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Probably nothing, but your profile could be better.
Most women read profiles and will simply not respond if it's uninspiring.
I'm afraid it's difficult on here for everyone. Best to send messages sparingly, well worded and then delete. If you get a response, then great, if not don't let it get to you. |
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"So I’ve been here a while and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong?  "
The first thing you are doing wrong is posting about it.
The next thing you have to realise is that messages can be unread, so it's hard to know if they've been read or not. If it's been read and you get no reply, that is a reply.
There is no automatic right to a reply when you send a message. Don't take it personally and message with no expectations that you will get a reply. If you do, sometimes it can be a no thanks, sometimes you'll message for several exchanges, then you've done nothing wrong, but you get no further replies. Sometimes, once in a blue moon, you'll get to arrange a phone call or even a meet and even that is no guarantee of success. There are about 1000 men on here for every womman, so they have a huge pool from which to choose to engage with or not, as is the case. |
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Even though most women get messages, the vast majority (99%) of them are utter rubbish.
So don't think just because you send something to someone they're going to respond.
Fwiw. Get out and meet people, go to events, socials, newbie nights at clubs.
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"Even though most women get messages, the vast majority (99%) of them are utter rubbish.
So don't think just because you send something to someone they're going to respond.
Fwiw. Get out and meet people, go to events, socials, newbie nights at clubs.
Thank you Kate I will look into that and see what’s local to me. I appreciate the feedback
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Obviously can't comment on the messages you're sending but as others have said, you could work on your profile and expand on it - it feels a bit generic.
It wouldn't harm to add a few more photos.
Think about how people will perceive you and how to stand out  |
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Possibly nothing. Realistic expectations are essential.
Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. You should expect nothing, because of this. How many people you contact, how appropriate your contact is and how appropriate your profile is for these people are essential aspects of results here.
Read some of the very many daily posts from men who complain of no progress and the copious tips and advice given them.  |
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By *CExeCouple 23 weeks ago
Hong-Kong/Exeter |
You have just one photo. Your bio is well written, but ultimately says nothing about you. While you're photo verified, getting on the cams and getting verified by folks on there will help.
Keep an eye on the local meets page, and if you can get along to a club, post up that you're going as a newbie and people will likely say hello. |
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You have one picture which isn’t clear, very little information about you or what you’re looking for and no verifications. Basically in a place where you need to stand out, you don’t.
Not sure what your messages are like but that could also be a problem. My best advice to you is get to a club, or a club social, or a local social event. Meet some people, get some verifications displayed and you jump ahead of about 95% of the single men profiles on here.
Also don’t moan about about not getting any responses, it’s not a good look |
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Improve your visual offering and ditch the AI-written bio - I want to read what you've got to say, get a glimpse of the person behind the profile through your own words, not the generic nonsense that has been churned out by ChatGPT and the like. |
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"Improve your visual offering and ditch the AI-written bio - I want to read what you've got to say, get a glimpse of the person behind the profile through your own words, not the generic nonsense that has been churned out by ChatGPT and the like. "
Thank you for the advice I’ll delete it now |
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As a couple the singles we have met we approached them. They just happened to have put themselves as 'add me to meet me today' via the Meets/Events part of the site.
As a couple, if we were to look for a single, that's how we'd do it. Why waste your time pinging messages into the ether? Just cast the line out and wait for a bite. You might not ever get one, but it's less effort than what you're doing now. |
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"Improve your visual offering and ditch the AI-written bio - I want to read what you've got to say, get a glimpse of the person behind the profile through your own words, not the generic nonsense that has been churned out by ChatGPT and the like.
Thank you for the advice I’ll delete it now
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What I just read was still generic. Why the dark photo? Why the discretion? Why weekday daytime meets?
It’s all very obvious without being blunt. But I am sure you’re other half will recognise your pic.
If you’re not in a relationship or married why all the cloak and dagger? Why no weekend meets?
Explain more in your profile xx
Sam xx  |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Thanks for the advice oh no wait you just pissed all over it with not one suggestion. Sorry but are you serious? I hope when you ask someone for help they don't do that to you. |
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By *aandLoCouple 23 weeks ago
Southampton |
"Thanks for the advice oh no wait you just pissed all over it with not one suggestion. Sorry but are you serious? I hope when you ask someone for help they don't do that to you. "
I'm saying what has been said on so many previous threads when guys ask for profile advice: write a decent bio and don't fill your photos up with cock shots and yourself in, or hanging out of women. There's loads of good advice across loads forum threads, use it, put a bit of effort in. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I had a very elequent bio and I was told by several women that women here hate sexual things off the bat. I dunno lads the photos are not faces due to kids and after that I just showed what I am into kink wise. I'll keep trying. Maybe this would be my new bio. Fuck it it will be. Fair play |
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By *rad110Man 23 weeks ago
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"Even though most women get messages, the vast majority (99%) of them are utter rubbish.
So don't think just because you send something to someone they're going to respond.
Fwiw. Get out and meet people, go to events, socials, newbie nights at clubs. Some people are not very good at writing depends what they do for a job half the time
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I'll be honest and tell you how it goes for me.
Message in inbox. :- if your lucky I might read.
If I read and it's an interesting Message. :- I'll have a look at the profile.
If the profile look interesting
:- I'll possibly reply depending on my mood.
Now I'm not suggesting for one moment that that's every woman on here, far from it. That's just the way I used to look when I let single guys message. ( blocked now.)
There's nothing wrong with your bio, but if you were to ask I would suggest a few more pics of the arty type that you have up. Avoid the usual dick pic in public and only send if asked.
Wish you all the best. |
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"I'll be honest and tell you how it goes for me.
Message in inbox. :- if your lucky I might read.
If I read and it's an interesting Message. :- I'll have a look at the profile.
If the profile look interesting
:- I'll possibly reply depending on my mood.
Now I'm not suggesting for one moment that that's every woman on here, far from it. That's just the way I used to look when I let single guys message. ( blocked now.)
There's nothing wrong with your bio, but if you were to ask I would suggest a few more pics of the arty type that you have up. Avoid the usual dick pic in public and only send if asked.
Wish you all the best. "
Very sound advice |
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"So I’ve been here awhile and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong? "
Add more pics. Let's say I want to buy a car. There's a handful of them that meet my criteria, one has fifteen pics showing the car from different angles and details. Some have three or four pics but I can see all the car. One has a pic of the front and a note to ask for more. Which one I going to the bottom of the pile? |
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"So I’ve been here awhile and am just not sure what I’m doing wrong?
Add more pics. Let's say I want to buy a car. There's a handful of them that meet my criteria, one has fifteen pics showing the car from different angles and details. Some have three or four pics but I can see all the car. One has a pic of the front and a note to ask for more. Which one I going to the bottom of the pile?"
If i were him I'd take your advice. as if you were a car for sale on the forecourt , you wouldn't be there long. Not with your sales brochure  |
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Hi.. I totally realise there are absolutely loads more men than women on here so never really expect a reply, especially given my age. But have started wondering if something on my profile might also be off putting? Any feedback on it would be taken on the chin 🤣 |
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"Hi.. I totally realise there are absolutely loads more men than women on here so never really expect a reply, especially given my age. But have started wondering if something on my profile might also be off putting? Any feedback on it would be taken on the chin 🤣"
Nothing wrong with it as such, but nothing especially good about it. Not a great selection of pics and doesn't make you stand out from the crowd unfortunately. |
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