As a loving couple we ocassionally enjoy recreational sex with another Male.
BUT although she enjoys the sexual attention and action, she cannot separate loving from sexual enjoyment of another Male, and will not downgrade myself or humiliate me, but needs me near when sexual activities with her lover happen..
I need verbal and physical humilation !! |
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I think a situation like this needs to work for both sides of a couple. From the way you describe it I get the sense you are OK with this but it doesn’t really do anything for you? That doesn’t sound brilliant.
Your needs are as important as hers so you need to talk about that and work out how they can be accommodated. |
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"As a loving couple we ocassionally enjoy recreational sex with another Male.
BUT although she enjoys the sexual attention and action, she cannot separate loving from sexual enjoyment of another Male, and will not downgrade myself or humiliate me, but needs me near when sexual activities with her lover happen..
I need verbal and physical humilation !!"
I can understand this. When we first started out I was reluctant to be vocal towards Alex as it felt “wrong” We would talk afterwards and he’d always say I wish you’d tell me how much better/bigger he is etc So he started asking me “Is he better baby” “ is his cock bigger” things like that. I am a lot more confident now in verbalising what he wants to hear but it did take time |
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"As a loving couple we ocassionally enjoy recreational sex with another Male.
BUT although she enjoys the sexual attention and action, she cannot separate loving from sexual enjoyment of another Male, and will not downgrade myself or humiliate me, but needs me near when sexual activities with her lover happen..
I need verbal and physical humilation !!
I can understand this. When we first started out I was reluctant to be vocal towards Alex as it felt “wrong” We would talk afterwards and he’d always say I wish you’d tell me how much better/bigger he is etc So he started asking me “Is he better baby” “ is his cock bigger” things like that. I am a lot more confident now in verbalising what he wants to hear but it did take time "
I feel exactly the same when I watch my wife with another man, I really enjoy being humiliated
I guess it is just a thing us guys like and our wife's don't understand it
Male & Female minds are so different |
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"I feel exactly the same when I watch my wife with another man, I really enjoy being humiliated
I guess it is just a thing us guys like and our wife's don't understand it"
Not all guys, by a long way! |
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"As a loving couple we ocassionally enjoy recreational sex with another Male.
BUT although she enjoys the sexual attention and action, she cannot separate loving from sexual enjoyment of another Male, and will not downgrade myself or humiliate me, but needs me near when sexual activities with her lover happen..
I need verbal and physical humilation !!"
I imagine like many of us couples in this lifestyle you have very open and honest conversations. I also assume (maybe incorrectly) that this need was either not known or expressed at the start of the relationship. Either way it not for her, which is fine. But it's also a deep desire for you. So you have somewhat of an impasse which is sad when you desperatly want to share something with the person you love. Bit you both are individuals too.
So to me it would seem as a non-monogamous couple (to some extent anyway) who are open with each other to find the next best solution to that need. So have you discussed about outsourcing this need to say another woman? Which I totally get is not the same as sharing it with your partner but that is what it is and this may scratch that itch. Thus allowing you both the side missions to indulge in differing individual desires within the framework of your relationship together. Would be a line of enquiry with any potential? |
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