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Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.
I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.
I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.
I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.
I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.
Thank you and good luck swinging |
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"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.
I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.
I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.
I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.
I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.
Thank you and good luck swinging "
Holy fuck are you ok??? |
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Yeah all good just think it’s a bit of a low blow thank just saying no thanks after all I’ve seen far worse things couples have been sent so I can’t get my head round why I was the lucky guy to be posted all over social media where vanilla friends and family might come
Across it.
But it’s done now |
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By *CExeCouple 14 weeks ago
Hong-Kong/Exeter |
If there's any intimate photos of you that have been posted by them, it's a criminal offence. No doubt you're not the only one they've acted like this towards. Report them to Fab, and if it's causing an issue in your personal life, report it to the police. |
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Thank goodness no but I’m not as childish and would of dealt with it with an easy no thanks or block |
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By *elkieWoman 14 weeks ago
Durham |
There’s never any excuse for doxxing or outing someone. Never. Please report to fab.
But also, please don’t be one of those people who sends repeated messages? |
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Report to FAB OP, this is not okay no matter what. Should report to the police too but they should definitely be banned from here.
Tink |
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Fab won’t take any action if it doesn’t affect the site, but you should definitely go to the police. |
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"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.
I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.
I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.
I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.
I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.
Thank you and good luck swinging "
Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.
We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend. |
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They uploads a post with my profile in the background so can clearly see my name and people sent me links |
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"They uploads a post with my profile in the background so can clearly see my name and people sent me links "
On where though I’m confused ? X |
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"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.
I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.
I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.
I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.
I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.
Thank you and good luck swinging
Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.
We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend. "
Social media can be traced from phone numbers or reverse image searching photos |
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"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.
I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.
I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.
I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.
I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.
Thank you and good luck swinging
Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.
We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend.
Social media can be traced from phone numbers or reverse image searching photos "
That’s super worrying.. |
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"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.
I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.
I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.
I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.
I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.
Thank you and good luck swinging
Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.
We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend.
Social media can be traced from phone numbers or reverse image searching photos
That’s super worrying.."
Keep a separate phone for fab and don't use any photos on fab that you use elsewhere. |
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"Sadly over the pass few days I discovered that a fellow fabber had posted my profile all over social media as a form of revenge, punishment or just because but I think the reaction is very extreme and over the top.
I understand that on here that couples get a lot of traffic and being a single gent you want to try get notice so sometimes send multiple messages. But what I sent and if any one has seen this post, it’s polite in my eyes.
I actually find it a bit contradictory after the fact that said fabber was on a ln actually swingers program and promotes the lifestyle a lot. Than easily saying no thank you or just a block.
I have had a few people ask if I was ok which I am cause I’m thick skinned but from the comments I have seen some people would rather be sheep than make up their own mind and opinion on someone rather than to read one’s profile, verifications and get to know them.
I have wrote this to try and defend myself from the public backlash that I may or might receive from what this fellow fabber has done by putting my name all over social media for anyone to see for nothing.
Thank you and good luck swinging
Firstly how did you find out because we don’t know anyone we have met or played with their social media, secondly you have no face pictures so you are not instantly recognisable. Thirdly this is against your wishes and not to be tolerated at all.
We tend to keep it to this and never share social media apart from one gent who’s a genuine friend.
Social media can be traced from phone numbers or reverse image searching photos
That’s super worrying..
Keep a separate phone for fab and don't use any photos on fab that you use elsewhere. "
We have a play phone that only connects to WiFi and that is the only number we will ever give anyone |
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"If there's any intimate photos of you that have been posted by them, it's a criminal offence. No doubt you're not the only one they've acted like this towards. Report them to Fab, and if it's causing an issue in your personal life, report it to the police."
Absolutely correct poster needs to keep screenshots of any social media posts by the individual, it is a standalone criminal off.
Also defamation of character.
Do not let the person involved get away with such as he/she has done. |
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By *eyeYCouple 14 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
Sympathetic and don't hide..
We had a particularly prolific member bad mouthing us to all who'd listen over a complete misunderstanding.
I wanted to delete our profile and potentially rejoin under a new name it was that inflammatory and insulting.
D stopped me, stating "that is a demonstration of guilt rather than truth".
Don't give them the satisfaction 👍😘 |
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"Sympathetic and don't hide..
We had a particularly prolific member bad mouthing us to all who'd listen over a complete misunderstanding.
I wanted to delete our profile and potentially rejoin under a new name it was that inflammatory and insulting.
D stopped me, stating "that is a demonstration of guilt rather than truth".
Don't give them the satisfaction 👍😘"
Well thank you |
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By *enelope2UWoman 14 weeks ago
Doesn't matter cant block distances |
Sadly the sites full of keyboard wishers and wankers who have no other life than fantasy without consequences.
Hope you're ok. |
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How awful 😞. That’s completely unacceptable behaviour, really hope you’re ok xx |
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I’m sorry that that’s happened to you, OP.
Unfortunately, some people never develop the emotional intelligence to deal with disappointment and hardships in life. They resort to punishment and revenge.
The best thing you can do is maintain a dignified silence, although where an offence has been committed I’d certainly consider going to the police. |
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By *andA1985Couple 14 weeks ago
Melton Mowbray |
I have actually seen the tik toks with your profile posted. While they have made a valid point, you should not be vilified in such a public form outside the 'lifestyle' platforms. I would try apologising and contacting directly to ask them to at least remove your profile name. People who are public facing should not have the opinion that they can talk about other lifestyle people in public forums/media. Also maybe just change your profile pic and name for a little bit of shelter. Unless your liking the extra views lol |
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"I have actually seen the tik toks with your profile posted. While they have made a valid point, you should not be vilified in such a public form outside the 'lifestyle' platforms. I would try apologising and contacting directly to ask them to at least remove your profile name. People who are public facing should not have the opinion that they can talk about other lifestyle people in public forums/media. Also maybe just change your profile pic and name for a little bit of shelter. Unless your liking the extra views lol"
Exactly this. Sounds like a drama triangle and continuation of “unnecessary drama”.
Most would just change name & photos, learn the lesson about multiple messages and move on so the their day. |
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Is there a risk you will see them at events? |
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By *ugby 123Couple 13 weeks ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
"Fab won’t take any action if it doesn’t affect the site "
That is a strange thing to say. Doxxing is against site rules, if there is evidence of it on the site then people don't get any warning at all and are disabled straight away |
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By *ugby 123Couple 13 weeks ago
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To the OP, sending multiple messages is not a reason for someone to do this to you. You shouldn't need to apologise for sending mails so these people take your details down as someone suggested. They have a block button to use if they don't like messages from someone and could have used it.
If there is any proof on the site that someone has done this to you please report as Admin really take this seriously. I would also report it on the site they have put it on and inform the police if needed.
If the police need to get in touch with the site they can do through the contact links.
https://www.fabswingers.com/contact/owners
https://m.fabswingers.com/contact/owners |
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