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Looking for some advice how to go about asking my partner of 6 years to maybe start exploring some more ?
I’m massively into seeing her with someone else as a Hotwife or cuckold scenario and not sure how to approach the situation as she is very sheltered. |
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By *aandLoCouple 19 weeks ago
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The one thing I think is essential if you want to open up your relationship, is being able to talk freely about everything without fear. Are you at that point with your partner?
I personally wouldn't be mentioning Hotwife or Cuckold from the off if she is "sheltered." It may need to be a more gentle chat initially.
Without knowing exactly what 'sheltered' means it's not an exact science as to where to begin. Perhaps if you watch porn together that's a natural point to talk about the possibility of enjoying fun with others.
We started talking about going to a club just to immerse ourselves in the sexually charged atmosphere. Looked on Fab to find local clubs (I knew about Fab from the Love Honey forum,) the talk quickly progressed from there. |
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Personally unless you have been open from the start trying to go down this route after 6 years is not going to work.
We have all met couples where one is a lot more keen than the other one it never works and the relationship ends.
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"Looking for some advice how to go about asking my partner of 6 years to maybe start exploring some more ?
I’m massively into seeing her with someone else as a Hotwife or cuckold scenario and not sure how to approach the situation as she is very sheltered."
Show her your profile, see how she reacts..then take it from there..
Can’t have secrets if coming in as a couple
Your welcome x |
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I'll give the same advice I give all the other "single" men who start these type of threads.
Have an open, honest conversation with your partner.
By all means share your fantasy and see if she'd be interested in trying it.
If not, you should leave it alone.
as you'll have your answer.
Swinging isn't for everyone and it's what you want her to do, not necessarily what she would want to do op. |
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"I'll give the same advice I give all the other "single" men who start these type of threads.
Have an open, honest conversation with your partner.
By all means share your fantasy and see if she'd be interested in trying it.
If not, you should leave it alone.
as you'll have your answer.
Swinging isn't for everyone and it's what you want her to do, not necessarily what she would want to do op. "
This |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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My wife and I used to swing and we had a lot of fun.
She asked me if I had any fantasies the other evening.
I think I surprised her by no mention of Kylie M 😁
My fantasy is to see her with another guy again.
She told me she liked the " Magic Mike" type, I said we had best find you one or two then. Oh and she also mentioned a ripped guy in a shower.
Hoping a couple profile may.follow soon, but not pushing it |
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"Looking for some advice how to go about asking my partner of 6 years to maybe start exploring some more ?
I’m massively into seeing her with someone else as a Hotwife or cuckold scenario and not sure how to approach the situation as she is very sheltered."
Best just to chat about your thoughts.
But I would have thought these thoughts would have been discussed by now in the bedroom environment.
We got into swinging as we both felt a sexual electricity when visiting a nude beach, from there it took a long, long time to reach swinging. |
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Baby steps. You need to progress the understanding of each others' interests and desires. If you haven't talked much, then use every appropriate moment to let her know that you support her, to get more from her life, including sexual satisfaction. When you allow her the ability to trust you more, she may be willing to open up more than to now.
She might be completely open and honest, to say that this lifestyle has zero interest for her and that she expects you to be monogamous and faithful. The worst thing is likely pushing her l, so that she's uncomfortable and also if she can't trust you |
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Watch a series called white lines on netflix. One of the characters hosts pool party orgies, and just ssy to her, would you be up for going to something like that. Its what i did, and the wife said yes, as long as we dont have to swap, and can just join in with others playing around us |
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"Personally unless you have been open from the start trying to go down this route after 6 years is not going to work.
We have all met couples where one is a lot more keen than the other one it never works and the relationship ends.
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I have to disagree on this one, we didn't start talking about the possibility of swinging until we'd already been together for over 15 years. And in that time our kinks and fantasies changed drastically to how they are now.
Would definitely be a little cautious if you're on here without your partners knowledge though, trust, communication and honesty has to work both ways for any relationship to work, let alone one in this lifestyle. |
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"The one thing I think is essential if you want to open up your relationship, is being able to talk freely about everything without fear. Are you at that point with your partner?
I personally wouldn't be mentioning Hotwife or Cuckold from the off if she is "sheltered." It may need to be a more gentle chat initially.
Without knowing exactly what 'sheltered' means it's not an exact science as to where to begin. Perhaps if you watch porn together that's a natural point to talk about the possibility of enjoying fun with others.
We started talking about going to a club just to immerse ourselves in the sexually charged atmosphere. Looked on Fab to find local clubs (I knew about Fab from the Love Honey forum,) the talk quickly progressed from there."
I would echo a lot of this. If you're not in a relationship where you're completely open with each other in all aspects (including desire) it won't work in this scene. Thriving as a couple on the scene relies on completely openness and communication.
If your 6 years in and struggling to know how to communicate rather than just feeling safe to express yourself then I'd say your relationship as it stands wouldn't survive the scene. That not judgment, many many relationships are like this and the longer they go on the harder/riskier it is to sort out. However if you accept you need total openness in a relationship to work on the scene the question you have to ask is do you risk resetting the status quo? Do you risk being completely open with your partner as expressing yourself truly? The prize is great, but the risk is real. However do you want to continue in a relationship where you don't feel safe to truly express yourself and your desires? That is a question only you can rationalise. |
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