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" And may I add that most women & couples here are in fact, average themselves. I’m done here. Fab is certainly not Fab. It’s an awful place full of people who think very highly of themselves and overate themselves!" Just highlighting this bit. Lock up on the way out then. Chin chin. | |||
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"Think I’m just about done here. Pretty certain I will be leaving and not returning, so just wanted to voice my opinion of Fab. After 5 years on and off here, not getting anywhere, giving up, having a break then returning. Changing my profile, changing my photos, changing my approaches to messaging people, being polite & friendly, being respectful, being cheeky, being flirty, being more direct and forward. Contacting locals. Contacting others further away with the aim of myself travelling. Being willing to pay for hotels if no one can accommodate. Asking to meet strictly socially first to build up or to just make friends. Literally nothing has worked. Each and every attempt has resulted in my messages being read & ignored, read & deleted or in some cases, I’ve been instantly blocked! Now I don’t expect to have women & couples fighting over me and flooding my inbox. But I did expect to have at least one or two women/couples showing a slight interest. Out of all the members here that I’ve reached out to. If I added it up over the years, I must have sent 100’s & 100’s of messages. With very little response. Those who have responded have politely rejected. Just find it hard to believe that out of the 100’s, if not thousands here, not one person is slightly interested. This place is 100% based on looks. I’ve tried and tested that. You can have the most detailed, descriptive profile. And you can be the politest most respectful person ever to walk the earth. But if you’re not attractive, then you won’t get anywhere here. Just take a read at others profiles and statuses? Most have such high standards, expectations and demands. And may I add that most women & couples here are in fact, average themselves. I’m done here. Fab is certainly not Fab. It’s an awful place full of people who think very highly of themselves and overate themselves!" Next time just delete the app but wish you the best probably catch you next week back here  | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted" So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways" After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate." Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me " Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, " See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for sexual activities. I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for sexual activities. I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning " So you hide the reason, why not put it on your profile?? Why would anyone be bothered to ask, your profile is your shop window | |||
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" See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning " That's part of the problem, isn't it? As a couple's profile, we get around 60 messages per day most days, many single women get more... I know you say you've changed your profile wording a lot, but we just don't have the time to be curious and 'ask if we want to know more'. Imagine if we asked every man who messaged us to explain the bits of his profile that don't make sense? People get very defensive about it and we just don't have the time to invest... You aren't unattractive, so that's clearly not the issue here at all. Your expectations and attitude might be, regardless of how friendly and polite your first message is | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for sexual activities. I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning So you hide the reason, why not put it on your profile?? Why would anyone be bothered to ask, your profile is your shop window" Why should I broadcast my private life to the nation? | |||
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" And may I add that most women & couples here are in fact, average themselves. I’m done here. Fab is certainly not Fab. It’s an awful place full of people who think very highly of themselves and overate themselves! Just highlighting this bit. Lock up on the way out then. Chin chin." Exactly. There are lovely people you can meet on here if build a connection with them. It’s not just about sex. Yes there are some who can be offensive. However the kind people more than make up for that | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for sexual activities. I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning So you hide the reason, why not put it on your profile?? Why would anyone be bothered to ask, your profile is your shop window Why should I broadcast my private life to the nation? " You dont need to but if you have nothing to hide a single line saying "cant accomodate as I house share" on your profile would maybe make people think about a reply. Saying you cant accommodate with no reason 90% of the time means married and playing away which puts a lot off. You are restricting yourself by not posting that little bit of info but ots up to you. . | |||
