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Im wanting some advice, i'm a 'straight' guy and i get the urge to suck older cock, but have only done it a couple of times from meeting people on here, I get shaky and nervous. I've always had a massive kink of being someones obedient sub, but i've been shaky and terrified in the couple of meets ive had. Where do i go from here? |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"Im wanting some advice, i'm a 'straight' guy and i get the urge to suck older cock, but have only done it a couple of times from meeting people on here, I get shaky and nervous. I've always had a massive kink of being someones obedient sub, but i've been shaky and terrified in the couple of meets ive had. Where do i go from here?"
We have all had to start off at sometime, for me it was a year ago and on FabGuys not on here, you need to meet a Bi guy who would understand and take some time with you! xx |
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It would probably often depend on who your partners are and the environment/context. With experience, typically we'll all feel more relaxed and confident about what we're doing too.
If you meet 1 to 1, you might feel more pressured to do more and less at your pace, so it could be helpful to establish how you can minimise the pressure - some of which will be created by yourself.
Perhaps, in a magical world, you could dip in and out of sexual contact, whether for a few seconds or minutes, possibly engaging from a selection of partners? Being somewhere with just 1 other man, seems more likely to induce pressure, especially if you have presented as a submissive to them. There are some men who can feel entitled to get what they want, irrespective of what's going on for the partner - women especially get confronted with this uncomfortable scenario every day here 
I'd work out a plan, which could alleviate the pressure for you and helps to support your control. Perhaps engaging with a few other curious men, albeit them having complementary tastes to your own, could work. Some men meet to watch porn primarily, which might cut the pressure to perform. I've got to know a lot of primarily straight men and it's a different dynamic that they face, compared with other very balanced tastes bisexual men.
I'd encourage you to consider how you could structure your boundaries, so that you can progress at your own pace. It's important that you are in charge. You maybe could reflect on whether you have any internalised homo/bi phobia too, as this could eat into your comfort level.  |
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By *CExeCouple 30 weeks ago
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If you've sucked cock and you're wanting more, the first step would be to stop thinking of yourself as being straight. The old days of 'I'm not gay but the guy sucking my cock might be' are behind us. If you're bisexual, embrace it and explore it. |
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"If you've sucked cock and you're wanting more, the first step would be to stop thinking of yourself as being straight. The old days of 'I'm not gay but the guy sucking my cock might be' are behind us. If you're bisexual, embrace it and explore it."
This.
Labels are rubbish.
Most of us are some kind of bi.
Especially the straight guys who want to fuck me...
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"If you've sucked cock and you're wanting more, the first step would be to stop thinking of yourself as being straight. The old days of 'I'm not gay but the guy sucking my cock might be' are behind us. If you're bisexual, embrace it and explore it."
Agree with this for sure |
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Guy is after some advice and instead gets a lecture about his sexuality. 
To answer your question Op, go to a bi night at a club or to a gay sauna. You can the either indulge with a willing partner or just watch, but hopefully you’d meet someone who will guide you gently to enjoy the experience you’re after.
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I'm not a man but I am bi.
If your curious then there are some nice tips here that I think are a rather sound, safe way of you exploring.
I understand why people like labels but don't feel pressured to label yourself until your comfortable with it.
I didn't have much to add really other than good luck  |
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You can tell when the women enter the thread, because they actually answer the question...
As Atlanshia says, it sounds like the submission is the big thing for you, and the thrill is being "forced" into something that you wouldn't otherwise do. That's a pretty big tension, so it's not surprising that you're shaking.
If you want to take this further, you probably need to look for an experienced Dom of either sex. Just having lots of sex with other guys, however much fun, probably wouldn't give you what you're craving.
You might want to read about cuckolding too, as a different slant on the issue. |
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