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By *art457 OP Man 40 weeks ago
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Hi all, wanted some insight please. Seem to attract a lot of male attention, I assume this is the case of numbers on this site - I am bi, but it seems quite onesided, and I don't have the experience with guys that seems to be sought by them!
Is there anything you think is missing or needed on my profile to balance the books a little and make it more friendly and stand out a little to couples/females? |
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By *itter78Couple 40 weeks ago
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We wouldn't have read past the second paragraph... your profile screams anonymity more than discretion and that is much more attractive to men than women or couples where attraction and safety is paramount. Some specifics:
We wouldn't have made it to the part where you say you can sometimes accommodate and your settings state you "can't accommodate", so you should change that while keeping the clarification
Can't share a face photo on here because of your job? What special secret role to do have? The mrs in our paid has a very, very public facing, professional role and we are sensible with sharing pics. Saying you will share friends pics or on another app screams that you're just pic collecting or scamming
That wouldn't put everyone off, but I can see why men like you - and agree with pp that it's a sausage fest on here!! |
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By *art457 OP Man 40 weeks ago
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Thanks very much for the feedback, looks like I can make some adjustments to clarify what I mean, very useful to get another pair of eyes on , to see whats off-putting and what isn't!
(I work as a teacher, it's more about the safeguarding and the separation from the site than it is an expensive client lists thing! I'd never live it down in class if a leak happened!) |
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"We wouldn't have read past the second paragraph... your profile screams anonymity more than discretion and that is much more attractive to men than women or couples where attraction and safety is paramount. Some specifics:
We wouldn't have made it to the part where you say you can sometimes accommodate and your settings state you "can't accommodate", so you should change that while keeping the clarification
Can't share a face photo on here because of your job? What special secret role to do have? The mrs in our paid has a very, very public facing, professional role and we are sensible with sharing pics. Saying you will share friends pics or on another app screams that you're just pic collecting or scamming
That wouldn't put everyone off, but I can see why men like you - and agree with pp that it's a sausage fest on here!!"
This was what I was going to say too, The no face pic thing would mean if I was looking for a guy I’d move on,
Whenever I see the “I can’t share face pics due to my job” it’s an automatic no for me. Especially as if people are looking on here it’s probably because they are here for the same reason.
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Obviously I'm not saying this is the case, but a number of women have told me that they interpret lots of "must be discreet" and "no face pics" to mean "I'm married and my wife doesn't know".
It's up to you what you do and don't show, you don't need to explain it.
By and large your profile is fine but unremarkable. That's a problem when you want it to stand out from the gazillion other men on here, some of whom have lots of great face pics and funny and distinctive bios. |
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By *art457 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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That's a fair comment, I can see the difficulty - I think it comes from a rather not leak with the rest of the photos point of view! Otherwise just desperately single unfortunately... Will figure it out |
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"That's a fair comment, I can see the difficulty - I think it comes from a rather not leak with the rest of the photos point of view! Otherwise just desperately single unfortunately... Will figure it out"
Little forum tip if you press reply + quote people can see who you are replying to. Took me a while to figure it out so wanted to share |
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Would highly recommend using AI to write your profile for a polished profile.
We always used to struggle to write a good one, gave AI some basic information about us, told it what we were looking for, now we are happy with ours |
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By *art457 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"That's a fair comment, I can see the difficulty - I think it comes from a rather not leak with the rest of the photos point of view! Otherwise just desperately single unfortunately... Will figure it out
Little forum tip if you press reply + quote people can see who you are replying to. Took me a while to figure it out so wanted to share "
...ahhhhhhh that's so much better... Why isn't that default on the left!!! Thankyou |
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By *art457 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"Would highly recommend using AI to write your profile for a polished profile.
We always used to struggle to write a good one, gave AI some basic information about us, told it what we were looking for, now we are happy with ours "
Now this is technology in action - AI sex enhancement, is this what big brother was all about? I will give it a go! |
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(I work as a teacher, it's more about the safeguarding and the separation from the site than it is an expensive client lists thing! I'd never live it down in class if a leak happened!)"
There is absolutely no safeguarding requirement or risk as long as you have no children in your photos, there’s no discussion of children and you’re not using the site at work/on the school networks.
From a recognition standpoint, if another parent recognises you, they are on for the same thing. Don’t put explicit photos up. Just share if asked, even then do it at your own judgement.
I say this as a googleable, in the press professor at at a top 10 university. I am very recognisable if you’re in my field. |
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"Would highly recommend using AI to write your profile for a polished profile.
We always used to struggle to write a good one, gave AI some basic information about us, told it what we were looking for, now we are happy with ours "
It’s super obvious when people use AI alone. It is worth rewriting it to ensure it reads like a natural person, as many who use it are fake profiles/lacking in literacy which puts some off. Have a look at the profile requests posts and people immediately spot AI use and are critical of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Would highly recommend using AI to write your profile for a polished profile.
We always used to struggle to write a good one, gave AI some basic information about us, told it what we were looking for, now we are happy with ours
It’s super obvious when people use AI alone. It is worth rewriting it to ensure it reads like a natural person, as many who use it are fake profiles/lacking in literacy which puts some off. Have a look at the profile requests posts and people immediately spot AI use and are critical of it. "
I used AI to write my father of the brides speech, it was total bollox, but ga e me some ideas  |
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"Irrespective of what you put on your profile, it’s an absolute sausage fest on fab and you’ll get a load of male views"
This. I could write NO MEN a thousand times on my profile and my inbox would be flooded if single men and MM couples weren’t blocked |
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