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"Think I’m just about done here. Pretty certain I will be leaving and not returning, so just wanted to voice my opinion of Fab. After 5 years on and off here, not getting anywhere, giving up, having a break then returning. Changing my profile, changing my photos, changing my approaches to messaging people, being polite & friendly, being respectful, being cheeky, being flirty, being more direct and forward. Contacting locals. Contacting others further away with the aim of myself travelling. Being willing to pay for hotels if no one can accommodate. Asking to meet strictly socially first to build up or to just make friends. Literally nothing has worked. Each and every attempt has resulted in my messages being read & ignored, read & deleted or in some cases, I’ve been instantly blocked! Now I don’t expect to have women & couples fighting over me and flooding my inbox. But I did expect to have at least one or two women/couples showing a slight interest. Out of all the members here that I’ve reached out to. If I added it up over the years, I must have sent 100’s & 100’s of messages. With very little response. Those who have responded have politely rejected. Just find it hard to believe that out of the 100’s, if not thousands here, not one person is slightly interested. This place is 100% based on looks. I’ve tried and tested that. You can have the most detailed, descriptive profile. And you can be the politest most respectful person ever to walk the earth. But if you’re not attractive, then you won’t get anywhere here. Just take a read at others profiles and statuses? Most have such high standards, expectations and demands. And may I add that most women & couples here are in fact, average themselves. I’m done here. Fab is certainly not Fab. It’s an awful place full of people who think very highly of themselves and overate themselves!" No need to announce your departure. For some, the site works. From your post here and your profile, I’m sensing a sense of entitlement and bitterness. Both of which are attributes that would make us delete and block. | |||
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"Think I’m just about done here. Pretty certain I will be leaving and not returning, so just wanted to voice my opinion of Fab. After 5 years on and off here, not getting anywhere, giving up, having a break then returning. Changing my profile, changing my photos, changing my approaches to messaging people, being polite & friendly, being respectful, being cheeky, being flirty, being more direct and forward. Contacting locals. Contacting others further away with the aim of myself travelling. Being willing to pay for hotels if no one can accommodate. Asking to meet strictly socially first to build up or to just make friends. Literally nothing has worked. Each and every attempt has resulted in my messages being read & ignored, read & deleted or in some cases, I’ve been instantly blocked! Now I don’t expect to have women & couples fighting over me and flooding my inbox. But I did expect to have at least one or two women/couples showing a slight interest. Out of all the members here that I’ve reached out to. If I added it up over the years, I must have sent 100’s & 100’s of messages. With very little response. Those who have responded have politely rejected. Just find it hard to believe that out of the 100’s, if not thousands here, not one person is slightly interested. This place is 100% based on looks. I’ve tried and tested that. You can have the most detailed, descriptive profile. And you can be the politest most respectful person ever to walk the earth. But if you’re not attractive, then you won’t get anywhere here. Just take a read at others profiles and statuses? Most have such high standards, expectations and demands. And may I add that most women & couples here are in fact, average themselves. I’m done here. Fab is certainly not Fab. It’s an awful place full of people who think very highly of themselves and overate themselves! No need to announce your departure. For some, the site works. From your post here and your profile, I’m sensing a sense of entitlement and bitterness. Both of which are attributes that would make us delete and block. " You are getting the reasons op. Learn from them. | |||
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" And may I add that most women & couples here are in fact, average themselves. I’m done here. Fab is certainly not Fab. It’s an awful place full of people who think very highly of themselves and overate themselves! Just highlighting this bit. Lock up on the way out then. Chin chin. Exactly. There are lovely people you can meet on here if build a connection with them. It’s not just about sex. Yes there are some who can be offensive. However the kind people more than make up for that" It takes two to build a connection. I’ve tried numerous times. Can’t build a connection if no one will talk to me | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for sexual activities. I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning So you hide the reason, why not put it on your profile?? Why would anyone be bothered to ask, your profile is your shop window Why should I broadcast my private life to the nation? You dont need to but if you have nothing to hide a single line saying "cant accomodate as I house share" on your profile would maybe make people think about a reply. Saying you cant accommodate with no reason 90% of the time means married and playing away which puts a lot off. You are restricting yourself by not posting that little bit of info but ots up to you. . " Your wrong. I have actually stated that I can’t accommodate and have given my reasons. Still makes zero difference. | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for sexual activities. I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning So you hide the reason, why not put it on your profile?? Why would anyone be bothered to ask, your profile is your shop window Why should I broadcast my private life to the nation? You dont need to but if you have nothing to hide a single line saying "cant accomodate as I house share" on your profile would maybe make people think about a reply. Saying you cant accommodate with no reason 90% of the time means married and playing away which puts a lot off. You are restricting yourself by not posting that little bit of info but ots up to you. . Your wrong. I have actually stated that I can’t accommodate and have given my reasons. Still makes zero difference." (You’re wrong. I have actually stated that I can’t accommodate and have given my reasons. Still makes zero difference.) on one of my previous profiles that is | |||
