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Hey guys seem to be right struggling atm, feel as tho my profile is frightening people, is there a huge red flag I'm missing or something, seems to just get blocked just for sending a message, I'm a respectful man, I don't send smut or filth in messages, just a friendly hello I'm John, are you interested in meeting single males, can anyone give me any advice on either my profile or where I'm going wrong thanks |
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"Hey guys seem to be right struggling atm, feel as tho my profile is frightening people, is there a huge red flag I'm missing or something, seems to just get blocked just for sending a message, I'm a respectful man, I don't send smut or filth in messages, just a friendly hello I'm John, are you interested in meeting single males, can anyone give me any advice on either my profile or where I'm going wrong thanks "
Your message doesn't show any interest in the person you are writing to. It would be like printing a bunch of fliers and putting them through hundreds of letterboxes and expecting to get a date out of it.
If you like the person you are writing to then say why. If you think you are a good match then say why. At the moment you are saying nothing. Show the person you are writing to that you are interested in them and not just playing the numbers game. |
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People will communicate with those who seem to be mutually compatible with them. No reply and blocks are done for the rest. Most people are not mutually compatible though - perhaps less than 2%
Women don't generally want to see cock pics, in order to know. They need physical attraction and pics that let them assess it work best
Get to socials and clubs to get to know people  |
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I would ditch the cock and hoodie pics. Smart, open shirt, good shoes etc. Leave the cock pics until you're asked for one. Think of Harrods window at Christmas as opposed to poundstretcher's. Telling everyone you're good at oral isn't something to brag about, it's expected. Would you go to a nightclub in a hoodie and brag about your oral skills as a chat up line, how far do you think you'd get? Any messages should feel personal to each recipient, not a generic, cast your net wide message. An excellent verification will will also help. We've had single guys turn up at our party's wearing hoodies and it's not a good first impression. They think it's a case of turning up and shagging 4 or 5 women. Your personality may not be the suit and tie looks but that can be dropped after you meet someone new. We all have to create an illusion to certain extent to be successful. Good luck
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And another thing, having a verification from a bloke, saying you had a non sexual massage, that's bs, if you're bi say your bi. You'd be surprised at the positive attitude from women knowing you're bi. Or, get rid of it. |
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..and if you feel the need to sign off with a kiss symbol, make it a generous Capital X. Nothing looks meaner or even grudging than a lower case apology for a kiss.
I've been meaning to start a thread about this for years and not wanting to hijack your thread I will do that now elsewhere in the lounge. |
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You know how your profile says blondes are your weakness?
You've just made sure that you'll never get a reply from a brunette or a redhead, and some blondes will find it a turn-off too. It's fine to have preferences. You don't always have to say what they are.
The biggest mistake all guys make when putting their profiles together is to not bother trying to put themselves in the position of a person looking at it. |
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"I don't send smut or filth in messages, just a friendly hello I'm John, are you interested in meeting single males"
If you had read their profile before messaging, you would know whether or not they are interested in meeting single men. |
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"You know how your profile says blondes are your weakness?
You've just made sure that you'll never get a reply from a brunette or a redhead, and some blondes will find it a turn-off too. It's fine to have preferences. You don't always have to say what they are.
The biggest mistake all guys make when putting their profiles together is to not bother trying to put themselves in the position of a person looking at it."
By that logic, should we all be keeping the door open to the huge number of our fellow men who are yearning to suck our cocks, when it might not be what we are primarily looking for? |
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OP, your bio is very generic, have a think about how you could tell people more about you and what you can bring to the party.
Also, points to you for actually using punctuation on your profile, but coma should never replace a full stop. |
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"OP, your bio is very generic, have a think about how you could tell people more about you and what you can bring to the party.
Also, points to you for actually using punctuation on your profile, but coma should never replace a full stop. "
It's all too easy to become comatose! |
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By *elkieWoman 38 weeks ago
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Make it easy for someone to reply. “Are you interested in meeting single men” is high drama, because if they say yes, and don’t arrange to meet you, they’re on the hook for an earfull of hassle. Find an easier ice breaker, ask something about them.
Personality will get you laid where a nice dick fails. |
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"You know how your profile says blondes are your weakness?
You've just made sure that you'll never get a reply from a brunette or a redhead, and some blondes will find it a turn-off too. It's fine to have preferences. You don't always have to say what they are.
The biggest mistake all guys make when putting their profiles together is to not bother trying to put themselves in the position of a person looking at it.
By that logic, should we all be keeping the door open to the huge number of our fellow men who are yearning to suck our cocks, when it might not be what we are primarily looking for?"
That depends on how open you are to getting sucked off by a man. I'm assuming OP is keen enough to bang brunettes and redheads that he doesn't want to accidentally cock-block himself. |
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