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The nerves soon went when we got inside, we had the tour then got a drink and soaked in the atmosphere. Chatted with some people then had a play on our own in a room. Got chatting to a couple for a while and ended the night with a soft swap on an orgy bed  |
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To be completely honest, the first time was horrendous!! After about half an hour, I was stood at the bar thinking WTF am I doing?! However, I did go with the expectation of thinking clubs were somewhere between a swanky bar and a high end hotel..... the reality is that most clubs I have visited are quite the opposite.
Now my expectations of the surroundings are more inline with what clubs actually are, then I go and enjoy it.
Don't expect posh, don't have any expectations off who you may expect to see, or scenarios you expect to play out and you'll be just fine |
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"What was your first time at a swinging club like?"
Terrifying.
Sat at the bar like quivering wrecks telling anyone who came near it was our first time.
Everyone, including the staff were super nice and the overriding statement from everyone was "take your time".
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It was good.Never felt any pressure.
I was with with my partner.
We were shown round, chatted to some lovely people in the bar area and played just with each other in a room.
Also went in the tub. |
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I went during the day just to see what it was like, I liked the venue & atmosphere, unfortunately there were way too many single guys for me to feel comfortable. The couple I went with were the only couple there! |
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Clubs have been a mixed experience for me. Sometimes there have been too many single guys, which can make it feel slightly intimidating. Over time, though, I've met some very respectful singles, too... luck of the draw, I think.
Now I'm involved in organising parties, and we can keep the ratio of couples to singles comfortable for people... especially if they are newbies. I still love going to clubs, though, as I can just be there without having to keep check on the guests, lol.
Scarlett from the party team (also part of the couple "Scarlett and Grey") |
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I loved it, I went on an event night though so might be different if your first time is a bog standard night and loved the social aspect and not stopped loving it since.
You just have to put yourself out there and especially males, dont expect sex.
I used to go to kestrel when it was near heathrow and had the outdoor pool and you used to see the "meerkats" that just went from one area to the next and then complained.
One of my best nights at a club was a wednesday night in eurekas, years ago, just me and 3 other guys and a couple in the hottub in the club chatting away for hours. |
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Experiences can really vary on the club you go to (some have different themes, processes) and if you go as a solo, couple, with mates. Etc
I went with my hubs, with friends. They showed us around, made introductions and made us feel very comfortable. Appreciate that not everyone is that fortunate.
We met the friends through socials, so they are a great place to start. |
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Mine was a spa club in London, bad experience and my initiation of how some men act in clubs, naked spas.
But, from here I visited other clubs and found two that suited me, Chameleon’s and Jaydees.
Even though I’m still a little nervous once walking into the club and don’t settle until I’m sat in either hot tub or pool. Clubs are what you make it, never attend with expectations, and simple relax, chill and IF you wish, talk to people.
Did expect Percy men in Mac’s, seedy den type clubs. But now see nice people and the odd walking wanking zombie! 🧟
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By *agE97Couple 16 weeks ago
Gwynedd |
We were lucky as a male friend of ours accompanied us for our first club visit. We were still nervous but it really was a massive help as he knew the owners/hosts and introduced us to them and a few others to. We soon relaxed, got chatting.
We then got a tour of the play areas upstairs, which only lasted all of 60 seconds as we locked the door on the first room and emerged 2.5 hours later after a hot and steamy threesome 🥵
We attended the same club this past weekend for what was only our second club visit but ventured it alone this time, but had that little more confidence this time.
Owners/hosts knew who we were, very friendly, smiles all round, got chatting to lovely people and had a great time with a very sexy couple.
Tip from us newbies is, definetly if you can attend with a experienced friend xx
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By *erdyguy45Man 16 weeks ago
Solihull/milton keynes & other |
Awful experience first time.
I went with a social group but was in the middle of deciding whether I wanted to swing or not.
Club was not what I expected (a bit dingy if I'm honest), the company was great but didn't do any more than socialise.
2nd club visit was a different place but with exception of some play still didn't enjoy it.
I thought I'd give up but got talked in to visiting Chams with someone and enjoyed it a lot. Much more relaxing, friendly and a better decor overall.
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My first experience was solo. It was hard to go because it scared the hell out of me and I'm socially awkward in unfamiliar spaces with strangers. However I really wanted to try a club and you never will if you don't. So I pluck up the courage and went. Didn't quite know what to expect.
I was given the tour and liked what I saw, it felt a bit like coming home. Finding my way socially was difficult. But I realised nothing would happen if I don't put myself out there. So plucked up the courage to make some eye contact and some introductions. Everyone was friendly bar this one group of women who were instantly hostile for reasons unknown. Made some good conversations, a few laughs and set the ground work for maybe something later. But it was exhausting and I got a bit socially overwhelmed.
So I sat a sofa to chill out next to a lady who was sat on it. We got chatting, she then recognised me off the forums. One thing lead to another and there we were in a room, then a break, then another room. I had a great night, not just because of the sex but because of the whole club environment. I never looked back since. Been going to clubs as a single and later as a couple since. They are my favourite place to hang out and be free.