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"Dry your eyes mate...." That’s helpful! It’s idiots like yourself that doesn’t help this place | |||
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"So you'd have sex with people that you don't find attractive? You also criticise that others have standards and preferences that don't conform to yours. You may have the answer to your dilemma, my friend. It's a numbers game on here. The principles of supply and demand apply. I know a female who joined recently and within 90 minutes had 192 messages. With those numbers, she needs to be selective! The minorities can pick the best of the majorities - that's the deal that you signed up for, even if you didn't appreciate it." Of course I completely understand that it comes down to numbers. But if I’m not getting any response at all, despite my efforts, then what’s the point? As mentioned, I’ve never expected to have women/couples fighting over me. But I expected to have at least someone taking a slight interest. But nothing. There’s something wrong somewhere and that’s what I’m struggling to understand. Despite having several different profiles and making different approaches over the years | |||
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"Looking rude and entitled OP." Don’t see how I’m being rude? As for entitled? Don’t you think a lot of people here seem entitled? With a list of demands and expectations on their profile? | |||
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"Looking rude and entitled OP. Don’t see how I’m being rude? As for entitled? Don’t you think a lot of people here seem entitled? With a list of demands and expectations on their profile?" You called one poster above an idiot. If you dislike their input ignore and move along. People can out what they want on their profile and be as picky as they choose. We aren't complaining about not getting meets because people wont meet because I have a beard or bisexual. | |||
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"Looking rude and entitled OP. Don’t see how I’m being rude? As for entitled? Don’t you think a lot of people here seem entitled? With a list of demands and expectations on their profile? You called one poster above an idiot. If you dislike their input ignore and move along. People can out what they want on their profile and be as picky as they choose. We aren't complaining about not getting meets because people wont meet because I have a beard or bisexual." So if someone is rude, I’m not allowed to give my response and opinion? I’m supposed to just take it? How many women and couples here complain about rude men? | |||
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"Looking rude and entitled OP. Don’t see how I’m being rude? As for entitled? Don’t you think a lot of people here seem entitled? With a list of demands and expectations on their profile? You called one poster above an idiot. If you dislike their input ignore and move along. People can out what they want on their profile and be as picky as they choose. We aren't complaining about not getting meets because people wont meet because I have a beard or bisexual. So if someone is rude, I’m not allowed to give my response and opinion? I’m supposed to just take it? How many women and couples here complain about rude men? " You can if you like, but being the bigger man and rising above it looks much better on you. Anyway enjoy your break, you'll no doubt be back. | |||
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"Oh OP, you’ve not done yourself any favours here whatsoever buddy 🤦🏾♂️. But as you’re wishing to leave, we shall bid you a due. Au revouir! 👋🏾 One less man on here = one less bit of competition for us who love this site and everything swinging has to offer 🤭" Couldn’t care less. Just here to voice my opinion on this awful place and entitled people | |||
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"Looking rude and entitled OP. Don’t see how I’m being rude? As for entitled? Don’t you think a lot of people here seem entitled? With a list of demands and expectations on their profile?" Oh dear oh dear. People may have "demands and expectations" on their profile but you're the one on here saying you're going to throw the towel in! As they say if you're in a hole stop digging. | |||
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"Oh OP, you’ve not done yourself any favours here whatsoever buddy 🤦🏾♂️. But as you’re wishing to leave, we shall bid you a due. Au revouir! 👋🏾 One less man on here = one less bit of competition for us who love this site and everything swinging has to offer 🤭" Those who are successful here will never begin to understand what it’s like to be rejected on a daily basis. It’s soul destroying and seriously knocks your confidence and self esteem | |||
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"So you'd have sex with people that you don't find attractive? You also criticise that others have standards and preferences that don't conform to yours. You may have the answer to your dilemma, my friend. It's a numbers game on here. The principles of supply and demand apply. I know a female who joined recently and within 90 minutes had 192 messages. With those numbers, she needs to be selective! The minorities can pick the best of the majorities - that's the deal that you signed up for, even if you didn't appreciate it. Of course I completely understand that it comes down to numbers. But if I’m not getting any response at all, despite my efforts, then what’s the point? As mentioned, I’ve never expected to have women/couples fighting over me. But I expected to have at least someone taking a slight interest. But nothing. There’s something wrong somewhere and that’s what I’m struggling to understand. Despite having several different profiles and making different approaches over the years" Have you tried the approach of going to an organised social to speak to people in person? Not everyone comes across the best online. | |||
