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Are there ladies who don’t like penetrative sex ?
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Just I thought for some of us guys either having gone through radical prorate removal or chemotherapy? Which has left us having problems short or long turn getting an erection ?
So for a guy if a couple what happens? They may not be cuckold but want their wife to still have a good time and join in. ?
Or the single guys who don’t have the backup of a female to get meets with ?
So just wondering if this is a turn off for couples meeting with a couple like that ? Or any women who’d been out if by a guy nit getting an erection?
Might help some out there have confidence depending on any answers? |
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By *elkieWoman 32 weeks ago
Durham |
Like, this is staggeringly common. It’s not hard to satisfy a woman with fingers and tongue. Toys are available that help too. But for me, the worst aspect is not being able to please my partner: so you need to explicitly tell her, with actual words, that you’re having fun. |
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I my self due to medical reasons can’t satisfy my wife and would be happy to be able to try using fingers and tongue but she had never liked either she just like being fucked by me I suggested getting another man to help out with that but shot down in flames at the mention of it she says she is content with the situation after 15 years of no sex I have to ask or beg for sex shes not interested I’ve spoken to others on here an it’s quite a common thing she was a fantastic lover before |
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"This should be good!"
Hope that this was meant in a good way and not pure sarcasm but I think from the replies there are some supportive people also some people who might so far have gained a little bit of confidence from this to see that it’s not the end of the world ! |
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Well done for raising the issue as its probably more common than most would imagine.
We have found that for guys that don't have ED issues, Mr Floppy quite often pays a visit, so penetration doesn't always happen, but a good time is always had and Disco Balls has experienced the same at times when playing with others.
For some who want another to join them, it could even be an advantage if they want reassurance that the male won't try and do the alpha male thing, or only want soft play with the female being the centre of attention. |
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I often prefer no penetrative sex, particularly with new people. I can still cum well with fingers and tongue.
However, for anyone struggling to get hard yet still wanting to experience the body on body and thrusting sensation, there is plenty of male strap ons (hollow ones, the cock goes inside them) available on the market. As long as your partner is happy with them, male strap on can take the mental pressure off while still providing the sensation of full sex. My FWB has one (he had his prostate removed due to cancer) and it's great experience for both of us.
Best ones would be the ones where the straps are adjustable - yes, a bit of faffing about at first, but I personally find it very horny, watching him put it on. |
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"I often prefer no penetrative sex, particularly with new people. I can still cum well with fingers and tongue.
However, for anyone struggling to get hard yet still wanting to experience the body on body and thrusting sensation, there is plenty of male strap ons (hollow ones, the cock goes inside them) available on the market. As long as your partner is happy with them, male strap on can take the mental pressure off while still providing the sensation of full sex. My FWB has one (he had his prostate removed due to cancer) and it's great experience for both of us.
Best ones would be the ones where the straps are adjustable - yes, a bit of faffing about at first, but I personally find it very horny, watching him put it on. "
Didn’t know about them and I’m sure that it will help everyone who sees it ? I’m lucky and have an amazing partner who penetration isn’t the be all and it helps that I enjoy pleasing without have to physically get satisfaction because seeing the smile on her face and know I’ve given her enjoyment a few times in a night is better than being worried about getting hard again ? |
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"I’ve never and will never have penetrative sex with another male so it’d work out perfectly for us. Plenty soft swap couples also seeking the same xx"
Fancy moving up north lol seriously that is an amazing attitude although some guys might be flabbergasted at having a meet but without any proper sex ( ooops ) well the enjoyment should be knowing as a single a couple or lady have invited you to a private space in their relationship and let you help them fulfill their needs or fantasies? Now that’s true enjoyment |
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Oh we’re always very very clear upfront so there’s no confusion on a meet (although there have been moments guys would try their luck)
But yeah totally agree. There are so many couples/singles with different kink interests so to find one that matches yours is great |
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"Oh we’re always very very clear upfront so there’s no confusion on a meet (although there have been moments guys would try their luck)
But yeah totally agree. There are so many couples/singles with different kink interests so to find one that matches yours is great "
I know I’ve found your posts very encouraging and I’m sure others have thank you |
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"Like, this is staggeringly common. It’s not hard to satisfy a woman with fingers and tongue. Toys are available that help too. But for me, the worst aspect is not being able to please my partner: so you need to explicitly tell her, with actual words, that you’re having fun. "
Don’t worry she knows I’m having fun as being very vocal with her actually turns her on |
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This is our.view too. We very very rarely have penetrative sex with others.
There are lots of other ways to give and receive pleasure.
We are a soft swing kind of couple!
Happy to hear from ithers of same persuasion |
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Lucy loves penetration, not that she doesn't cum hard from other means but she needs that itch scratching as well
I've always been clear if I couldn't perform for medical reasons there would need to be a discussion but my baseline is we would find a substitute for that. I don't think it's fair to expect someone to just cut that part of their sex life away when other options exist |
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With couples im happy and prefer soft play. I’ve met single guys in the past and its been mainly soft/foreplay activities. As someone else said sometimes penetration is whats wanted and needed but i’d say more people are open to soft play. |
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"Lucy loves penetration, not that she doesn't cum hard from other means but she needs that itch scratching as well
I've always been clear if I couldn't perform for medical reasons there would need to be a discussion but my baseline is we would find a substitute for that. I don't think it's fair to expect someone to just cut that part of their sex life away when other options exist "
I can understand that and I’m lucky that I’ve been given injections to help which has nearly worked ? So watch this space for updates |
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"With couples im happy and prefer soft play. I’ve met single guys in the past and it’s been mainly soft/foreplay activities. As someone else said sometimes penetration is whats wanted and needed but i’d say more people are open to soft play. "
Think it’s a mindset that rears its ugly head that no one wants a guy with no erection ? Bit like a pub with no beer ? So your comment is gratefully received by all us suffers |
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By *aandLoCouple 32 weeks ago
Southampton |
As others have said there are occasions when soft play is all that's wanted, or needed.
We're pretty new to the scene but have decided it soft play only with strangers in a club.
Once we've met someone once or twice, and built up a rapport, then we're definitely looking for penetration. |
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I have peyronies and while I can get hard it tends to hinge a bit at the point of the plaque build up. As a result I have lost quite a lot of confidence as I need to hold myself when penetrating.
We still have fun with fingers and oral but it's not the same.
Luckily we had been in the lifestyle for a few years and this last year we have been quite active in getting some hard cock for Aurelia, especially this last two or three weeks as she has been extremely horny. |
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