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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea
I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips "
There is no right or wrong, everyone is different on how they want to be approached
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By *r. Mac OP Man 3 days ago
Bexleyheath |
Thank you both
Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it  |
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"Thank you both
Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it "
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
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By *r. Mac OP Man 3 days ago
Bexleyheath |
"Thank you both
Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs"
Thank you ill post if I get any responses I mean it in really di appreciate it see I'm an in person kind of guy and need this help
I hope you all have amazing summer and if anyone is up for a big social drink up I'd love to arrange one for everyone |
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"Thank you both
Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs"
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is. |
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By *r. Mac OP Man 3 days ago
Bexleyheath |
"Thank you both
Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is."
I try to do that but some profiles have like 30 photos and a 6 word bio it's not alot to go off and I do wish I was better with words |
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"Thank you both
Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is.
I try to do that but some profiles have like 30 photos and a 6 word bio it's not alot to go off and I do wish I was better with words"
Yes I think most of us could be better with words. But don’t overthink it. this message got a reply from us:
“Wow! She is stunning. Compliments.”
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea
I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips "
Do you mind if we comment on your profile?
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By *r. Mac OP Man 3 days ago
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea
I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips
Do you mind if we comment on your profile?
Mrs"
Please do i haven't done any work on it in ages and would love some criticism |
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea
I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips
Do you mind if we comment on your profile?
Mrs
Please do i haven't done any work on it in ages and would love some criticism "
Your bio is ok but your photos could do with being better, I think you have too many cock pics on display, leave something to the imagination or just have 1 on display, move the rest to friends only or to private, concentrate on getting a tasteful photo for your profile pic.
Hope this helps
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By *r. Mac OP Man 3 days ago
Bexleyheath |
"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea
I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips
Do you mind if we comment on your profile?
Mrs
Please do i haven't done any work on it in ages and would love some criticism
Your bio is ok but your photos could do with being better, I think you have too many cock pics on display, leave something to the imagination or just have 1 on display, move the rest to friends only or to private, concentrate on getting a tasteful photo for your profile pic.
Hope this helps
Mrs"
As easy as that sounds its hard getting good photos of me i wish I did have some but it's hard looking like this and awkward |
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea
I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips
Do you mind if we comment on your profile?
Mrs
Please do i haven't done any work on it in ages and would love some criticism
Your bio is ok but your photos could do with being better, I think you have too many cock pics on display, leave something to the imagination or just have 1 on display, move the rest to friends only or to private, concentrate on getting a tasteful photo for your profile pic.
Hope this helps
Mrs
As easy as that sounds its hard getting good photos of me i wish I did have some but it's hard looking like this and awkward "
Use your most recent pic in your photos as your profile photo, 26th dec I think it was
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I usually start by addressing them both Not just the female of the couple (if you are straight of course).. Send a picture of myself and ask them if they'd take a look at my profile and drop a message if fancy chatting or go for a social meet to break the ice..
Im chatting with 4 couples on here at mo, but my last profile i had 7 meets with couples..
Just be you, be polite and fingers crossed.. |
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By *r. Mac OP Man 3 days ago
Bexleyheath |
"I usually start by addressing them both Not just the female of the couple (if you are straight of course).. Send a picture of myself and ask them if they'd take a look at my profile and drop a message if fancy chatting or go for a social meet to break the ice..
Im chatting with 4 couples on here at mo, but my last profile i had 7 meets with couples..
Just be you, be polite and fingers crossed.. "
Thank you I always greet both partners it would be so rude to just message the lady or whoever singularly and I'm so jealous |
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"I usually start by addressing them both Not just the female of the couple (if you are straight of course).. Send a picture of myself and ask them if they'd take a look at my profile and drop a message if fancy chatting or go for a social meet to break the ice..
Im chatting with 4 couples on here at mo, but my last profile i had 7 meets with couples..
