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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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Met this awesome couple at my very first swingers club event a couple weeks ago. I’d only been to one social before so I was nervous AF. They’re experienced swingers but also new to clubbing this year—same boat as me.
We vibed hard early on, split up for most of the night, then the wife swooped in while I was chatting with a group of single dudes, stole me away and we played. Had an absolute blast. Afterwards I bought them drinks (manners, right? lol). We ended up leaving together, swapped numbers and I was on cloud nine.
Fast-forward: they invited me to a club near them this Saturday. I’m stoked but trying not to be delusional—they’re not gonna babysit me all night. I’d love to build a real friendship with them not just a one-off. This is my first time exploring beyond a random hookup, so I’m overthinking everything.
Questions for the pros:
• What’s realistic to expect on night #2?
• How do I show I’m interested in friendship and play without coming off clingy?
• Any newbie etiquette I’m probably missing?
• Tips for not hovering but still staying in their orbit?
Appreciate any wisdom—thanks! |
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Without answering the specific questions I would say stay cool and don’t push anything
At the end of the day friendships form over time, these situations are no different. They obviously like you otherwise the invite wouldn’t be there |
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Play it cool. I would let them know subtly that playing with them is reet up your street. Above all, do not and I couldn't emphasize this enough, do not bombard them with messages as if you're on Facebook. At present they are not your friends, do not text them every other day, asking 'hows you this morning. Guaranteed to make any woman's snatch |
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Sorry to be blunt, but here are few swinging friendships between a couple and a single that involve a lot of sex. If the first time was good then a couple might want a repeat, but after that they'll probably (but not always) be looking for more variety. And there are so many pitfalls that can de-rail things.
So success is probably having a nice evening with them, and it going so well that when you bump into them in a club in a year's time there's the possibility of a repeat.
Plus 99% of single males that think they want a long term arrangement with a couple discover that it's not actually what they want! |
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"Don't overthink it OP... just go with the flow on the night and enjoy. If a longer term friendship is on the cards it will evolve over time."
Exactly this OP 
Being in the company of a couple will get you noticed by other couples, and potentially single ladies too (if there are any in lol), just go with the flow on the night  |
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By *CBoyTV/TS 26 weeks ago
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If they wanted you as a friend they would have asked to meet in Starbucks or 'spoons. The fact they invited you to meet them at a sex club should tell you they enyoyed sex with you last time and want to ensure theres at least one guy at the club this time that they feel they will have fun with. |
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