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Couple blocked me after arranging a meet
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By *yfer2021 OP Man 2 weeks ago
London & Midlands |
Is this normal? The husband messaged me a few weeks ago, we exchanged some pics and the earliest we could arrange to meet was this evening as we had things going on the previous weekends. Was just about to message them again this morning to arrange specifics for this evening and I noticed they've now blocked me.
No idea why. Thoughts? |
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Yes of course this happens on here. Most likely a guy having fantasy about his wife (if he actually has one). For some reason they lead people on. Just move on. If you think about it he has done you a favour as you will no longer be wasting time with. I think about the nice genuine people can meet on here |
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By *rad670Man 2 weeks ago
South Lakes |
Just get used to it as being normal, ignoring messages after good chats, ghosting and blocking are all standard and more so from couples so either you were talking to the male for him to get his kicks or it wasn't a couples profile to start with and when it came to crunch time they bottled it. |
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By *yfer2021 OP Man 2 weeks ago
London & Midlands |
"Yes of course this happens on here. Most likely a guy having fantasy about his wife (if he actually has one). For some reason they lead people on. Just move on. If you think about it he has done you a favour as you will no longer be wasting time with. I think about the nice genuine people can meet on here"
On reflection this seems the most likely, I only ever exchanged messages with him. |
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"Is this normal? The husband messaged me a few weeks ago, we exchanged some pics and the earliest we could arrange to meet was this evening as we had things going on the previous weekends. Was just about to message them again this morning to arrange specifics for this evening and I noticed they've now blocked me.
No idea why. Thoughts? "
I think
'the husband messaged me' explains the reason you were blocked. Either his wife didn't know and he was hoping to persuade her of his wife is a figment of his imagination.
Some couples have the dynamic of the guy arranging all the meets but I'd advise caution in that scenario |
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"We've been blocked and never even spoken to one couple!!!!!!"
This happens....if they viewed your profile and you arent of interest for whatever reason.
We do it to avoid clicking on profiles multiple times when they aren't what were looking for.
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"We've been blocked and never even spoken to one couple!!!!!!"
That can happen, I have blocked people because I recognise them or from status updates or forum posts that tell me we are not compatible. You dont need to speak to someone to get blocked. |
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"Did you chat from the time you exchanged pics til today?
No much to be honest, I explained I was pretty busy/travelling with work for the past few weeks which is why I couldn't meet earlier."
I think that’s your issue. I would guess they assumed you had ghosted them/were a fantasist and decided to cut their losses. If a potential meet doesn’t say anything before the day of a meeting then that’s a red flag to a lot of people. |
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By *yfer2021 OP Man 2 weeks ago
London & Midlands |
"Did you chat from the time you exchanged pics til today?
No much to be honest, I explained I was pretty busy/travelling with work for the past few weeks which is why I couldn't meet earlier.
I think that’s your issue. I would guess they assumed you had ghosted them/were a fantasist and decided to cut their losses. If a potential meet doesn’t say anything before the day of a meeting then that’s a red flag to a lot of people."
Hmm, okay. I hadn't blocked them or anything so I would've assumed they'd message me to ask rather than just block me. Lesson learnt for next time I guess.
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"Did you chat from the time you exchanged pics til today?
No much to be honest, I explained I was pretty busy/travelling with work for the past few weeks which is why I couldn't meet earlier.
I think that’s your issue. I would guess they assumed you had ghosted them/were a fantasist and decided to cut their losses. If a potential meet doesn’t say anything before the day of a meeting then that’s a red flag to a lot of people.
Hmm, okay. I hadn't blocked them or anything so I would've assumed they'd message me to ask rather than just block me. Lesson learnt for next time I guess.
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Not saying this is necessarily the case here, but sometimes couples have been so royally messed about by single guys (and probably vice vers too) that said couple will have an ultra low threshold for moving on and/or blocking at the first sign of lack of interest or engagement or poor behaviour on the part of the guy |
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Sadly, it happens a lot on sites like this. I have developed a high dose of cynicism over the years. Many people are not who they pretend to be, unfortunately.
Don't let it put you off, though! There are some lovely, genuine people on here. Lots of luck for future meets.
Scarlett xx |
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"Sadly, it happens a lot on sites like this. I have developed a high dose of cynicism over the years. Many people are not who they pretend to be, unfortunately.
Don't let it put you off, though! There are some lovely, genuine people on here. Lots of luck for future meets.
Scarlett xx"
Exactly this |
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By *yfer2021 OP Man 2 weeks ago
London & Midlands |
Thanks for the feedback all, was just trying to figure out if there's something I should do differently next time.
Sounds like I just need to be more engaging on messages leading up to the meet if it's far in advance.
On the upside, it's freed up this sunny Friday evening for me. Now I just need to find some other trouble to get into! |
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"Did you chat from the time you exchanged pics til today?
No much to be honest, I explained I was pretty busy/travelling with work for the past few weeks which is why I couldn't meet earlier.
I think that’s your issue. I would guess they assumed you had ghosted them/were a fantasist and decided to cut their losses. If a potential meet doesn’t say anything before the day of a meeting then that’s a red flag to a lot of people."
This too.if I was meeting someone, I'd expect some contact before hand.
