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How to approach this site and peepz?
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"It’s not our job to teach you how to respectfully approach us.
If you’re 35 and still not sure how to speak to women, that sounds like a you problem. "
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"I feel as I'm respectful, honest, hopefully not creepy. Should I reevaluate and acr different or have I just not found the right folk yet? Brutal honesty if need be, I'm not soft."
You're a single guy on Fab, there are millions of us and most don't get anything, get used to that, go to socials talk to people directly because fab isn't the best for making connections. But it happens occasionally. |
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"I feel as I'm respectful, honest, hopefully not creepy. Should I reevaluate and acr different or have I just not found the right folk yet? Brutal honesty if need be, I'm not soft."
OP, is your profile as informative as you can make it? Does it express clearly what you are looking for, but also what you can offer/bring to "the party"? There are thousands of single men on here, they probably all believe they are respectful, charming, able to fuck for hours etc. If you want to get anywhere on here, you need to make your profile stand out from the standard "blurb". Though it's probably still best to attend organised socials and/or clubs if you can, so your personality can come out. |
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Profile suggests it will be far more work than I have the capacity to wade through for generic responses and the unknown.
That said, we only put up meets and respond to men when we’re actively looking to meet so wouldn’t passively seek single chaps out. So we’re probably not your demographic. If you responded to a meet, we would decline as there is nothing to offer on the profile to help us screen/select.
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2 observations op, people won't generally ask. It's better to have a bit of info on your profile about what you're into and offering.
Secondly, it might be me, but I'm not sure what your only pic is of tbh. |
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"I feel as I'm respectful, honest, hopefully not creepy. Should I reevaluate and acr different or have I just not found the right folk yet? Brutal honesty if need be, I'm not soft."
You've got some good introductory sentences on your profile description but you also need to specify the things you like doing e.g. throatfucking. What are your fetishes? Describe them in your profile text. Also upload some more pictures, the one of your elbow doesn't say much about who you are. I don't think you should act differently around anyone. Be yourself, if people don't like it, their loss.
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"I feel as I'm respectful, honest, hopefully not creepy. Should I reevaluate and acr different or have I just not found the right folk yet? Brutal honesty if need be, I'm not soft.
You're a single guy on Fab, there are millions of us and most don't get anything, get used to that, go to socials talk to people directly because fab isn't the best for making connections. But it happens occasionally."
The irony is, single males make up the largest portion of the site's usage base, yet we are in some ways treated as second class citizens with the message alerts that show automatically saying how women get "hundreds" of messages everyday and there being a Not Looking For Single Guys badge on profiles that doesn't exist for any other biological sex.
I find the best thing is to write a good opening message every couple of weeks, take time with it, be flirty, describe your interests. Make it generic to the end reader (for example don't say hello Mike, just say hello or hello there if you want to seem flamboyant). Write it out to one profile, before you click send, copy it and then paste it to other people. That way you can contact mass profiles that you're interested in within a short space of time and don't spend so much time on lost causes. I'd say for every 50 messages I send, I get about 5 responses. |
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"I feel as I'm respectful, honest, hopefully not creepy. Should I reevaluate and acr different or have I just not found the right folk yet? Brutal honesty if need be, I'm not soft."
Do you have success with women in normal life off fab ? |
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"… single males make up the largest portion of the site's usage base, yet we are in some ways treated as second class citizens with the message alerts that show automatically saying how women get "hundreds" of messages everyday and there being a Not Looking For Single Guys badge on profiles that doesn't exist for any other biological sex.
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This is incorrect. Everyone gets a message if they approach someone via message that is not within the criteria that the profile is looking for. This includes age, gender and arrangement (MM couples FF Couples MF couples included). Reading a profile first for the “looking for” section will
a) enable you to avoid the warning
b) give you the opportunity to read the profile to see if there is a further fit.
Tailoring the message to the profile is the most likely chance of success in our opinion.
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"I feel as I'm respectful, honest, hopefully not creepy. Should I reevaluate and acr different or have I just not found the right folk yet? Brutal honesty if need be, I'm not soft.
You're a single guy on Fab, there are millions of us and most don't get anything, get used to that, go to socials talk to people directly because fab isn't the best for making connections. But it happens occasionally."
Sound advice  this is the best way to meet people, shows your a genuine person & not just another keyboard wanker. |
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"I feel as I'm respectful, honest, hopefully not creepy. Should I reevaluate and acr different or have I just not found the right folk yet? Brutal honesty if need be, I'm not soft.
You're a single guy on Fab, there are millions of us and most don't get anything, get used to that, go to socials talk to people directly because fab isn't the best for making connections. But it happens occasionally. The irony is, single males make up the largest portion of the site's usage base, yet we are in some ways treated as second class citizens with the message alerts that show automatically saying how women get "hundreds" of messages everyday and there being a Not Looking For Single Guys badge on profiles that doesn't exist for any other biological sex.
I find the best thing is to write a good opening message every couple of weeks, take time with it, be flirty, describe your interests. Make it generic to the end reader (for example don't say hello Mike, just say hello or hello there if you want to seem flamboyant). Write it out to one profile, before you click send, copy it and then paste it to other people. That way you can contact mass profiles that you're interested in within a short space of time and don't spend so much time on lost causes. I'd say for every 50 messages I send, I get about 5 responses. "
We get the same message from some single males (exactly the same) even if we don't reply & can be weeks apart, to us it comes across as no effort is put in at all. |
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Make realistic expectations for yourself - nobody else can do it
Then calculate how many people are going to be mutually compatible. How would they know if you could be with them. That's your job, to give them what they need to make the right assessment.
Then work hard to find the people |
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"I feel as I'm respectful, honest, hopefully not creepy. Should I reevaluate and acr different or have I just not found the right folk yet? Brutal honesty if need be, I'm not soft."
Your profile is five weeks old
Exactly what were you thinking would happen in such a short space of time?
You are a single guy amongst many -your profile is your shop window
Why should anyone stop at yours above the next one?
You get a point for not having a cock as the profile picture
However you have no other pictures 
I have no idea what you want/offer or any much about you
Why would I ask when I can just move on to the next message?
Do you read profiles before you contact them?
Are you what they want?
Do you express that in your messages?
While doing all that you also need to interact.. get to a local organised social event
Used the chat rooms or get to a club - many do newbie evenings
Ultimately
Learn patience
Accept no reply is a no
Get on with life don't expect miracles
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