Hi there. Been here for a while. But wanna know has anyone had any bad experience from swinging. Anything dodgy, shady? Jst trying to be safe with this lifestyle. I’m getting more worried about consents and law. Wht can be used as evidence that you have a couple’s or an individual’s consent ? Lol for some reason private meets feels illegal  |
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"You can avoid a lot of risk by not only looking at verifications but also at the people who left those verifications."
Oh definitely. I’m well aware of that. I’m more worried abt the things after a meet. if a couple decide to split or separate, can she make it look like all the meets she did was out of her interest?
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There is no evidence that can support consent because someone can withdraw it at any point.
If you're concerned I suggest that you meet in clubs where there is more likelihood of witnesses.
What exactly feels illegal about private meets? |
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"You can avoid a lot of risk by not only looking at verifications but also at the people who left those verifications.
Oh definitely. I’m well aware of that. I’m more worried abt the things after a meet. if a couple decide to split or separate, can she make it look like all the meets she did was out of her interest?
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I guess it's possible, especially if it was true |
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"There is no evidence that can support consent because someone can withdraw it at any point.
If you're concerned I suggest that you meet in clubs where there is more likelihood of witnesses.
What exactly feels illegal about private meets? "
No way, they can withdraw ?  but isn’t that unfair coz someone ended up in that situation only coz both the partners allowed it? And there’s agreement/consent on both sides.
Lol it feels illegal when they use drugs while playing. |
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"There is no evidence that can support consent because someone can withdraw it at any point.
If you're concerned I suggest that you meet in clubs where there is more likelihood of witnesses.
What exactly feels illegal about private meets?
No way, they can withdraw ? but isn’t that unfair coz someone ended up in that situation only coz both the partners allowed it? And there’s agreement/consent on both sides.
Lol it feels illegal when they use drugs while playing. "
If someone withdraws consent they will/should say so very clearly. If someone says "no", "stop" or similar or uses body language such as pushing a person away that is withdrawing consent.
Don't discuss drugs on the forum . |
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"There is no evidence that can support consent because someone can withdraw it at any point.
If you're concerned I suggest that you meet in clubs where there is more likelihood of witnesses.
What exactly feels illegal about private meets?
No way, they can withdraw ? but isn’t that unfair coz someone ended up in that situation only coz both the partners allowed it? And there’s agreement/consent on both sides.
Lol it feels illegal when they use drugs while playing.
If someone withdraws consent they will/should say so very clearly. If someone says "no", "stop" or similar or uses body language such as pushing a person away that is withdrawing consent.
Don't discuss drugs on the forum . "
Oh no I meant. After playing and having a meet. Can they lie abt a consent or withdraw it ? |
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Consent can be withdrawn at any time leading up to or during sex.
Woman being pressured into sexual acts by their male partners is something to be concerned about. The issue is not protecting yourself from (false?!) accusations. It's protecting woman from coercive control.
You should take every step you can to ensure the female partner in a couple is fully consenting. I'm not the best person to advise on how to go about that, hopefully others will chime in. |
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You have to make choices that feel safe for you.
I wont play with anyone under the influence of anything. Consent can be removed at anytime, by the person / persons saying no. You just stop and that's the end of it. |
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"Consent can be withdrawn at any time leading up to or during sex.
Woman being pressured into sexual acts by their male partners is something to be concerned about. The issue is not protecting yourself from (false?!) accusations. It's protecting woman from coercive control.
You should take every step you can to ensure the female partner in a couple is fully consenting. I'm not the best person to advise on how to go about that, hopefully others will chime in."
Thanks im fully aware of all these points. But I guess my point wasn’t communicated clearly across. Let’s say I meet a couple at their house. We get along and We all have a great time. We enjoy each other. In few years down the line, could they lie and turn it against me saying it happend without consent ?
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"Consent can be withdrawn at any time leading up to or during sex.
Woman being pressured into sexual acts by their male partners is something to be concerned about. The issue is not protecting yourself from (false?!) accusations. It's protecting woman from coercive control.
You should take every step you can to ensure the female partner in a couple is fully consenting. I'm not the best person to advise on how to go about that, hopefully others will chime in.
Thanks im fully aware of all these points. But I guess my point wasn’t communicated clearly across. Let’s say I meet a couple at their house. We get along and We all have a great time. We enjoy each other. In few years down the line, could they lie and turn it against me saying it happend without consent ?
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It would be incredibly difficult to prove it happened without consent, especially with a couple. I don't really understand why you would have concerns about this.
Has something happened that makes you concerned that this will happen to you? |
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"Consent can be withdrawn at any time leading up to or during sex.
Woman being pressured into sexual acts by their male partners is something to be concerned about. The issue is not protecting yourself from (false?!) accusations. It's protecting woman from coercive control.
You should take every step you can to ensure the female partner in a couple is fully consenting. I'm not the best person to advise on how to go about that, hopefully others will chime in.
Thanks im fully aware of all these points. But I guess my point wasn’t communicated clearly across. Let’s say I meet a couple at their house. We get along and We all have a great time. We enjoy each other. In few years down the line, could they lie and turn it against me saying it happend without consent ?
It would be incredibly difficult to prove it happened without consent, especially with a couple. I don't really understand why you would have concerns about this.
Has something happened that makes you concerned that this will happen to you?"
Thanks. Oh definitely not. It’s just my trust issues I guess lol
Plus I’m fairly new. So just making sure I’m all on the safe side. |
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OP, a lot of the time, it's very clear whether the person is under influence, of either drugs or alcohol. On a meet, think with your upper brain, not your willy, and just stop the meet if anything feels off or makes you uncomfortable. |
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