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By *ko12 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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Here's the think,the wife bought up the subject of 3 sums tonight, she said she could never do a 3 sum with me and another lady, but how would I feel about one with her and guy.
I said I would be okay with it just as long as she was getting pleasured and was happy with it.
Now my dilemma is she has no idea of my bi side so can't show her this site as she may see my pics on it if she was searching by herself in here.
So is there any other sites I could show her where she could see some pics of guys that might be interested in joining us if she decides to go ahead with her thoughts.
I suspect it's only an idea of hers to see how I would react,but might be worth being able to show her a site that she can look at |
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"Here's the think,the wife bought up the subject of 3 sums tonight, she said she could never do a 3 sum with me and another lady, but how would I feel about one with her and guy.
I said I would be okay with it just as long as she was getting pleasured and was happy with it.
Now my dilemma is she has no idea of my bi side so can't show her this site as she may see my pics on it if she was searching by herself in here.
So is there any other sites I could show her where she could see some pics of guys that might be interested in joining us if she decides to go ahead with her thoughts.
I suspect it's only an idea of hers to see how I would react,but might be worth being able to show her a site that she can look at "
My question is, you're married but she doesn't know you're bisexual? |
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By *ko12 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"Here's the think,the wife bought up the subject of 3 sums tonight, she said she could never do a 3 sum with me and another lady, but how would I feel about one with her and guy.
I said I would be okay with it just as long as she was getting pleasured and was happy with it.
Now my dilemma is she has no idea of my bi side so can't show her this site as she may see my pics on it if she was searching by herself in here.
So is there any other sites I could show her where she could see some pics of guys that might be interested in joining us if she decides to go ahead with her thoughts.
I suspect it's only an idea of hers to see how I would react,but might be worth being able to show her a site that she can look at
My question is, you're married but she doesn't know you're bisexual?"
Yes that's right I have managed to keep that side of me hidden from her |
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"Here's the think,the wife bought up the subject of 3 sums tonight, she said she could never do a 3 sum with me and another lady, but how would I feel about one with her and guy.
I said I would be okay with it just as long as she was getting pleasured and was happy with it.
Now my dilemma is she has no idea of my bi side so can't show her this site as she may see my pics on it if she was searching by herself in here.
So is there any other sites I could show her where she could see some pics of guys that might be interested in joining us if she decides to go ahead with her thoughts.
I suspect it's only an idea of hers to see how I would react,but might be worth being able to show her a site that she can look at
My question is, you're married but she doesn't know you're bisexual?
Yes that's right I have managed to keep that side of me hidden from her "
It's none of my business, of course, but since you're asking the question, before you get into the subject of arranging threesomes with your wife, would it not be better for you to start being honest and open with her about your actual sexual orientation?
I take it she isn't aware of what you get up to on here? |
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"Now my dilemma is she has no idea of my bi side so can't show her this site as she may see my pics on it if she was searching by herself in here."
If you're open with her about your desires, you might get what you really want 🤷
Being honest with & about yourself is very freeing, highly recommend it. Especially in an important relationship like a marriage. |
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I think that’s easier said than done with some marriages l love my wife no sex for 15 years makes you feel very frustrated and taking to her would only cause rows as to my sexuality I’ll keep that to myself and hopefully take it to the grave yes it is nice to be open but in my case it wouldn’t work |
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"I think that’s easier said than done with some marriages l love my wife no sex for 15 years makes you feel very frustrated and taking to her would only cause rows as to my sexuality I’ll keep that to myself and hopefully take it to the grave yes it is nice to be open but in my case it wouldn’t work "
Yeah, so if you and her haven't had sex for 15 years and you can't talk to her about it without rowing, and you can't tell her at all about your sexuality, then organising a threesome really ought to be the very last thing on your list of priorities. |
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By *ko12 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"I think that’s easier said than done with some marriages l love my wife no sex for 15 years makes you feel very frustrated and taking to her would only cause rows as to my sexuality I’ll keep that to myself and hopefully take it to the grave yes it is nice to be open but in my case it wouldn’t work "
I know the feeling ,I have tried to brotch the subject but she isn't up for hearing about that, it was just the other night she bought up the 3 Sun subject and I said if he would make her happy to try it I was more than happy to go along with it |
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"I've seen a think on the townhouse web site called swing hub anyone used it, and do you think a night at townhouse where we could maybe chat with others about would be an idea "
So, both for the sake of yourselves and the other people you encounter if and when you do decide to start swinging, you really need to think about sorting your issues out first.
