I'm good friends with a guy on here. We've known each other several years and he usually messages me every day on here and or WhatsApp, mostly just to say hello and how are you. I know from our chats that he's going through some family stuff (elderly parents and an adult son with problems) and I also noticed the last few times I've been over for a coffee that he's developed a terrible cough which I have been asking him to go to the doctors about. It's been 5 days now since he's been online and that I've had any contact from him through any platform and I'm Getting concerned for his wellbeing. I'm not really sure what to do about the situation as I don't want to end up inadvertently outing him in my attempt to find out what's happened to him. Anyone have any idea or advice on how to approach this? |
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What an awful situation for you to be in. I hope you are OK as well.
I am not sure if this is a thing, but perhaps you could call the local police station anonymously and see if they can do a home visit? |
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This is definitely a tricky situation to find yourself in. I don't know how regular was your contact with him, OP, so can't judge whether 5 days with no contact is normal or not. Some people, though, men in particular, tend to stay away from social media/internet when they're going through tough times. They just don't have enough head space for that. Let's hope this is the case and that you'll hear from him soon. |
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If you usually have daily contact and he’s been radio silent then I would be worried. Have you messaged and not been replied to?
Is there a reason to be concerned regarding mental health?
From what I can gather you’re quite close, only you know if it would be overstepping to pop round and check on him.
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"This is definitely a tricky situation to find yourself in. I don't know how regular was your contact with him, OP, so can't judge whether 5 days with no contact is normal or not. Some people, though, men in particular, tend to stay away from social media/internet when they're going through tough times. They just don't have enough head space for that. Let's hope this is the case and that you'll hear from him soon. "
He would usually touch base with me every day in one form or another. Tbh I think I'm maybe the only real friend he's got and it seemed to me that he ran all his personal/family problems by me (a problem shared is a problem halved). Its highly unlike him to just go silent like this. Its 7 days now since he's been online and on WhatsApp. |
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"This is definitely a tricky situation to find yourself in. I don't know how regular was your contact with him, OP, so can't judge whether 5 days with no contact is normal or not. Some people, though, men in particular, tend to stay away from social media/internet when they're going through tough times. They just don't have enough head space for that. Let's hope this is the case and that you'll hear from him soon.
He would usually touch base with me every day in one form or another. Tbh I think I'm maybe the only real friend he's got and it seemed to me that he ran all his personal/family problems by me (a problem shared is a problem halved). Its highly unlike him to just go silent like this. Its 7 days now since he's been online and on WhatsApp."
Definitely contact the police and ask for a welfare chck |
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If something isn't sitting right with you, then its probably not.
I would ask either 111 or 101 to do a welfare check.
You dont need to disclose where you met, just that hes a good friend and that you would normally speak everyday. |
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