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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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So I’ve been gandering around here for a while, and find many profiles that have very attractive and sexy women of all shapes ages and sizes!
The problem I face is managing to get a meet! I’ve spoken to quite a few here but it seems like an endless battle to try to get a meet organised with someone here.
I’ve had a couple of users help me with the profile and updated my bio until I can add some more.
With pictures any suggestions for what to upload? Don’t wish for my face to be all over the site, but what types of images are what women look for here?
I am also aware, many women don’t like south Asians (presumably due to the actions of a few senseless ones which I understand) but still wish to try my luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Hi B,
You're not alone in this position and many men here sharing the same frustrations. I'm also of asian background but I respect that everyone has preferences.
I would say take your time, have endless patience, treat others with respect and ignore the riff-raff and associated noise. Sometimes, no reaction or no response to something is wiser. But if anything aimed at you and you are disrespected, do report to Mods/Site Help. This site isn't always a quick fix for everyone and some people do struggle for meets due to no-shows and/or timewasters, so don't set expectations. If it isn't working for you, take a break for a while and hide the profile. Come back to it if you are inspired with new ideas. Be kind to yourself and others.
As far as photo uploads go, try something creative and just mix it up a little. Try a social meet, encourage safe play and overall, be happy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"Hi B,
You're not alone in this position and many men here sharing the same frustrations. I'm also of asian background but I respect that everyone has preferences.
I would say take your time, have endless patience, treat others with respect and ignore the riff-raff and associated noise. Sometimes, no reaction or no response to something is wiser. But if anything aimed at you and you are disrespected, do report to Mods/Site Help. This site isn't always a quick fix for everyone and some people do struggle for meets due to no-shows and/or timewasters, so don't set expectations. If it isn't working for you, take a break for a while and hide the profile. Come back to it if you are inspired with new ideas. Be kind to yourself and others.
As far as photo uploads go, try something creative and just mix it up a little. Try a social meet, encourage safe play and overall, be happy."
Thanks for the above, haven’t had much riff raff tbh, it’s just it seemed more men wanted my cock than women!
I’ll get some new pics uploaded soonish tbh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"All your photos are of your cock. Try getting some different pics, legs, arms, back, chest, fully clothed, anything but cock. "
Thanks for the above! I have been told, as mentioned in the post!
Going to try uploading something better later on and remove some of the cock pics lol
Just hard to find some that are not on social media already 😂 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"You’ve no interests selected which means it’s impossible to have any clue what you’re into.
It also means that when people search your area then you’ll not show if they select any interests."
Thanks for pointing that out
Totally forgot to add them lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience. "
I see what you meant, edited it! |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience.
I see what you meant, edited it!"
So now you’re only looking for women, not couples? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience.
I see what you meant, edited it!
So now you’re only looking for women, not couples? "
I did mention hot wives and people with permission also if you read the next part
But don’t play with other men so wish to keep to women only |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience.
I see what you meant, edited it!
So now you’re only looking for women, not couples?
I did mention hot wives and people with permission also if you read the next part
But don’t play with other men so wish to keep to women only "
Hot wives and playing with permission suggests to us just women, not couples. Hey Ho, we’ll leave it there. |
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience.
I see what you meant, edited it!
So now you’re only looking for women, not couples?
I did mention hot wives and people with permission also if you read the next part
But don’t play with other men so wish to keep to women only
Hot wives and playing with permission suggests to us just women, not couples. Hey Ho, we’ll leave it there. "
Whenever a profile states females all ages / size it comes across as desperate especially as you are looking for ages 18-99 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience.
I see what you meant, edited it!
So now you’re only looking for women, not couples?
I did mention hot wives and people with permission also if you read the next part
But don’t play with other men so wish to keep to women only
Hot wives and playing with permission suggests to us just women, not couples. Hey Ho, we’ll leave it there.
Whenever a profile states females all ages / size it comes across as desperate especially as you are looking for ages 18-99"
Yeah not looking for someone a lot older lol, I’ve edited this now to show the real age range I’m looking for. As for body, I’ve learnt to appreciate all types from skinny to larger women, I’ve no preference as all are fun in their own way  |
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience.
I see what you meant, edited it!
So now you’re only looking for women, not couples?
I did mention hot wives and people with permission also if you read the next part
But don’t play with other men so wish to keep to women only "
Then your not looking for couples unless your happy to do a MFM. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience.
I see what you meant, edited it!
So now you’re only looking for women, not couples?