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"...Have you tried the approach of going to an organised social to speak to people in person? Not everyone comes across the best online." • I was going to say the same thing and ask about his approach in attending group socials, but he still hasn't answered this part, despite being asked previously (above). | |||
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"Oh OP, you’ve not done yourself any favours here whatsoever buddy 🤦🏾♂️. But as you’re wishing to leave, we shall bid you a due. Au revouir! 👋🏾 One less man on here = one less bit of competition for us who love this site and everything swinging has to offer 🤭 Couldn’t care less. Just here to voice my opinion on this awful place and entitled people " Wow, what a comment. Good luck OP  | |||
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"Oh OP, you’ve not done yourself any favours here whatsoever buddy 🤦🏾♂️. But as you’re wishing to leave, we shall bid you a due. Au revouir! 👋🏾 One less man on here = one less bit of competition for us who love this site and everything swinging has to offer 🤭 Those who are successful here will never begin to understand what it’s like to be rejected on a daily basis. It’s soul destroying and seriously knocks your confidence and self esteem " Pal in life it can be a challenge being rejected can be crushing but it's how things are just pick yourself up as it's not failing you just haven't found your circle and don't give up so easily . Learn to understand being rejected can go both ways Attend any socials that may be closer to you | |||
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"Oh OP, you’ve not done yourself any favours here whatsoever buddy 🤦🏾♂️. But as you’re wishing to leave, we shall bid you a due. Au revouir! 👋🏾 One less man on here = one less bit of competition for us who love this site and everything swinging has to offer 🤭 Those who are successful here will never begin to understand what it’s like to be rejected on a daily basis. It’s soul destroying and seriously knocks your confidence and self esteem " If getting told no thanks affects your self esteem then maybe swinging isn't for you I can see it from both sides as I've been here as a single male and part of a couple Your attitude and the way you come across in the forums will certainly put people off of meeting you | |||
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"Oh OP, you’ve not done yourself any favours here whatsoever buddy 🤦🏾♂️. But as you’re wishing to leave, we shall bid you a due. Au revouir! 👋🏾 One less man on here = one less bit of competition for us who love this site and everything swinging has to offer 🤭 Those who are successful here will never begin to understand what it’s like to be rejected on a daily basis. It’s soul destroying and seriously knocks your confidence and self esteem " Genuine advice try changing your pictures they look a bit creepy to be honest | |||
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"Oh OP, you’ve not done yourself any favours here whatsoever buddy 🤦🏾♂️. But as you’re wishing to leave, we shall bid you a due. Au revouir! 👋🏾 One less man on here = one less bit of competition for us who love this site and everything swinging has to offer 🤭 Those who are successful here will never begin to understand what it’s like to be rejected on a daily basis. It’s soul destroying and seriously knocks your confidence and self esteem " I’ll tell you what fella, I’ve been on this site for the best part of coming up to 6 years. Believe me when I say I know how it feels to have my messages ignored on the occasions I’ve sent them out. Do I come to the forum to complain about it? No I don’t, why you may ask? Because I’m thick skinned enough to understand I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Instead I put my game face on, get out there and meet people in real life. And golly gosh, I’ve met some great people and still continue to do so. | |||
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"You’re trying to convince all on this thread that you’re right and we’re all wrong. It can’t happen." To be fair, he might succeed in showing that his attitudes and expectations are different to every other person here. Which would also explain why he got nowhere. | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for sexual activities. I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning So you hide the reason, why not put it on your profile?? Why would anyone be bothered to ask, your profile is your shop window Why should I broadcast my private life to the nation? You dont need to but if you have nothing to hide a single line saying "cant accomodate as I house share" on your profile would maybe make people think about a reply. Saying you cant accommodate with no reason 90% of the time means married and playing away which puts a lot off. You are restricting yourself by not posting that little bit of info but ots up to you. . Your wrong. I have actually stated that I can’t accommodate and have given my reasons. Still makes zero difference." But you asked the single woman why she can't accom. She can, but probably wouldn't for a man she didn't know well op. No woman in their right mind is gonna just invite a random man to their home, too many have stalked people or dropped round when hey feel like fun etc. Its not about looks op. It's about making yourself and your profile stand out. Others have just suggested you pop a little line on your bio about your home situation and you've got very defensive about it. Lots of men who aren't supermodels, do well on fab. They have good bios, attend socials etc. As for offering to travel a distance , this isn't something i'd be interested in. If its a long way for someone to go for what is just a social first time, it creates a sense of expectation from those who have travelled. You say people judge, we all judge others. By providing some info upfront, you may be able to limit that. It's your choice of course though. | |||