Not daily, but something to show they were still interested in meeting me. As said, there's so many people who mess others around, they maybe decided to go with someone who kept in contact a bit more. |
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"Are you sure they were genuine? Good veris etc "
veris don’t mean a thing. It’s easy to message someone and write each other a veri without so much as a can meet. I was offered one after messaging someone a couple of times even though we’d no intention of meeting
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Happens all the time! Usually find it’s because one half of the couple gets cold feet or they’re too afraid to tell you they’re not actually interested after stringing you along 🙄 Let’s be adults and be honest! 🤷🏻♀️ |
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By *yfer2021 OP Man 2 weeks ago
London & Midlands |
"Did you chat from the time you exchanged pics til today?
No much to be honest, I explained I was pretty busy/travelling with work for the past few weeks which is why I couldn't meet earlier.
I think that’s your issue. I would guess they assumed you had ghosted them/were a fantasist and decided to cut their losses. If a potential meet doesn’t say anything before the day of a meeting then that’s a red flag to a lot of people.
This too.if I was meeting someone, I'd expect some contact before hand.
Not daily, but something to show they were still interested in meeting me. As said, there's so many people who mess others around, they maybe decided to go with someone who kept in contact a bit more. "
Do you think this would still apply when they (or he) was the one that initiated contact with me? |
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Some couples have the dynamic of the guy arranging all the meets but I'd advise caution in that scenario "
We have that dynamic but we cover it in our profile:
"Also to note is that when we play all meets are arranged by Steve, Debs just enjoys them. By all means you can speak to Debs on the phone so you know she actually exists and consents but she doesn't want to know the actual details like where, when, what is going to happen etc." |
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it could be that the husband found out his wife was cheating and /or a bloke they met awith him as a Cuck resulted in his wifes love affair.
I met a guy years ago and he told me b4 we met his wife had left him as he allowed her to meet the same man veral times - we never have met anyone more than twice. |
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People change their interests, including their choices of partners, all the time. They may have found a preference for or against bisexual action, for example. Or for just action with couples or single women.
Blocking stops unnecessary future contact with inappropriate people. A courteous no thanks, would have been nice but no reply equals no thanks.
Don't always assume that people are messing around, when it may just be about sexual preferences and especially as women will often differ from men. |
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Apart from a handful of decent people on Fab, there are some total fucking fruit cakes! A lot are not genuine and are just fantasists, male profile disguised as a couple, photo collectors, and just plain knobheads. |
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"Is this normal? The husband messaged me a few weeks ago, we exchanged some pics and the earliest we could arrange to meet was this evening as we had things going on the previous weekends. Was just about to message them again this morning to arrange specifics for this evening and I noticed they've now blocked me.
No idea why. Thoughts? "
Its a minefield that you have to wal through in this lifestyle as a single male sadly, been both single and in a couple and I can tell you there is little difference. You need to vet everyone before committing to sacrificing your time, if they aren’t willing to a video call at least then it’s a no from me. Look after yourself buddy and don’t feel bad, it’s a common thread |
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"Yes of course this happens on here. Most likely a guy having fantasy about his wife (if he actually has one). For some reason they lead people on. Just move on. If you think about it he has done you a favour as you will no longer be wasting time with. I think about the nice genuine people can meet on here"
Yep, this. Had a a few times.
Only the bloke chats, when, after plenty of interactions I say I want to speak to them both, by voice, the connection vanishes
Strange that ...another fantasist falls at the first hurdle
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By *bflirtyCouple 4 days ago
Milton Keynes |
Are you ever in the chat rooms? It's ridiculously easy to block people by accident in there - it's just a yellow button under the username in the participant list - have done it several times when going to click on a profile. Only realised weeks later when I saw the word Blocked instead of Block under a username. |
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"Is this normal? The husband messaged me a few weeks ago, we exchanged some pics and the earliest we could arrange to meet was this evening as we had things going on the previous weekends. Was just about to message them again this morning to arrange specifics for this evening and I noticed they've now blocked me.
No idea why. Thoughts? "
Report them as "arranged to meet, did not show". Their account will be suspended. Hate timewasters. |
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It’s a big possibility that they weren’t actually a couple, but on the other hand, you’d not actually properly arranged the meet, had you?
As there are so many single guys around, I could see how if you’d not been in touch for a while they might assume you’re no longer interested, and look elsewhere. I’m not saying they couldn’t/shouldn’t have messaged you, but it never hurts to be proactive either. |
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By *yfer2021 OP Man 4 days ago
London & Midlands |
Hmm, just to be clear, they/he were the ones who initiated the messages with me. Is the expectation still that I have responsibility to ensure contact is maintained up until the meet?
We agreed to meet on the evening of a specific date in their town. I went to message them in the morning to get the address when I noticed I was blocked. |
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"Report them as "arranged to meet, did not show". Their account will be suspended. Hate timewasters."
I'd imagine you can also be suspended for mis-using the report system. In this case he has no evidence that they didn't show, because he didn't go himself. |
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"Hmm, just to be clear, they/he were the ones who initiated the messages with me. Is the expectation still that I have responsibility to ensure contact is maintained up until the meet?"
It doesn't make any difference. If you're really keen to meet, then you need to keep in contact and make sure they don't go off the boil. In this case it sounds like neither side were willing to put the effort in, so it didn't happen. |
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