Mr |
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By *erdyguy45Man 16 weeks ago
Solihull/milton keynes & other |
"My first experience was solo. It was hard to go because it scared the hell out of me and I'm socially awkward in unfamiliar spaces with strangers. However I really wanted to try a club and you never will if you don't. So I pluck up the courage and went. Didn't quite know what to expect.
I was given the tour and liked what I saw, it felt a bit like coming home. Finding my way socially was difficult. But I realised nothing would happen if I don't put myself out there. So plucked up the courage to make some eye contact and some introductions. Everyone was friendly bar this one group of women who were instantly hostile for reasons unknown. Made some good conversations, a few laughs and set the ground work for maybe something later. But it was exhausting and I got a bit socially overwhelmed.
So I sat a sofa to chill out next to a lady who was sat on it. We got chatting, she then recognised me off the forums. One thing lead to another and there we were in a room, then a break, then another room. I had a great night, not just because of the sex but because of the whole club environment. I never looked back since. Been going to clubs as a single and later as a couple since. They are my favourite place to hang out and be free.
Mr"
I love this because I want to do a club on my own too but have the same social nervousness. I know I need to pluck up the courage and will dive in soon I hope. |
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No.3 club in Chorley was my first ever club experience, and it was a complete anticlimax…
You read so many great recommendations in the forum about how amazing the swinger club lifestyle is, that it’s difficult to not have some expectations of what it might be like inside….
I wasn’t expecting it to be like a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, as opposed to what I imagined a Friday night in a swinger might be. Don’t get me wrong; it is a nice enough place (I’ve been to some cold, dingy, damp-smelling dives since), and the hosts were very friendly and welcoming (so few are as welcoming to single guys), but it was a quiet night, not many people in at all, and none interested in a single guy…
Unfortunately, it wasn’t to be the last time I left a swinger club thinking; I should have just gone down the pub, but you just won’t know, unless you go 🤭 |
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It was genuinely fantastic.
Xtasia, 20 years ago this June, with my wife at the time.
We were on SDC and were regulars in the chat room so made lots of friends who attended the regular monthly Xtasia SDC night so arranged to meet up.
We booked into the Premier Inn next door, as did our SDC friends many of who were regulars. A nice social get together in the bar in the afternoon, off to prepare, then meet back in the bar and all walked up to SDC together.
Having already made friends, we had the welcome tour off people we’d met, there was a fantastic, friendly vibe to the evening.
Before long, the wife was enjoying some 1-1 fun with the female half of a couple from Belfast she’d just met while I was socialising.
Then, later, we went upstairs to the open sofa area that used to be there, had a play with each other than ended up involving two couples who were on the sofas next to us, in full view of everyone.
We ended the night going back for a room party with two of the couples we’d arranged and met with in the hotel.
As you can imagine we were hooked and a monthly visit became a regular thing. |
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5 years ago at chameleons
Nervous was an understatement
Walked in the club ,felt like everyone was looking at me ,didn't know where to look ,or what to do ,it took me 3 visits to gain confidence and even put on a show downstairs
Chams is the best |
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"What was your first time at a swinging club like?"
Horrible...Tease 2...like a truckers motel at a truck stop...supposedly a social...everyone knew each other, very unfriendly to newbies and believe me, we did try to interact...they all disappeared to the playrooms and the place absolutely stank...
Luckily we ran into some friends who felt the same and made our escape back to ours for some great fun in our nice, clean, fresh smelling home...
Its a wonder we ever tried anywhere else...thank goodness the A1/a14 roadworks flattened that total shit hole... |
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By *itter78Couple 15 weeks ago
Spennymoor |
Grim
Expected it to be like a Roman orgy with plenty of play
Was more like a working men's club
One woman in a couple literally stood up and walked away as soon as we sat down to chat to them 😳 not even a no thanks
We had plenty of same room play with others, but no swapping... no-one was interested in us
No interest from others other than people coming to tell us how to be swingers and not to be nervous (we weren't nervous, it felt patronising)
I feel people were trying to be nice, but we swing for the hedonism, not the social
When we tried to connect with others afterwards, we got "oh you're the really young couple" from people 2 years older than us 😅
We've learned as we've gone along though, and things have improved now we're more proactive |
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Mine was a swingers hotel I booked a Fri I had just finished a week of 12 hours nights on Friday morning got to the hotel lunch time I was taken to my room by a lady who was wearing a blouse nice size breast skirt as she went upstairs I couldn’t help but look up seeing her panties she stopped turned around and now I am facing her legs thighs she just looked smiled what do you think i must have strong legs do them stairs a lot she then opened a door your room 5 she sat on the bed now I am standing in front of her looking at her cleavage her legs slightly apart me getting excited I need to tell you what happens the room if you door is unlocked people are friendly and walk in playing is permitted any we’re inside the hotel drinks food paid next day I don’t think you will have pockets lol you can wear any thing so I asked her what she might wear she replied a lot less that’s for you to find out later and put’s a hand on my hard penis smiling don’t waste it and leaving me alone TBC |
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Our first time was when Mrs was only 19, so as you can imagine, being by far the youngest there, she was the centre of attention for most of the guys in the club. It was probably the start of what has become our hotwife lifestyle, whereby we both get the thrill out of her being with other guys |
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