Just be you, be polite and fingers crossed.. "
This is great advice. On our couples profile, it's amazing the amount of men who send an obscene message to my partner only, totally bypassing the fact, there is another person on the profile. By addressing both politely, you are showing respect and stand a MUCH higher chance of making contact.  |
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"Thank you both
Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is.
I try to do that but some profiles have like 30 photos and a 6 word bio it's not alot to go off and I do wish I was better with words"
You say that's not a lot to go off, yet it's enough for you to want to join them for sex so there must be something there that's turned you on. Focus on that. |
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By *stwo60Couple 2 days ago
Hampshire |
If someone is polite and has read our profile and then lets us know why they feel it could be good to explore possibilities further, we will always reply. You pretty much won’t reply to ‘ hey guys’ ‘ how are you finding the site’ ‘love to fuck you’ ect.. |
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"Thank you both
Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is.
I try to do that but some profiles have like 30 photos and a 6 word bio it's not alot to go off and I do wish I was better with words"
Only message those that genuinely interest you op. If it's just a few words on their bio, you're going purely from pics, so wouldn't know if they're compatible with you, so ask questions, but nothing crude.
Introduce yourself, be polite, as others said refer to both people. Always read profiles and only message those who you think you'd be a good fit for. |
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I'm kinda in same situation. Used to be here in a couple 12 years ago. Now a single guy.
I honestly haven't sent any messages as I do not expect to get a reply.
Especially without verifications by meeting in person.
So what I will be doing and my advise is to get along to a club or two and meet people face to face. Hopefully make a good impression and get verified. You may even get lucky.
Then with verifications couples and women may just may give your messages a second look |
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We will always reply to polite and non presumtuous/creepy messages. We may not be looking for guys but we will definitely engage! Some tips from our experience:
1 - address us both. Mr doesn't care that people only ever address me but I do. It really bugs me, it's super rude and a sure way of getting ignored or blocked.
2 - actually read the profile. Crazy how many people just don't. Most profiles will give you some sort of insight into the people you want to message. Try to work something around that in.
3 - don't go with expectations. Paying polite compliments without it seeming to expect to go somewhere and just being nice/polite for the sake of it goes a long way
Ultimately we do feel for single guys on here, it must be tough to stand out but ultimately that's what you're dealing with. We get a lot of messages though and they vary wildly.
Which leads to our last tip - try not to send mid wank messages 😂. The horn does things to us all and it tends to bring out the inner creep in us. So pop a message whilst sober, be polite, utilise the profile to touch on something relevant and address both people! |
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I prefer couples over females only and get a far better response.
Never thought of it until I came on this site but it's definitely where I'm heading!!
Any straight couples please feel free to contact me!   |
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By *WANDTGCouple 1 day ago
Borough of Greenwich |
Firstly read their profile , then find something that you might have in common with them or something of interest that has caught your eye. Progress from there. Unlike the clown who was 22,straight, single, smoked and 20 miles away who approached us then took an affront when we made him aware of this ! |
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"We will always reply to polite and non presumtuous/creepy messages. We may not be looking for guys but we will definitely engage! Some tips from our experience:
1 - address us both. Mr doesn't care that people only ever address me but I do. It really bugs me, it's super rude and a sure way of getting ignored or blocked.
2 - actually read the profile. Crazy how many people just don't. Most profiles will give you some sort of insight into the people you want to message. Try to work something around that in.
3 - don't go with expectations. Paying polite compliments without it seeming to expect to go somewhere and just being nice/polite for the sake of it goes a long way
Ultimately we do feel for single guys on here, it must be tough to stand out but ultimately that's what you're dealing with. We get a lot of messages though and they vary wildly.
Which leads to our last tip - try not to send mid wank messages 😂. The horn does things to us all and it tends to bring out the inner creep in us. So pop a message whilst sober, be polite, utilise the profile to touch on something relevant and address both people! "
I’ve always tried to do 1, 2 and 3 (been here before). Never works - too many erm, deficiencies- but at least I haven’t pissed anyone off (I think?). |
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