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Sooo - I may be Bi…
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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So there i was. In Angels and Sinners yesterday, enjoying the films and trying to get in to the mood of things.
Mostly blow bangs on the screen - kinda hot, but not my thing. Then, as the DVD is getting changed over, I hear a commotion on the back row and see that a guy who walked in a few minutes before is giving quite the energetic BJ to another guy on the back row.
And I’m not sure why, but I found it to be an extremely sexual scene. To the extent that I actually moved to the back row to get a better view. To be honest, had I been invited to join in I am not sure what I would have said - quite possibly a yes.
Now, I’ve always prided myself on being tolerant towards others, but I have never considered myself to be Bi before. But there I was - one eye watching the anonymous MM blowjob to my right, and one eye watching the lesbian scene that had just started up on the screen.
So I’m not sure what else I could be lol 😂
For those curious, I did not join in. People were too busy with one another to notice me arriving on the back row and I chickened out before anything happened. I hope that the shock of this revelation is coming across and explains why I left .
But I’ve never had a thrill like that before since I first had sex with a gorgeous MILF at university. So now I’m having trouble thinking I’m going to stay away tbh.
Any thoughts/comments/tips lol 😂. This is more by the way of me making a confession and emptying my head than anything else, but I am a total neophyte at the male side of things. So any comment would be helpful |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I (mykel) am a bi-sexual guy. I could fall in love with a guy, or kiss a guy but also with a woman (which is what happened to me.
You don't have to feel ALL these things to be bi though!! Just getting aroused by a man might mean your bi?! or it might mean you are aroused by ANY close sexual activity (which is normal) - it's normal either way!
You can chose whatever label you like, because that's all they are is labels! If you want to be a 'straight' man who occasionally sucks cock, perfect. If you want to be a bi guy, that only occasionally has his cock sucked, that's fine too! You get to choose your label! Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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I don’t think it’s a matter of falling in love - it’s just that it was so arousing that I could not stop myself getting closer to the action and feeling a bit like I wanted to be involved 
As for sucking cock - I am a total beginner lol 😂 |
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"I (mykel) am a bi-sexual guy. I could fall in love with a guy, or kiss a guy but also with a woman (which is what happened to me.
You don't have to feel ALL these things to be bi though!! Just getting aroused by a man might mean your bi?! or it might mean you are aroused by ANY close sexual activity (which is normal) - it's normal either way!
You can chose whatever label you like, because that's all they are is labels! If you want to be a 'straight' man who occasionally sucks cock, perfect. If you want to be a bi guy, that only occasionally has his cock sucked, that's fine too! You get to choose your label! Good luck!"
This is pretty much spot on!
I (Jake) was in the same scenario as you and only fancied girls until a particular anal porn scene made me realise I wanted to be on the recieving end of the cock rather than the one giving it!
I like to label myself more as hete exible - so I like to have relationships and feelings with women, but love to have sexual encounters with men.
Honestly, these days just do what feels right and be hedonistic, and don't worry much about labels or being gay etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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Not a bad description of how I’m feeling I honestly have never had romantic feelings for a man (plenty of women though) but I probably would have yesterday if I was asked lol |
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"I (mykel) am a bi-sexual guy. I could fall in love with a guy, or kiss a guy but also with a woman (which is what happened to me.
You don't have to feel ALL these things to be bi though!! Just getting aroused by a man might mean your bi?! or it might mean you are aroused by ANY close sexual activity (which is normal) - it's normal either way!
You can chose whatever label you like, because that's all they are is labels! If you want to be a 'straight' man who occasionally sucks cock, perfect. If you want to be a bi guy, that only occasionally has his cock sucked, that's fine too! You get to choose your label! Good luck!"
Agree with this 100%
Call yourself whatever you like and explore whatever you like. As a bisexual male myself I/we mainly frequent bi nights and clubs and the range of different sexual orientation is incredible. Sometimes you meet guys that only play bi when they're in the mood, sometimes they're like me that would play fully with a guy solo. If you're curious, explore it...it doesn't mean after you've tried it that you have to identify as bi or do it again.
