Is it me or does this piss anyone else off? I completely understand you need to chat 5/10 even 15 messages to see if the person gels or is your type.
But needing essays or learning more about the person. I mean are people looking for a penpal?
Why not arrange a social or just say you’re not interested in the first place? |
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"100% agree, we’re here to meet not write love letters  don’t mind the odd chat with people we’ve met before but yeah would rather people just say if they’re not interested and move on"
We are the same,few messages then meet(where we can chat and see if we fit all together),not in to pen buddies or stories tellers |
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Funnily enough, its okay for people to like different things. Some people like longer conversations and some don't. Just look for people that like the same things as you.
Personally I'd rather spend longer talking to someone and getting to know them and that's okay too. |
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It can often take a bit of time to arrange a meet and we can't really judge chemistry till we've met in person. So we don't actually want to chat too long online before we meet. We tend to like just enough to gauge if we think there's compatibility and then simply ask can we save futher chat to when we meet in person (bar sorting the practical arrangements). To be fair most most people seem perfectly happy with this plan too. There's absolutely no point in chatting endlessly untill you've met in person. |
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For us, not only is it essential to have a nice bit of back and forth to see if there is chemistry and mutual interests, but it also exposes a lot of pushy people.
It doesn't usually take long before they start losing patience and becoming pushy.
And then we know we aren't compatible. |
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"For us, not only is it essential to have a nice bit of back and forth to see if there is chemistry and mutual interests, but it also exposes a lot of pushy people.
It doesn't usually take long before they start losing patience and becoming pushy.
And then we know we aren't compatible."
That for us I a big bonner killer. We struggle with the flexibility to arrange something. So it can take some time and we explain this. Pressure and being pushy is big no from us. Good things will happen when they're at everones speed. After all there's always other fish in the sea in the mean time for them any way. |
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Piss us off? Nah far from it.
Given our vanilla life meets can be hard to arrangr and we tell people that from the off.
The ones that stick around and actually form a rapport will get to skip the social and come straight over for the fun.
But that's not to everyones taste and that is fair enough. |
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I prefer to chat and get to know people first, bit of chemistry/connection kinda feels better..
But that said, if someone just wanted to meet, id go with the flow.
The ones ive gotten to know by chatting, I actually see regularly |
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it all depends on what the "10-15" messages contain.
Don't get p'd off just ignore them and save them and yourself wasted time
Why keep on chatting if you feel like that is what i would say - just saying. |
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Love long message exchanges! It’s definitely makes me likely to move up the meet too and I’m so wet just meeting them knowing all the things we’ve discussed and makes the sex epic because we each know what makes the other tick 🥵 |
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"I prefer the endless chit chat as you are learning more about them which adds to the connection/chemistry "
. Agree and people often give themselves away, when you've chatted a while.
If you expect meets after only a short while, be upfront about that, but don't expect that everyone will be happy doing that op.
Many will say on their bios if they want to meet relatively fast or expect a connection. |
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As a single guy, it can be difficult to gauge when to bring up meeting, unless the profiles are very clear about expectations.
If you bring it up too fast with the wrong, you'll just be labelled as someone who only cares about getting laid ASAP. Take too long, apparently you will be a timewaster. |
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