy, like to think about.
“Imagine that toy was another cock”
“How often do you masurbate”
“What do you think about when you wank”
“Who do you find attractive - mutual friends”
“Can you imagine being/doing etc”
“Have you ever ever thought/done/seen/been seen”
The possibilities are endless and allow you to gauge by reactions how far to keep going.
One partner I didn’t think would go there but gently pushing the sex chat over a long time saw her mindset change and she clearly didn’t feel pushed/nagged. The other one, I think we both knew very early on where it was heading as the idle chat accelerated quickly into hard core talk into “I want to try sex with a woman” and away we went… |
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I was involved in something like this many years ago. Was talking with a guy in exactly the same situation. We arranged to meet in a local pub with his Mrs in tow saying we had known each other years ago through work and bumped into one another, hence the drink. All week long he’d been talking at home about how I was known for going to swinging parties and having threesomes. He said be careful, he might try it on with you ! That obviously led to a conversation ! In the end we did meet, I did go back to their place, he made an excuse about popping to the off license and came back to me balls deep in his wife ! She loved it and got really turned on when he came into the room with his camera ! I understand that down the road he became a bit of a cuckold. Anyway that’s one way ! |
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"I was involved in something like this many years ago. Was talking with a guy in exactly the same situation. We arranged to meet in a local pub with his Mrs in tow saying we had known each other years ago through work and bumped into one another, hence the drink. All week long he’d been talking at home about how I was known for going to swinging parties and having threesomes. He said be careful, he might try it on with you ! That obviously led to a conversation ! In the end we did meet, I did go back to their place, he made an excuse about popping to the off license and came back to me balls deep in his wife ! She loved it and got really turned on when he came into the room with his camera ! I understand that down the road he became a bit of a cuckold. Anyway that’s one way ! "
So, basically you tricked his wife into shagging you? Must be so proud. |
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"So, basically you tricked his wife into shagging you? Must be so proud. "
It sounds like the only dishonesty was claiming that he'd known her husband for years, which doesn't sound like that huge a thing. And we don't know that he didn't tell her the truth. |
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By *as_AliCouple 4 weeks ago
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"Ask her if she'd like to go to a swinging club. As you've been on here without her knowing, you may not have the right relationship to have successful experiences without drama. Ask her though and see how it goes."
This is great advice! It is exactly the way my hubby introduced the idea with me. Whilst on holiday he tentatively suggested we visit a nearby club, was amazed when I agreed - and the rest is history as they say! |
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From my experience having met many couples off here and other sites. A lot of the time it's the wife thats leading the encounters and wants the fun. A gentle hint might be all thats required, and you could be shocked to see how much she enjoys herself. |
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"Hey guys,
I've been on and off here for a while without my wife knowing, just a little fun had, barely any meets.
However I'm getting more and more turned on by the thought of getting my wife involved and seeing her fucked by another guy and meeting with couples.
In the past she's mentioned an interest in taking two guys at once but we've not discussed in years.
What are your tips in how to bring this up and see if she'd be interested in exploring this for real?
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Haven't read other replies but as you've been on here without her knowledge, depending on how honest you're planning on being and what her reaction might be - it may be worth deleting your current profile prior to broaching the subject of possibly creating a couples profile if you think she'd be up for it.
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Hoping to introduce it to my partner soon.
She’s already kissed other men and told me about it after….
She had a lot of fun with other women for a sustained period of time but the last time was 10+ years ago so not sure if she’d want fun that resulted in fem & fem being the main part of it.
She likes flashing and trying new things out so hoping to make a suggestion soon just a bit unsure what - would love to watch her get fucked whilst I wank - big turn on.
Any tips how to broach it ….?! |
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"She likes flashing and trying new things out so hoping to make a suggestion soon just a bit unsure what - would love to watch her get fucked whilst I wank - big turn on.
Any tips how to broach it ….?!"
If she likes flashing, then ask her how she would feel about having sex with you somewhere other people can see. If she likes the idea, then suggest going to a club, but just to see and be seen - not to touch anyone else.
If you've been on that basis for a few nights she'll know more what she wants to do, but just as importantly she'll know she can trust you to stick to your word.
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"Hoping to introduce it to my partner soon.
She’s already kissed other men and told me about it after….
She had a lot of fun with other women for a sustained period of time but the last time was 10+ years ago so not sure if she’d want fun that resulted in fem & fem being the main part of it.
She likes flashing and trying new things out so hoping to make a suggestion soon just a bit unsure what - would love to watch her get fucked whilst I wank - big turn on.
Any tips how to broach it ….?!"
Yes. Talk to her like the adult she is. Tell her what you like, then ask her what she likes (listen to what she says). Then see if there is any common ground |
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"Hey guys,
I've been on and off here for a while without my wife knowing, just a little fun had, barely any meets.
However I'm getting more and more turned on by the thought of getting my wife involved and seeing her fucked by another guy and meeting with couples.
In the past she's mentioned an interest in taking two guys at once but we've not discussed in years.
What are your tips in how to bring this up and see if she'd be interested in exploring this for real?
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Interesting that you say barely any meets, yet you say that you are experienced with couples, single females, and you also have a sub.
Not from here? |
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