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By *ash OP Man 19 weeks ago
Westhoughton |
Hi. As everyone knows, it is difficult for a single guy to chat with couples whether it's here or in person. The main concerns is where to start, especially in person when you don't have a profile to read and try to start a conversation.
Once you meet them in a club and say how are you guys, then how to take it further? Do you ask what after they looking for or their plan for the night or talk to them about where are they from our how far they travelled? And if they are not looking for a single guy, will they tell you or just keep chatting and you have to look out for signs?
It could sound naive but sometimes it feels difficult to take a conversation further after couple of sentences exchanged as we don't want to say something which could 'offend' a couple. That would not look good to the other couples around as well.
And what are some suggestions about chat as well?
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By *DW1983Man 19 weeks ago
Blackpool, Aberdeen or Sheffield |
Generally at a club, regardless of who approaches who, I usually find that after the first few obvious questions (is it your first time, do you come often, etc) then either conversation will flow naturally or it'll be obvious that it's reached the end and it's time to move on. Same as in any other context really. That's probably not a hugely helpful answer though! |
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"Generally at a club, regardless of who approaches who, I usually find that after the first few obvious questions (is it your first time, do you come often, etc) then either conversation will flow naturally or it'll be obvious that it's reached the end and it's time to move on. Same as in any other context really. That's probably not a hugely helpful answer though! "
But it is accurate and sums up just about any conversation either online or in real life.
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(Edited for typos) Wait for them to invite you. The little we’re off to play, would you like to join? Or if you are thinking there is more and they are shy, suggest something like “would you like to find a place to explore more”. If the answer is anything other than a yes, it’s a no.
Stay away from work, kids and where are you from. Anything that can risk outing/identification.
Clubs they go to, compliments on outfits, what they’re looking for, what dynamic they have, what they would like from a meet. All the basics.
Not saying you do this, but there’s little worse than men coming in really close, cock in hand hovering over you, or shouting can I join in/help. It’s an instant no, even if we were thinking of it. |
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"Generally at a club, regardless of who approaches who, I usually find that after the first few obvious questions (is it your first time, do you come often, etc) then either conversation will flow naturally or it'll be obvious that it's reached the end and it's time to move on. Same as in any other context really. That's probably not a hugely helpful answer though! "
Helpful or not it's true |
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It could sound naive but sometimes it feels difficult to take a conversation further after couple of sentences exchanged as we don't want to say something which could 'offend' a couple. That would not look good to the other couples around as well. "
Stop trying to be all things to all people, you'll end being nothing to anyone.
Be yourself and speak to them like humans.
What one couple likes, won't be the same as what another likes. We prefer a very direct approach. Other couples like to build a rapport. Besides even if someone gives you the magic formula. That couple still might not find you attractive.
So the answer is, be yourself I giess  |
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It's a bit nerve wracking but always make the effort to talk to both halfs of a couple. You never know what it could lead to. We much prefer playing with single guys who make the effort to talk first.
Find an area where it's easier to chat like the hot tub or smoking area |
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A lot of the art is reading the room. You get chatting and looking to see how comfortable they are around you and if you're picking up on some chemistry. There is a point where you can be chatting too long without establishing any intent to play. So once you feel they're comfortable with you it's OK to inquire what they maybe looking. If that matches with you then also OK to ask would they like to go to a room or something.
Sometimes personally if I feel the vibes are good I will simply and confidently ask "do you kiss"? Sometimes the first thing I say off the back of some promising eye contact (a little something I learnt off Mrs Misfit). Which naturally moves either to a kiss, exposes they're not intrested or simply that they don't kiss (which then generally is a no for me). For me if I get that kiss it tells me if the chemistry is right and if its likely to work sexually. A kiss tells a lot and also is a huge selling point of mine. Often when I kiss someone it seals the deal.
This is also a good opening in an orgy/open play space scenario where you're not looking to stand on ceremony. Although sometimes consent in these sort of scenarios can be as simple as some eye contact (although if ever in any doubt just ask).
At the end of the day we are all here to chase our desires. There's no need to mince our words or not be clear with our intent. It's generally not an issue of being too forthcoming, it's more simply if they fancy us or not. So never beat around the bush too much. |
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