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Because some people get jealous and can't handle seeing their other half with someone else.
People cheat, yes even in swinging couples.
If you don't have a strong relationship, swinging can do more harm than good unfortunately. |
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Mr doesn’t share me and I won’t share him with females, I’m happy letting Mr play with males as he only does with men what we can’t do together, that works for us and we have a great relationship
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"Because some people get jealous and can't handle seeing their other half with someone else.
People cheat, yes even in swinging couples.
If you don't have a strong relationship, swinging can do more harm than good unfortunately. "
I suppose, must be rare though!
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When people are discussing it, thinking about it, it's all abstract. In reality, it might stir up feelings that are unexpected. You can't know how you're truly going to react to something until you're in that moment.
In some cases it might not live up to the expectations of one or both parties.
Some people aren't great communicators so they muddle along unhappily because they either don't know how to express what they're feeling, or don't want to be seen as spoiling the fun for the other person. Resentment builds up. Boom. Relationship on the rocks.
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If one of a couple is only doing it to keep the other happy resentment can build up over time, if one person constantly bangs on about how they want to see their partner with another person it can lead to big problems (see many of the 'how can I persuade my wife'threads), if one continually oversteps boundaries, one tries to set surprise meets up or tries to meet alone behind the others back and if they stop communicating with each other.
There are loads of ways swinging can spoil a relationship but my guess is it would have gone south anyway and swinging reveals the weaknesses |
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It can improve a relationship or ruin it.
If you are both open, honest, trustworthy and truthful and both want to explore it can be incredibly for a relationship.
If it’s not these things it can ruin a relationship. |
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I've known a few swinging relationships fail as one, usually the male, ends up playing without the others knowledge.
Which is just plain stupid as their partner would probably be OK with it if they'd known.
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"Because some people get jealous and can't handle seeing their other half with someone else.
People cheat, yes even in swinging couples.
If you don't have a strong relationship, swinging can do more harm than good unfortunately. "
This |
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Its very difficult to navigate as a couple.
You find couples where one half of you is attracted and wants it......never try and persuade each other.
Things happen during a meet that were never discussed or thought about....this is difficult.
Doing things in the heat of the moment.
Its safe to say that we have learnt a lot during our time here.
Good luck to everyone. |
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If you not in an open relationship don’t do it if you are in open relationship and you do it guess nothing wrong cause you both agreed but there also possibility the partner could lose interest in you but only a possibility |
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From experience with my wife, when we first started out i did get quite jealous as she was having all the fun and i was left on the side lines, this is only because after a while from joining we thought it best if we had our own single profiles, cause the couples one wasn’t really getting much notice from other couples.
We always agreed that meeting alone was always okay to do but as soon as the wife set up her own profile she was inundated, as you’d expect, she was meeting guys at least twice a month and a couple of them became quite regular, myself on the other hand wasn’t getting any interest, she could see it wasn’t working for us both and put a stop to it before things really turned sour, I think the swinging scene has evolved a lot since the birth of the internet, partners will arrange meets without the knowledge of their spouse, cheating has become quite mainstream in swinging couples. |
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Most of the couples I meet are happy with me as I present an erotic alternative. Most of the husband's have medical problems causing erectile dysfunction, not correctàble with medication, it's nearly always them that set up the meeting and enjoy staying in the room playing with me and filming  most are long term set ups and I have not noticed any problems. |
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Swinging has been great for us. We started on a solid foundation of trust and security and we have been open, honest and communicated.
There has been no boundry pushing and we have done everything as a team. The most important thing is the mutual respect and trust. |
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I don't think swinging does ruin relationships. I think it dam quickly exposes weaknesses in a relationship (as well a strengths). It can sure accelerate the demise of a weak relationship.
However a good relationship it helps build. Because it really strengthen the skills to communicate honesty and openly and allows everyone to express their desires without fear. The strongest and best relationships we know tend to be couples on the scene. |
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"I don't think swinging does ruin relationships. I think it dam quickly exposes weaknesses in a relationship (as well a strengths). It can sure accelerate the demise of a weak relationship.
