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Hi all, I’ve been on this site a couple of weeks now and struggle to get any sort of serious replies and mostly just get left on read. I’m always respectful in my messages so I’m quite sure why I think it might have something to do with my age but idk. Any help with on how to improve my profile or what I should be messaging people would be greatly appreciated thanks |
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Getting started is less about your profile than getting out into the 'scene' at socials and particularly clubs. With a few verifications under your belt showing you're clean, polite, respectful, interesting and great at sex you'll probably find more doors opening. For some on here you're too young, but age seems to matter far less in a club environment. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 days ago
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Try not to take it to heart there could be many reasons why you're not getting replies. It's probably best that you buy a ticket to a club and give that a try. Top tip...don't walk around in white socks a lnd flip-flops  |
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Firstly OP, if you use the “reply + quote” button, makes it easier when responding to posts.
Secondly, I echo what’s been said above about getting yourself out there to socials and clubs. Hands down that’s the best way to make connections. As a single man, you’re a dime a dozen so it’s difficult (but not impossible) to stand out online.
Thirdly, whoever you message is going to firstly going to look at your profile before contemplating if it’s worth responding. I’d lose the dick pics, get some more flattering and tasteful photos of yourself. Also, calling yourself a “bull” isn’t doing you any favours either. Maybe a more mature username than that would be better.
Mention in your bio a bit who you are as a person; hobbies & interests etc, what you have to offer and what you’re looking for. Think of your profile as a shop window to potential buyers. |
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"Firstly OP, if you use the “reply + quote” button, makes it easier when responding to posts.
Secondly, I echo what’s been said above about getting yourself out there to socials and clubs. Hands down that’s the best way to make connections. As a single man, you’re a dime a dozen so it’s difficult (but not impossible) to stand out online.
Thirdly, whoever you message is going to firstly going to look at your profile before contemplating if it’s worth responding. I’d lose the dick pics, get some more flattering and tasteful photos of yourself. Also, calling yourself a “bull” isn’t doing you any favours either. Maybe a more mature username than that would be better.
Mention in your bio a bit who you are as a person; hobbies & interests etc, what you have to offer and what you’re looking for. Think of your profile as a shop window to potential buyers. "
Ok appreciate the help I’ll change a few things up so |
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"Which thread are you focusing on? You've asked this four times.
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/youngbull888"
all I guess just wanted as much help as possible I didn’t know you had to focus on one |
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"Which thread are you focusing on? You've asked this four times.
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/youngbull888 all I guess just wanted as much help as possible I didn’t know you had to focus on one"
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You need to •focus• on the •advice• that you're getting, which has been somewhat consistent across all those other threads. |
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"Which thread are you focusing on? You've asked this four times.
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/youngbull888 all I guess just wanted as much help as possible I didn’t know you had to focus on one
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You need to •focus• on the •advice• that you're getting, which has been somewhat consistent across all those other threads."
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened.
Get rid of the dicks. ye I just want to keep very private until I get to know people, what sort of photos should I post "
Photos that aren’t heavily edited and don’t focus just on your cock. |
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened.
Get rid of the dicks. ye I just want to keep very private until I get to know people, what sort of photos should I post
Photos that aren’t heavily edited and don’t focus just on your cock. "
they aren’t edited I just covered my surroundings and what should I focus on then |
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened.
Get rid of the dicks. ye I just want to keep very private until I get to know people, what sort of photos should I post
Photos that aren’t heavily edited and don’t focus just on your cock. they aren’t edited I just covered my surroundings and what should I focus on then "
Well, so long as you’re happy |
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"Patience is the key. can only wait so long tho "
Why can you only wait so long? Joining this site doesn’t automatically get you sex, there are guys that have been on for years and have never met anyone.
It’s all about compatibility, attraction and connection
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OP, you're very young, you've only been on here 2 weeks. Your age would definitely be a barrier for some, including some clubs/events. I'd suggest you leave Fab on back burner, and concentrate on meeting in real life? Regular nightclubs, or things people your age tend to do?
Don't know what you saw on Reddit about this site, but it's certainly not an instashag site, it can take a lot of effort to get some success. And listening to the advice, as well as taking it on board, is one of the tools to help. But as others have said, patience is the key. And thick skin. |
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By *il-widgeMan 5 days ago
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"Patience is the key. can only wait so long tho "
Mate, as everyone has said, go to socials or club events and also be patient. Always polite and respectful with your msg's dont multi-msg a profile ladies and couples get inundated so you really need to stand out or be exceptional (or just lucky) 😉
There are a lot of fantasy guys on here and blokes upto no good so people need to know you are genuine and decent initially hence why the social/club thing isn't a bad way to start.... |
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Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions.
You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out.
First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣.
Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either.
Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different.
Good luck 👍 |
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened.
Get rid of the dicks.
This! If I was interested in you the blacked pic would put me off completely. "
really I just wanted to keep private as it’s not my house, should I just get rid of it then ? |
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened.
Get rid of the dicks.
This! If I was interested in you the blacked pic would put me off completely. really I just wanted to keep private as it’s not my house, should I just get rid of it then ?"
You asked for advice, entirely up you whether you take it or not. |
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions.
You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out.
First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣.
Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either.
Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different.
Good luck 👍 "
appreciate the reply can we dm |
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened.
Get rid of the dicks.
This! If I was interested in you the blacked pic would put me off completely. really I just wanted to keep private as it’s not my house, should I just get rid of it then ?"
So why not take photos in your own house?
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions.
You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out.
First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣.
Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either.
Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different.
Good luck 👍 appreciate the reply can we dm"
Sure no problem x |
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions.
You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out.
First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣.
Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either.
Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different.
Good luck 👍 appreciate the reply can we dm
Sure no problem x"
I can’t dm you because of the age you have can you message me first please |
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions.
You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out.
First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣.
Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either.
Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different.
Good luck 👍 "
Probably the best response to a thread like this I've ever seen.
Definitely read it, OP - several times haha
Also maybe browse some single men's profiles and see which have good amounts of meet verifications. What's the differences between their profile and yours? |
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions.
You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out.
First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣.
Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either.
Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different.
Good luck 👍
Probably the best response to a thread like this I've ever seen.
Definitely read it, OP - several times haha
Also maybe browse some single men's profiles and see which have good amounts of meet verifications. What's the differences between their profile and yours? "
yeah I think that’s what I’ll do but the thing is I’m an even smaller minority as I’ve no experience in a good amount of stuff unfortunately so it’s pretty hard for me to think of stuff to put in my bio |
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By *0X4Man 4 days ago
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions.
You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out.
First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣.
Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either.
Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different.
Good luck 👍 "
Exceptional advice here 👌 It's the best that I've seen!! 🫡 |
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