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"Fab is not the answer for meeting people and getting your jollies. It is merely a tool, a window to the lifestyle and a way to get to know people, about events and what and how a section of people like and look for. " Exactly! | |||
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"Dry your eyes mate.... That’s helpful! It’s idiots like yourself that doesn’t help this place " Your attitude in some of replies wont be helping you either. | |||
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"Tbh, is your rant a veiled attempt at getting a response? Playing the 'sympathy card'hoping some generous soul decides to jump on you to cheer you up? Your profile is a touch uninspiring, with no real hooks to get people interested. Your pics are all similar and not very creative, so is it the old story of you get out what you put in? Anyway, you won't have read this because you hate fab so much you have already left............🤣" Ok. Let’s discuss profiles? You say my profile is uninspiring? So can you please explain how that some members with pretty bland or even blank profiles still successfully get meets? This is backed up by their verifications. So you’re wrong, it’s not all down to what’s written in your profile | |||
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"Tbh, is your rant a veiled attempt at getting a response? Playing the 'sympathy card'hoping some generous soul decides to jump on you to cheer you up? Your profile is a touch uninspiring, with no real hooks to get people interested. Your pics are all similar and not very creative, so is it the old story of you get out what you put in? Anyway, you won't have read this because you hate fab so much you have already left............🤣 Ok. Let’s discuss profiles? You say my profile is uninspiring? So can you please explain how that some members with pretty bland or even blank profiles still successfully get meets? This is backed up by their verifications. So you’re wrong, it’s not all down to what’s written in your profile " Are they getting meets or are they going to socials We totally agree with the uninspiring comment | |||
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"Tbh, is your rant a veiled attempt at getting a response? Playing the 'sympathy card'hoping some generous soul decides to jump on you to cheer you up? Your profile is a touch uninspiring, with no real hooks to get people interested. Your pics are all similar and not very creative, so is it the old story of you get out what you put in? Anyway, you won't have read this because you hate fab so much you have already left............🤣 Ok. Let’s discuss profiles? You say my profile is uninspiring? So can you please explain how that some members with pretty bland or even blank profiles still successfully get meets? This is backed up by their verifications. So you’re wrong, it’s not all down to what’s written in your profile " You're really not doing yourself any favours with these sort of responses. | |||
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"I certainly do not base, whether I reply to a message on looks, Firstly if it came from someone, male female or couple and they could not accommodate in there home it would be deleted So may I ask, why could you not accommodate? Everyone has their reasons and it works both ways After you making that comment you obviously never read my profile, I can and do accommodate. Just starting work so no, I haven’t read your profile just yet. So you can accommodate? So if a guy can’t accommodate, then why would that be an instant delete? Doesn’t make sense to me Then either he has something to hide, ie a wife, or for some reason does not want people to see there go to his house, See, that’s kind of my point here. People are so quick to judge and make assumptions without even asking questions and speaking to someone first. In my case, I can’t accommodate because I house share. I inherited the family home when my dad passed and me and my brother and his partner currently live there. So I feel that it isn’t practical for me to accommodate strangers for sexual activities. I understand that some people have something to hide but that’s not the case for everyone. And if people had the decency to ask why I can’t accommodate, instead of instantly judging and dismissing, then I would of course explain my current situation and reasoning So you hide the reason, why not put it on your profile?? Why would anyone be bothered to ask, your profile is your shop window Why should I broadcast my private life to the nation? " So posting your photos on a swingers Web site is not broadcasting to the nation? | |||
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"Ok. Let’s discuss profiles? You say my profile is uninspiring? So can you please explain how that some members with pretty bland or even blank profiles still successfully get meets? This is backed up by their verifications. So you’re wrong, it’s not all down to what’s written in your profile " It's unlikely that a blank profile gets responses in themselves. Who would just message a blank profile and say, "yes, fuck me please"; it just doesn't happen. Bland... well that's subjective but most will agree an engaging, interesting or even intriguing profile is more likely to get a response. And we mentioned right from the get go; have you been to a club/or social? Profiles and being on Fab is just one dimension of the swinging world. | |||
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