However a good relationship it helps build. Because it really strengthen the skills to communicate honesty and openly and allows everyone to express their desires without fear. The strongest and best relationships we know tend to be couples on the scene."
Pretty much what I was going to write. 100% agree. |
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I brought up swinging with Sean a few years after we met.
Our first ‘outing’ was to a party, Sean freaked out when he saw me being fucked by another man.
Luckily, our relationship was strong and we worked through it.
We’ve been here 10 years now and we are still just as strong.
If our relationship wasn’t what it was, despite us both agreeing to that initial party….it would have ended us.
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"Why? Surely if you have both decided to do it you can only have fun.  "
You need to start from a solid foundation. If you’re doing it to save a relationship then I don’t think it works. It just postpones the inevitable. |
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If you turn porn into reality,be careful what you wish for ....
As had been said before,unless you have a very strong relationship without jealous feelings it'll wreck whatever you have ...
I've had threesomes with supposed strong relationships,only to find one of the guys unable to accept what he got into ...and freak out ... |
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S previous partner was a major victim of "be careful what you wish for" , had gone on and on about multiple guys,she finally agreed and he invited 2 workmates (  bad idea in itself) ,had a few drinks then started and he got a little uncomfortable and it all ended when one started to fuck S and the boyfriend lost it and punched him 
Ironically as she'd got head around trying group sex it was in her head..they split and when we got together we were both upfront about what we'd done and wanted to do so it flourished from there..
But yes do be careful what you wish for as many find it isn't what they actually want |
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"S previous partner was a major victim of "be careful what you wish for" , had gone on and on about multiple guys,she finally agreed and he invited 2 workmates ( bad idea in itself) ,had a few drinks then started and he got a little uncomfortable and it all ended when one started to fuck S and the boyfriend lost it and punched him
Ironically as she'd got head around trying group sex it was in her head..they split and when we got together we were both upfront about what we'd done and wanted to do so it flourished from there..
But yes do be careful what you wish for as many find it isn't what they actually want "
I agree that exploring this with work mates adds another potential pitfall... |
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By *irsSubCouple 5 days ago
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- over confidence after the first few experiences
- starting for the wrong reasons
- misunderstanding how men and women view sex
- adding strangers into your relationship, screening for dark triad types isn't easy and just takes one to screw it all up
I've seen multiple relationships ended as a direct result of swinging. It can be an amazing addition to a relationship, but it's definitely not without risks. |
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First and foremost - hats off to OP. Excellent initial post. It can be potentially tricky if there is a libidinal imbalance. Furthermore, attending a club together might still be a huge leap into the unknown. Perhaps 2 individuals who have met on the scene have some type of advantage...? |
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My husband and I have been together for almost 15 years and we didn’t meet on the scene. Neither of us are jealous people and we trust each other unconditionally. He is absolutely my soulmate and my best friend - swinging is purely based (in my view) on sexual urges and excitement that comes with it, naughty and dirty are fun! There’s no love or emotion involved- if someone is insecure then maybe it’s not the right lifestyle for them (and it was me introduced him to swinging) |
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sharing you wife letting her fuck other men and even two in one go especially when you are not there build trust IMO.
However, avoid meeting the same men more than twice as it can lead to the woman fall for the bs charm of the other man. How do i know this you ask. I've met men we have met at home, their place and beach where some have lost their wife/etc to a bloke they met several times especially when they having a meal by themselves etc but it can just be them being left alone.
Even avoiding meeting more than twice these day as we started over close to 40 yrs ago - they can exchange numbers and call behind you back
We are older and TBH I'd love to see my wife being fucked hard at least daily by a strong cock but rs is not up to it as she feels old. so it's once every couple of months and not always a fuck but kissing , kissing tits pussy etc and the massage builds up to this and if i am luck, she allows a fuck by the men and then i go in - works for us |
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