Couples who swing are generally characterised by their strong, close relationship and their honesty and openness with each other. This is necessary not least because swinging can put unusual pressure on aspects of a relationship such as trust and jealousy, but also because it's reckless and disrespectful to expose other people to your internal drama.
Again, from what you've said you're a couple who don't communicate well, since you're keeping secret from your partner a really fundamental aspect of your own sexuality, which you have no plans to ever tell her. And she apparently has no idea you're on here.
On that basis I'd suggest that you stay well away from this lifestyle, and perhaps consider couples counselling in order to find a safe space for you and your partner to talk openly and honestly about your sex life and what each of you want from it. |
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There's a time and a place for everything, and it's up to the op to choose what's right for him.. And when.
His question was simply are there other sites.. that might in itself help open up the conversation. Who knows, certainly not you or I...
He didn't ask you for a lecture. |
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"Here's the think,the wife bought up the subject of 3 sums tonight, she said she could never do a 3 sum with me and another lady, but how would I feel about one with her and guy.
I said I would be okay with it just as long as she was getting pleasured and was happy with it.
Now my dilemma is she has no idea of my bi side so can't show her this site as she may see my pics on it if she was searching by herself in here.
So is there any other sites I could show her where she could see some pics of guys that might be interested in joining us if she decides to go ahead with her thoughts.
I suspect it's only an idea of hers to see how I would react,but might be worth being able to show her a site that she can look at "
You can go in and change your profile to hetero easily enough.
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"There's a time and a place for everything, and it's up to the op to choose what's right for him.. And when.
His question was simply are there other sites.. that might in itself help open up the conversation. Who knows, certainly not you or I...
He didn't ask you for a lecture. "
I presume the OP has access to Google.
He volunteered his personal reasons for looking elsewhere on a public discussion forum called "swinging support and advice".
And while he may not have specifically asked whether his situation lends itself to getting involved in what he's considering, he also didn't ask anyone to police the contributions to his thread.
And I don't see you answering his original question either. |
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"Here's the think,the wife bought up the subject of 3 sums tonight, she said she could never do a 3 sum with me and another lady, but how would I feel about one with her and guy.
I said I would be okay with it just as long as she was getting pleasured and was happy with it.
Now my dilemma is she has no idea of my bi side so can't show her this site as she may see my pics on it if she was searching by herself in here.
So is there any other sites I could show her where she could see some pics of guys that might be interested in joining us if she decides to go ahead with her thoughts.
I suspect it's only an idea of hers to see how I would react,but might be worth being able to show her a site that she can look at "
Try a club on mixed nights
Then you get options for single guys, couples and even single girls |
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By *ko12 OP Man 39 weeks ago
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"Here's the think,the wife bought up the subject of 3 sums tonight, she said she could never do a 3 sum with me and another lady, but how would I feel about one with her and guy.
I said I would be okay with it just as long as she was getting pleasured and was happy with it.
Now my dilemma is she has no idea of my bi side so can't show her this site as she may see my pics on it if she was searching by herself in here.
So is there any other sites I could show her where she could see some pics of guys that might be interested in joining us if she decides to go ahead with her thoughts.
I suspect it's only an idea of hers to see how I would react,but might be worth being able to show her a site that she can look at
Try a club on mixed nights
Then you get options for single guys, couples and even single girls "
Thanks for that advice, that is what i was thinking and thought it might be an oppertunity for her to see for herself what it might intail and to be able to chat with others about it |
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