Oh and may I add to Mykel that posted this response....you are fucking gorgeous mate! Very much my type of guy!!! 😍🫠 |
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This is very common. Many men on here who, like me, say they are bi-curious are where you are, turned on by watching other men and looking at cocks. Many who claim to be straight will watch men. Being turned on by seeing men or women aroused is normal.
Don't stay away. You enjoyed it - go back and enjoy some more. Join in when and if you feel ready. Go as far as you want, hands, mouth, give or take. Remember no means no. It isn't wrong. Have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Bi here, must admit it’s a struggle at times, especially being in a relationship.
I’m here to hopefully try and open it up a bit (she’s not 100% convinced yet) |
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"This is very common. Many men on here who, like me, say they are bi-curious are where you are, turned on by watching other men and looking at cocks. Many who claim to be straight will watch men. Being turned on by seeing men or women aroused is normal.
Don't stay away. You enjoyed it - go back and enjoy some more. Join in when and if you feel ready. Go as far as you want, hands, mouth, give or take. Remember no means no. It isn't wrong. Have fun."
Very common indeed, lots of those same men on fabguys too, enjoy it but if in a relationship be honest with yourself and partner. You never know what doors may open for more fun |
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Sex is sex and as long as it’s good and feels good then it’s a great thing to enjoy with which ever sex the best bj I ever had was off a bloke and I enjoy giving head myself but I enjoy a woman just as much just do it and if you don’t like it don’t do it again you know then but I think you will love it good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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Thank you all. I don’t mind admitting that I am thoroughly nervous about this new side of things
I will probably go back to angels and sinners fairly soon and see what is what there. I don’t think I’m 100% prepared, but who is |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I don't get the sense from your post that your bringing any homophobic baggage to this, which is usually where people usually trip themselves up on and go down negative rabbit holes. So, on that front, congratulations! The worst case scenario is you get to confirm what you used to think of as your identity is super for reals true in a way that most people don't, and the best case is a whole new world gets to open up. It's all upside!
All I'll say is people seem to think sexuality means your into X, Z, or maybe both, but in my experience it's a whole set of scales and different scenarios and partners move different parts of different dials in different ways.
Maybe your just into both! Plenty are! Maybe your actually straight, but you saw a guy giving head in a way that triggered a pleasant memory. Maybe your a heteroromantic bi, would enjoy sex with guys, but have no romantic interest which is why that interest never triggered before. Maybe your any of the other bazillions of combinations of sexualities that single words like 'bi' and 'straight' and 'gay' just aren't descriptive enough to cover.
The important thing is, if your going into it with an open mind and no baggage, figuring it out is fun in itself. Even the bits where you end up going 'nope, not for me!'. Actually, sometimes especially those bits. Figuring your shit out is cool! |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Your experience sounds like a turbi charged version of how I found myself in the same position
Found Fab as a straight guy. Never thought about looking at a cock, only women bodies for me
But the more time i spent on here, seeing cocks in all their shapes and sizes, I found it highly arousing
In a very happy heterosexual relationship, but I would love to explore some cock play.
For now it's just chatting to guys on here, and the odd video wank
P.s. I love seeing a hot load blow out of a hard cock  |
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By *onicZMan 38 weeks ago
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"Thank you all. I don’t mind admitting that I am thoroughly nervous about this new side of things
I will probably go back to angels and sinners fairly soon and see what is what there. I don’t think I’m 100% prepared, but who is"
Highly recommend trying out the Bi and Beyond event. There's absolutely no pressure, women are there too and you can talk with likeminded people face to face while enjoying a drink.
Feel free to message me if you want more info. No one should have to hide their bisexuality |
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I've been sucked off by a bloke behind a glory hole. I really enjoyed it. So I went back again.
I played with his cock and didn't enjoy it.
So I wouldn't consider myself bi. I just like getting my dick sucked regardless of there gender. |
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"A" here, labels are just that... labels... don't feel obliged to call yourself Bi, Bi curious, Gay... if you enjoy something, well then it's just that.
Yes, I can safely say I'm Bi, I enjoy all aspects of sex with a guy but the label aspect is purely so other couples know what we enjoy, those who like similar can identify what kind of play we like, and those who dislike Bi guys can block us and move on.
You do you, enjoy what you enjoy and neve be ashamed of that and who you are! |
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