I did mention hot wives and people with permission also if you read the next part
But don’t play with other men so wish to keep to women only
Then your not looking for couples unless your happy to do a MFM. "
This is true, just won’t play with another man’s bits lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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This is a very good suggestion that I might try for myself - having the same problem tbh
What I personally don't get is that some guys who have lots of meets have plenty of cock picks - bit confusing.
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"This is a very good suggestion that I might try for myself - having the same problem tbh
What I personally don't get is that some guys who have lots of meets have plenty of cock picks - bit confusing.
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Maybe their profiles stand out, or perhaps they go to clubs? Who knows
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"It comes across as a tad pretentious to us.
In what way? X
The last paragraph would put us off. But we’re not your target audience.
I see what you meant, edited it!
So now you’re only looking for women, not couples?
I did mention hot wives and people with permission also if you read the next part
But don’t play with other men so wish to keep to women only
Then your not looking for couples unless your happy to do a MFM.
This is true, just won’t play with another man’s bits lol "
Putting bisexual play aside....you are on a swingers site mate. If a couple invites you in for a threesome then there is a likelihood that there'll be some touching. Whether that's exploring dp/dvp or even getting some juices on you. Many couples aren't gonna be interested if you have hang ups about being near another man.
If it's hotwives/cuckold dynamic you're after then your profile is gonna need to really stand out and you need to come across as someone that has the ability to perform, for us you just wouldn't look like someone that could put on a great show.
If it's single ladies you're after then all I can say is good luck, for every female there must be 1000 men. You'll be better off on tinder.
I have to be honest, from looking at your profile you I think you come across as one of the many many men that are here for the wrong reason. Ask yourself this question...are you here for the lifestyle or are you here because you think you'll get laid? If it's the former then you need to get yourself out there at clubs and events and get experience of what this LS is really about, then you won't be needing to ask for profile advice...if it's the latter you might as well quit now because you'll likely get nowhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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This is brilliant advice.
For us:
*More pictures so that we can accurately see what you look like. A penis gallery isn't it: we want a good idea of what your body is like (by all means keep face pictures private, but have some ready to send).
*A bit more about what you like in bed. Not just the fab list of stuff, but in your own words - what is sex with you like? What do you enjoy doing/having done to you? Anything that quirky/kinky that you like? |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"So I’ve been gandering around here for a while, and find many profiles that have very attractive and sexy women of all shapes ages and sizes!
The problem I face is managing to get a meet! I’ve spoken to quite a few here but it seems like an endless battle to try to get a meet organised with someone here.
I’ve had a couple of users help me with the profile and updated my bio until I can add some more.
With pictures any suggestions for what to upload? Don’t wish for my face to be all over the site, but what types of images are what women look for here?
I am also aware, many women don’t like south Asians (presumably due to the actions of a few senseless ones which I understand) but still wish to try my luck! "
OP it’s not the fact you’re Asian it’s the fact that your profile pics are just a no no. Pics like that automatically turn me off and I would suspect for the majority of legit females on here they would say the same.
Best bet get yourself down to a club. It’s the no 1 piece of advice we give anyone. It ain’t that easy on here, too many fakes, timewasters etc etc. go to a club and you will meet genuine real people! |
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It's not a bunch of red flags per se, it's just quite an offputting profile.
Not only are they dick pics, they're really awful dick pics. Dirty, messy backgrounds, a really ordinary cock, and nothing else to go on.
You're a single man and you work in finance but you can't accommodate - why?
Then your bio is basically "I'll fuck anyone but I'm not gay".
So your lack of appeal really has nothing to do with your race. It's just that there's nothing there to like. You say you're handsome but there's no proof of that. Are you funny? No idea. Charming? No idea. Kinky? No idea. Interesting as a person? No idea. All I know about you is you have a penis and you're not great at cleaning.
Take a step back from your profile and think "why would a woman be interested in this?" |
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"It's not a bunch of red flags per se, it's just quite an offputting profile.
Not only are they dick pics, they're really awful dick pics. Dirty, messy backgrounds, a really ordinary cock, and nothing else to go on.
You're a single man and you work in finance but you can't accommodate - why?
Then your bio is basically "I'll fuck anyone but I'm not gay".
So your lack of appeal really has nothing to do with your race. It's just that there's nothing there to like. You say you're handsome but there's no proof of that. Are you funny? No idea. Charming? No idea. Kinky? No idea. Interesting as a person? No idea. All I know about you is you have a penis and you're not great at cleaning.
Take a step back from your profile and think "why would a woman be interested in this?""
Exactly what this dude says!!
Just another generic male profile flashing his willy about.
Mrs x |
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