We have had quite a few socials with single men. My tips are just behave as you would when meeting anyone for the first time, have a few conversations starters ready in case of awkward silences and don't expect any sexual interaction at all.  |
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Definitely turn up if you say you are, we’ve had a few not turn up before.
Be yourself, don’t try and touch and keep moving towards the female we’ve had this and we soon left them be.
Just chat like you would with friends and relax, we know everyone might be a little nervous(we still do now after years) and then obviously don’t drink loads and get pissed.
But other than that just enjoy the company xx |
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Don’t feel obliged to go on with anything if you don’t feel the vibe… better to just turn up, chat, have a nice time and get out if you don’t fancy anything more. If it gets to the “let’s go back to yours “ stage but in the back of your mind you ain’t feeling it/not the person you expected then it’s a lot harder and more awkward… |
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"So meeting for a social best advice the dos and don'ts ? "
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Don't hesitate to change your mind.
Don't feel pressured.
Do remember that men are also allowed to say "no thank you".
Do keep a stiff upper lip.
Don't be ungentlemanly.
Don't be surprised if they start talking about sex immediately; stand your ground.
Don't turn down their offer to go 'dutch'. |
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By *aandLoCouple 16 weeks ago
Southampton |
These apply for me but obviously not everyone.
I always make an effort with my appearance. Even on a daytime coffee meet I find that perfect daytime, sexy look. So, a guy in jeans, t shirt and trainers doesn't make for a good start for me.
Tactile but not creepy fondling. Tactile let's me know you find me attractive.
Just relax, but have a few conversation starters, and silly stories to gap fill.
Keep the naughty chat short, simple and PG until you're sure there's a mutual spark. Then gradually get filthy, lol
The guy who within less than 5 minutes with zero encouragement starts to graphically describe what he wants to do to me, is a complete turn-off.
And if there's no spark such is life. It will all be forgotten in a couple of days. |
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It shouldn’t really be that different from just socialising at a pub or anywhere else unless is a kink themed night. If can go chat to people in regular places it’s basically just that with the notion that having a flirt is more expected.
If you wouldn’t act a certain way flirting with someone at any other place then it’s probably not ok at all social either. Things just tend to go faster when you’ve got the go ahead as that’s what people are there for. |
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Don’t go focused on sex, go to see if you like the person/people and feel at ease in their company. It’s for both sides to determine if they’d like to take things further.
The biggest advice I’d say is to bear in mind whatever has come up while chatting - chances are the person you’re meeting has given you plenty of information to give you a steer about what they like/don’t so dont go in with a prepared playbook, respond to that. |
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By *erdyguy45Man 16 weeks ago
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Agree with this.
My first social was awkward as I was not fully prepared (however it did end well).
Im naturally nervous but find asking questions to get to know her really helps. I need to know there's a connection there and asking questions helps me relax.
Just enjoy the time and you'll generally get a sense of whether it's right or not for more another time. |
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"So meeting for a social best advice the dos and don'ts ? "
do not start to run your hands on her body it happened to me once it made me feel uncomfortable as I think a social is just a social & nothing else
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By *erdyguy45Man 16 weeks ago
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"So meeting for a social best advice the dos and don'ts ? do not start to run your hands on her body it happened to me once it made me feel uncomfortable as I think a social is just a social & nothing else "
Oh no, what goes on in their minds sometimes?
I mean obviously thinking with the wrong brain but no excuse for that. |
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"So meeting for a social best advice the dos and don'ts ? do not start to run your hands on her body it happened to me once it made me feel uncomfortable as I think a social is just a social & nothing else
Oh no, what goes on in their minds sometimes?
I mean obviously thinking with the wrong brain but no excuse for that."
yeah exactly you can’t just grope anyone |
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